Why Holism?

Why Holism? What’s so interesting about it?

Background

As a Business Analyst, I was always fascinated with “elicitation.” If I didn’t ask a question or didn’t ask it the “right way,” I would miss collecting enough information to help develop a proper solution. (This has been my primary role in Information Technology (IT), for 30+ years).

The more I knew about the software and the issue to solve, the better questions I could ask, and then, fuller answers elicited.

Now, I feel like I’m applying my analytical skills to spiritual work. It feels really good, and somehow ancient! ❤️🦋🌀🎼🙏☯️

Definitions of Holism

If you look up the definitions of Holism, you see it is tied to psychology (because Everything begins with Thought and Consciousness), anthropology, language, and ecology.

There is the belief that “parts of a whole are in intimate interconnection” and that such they cannot exist independent from the whole. The whole considered to be greater than the sum of its parts.

In ecology, Holism says that we interpenetrate and define each other: think the collective mind, societies, cultures, and our environmental footprint on the planet.

How I found Holism

Several years ago, I attended multiple lectures (and Qigong lessons) with Lama Nicholas Packard (see previous articles here and here).

Lama Nicholas spoke about The Dao (Daoism / Taoism) and Holism, before that, I didn’t know much about Daoism (except I had the small book, Tao De Ching, but I hadn’t read it all at that time), and I had not heard of Holism—except I had used holistic health remedies for years. I just had not embraced Holism in a religious sort of context.

Why I care…

The other day a friend sparked a thought in my mind about “why I care about others.” I told her if I didn’t believe We Are All Connected, I may not give a sh*t about others, or their opinions. But I do care. Apparently, it’s how I’m wired. And probably also because I’m an empath. (According to Anita Moorjani, I’m a unicorn 🦄 empath too! But that’s another story).

Consider…

No one owns the waters; no one owns the soil

No one owns the oceans; no one owns the air.

Anything you think you OWN is merely an illusion. Better to grow your soul. Be in alignment. That’s where your POWER resides.

Hey, if you’d LOVE to talk about this, let’s open a popup room in my club on CLUBHOUSE!

Join me on Clubhouse! @SpiralSister

Link to the CLUBHOUSE club:

http://www.joinclubhouse.com/club/integrated-spiral

A bit about me, your Spiral Sister

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, both available on Amazon.

I would love to speak at your bookstore, crystal shop, acupuncture / chiropractor office, or other holistic / natural fair or festival. I support healthy lifestyle businesses. For information on both of my books, visit my Amazon author’s page — Click here.

After 13 years of research and work, my health book, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is available at: https://read.barnesandnoble.com/book/take-it-upon-yourself-to-live-a-wholly-vibrant-life/

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Follow me on Twitter at: TakeOnYourself

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Clearing the Static

Clearing the Static

Just like the static most of us saw (after the last broadcast of the day on our television 📺 set), we (in our energy body or aura), can gather static around us that needs to be cleared daily.

Stay with me for a moment.

If you walk across a carpeted room on a cold day and touch metal, you may get a shock. That shock is an example of static electricity.

In the dark

You can’t SEE the static electricity, unless it’s dark and sometimes then, it’s visible. But nevertheless, the static electricity IS there.

And seeds grow in the darkness of the soil, so yes, we “go there” into the darkness inside of ourselves to ground and center. Don’t worry! It is not scary, it is freeing! Know thyself.

An exercise

Rub a balloon over a person’s head of hair and static electricity causes the hair to rise.

No one argues that static electricity exists, though mostly, it’s invisible.

It’s just physics. And physics is a Science that is continually evolving (as are we)!

Energy body

Why then, is it so hard to believe that each of us have an energy body? And that the state of that energy body can impact our health!

We can tune ourselves to resonate with EASE. We can make small adjustments to free our minds of static and confusion to feel less anxious, clear and confident—Connected to ALL.

Movies

Years ago, the movie Poltergeist made the TV screen static seem scary, like it was a portal into a dark and evil place. But I say, we must rise above the “programming”!

An invitation

Would you like to learn some ways to clear the static in your head, and in your life?

Would you like these ways to be things you can quickly stack onto your daily habits? #stackhabits

If so, then…

Click here to take the next step… and I’ll meet you there. ❤️🦋🌀🎼☯️🙏☮️

Learn more about my Integrated Spiral program here, where we connect spiritual types more fully with their bodies and connect body conscious types with Spirituality.

