Women, Wine, and Wellness

Women, Wine, and Wellness Brevard

I joined the local chapter of Women, Wine, and Wellness in Cocoa, Florida to launch my new business, on October 7, 2019!

I attended last month’s event as a spectator and so enjoyed it, that I wanted to attend again anyway. So happens that the timing was perfect for me to grab a vendor table and announce my new mind, body, spirit, soul-aligned business!

Lauren Thew and Kali Bernardo have given me much business and entrepreneurial advice. And I am in awe of how elegantly they run this chapter. Kudos, ladies! ❤️🦋🌀

From helping me know all the things I needed to have put in place like:

  1. Clarity of offering (longer version of an elevator speech)
  2. Discussion about rates and fees
  3. Discussion about in-home or virtual
  4. Practice embodying it (by repeating it verbally in front of a mirror and recording myself)
  5. Printed materials: Sign in sheet, flyer, coupon,
  6. Welcome kit with accountability and engagement agreements/ session information
  7. Disclaimers, how to accept payment, pay plans, and more!

My new business

Here’s my introduction on their Facebook business page:

Here we go!

Front of business flyer

I’m so excited to be introducing my new brand at our upcoming event, and I plan to have a vendor table at each of the upcoming monthly events!

Woo-hoo!

Girl power! Hahahaha 😉🤣 Yes!

And I’ll be inviting folks to my next meeting too!

UPDATE: The business launch was a lovely success! I made several new friends, contacts for tech work, and a new preferred customer with ASEA! Yay! I am having fun thinking of all the brainstorming and stuff we’ll be doing together!

For Fun

Check out this original song, Last Call Before Christmas. It’s one of my new favorites (as I was the muse for it), written by my husband and performed and recorded in a Nashville, TN studio. Help us spread the word about it, won’t you?

#LastCall #NewSong #OriginalSong #ChristmasSong

A BIT ABOUT ME:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon.

Plus, the brand new book that’s been in the making for 13 years, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format).

Buy it here: https://beingwhollyvibrant.wordpress.com/2018/09/12/book-launch-take-it-upon-yourself-to-live-a-wholly-vibrant-life/

And check out my STORE! It’s called the Take It Upon Yourself (or TIUY) store that you can access right here.

Be the best version of who you came here to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

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Oneness

We are ALL One

Each of us are fractals of Limitless Omniscience.

We are not separate, but deeply connected emanations of the One Presence.

Hands together to Connect

To begin to know this as a reality, a practical way (or daily practice) you can begin to do right now is to put your hands together at the same time each day for a moment or two and simply think or say something like, “Angels ALL around–Hands together to Connect.”

Do you follow any of these authors or speakers? (In alphabetical order)

  • Peter Anthony
  • Paul Atkins
  • Robert Atkinson
  • Heather Joy Bassett
  • Michael Bernard Beckwith
  • Steve Bhaerman
  • Joan Borysenko
  • Ben Bowler
  • Gregg Braden
  • Rev. Robert Brzezinski
  • Sandra de Castro Buffington
  • Garth Catterall
  • Patricia Cota-Robles
  • Kathryn A. Davis
  • Steve Farrell
  • Matthew Fox
  • Peter Gabel
  • Jeff Genung
  • David Gershon
  • Christine Glenn
  • Karen Gordon
  • Deborah Greene
  • Brian Christopher Hamilton
  • Sheri Herndon
  • Misa Hopkins
  • Dr. Jean Houston
  • Thomas Hübl
  • Sister Jenna
  • Dr. Kurt Johnson
  • Lyla June Johnston
  • Dr. Melanie Joy
  • Rev. Victor Kazanjian
  • Nannette Kennedy
  • Azim Khamisa
  • Bruce King
  • Audrey Kitagawa
  • Chief Phil Lane Jr.
  • Sage Lavine
  • Bruce Lipton
  • Diane Longboat
  • Ayub Malik
  • Howard Martin
  • Yuka Saionji Matsuura
  • Steve McIntosh
  • Jennifer McLean
  • Lynne McTaggart
  • Dee Meyer
  • Rev. Deborah Moldow
  • Tarek Mounib
  • Anita Narayan
  • Shawna Bluestar Newcomb
  • Steven Newcomb
  • Karen Noe
  • Karen Palmer
  • Anna-Mari Pieterse
  • Paulette Pipe
  • Mitchell J. Rabin
  • Jon Eliot Ramer
  • RASHA
  • Ben Roberts
  • Deborah Rozman, Ph.D.
  • Dr. Anita Sanchez
  • Anneloes Smitsman
  • Deon Snyman
  • Lynne Twist
  • Rick Ulfik
  • Ana C. Vanconcelos
  • Mpho Tutu Van Furth
  • Anne-Marie Voorhoeve
  • Kelly Sullivan Walden
  • Neale Donald Walsch
  • Christy Whitman
  • Diane Williams
  • Dr. David Sloan Wilson
  • Claire Zammit