Integrated Spiral transformational coaching 

A bit about me, your Spiral Sister

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, both available on Amazon.

I would love to speak at your bookstore, crystal shop, acupuncture / chiropractor office, or other holistic / natural fair or festival. I support healthy lifestyle businesses. For information on both of my books, visit my Amazon author’s page — Click here.

After 13 years of research and work, my health book, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is available at: https://read.barnesandnoble.com/book/take-it-upon-yourself-to-live-a-wholly-vibrant-life/

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Follow me on Twitter at: TakeOnYourself

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Integration Diet

Integration Diet

Intro

Right from the start, let me tell you that I’ve been gently releasing the excess weight I’d gained during the COVID lockdown, by eating all different kinds of foods and challenging my former thoughts about what foods I should eat. It has really surprised me! And those “surprises” challenged me to analyze what was going on and how I could sustain ongoing weight loss (as I’d been overweight, technically obese), BEFORE the lockdowns.

Food History

I’d lost 20 pounds during 2019 with the help of a modified Keto diet as suggested by my chiropractor, restricting certain foods, and dining out less, (and scrutinizing food ingredients when we did go out). Mostly, I went out to socialize with my husband and not even eat a meal. I had taken a lot of supplements too, to help balance my hormones. But during the summer of 2020, I regained those 20 pounds (mostly due to COVID lockdown depression).

When I say I am not unfamiliar with diets, it’s true. I’ve done so many different diets over the course of twenty years, it’s not funny. It’s actually kinda sad. I didn’t even learn (throughout all of the time I spent on various diets), how to tell when I was hungry—until I was ravenous (belly gurgling with hunger pangs)! I learned the particular diet, but I didn’t align my MIND-BODY, and integrate these aspects and LISTEN to my body and analyze what changes I needed to make in order to experience RESULTS. (I am in alignment, Now.)

So, what I’m about to share may shock you. It has, and continues to shock me!

Food List

Here’s a list of some of the foods I’ve eaten and seen the number on the scale DROP the next morning, foods I wouldn’t have eaten a year ago:

  • Steak
  • Barbecue sauce (I found one brand that works for me. Yes, ONE.)
  • Cheese (I found a couple types that work for me.)
  • Half and half
  • Canned soup (I drink an extra cup of water after to help flush out excess salt.)
  • Rice (rinsed very well before cooking)
  • Soy sauce (always thought it was a no-no)
  • Pasta (egg or veggie noodles)
  • Potatoes (even tater tots, and potato chips! Gasp! Small portion, but yes. Shocking!)
  • Dark Chocolate (small portion, on a fancy plate)
  • Margaritas (homemade, no sugary mixer)
  • Red wine (limited to 8 ounces a night, though depending on my meal, I’ve had more)
  • Universal Yums (a monthly subscription of snacks from around the world-tiny servings—added this because we’re foodies and love trying new foods from other countries! Since we can’t travel currently, this monthly fun box supports our mental health and Connects us ALL.)

UPDATE: About fats

UPDATE: Integration Diet: The Sacred Science 7 week Herbal Detox

UPDATE: Integration Diet: 4 weeks into the 7 week Herbal Detox

Tracking

What started it all? I credit a pillar of my weight loss success to the Omada program (that was offered to me by my health insurance program: Florida Blue), because they sent me a free scale that communicates back to their app and diet coach, via blue tooth technology (so, I am held accountable). Accountability is KEY!

I weigh in every morning, nude, and before drinking any water and after going to the restroom. I’ve also integrated this into my morning meditation ritual which includes a brief gratitude ritual (along with some Yoga postures and Energy building Qigong activity) to release any gas in my body, strengthen my immune system, and release stress. And this was the impetus for developing Integrated Spiral!

Tying these activities together has been a huge advance in my ability to stick with the weigh ins and track my journey. In the first three months, I released 15 pounds, but UPDATE: By March 24, 2021 I lost a total of 32 pounds (which included another 17 pounds lost during my time of participating in a 7 week Herbal Detox with KP Khalsa and The Sacred Science)!

I’ve communicated with my coach on the days I gained a pound or so, and worked through the mental hoops and associated feelings. I’ve also incorporated small celebratory actions that do not involve food, as a new way to thank my body for following through on my desire to lose weight.

The Omada program also came with an app, which has helped me focus on the size and health of my meals, rather than the calories of the food (as I’d tracked before in the LoseIt! app). Now, I watch for the trends of how many veggies I’m eating in a week, and what I’ve eaten the day before I see the number go up or down on the scale. It’s a pretty cool bio feedback loop and is definitely working for me.

NOTE: If you’re not in the Omada program, you can still do the weight loss portion of my Integrated Spiral program, because I have found even better blue tooth scales that measure 17 health markers! I’m gonna get one if and when my Omada scale fails. 😉

Supplements

Aside from the liquid supplement that both my husband and I consume daily, when we moved off grid, I pretty much quit taking any other supplements, except Vitamin C, Vitamin D, Zinc, and Magnesium. But when I first stepped on the Omada scale and saw how much I had gained from February to September, I started looking into anything and everything I could take to support my weight loss journey. For the first time in a long time, I felt desperate.

I tried a few supplements and I could tell what didn’t work by how I felt and that I’d gain ounces the day or so after taking them. I think my body is so sensitive, that I gain a bit of weight anytime I introduce something new to it. That’s a theory I am tracking via my food and weight log (which, circles back to why tracking is sooo important)!

There are few supplements (weight loss aids) that have helped me, and I’ll be writing reviews on those products on Being Wholly Vibrant.

I’m not including any supplements in my Integration Diet per se, because I don’t want you to feel that you have to take certain supplements in order to participate in this program. Take It Upon Yourself, as I always say, to do what works best for you. Plus, I’m attempting to keep all product reviews on my other blog. 🧐

Portions and measuring

I’ve found that my 1/2 C measuring cup has become my best friend in the kitchen. I scoop out chili and soup with it, and measure rice and pasta with it too. If I am in doubt, I measure. And I don’t just “trust” my eyes and brain with that “eyeball” method of measuring food, because that has been known to fail me.

The limit I set for myself on these kinds of foods is 1 C at a time. If for some reason I absolutely find that I need or want more, I go back for 1/2 C more. But, in three months, that’s only happened twice.

You gotta serve somebody. Just include yourSelf!

Timing

One trend I’ve noticed is that when I stop eating anything by 6pm, the number on the scale goes down the next morning.

I’m a big fan of intermittent fasting, but for it to work for me, I’ve observed that I need to go to bed on an empty stomach. I’ve tried all the other ways to do intermittent fasting, and no other combination works for me except going to be feeling hunger pangs. (This became less and less the longer I stayed committed to this program.) For me to practice intermittent fasting long term, well, it takes a real commitment and mindset. I’ve haven’t always been successful, but somehow, I feel this time, I will reach my ultimate goal weight.

Another trend I’ve noticed is that if I abstain from night time snacking, I can eat the same snack midday the next day (after lunch), and it doesn’t make the numbers on the scale go up, like it would have done, had I consumed it at 9pm. Weird, but that’s what I’ve observed as true for my body.

Creating the habit

All of this has been about helping me establish good habits that I can maintain for life. I know walking daily, or not, is a choice.

And honestly, the number on the scale has gone down on the morning after I didn’t walk and I’m not sure why. Maybe it’s because I need to rest and allow my body time to repair and reduce the inflammation that came from my walking the day before. I don’t know. I’m continuing to monitor that.

Clearing the static from our Energy Body.

Sustaining habits or subconscious practice

So far, I’ve had the best outcome from tying two or more tasks or practices together. This is why I formed my Integrated Spiral transformational, small group, self-coaching program.

I know in order for me to make the commitment to a healthy, whole, and vibrant body means I must be held accountable. By serving others, I will serve myself. And in Bob Dylan’s famous words, “You gotta serve somebody.”

I know spiritual types that aren’t in touch with their bodies. And I know body conscious types who want to learn more about Spirituality. I think (and feel), I can serve both.

Learn more about my Integrated Spiral program here:

Integrated Spiral transformational coaching 

A bit about me, your Spiral Sister

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, both available on Amazon.

I would love to speak at your bookstore, crystal shop, acupuncture / chiropractor office, or other holistic / natural fair or festival. I support healthy lifestyle businesses. For information on both of my books, visit my Amazon author’s page — Click here.

After 13 years of research and work, my health book, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is available at: https://read.barnesandnoble.com/book/take-it-upon-yourself-to-live-a-wholly-vibrant-life/

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Follow me on Twitter at: TakeOnYourself

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Clarity

Gaining clarity

Perhaps “clarity” (which is spoken of a LOT in the coaching world) is overrated.

Coaching: Perhaps clarity is overrated. Shrugging shoulders.

I’m attempting to stay focused.

I have gotten so much done this year (though some may disagree), but really, when I list all the stuff I’ve managed to do, with all the challenges we’ve been faced with (since February), I am honestly—AMAZED!

Honestly, (though there’s really no reason to say the word “honestly” if everything you say is honest) I’m thankful to be here, to be well, safe, and getting stuff done. 🤯😉

Here’s what I’ve accomplished this year, and it’s not over yet!

  • Software:
    • Jira
    • Confluence
    • Zoom (admin and user)
    • Salesforce (customizations)
    • Deltak Costpoint 7
    • Navigate coaching portal
    • Navigate new writing portal (Writers Work)
    • Affinity software
  • Setup MacBook Pro – then reformatted its hard drive when it took too long to delete folders on it before sending it back
  • Setup it’s replacement MacBook Air, and it still doesn’t work as easily as it should (unless you have unlimited internet to move files over), I used a USB thumb drive, BUT required additional cable and box for proper ports)!
  • Early adopter of new social media platforms like:
    • Telegraph, and Rumble (Been on Vimeo, YouTube, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and others for many years)
  • Completed a high ticket 12 month business coaching program
  • Created a new transformational coaching program-read about it here: https://sheilamurrey.net/integrated-spiral/
  • Off grid living:
    • How to fill a generator
    • Turn off/on propane shower hot water
    • Turn off/on propane grill
    • Fill water tanks
  • Setup and attempted to use Wireless connectivity-Satellite to phone hotspot (Satellite never worked properly to initiate login and handshake to government Gateway to access a virtual machine)
  • Setup and used Boost mobile MiFi (not enough bandwidth available) and later switched to AT&T MiFi (and have been using it problem free for over 3 months)
  • Release the 25 pounds of excess COVID weight! (Still ongoing, but down 15 pounds as of now)

I’ll edit my initial words a bit. BIG clarity may be overrated.

Just get clear on something small, bite sized. Then follow through on that. And that’s what we’ll be doing in my new coaching program! 😉

Knowing exactly what the BIG goal is may not be necessary and may cause one to falter or stall (like an airplane that tries to ascend too fast or at too steep of an incline). Just focus on what you can do today and get it done. Eventually the picture unfolds.

At least I am learning to IN Joy the process/journey. ❤️😉

Humorous observation

We’ve had sooo much going on! Self inflicted challenges! (Hmm maybe that’s what I should have named my new program! LOL But I wanted to name it after my most resonating things, integration and spirals 🌀 for Energy, Newgrange engravings, etc.) 😉🤷🏻‍♀️

A bit about me

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, both available on Amazon.

I would love to speak at your bookstore, crystal shop, acupuncture / chiropractor office, or other holistic / natural fair or festival. I support healthy lifestyle businesses. For information on both of my books, visit my Amazon author’s page — Click here.

After 13 years of research and work, my health book, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is available at: https://read.barnesandnoble.com/book/take-it-upon-yourself-to-live-a-wholly-vibrant-life/

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Follow me on Twitter at: TakeOnYourself

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Split energies

Split energies

I’d been hearing for awhile about how we can experience energy drain, procrastination, and such by allowing our energies to be split. Or said another way, we can feel drained by focusing our energy in different directions.

Yin and Yang are split energies.

Innovators

Yet, innovators like Anousheh Ansari (first female private astronaut), Elon Musk, and Naveen Jain (who is mining the moon) don’t seem to have any issues with “split energies.”

They are brilliant, forward thinkers, who have a focus on space, with still a foot grounded in reality.

These modern masters (I won’t go as far as to call them spiritual masters) speak about the future as if it is present our day reality! Have they mastered the split energies of yin and yang within themselves? And is that our only work, to keep our yin and yang energies in BALANCE?

Soul’s purpose

If we “buy in” to the spiritual concept that our soul’s purpose here is to learn from and understand our human experience and then gain clarity on its vision, we might consider the visionaries I named, modern day mystics.

As Abraham-Hicks teaches, when our soul gets clear (even for as little as 17 seconds), it shoots out ‘Rockets of Desire’ which manifests tangible results (whether we see or act upon these is a whole other story).

The modern day spiritual or mystic pioneer is manifesting at a level beyond what most of us do, and they seem not to have any split energy issues.

In the end

In the final analysis (from what I’ve learned thus far), everyone has an opinion about everything. And most love to express it. Some want to force others to change and believe as they do. That’s called, Control.

Most of us allow our Ego (a part of our mind), to hold tight to our beliefs (to the extent that we cut ties with relatives who think differently!) Ugh. Gasp! I know. 😢

But we can’t know ALL the answers. And we can’t change anyone except ourself (and that’s hard enough). We can come into Balance though. It is possible. Love and Life can find a way.

After ALL (in the end), Everything Resolves to Gratitude. ❤️🦋🌀🙏☮️☯️🎼

Find this here: https://sheilamurrey.net/store/

If you’d like to continue this discussion, and focus on bettering your relationships by bringing the many aspects of yourself back into Balance, I am launching a new coaching program. See if it resonates with you: https://sheilamurrey.net/integrated-spiral/

A bit about me

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, both available on Amazon.

I would love to speak at your bookstore, crystal shop, acupuncture / chiropractor office, or other holistic / natural fair or festival. I support healthy lifestyle businesses. For information on both of my books, visit my Amazon author’s page — Click here.

After 13 years of research and work, my health book, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is available at: https://read.barnesandnoble.com/book/take-it-upon-yourself-to-live-a-wholly-vibrant-life/

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Follow me on Twitter at: TakeOnYourself

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Hands Together in Unity

Let’s put our hands together in unity

Just as most are taught to put their own hands together for prayer, we can place our own hands together to connect the circuits in our body. And we can put our hands together 🙏 to unify and stand strong!

In this time of COVID when so many of us feel alone or disconnected, please know you can connect to the living Life Force Energy that is within you and all living things around you (such as the rocks and trees, or pets), and connect on the deepest levels. ❤️🦋🌀🙏☮️😘

I am sharing some blog articles written by bloggers from around the world that I follow, to highlight our Connection and promote unity. I hope you enjoy their posts.

Much love and many blessings in ALL ways. ❤️🙏

Hands together to connect for unity.

I embrace the ALL of what is wanted along with what is not wanted. The dark and the bright shining light that comes from mindfulness and accepting the sacred geometry within nature. There really is value in Everything.

Namaste. OM

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https://braverangels.org/

A bit about me:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon.

Plus, the brand new book that’s been in the making for 13 years, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format).

Buy it here: https://beingwhollyvibrant.wordpress.com/2018/09/12/book-launch-take-it-upon-yourself-to-live-a-wholly-vibrant-life/

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Check out this original song, I Know Stuff. My husband wrote this song and it was performed and recorded in a Nashville, TN studio. You can listen to it here: https://youtu.be/tvLaiqS8sYw

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

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Don’t blame, reframe!

Don’t blame, reframe!

Whenever you are ready to blame someone for hurting you, take a breath, take a walk, or sit with the situation for awhile before reacting.

Reframe the event several times to see if you can find where you played a role.

When I have allowed myself to get upset over something, I have found that if I can have a few minutes to an hour alone, without someone taking my side right away, I can usually turn things around in my head and get out of blame. And it feels better to me when I can manage to stop blaming another—and not see myself as the victim.

How to step out of blame

  • Breathe
  • Take a few moments to change your state
  • Take a walk or change your environment
  • Consider the situation from another’s viewpoint
  • Do something else for a bit
  • If possible, message or call the person who caused your upset
  • Take a shower
  • Meditate or say a prayer (not just about the situation, but for all involved—including you
  • Sleep on it
Blue light butterfly 🦋

What can you learn from this?

Butterflies signify transformation because of the way they change during their metamorphosis. Try to see if you can find the lesson you can learn from the event you just experienced.

The person that caused your upset may have no idea they upset you. You may merely need a change of perspective. In nearly every case of upset I have experienced, I was too much in my own head about the situation and when I changed my environment (as in walking outside, watching a movie, jumping on a business call, or sleeping on it), I was able to thoroughly change my view of the event and release my hurt feelings.

Ego

Yes, usually our hurt feelings have something to do with our ego. When I’m upset, it’s usually because my ego was bruised in one way or another—even if only a tiny bit.

And I don’t even consider myself to have much of an ego, but apparently I do.

It won’t hurt me to let go of more ego either. When we can embrace humility, it can help us stand more confidently. We can accept that we have a lot to offer others, in service—whether we are praised or not.

When people talk bad about you

I know it feels painful when someone talks bad about you. But would you rather be right, or feel good? If we want to feel better, reframing the situation can help.

I have had these situations occur in my life. I don’t blame the people (because to do so would put me in victim mode), but I have used those episodes to help me make better choices.

I used to shake my head before walking away, but I don’t do that anymore—because even that is a waste of my energy. I say to myself, they just aren’t on the same wavelength as me. Sometimes I teach by sharing, but mostly I just let it go. ❤️🦋🌀😉

A bit about us:

My husband is an award-winning illustrator, plus he is a seasoned guitarist, bass player, and songwriter (of over 400 original songs). You can view some of his artwork and listen to all of his songs on http://RichardMurrey.com or check out his latest 24 songs here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC53E21F-JlTW2iQmPcEIWkQ

I’m an Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon. Plus, I’ve written a new book (in the making for 13 years), Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, that’s now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format). Buy it here.

As well, you can hire us to promote your book, band, business, or services here: https://www.facebook.com/MurreyMakers-103294764612382/

Be the person your soul beckons you to be and let us promote you!

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Observations about Sheila

Conversations surrounding emotional balance, moral ambiguities, and deep spiritual truths (such as We Are All Connected, and Put Your Hands Together When You Pray), are what Sheila is most passionate about. She feels a profound empathic Connection with people and what they’re going through by merely sharing her own truth, by speaking freely about her personal struggles and the challenges she continues to overcome. Sheila strives to ease loneliness through teaching and sharing group collectives, help those exiting toxic relationships, and while reminding us ALL that we are stronger than we think we are, and that “Everything Resolves to Gratitude” in the end.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

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The Watch

The Watch

When my mother passed away, or as I believe, crossed over to the other side Beyond The Veil, I felt that I needed to find something of hers to hold, to sort of self soothe or comfort myself.

I remembered mom had given me a teal crystal colored pendant many years before. And I sought to find it.

I looked for the pendant several times. We live in an RV, so it isn’t like there are that many places where it could have been stored. I searched through all of my jewelry. But, I couldn’t find it. Maybe the thought to look for it was something put in my mind to keep me busy. I don’t know.

Instead of finding the pendant, I found my mom’s wrist watch and a very old pocket watch, which I think had belonged to my maternal grandfather.

Mom’s wristwatch and grandfather’s pocket watch. Also, a photo of my my aunt and my mom when they were very young.

When I brought both watches from the bedroom to the living room and sat down, the thought dropped into my mind that mom was telling me something: It was time. And that I was given both watches in case only finding one wouldn’t get the message across—and she then impressed upon me something only she could, “because you can be thick headed.”

Understanding this message from my mom, made me laugh a little and really lift the sadness I was feeling about her death.

My mother died in West Virginia. A state she had always loved. It took some time for us to travel from our Florida home to where my parents had been camping in their motorhome.

As soon as I pulled the car into the driveway in West Virginia, my dad greeted my husband and I and handed me the thin gold chain my mom had worn everyday for the last several years of her life. We hugged. And cried. And my papa was not a man to show tears.

Gold chain

I wear the gold chain daily that my papa handed to me when my husband and I arrived in West Virginia. And yes, I eventually found the teal pendant that my mom had given me. It had been in my jewelry box all along! But it had been wrapped up in a tangle of smaller chains and until I took the time to unravel the chains, I couldn’t see it. When I discovered the pendant, I was surprised and was certain this was another lesson from my mother.

Time with dad

While we were in West Virginia, my dad and I walked, talked, and appreciated ALL.

While walking through a nearby campground, that a long time friend of dad’s had owned, Papa told me about all the different kinds of trees there, which thrilled me, as I didn’t know dad knew all of the names of the trees in that area.

I told dad about the how I’d found the watches and asked if he knew who the pocket watch had belonged to, and he wasn’t sure. But dad also wore a wristwatch and always had. I never looked at the kind of watch dad was wearing.

Awhile later, papa found another one of mom’s wristwatches and gave it to me. It was one that the face was in a heart shape and had little footprints 👣 inside. It symbolized the story of “footprints in the sand.” And I recalled mom wearing that watch for many years.

All four watches

21 months after my mom passed away, I received dad’s personal effects from the funeral home, and low and behold, dad’s watch had a blue face (when the light shines on the face the blue looks different). Looking at dad’s watch, brings my mind right back to the story I wrote as, That Little Blue Dot. I instantly tune to the knowing that, mom, dad, and my unborn siblings (in particular, Christina), are ALL together.

While driving the little car I inherited from dad and mom, I placed each of their watches on the shifter to always keep them with me, and to honor them.

I recall sitting in dad and mom’s little Hyundai (about a year later), and thinking how mom had always wanted to give me a car. She talked about that often. Mom had not wanted me to have to work at age fifteen to buy a car, or make so many car payments over the years.

So, in one clear, mystic moment, I said, “Thank you.” Thank you mama and papa for leaving me your little car. Thank you for Everything.

Growth transcends Time

I observe only growth, and note how each item of Omnipotent God’s creation grows at differing rates of speed, be it bird 🐦, bee 🐝, or me. Growth transcends Time.

Time with mom

I share spiritual moments with my mama still. When my heart is open. When I am washing pots and pans she gave me years before she died. When we use the stoneware she gave me. When I drink from the crystal glasses she left behind.

My heart is full. We are all connected. We are all one. Gratitude envelopes me. I resonate with ALL of this knowing. Eternal. No time. Everything happens as it should, and mostly for reasons that mostly only later dawn. ❤️🦋🌀🙏☀️💦🌱☮️

Read That Little Blue Dot here: https://sheilamurrey.net/2017/04/26/that-little-blue-dot/

Read Lessons here: https://sheilamurrey.net/2018/11/12/lessons-from-mom/

Read mom’s eulogy here: https://sheilamurrey.net/2017/07/03/eulogy-for-my-loving-mother-betty-ann-williams/

Read dad’s eulogy here: https://sheilamurrey.net/2019/03/21/eulogy-for-my-amazing-father-nelson-williams/

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Thank you for helping me choose a better feeling thought!

Thank you for helping me choose a better feeling thought!

I don’t know if I’ve ever (publicly) explained this before, but I absorb, and tolerate, even accept ”upset“ to a point, but after kindly expressing my concerns or frustrations (to one or more people), and not being heard, I then speak in a firm, perhaps demanding ”tone” or get loud.

At some point, my emotions boil over. And it only seems people hear me then. Ugh!

Either you want people to share, or you don’t. I am not shy, nor boastful. I am nice. I am kind.

The stream of consciousness, when cut, will come out in another way. Because Life ALLways finds a way.

Have you been belittled, or picked last?

In my 58 years on this planet, I’ve learned that
I’m typically too nice, overly sensitive, and emotional. But, I am not a victim, and certainly do not wallow in victimhood.

I’m a deep and careful listener, loyal friend, and strong advocate (especially for the underdogs, misunderstood, misfits, and those who create a healthier world for us all—beyond the next 7 generations). I am a critical thinker. And embrace individuality. I love the freedom I find in BEing independent.

I have a profound knowing that We Are All Connected. And that we’re only as strong as our weakest link.

We can pull together, or we can pull apart.

Notice the separation of the colors of the rainbow 🌈? What does it make you appreciate?

Even the rainbow’s colors are separated. But, by what? Though the colors are separate, we love the rainbow.

I listen first

I sit and I listen, gratefully with as much compassion as I have access to with mySelf, as others talk, often sharing too much of the current discord.

Then I speak.

But, it doesn’t feel good to me, when my voice gets “put in the back of the bus” by someone.

I only speak when I feel a strong urge. When I am compelled to share. I am propelled by Omniscience. And when my voice is cut off while I am sending love, what shall I do? This physically hurts me. I care deeply. But because of my complexion, my pain doesn’t matter? We ALL have a message, but here I go again, having to write it through my tears because SOMEONE felt they needed to hear from their more important “in that moment” others.

Imperfect action

In my humble opinion, promoting or monetizing poor behavior—is of a low vibration. And it serves to perpetuate one-sided, dense thinking. And yes, I know how that sounds. I am well aware that is a judgment, and obviously, others see nothing wrong with it to further their “cause.”
We never really know who (or how) others, no matter their complexion or ethnicity, have been persecuted.

Learning all the time

Do you believe as I, that life is a school? And that Everything, in particular, every experience we have is presented to us for learning?

Do you often wish you would respond to each challenge with your best response?
Perhaps people use bullying tactics to feel empowered. Perhaps bullying is their way of standing in their power. But, to the one in their way, it feels as though they are preying on the vulnerable or weak person.

I write a lot about the power of words, and tone. And tone can be expressed in writing, as well as when spoken. Thus, I thought I had grown to a place where words couldn’t hurt me.
But, I believe that we all mirror each other to some degree.

Mirror work

I don’t want to mirror someone’s dark side, so I often walk away, and simply stop arguing or fighting. I realize that “sending them love” would be my highest vibrational response, yet I am not always emotionally strong enough. At times, I have pushed back and been direct, only for the situation to escalate—even to the point of physical abuse.

An example:

This brings me to relate a recent situation:
I was emotionally triggered by a response (that looked and felt quite rude), to a comment made by one of my longest and dearest friends on my group, We Are All Connected. My dear friend had expressed her deeply religious comment (based on her belief) to a beautiful photo I had shared. The problem was that an acquaintance didn’t like my friends’ comment and felt offended by it because he is an atheist.

Initially, when I read his comment I felt it in my body. And the feeling wasn’t good. My gut wrenched because I felt like I had been punched! I wanted to spare my friends feelings, and as the admin, I removed HIS comment. That set off more back and forth from him because he felt I was choosing sides. And I was. Not because I don’t like him, or dislike atheists, or because I like her more, and approve of her religious beliefs, but simply to FEEL BETTER. (And he clearly broke the group rules anyway—he was not kind.)

Second example:

I have taken a lot of being talked down to, even in the business coaching program I am currently in. I often receive criticism, push back, month after month. Though we are encouraged to think big, and come up with a program worthy of a $10k price-tag, MY ideas are often dismissed as either “fantasy,” “unrealistic,” or that we may not be UP TO delivering what we want to offer.

So, I had one of those “last straw” moments in a group the other day. And unfortunately that moment coincided with other personal stressors (which I had tried to explain to my coach the day before, but was ushered to focus on our objective for efficiency’s sake).

Either you want people to share, or you don’t. I thought the point of a small group discussion was to speak our heart?

Of course I honor everyone on our intimate group calls. But, they had been quiet and I felt the inspiration to speak, so I broke through any thoughts about being misunderstood, and I opened my mouth to speak healing.

I will never know, now, what the last sentence would have been (it was only one more sentence), because our coach felt he needed to hear from others in our group (whom had not spoken in 8 minutes, and no one knew why). And thankfully, I had gotten to share a few thoughts, a few minutes earlier. I think my grandmother may have been speaking through me. And it’s sad her words were not allowed to be heard. I think she wanted us to realize that we never know who or how others, no matter their complexion or ethnicity, have been persecuted. But apparently, that was not the time (to speak that knowledge aloud).

Empowerment Coaching

I can find value in Everything. And I can turn, turn, turn, to the next best feeling.

All that to say, as a writer, and spiritually open-minded, caring, empathic, and such, I came abruptly, face-to-face with my own fallibility. I am human. I am not perfect. So how can I be an empowering coach?

By teaching you this?
Thank YOU (in appreciation of whomever is challenging me in any moment), for helping me make a better choice.

Ponder

Maybe we need to start by changing the way we think about these words:

black and dark, white and light.

Look deeper.

Consider this:

  • People for whatever reason, even as children, are afraid of the dark.
  • Light complexion people tend to call anyone with a darker complexion, black.
  • Black in the light spectrum is the absorption of all the other colors.
  • Others?

Let’s ponder this.

At some point, in the spiral of time, humanity will learn to appreciate, honor, and even revere, the CONTRAST that brings about Creation.

ALLways remember:

You are worthy.

Your inner YOU is L-I-M-I-T-L-E-S-S

As ALLways, thank YOU for helping me make a better choice.

❤️🦋🌀🙏☀️🌱