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The program is free and if you miss the live broadcast Humanity’s team will send you links so you can enjoy the program at your leisure.

We thank Omniscience ALLways—Spirit, Soul, Mind, Heart, & Body are ALL Connected.

About Omniscience

Limitless

Omniscience is Infinite Spirit, limitless, unbounded, and eternal.

The phenomena of ALL Nature, physical (seen and unseen), along with the spiritual, are the myriad expressions of Infinite Spirit.

Understanding of these expressions, and living in harmony therewith, bring about balance, joy, and vibrant living.

Omni-Everything

There is no particular “God” bigger or more true than another, as there is ONE SOURCE. All religions offer ways (practical and mystical) that are belief systems in an attempt to help humans rejoin Source, as streams and rivers rejoin the sea.

ALL existence (not merely the personal egoic identity) of the individual continue after the death transformation when the body releases the soul and resides again in fullness beyond the veil.

Living it

Live a moral life to feel better and help others feel better also.

The Golden Rule is a good standard to follow. It is found in the Bible and other sacred texts of various religions:

“Whatsoever ye would that others should do unto you, do ye also unto them.”

I feel that I’m walking my talk and living in alignment with my purpose when I feel a physical sensation in my body that I call, God Bumps.

Check out my comment below Doreen’s post:

Breathe

Natural laws exist as a container for the human experiment. Breathe.

And as you breathe, think of something to be grateful for. Yes, #GRATITUDE for ALL you have been, and have the opportunity to BE.

Experience

The putative (subtle) energy of Omniscience is known by different names within human traditions. In traditional Chinese medicine it is called Qi (pronounced CHEE), in the Judeo-Christian tradition it is called Spirit, and in Ayurveda it is called Prana and represented in the doshas. We Are All Connected. We are ALL One.

OM

For Fun

Check out this original song, It All Starts Within You. You’ll think about this one, written by my husband and performed and recorded in a Nashville, TN studio. You can download it (it’s Track 9) from this link: https://store.cdbaby.com/cd/chevyfordband2

A BIT ABOUT ME:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon.

Plus, the brand new book that’s been in the making for 13 years, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format).

Buy it here: https://beingwhollyvibrant.wordpress.com/2018/09/12/book-launch-take-it-upon-yourself-to-live-a-wholly-vibrant-life/

And now, I have a new STORE! It’s called the Take It Upon Yourself (or TIUY) store that you can access right here.

Be the best version of who you came here to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Follow me on Twitter at: TakeOnYourself

A Sacred Celtic Journey (Part 1): Ireland

Sacred Celtic Journey: Ireland

Thursday June 27

My husband (who had not flown in over 20 years due to experiencing a near crash in Reno) and I departed on a night flight out of Orlando, Florida for a life-affirming, adventurous 18 day spiritual vacation to the British Isles. This was quite the big deal for us, since it was also my first 2 week vacation from work in 40 years! For more on what prompted me to take this trip, and why my husband went–click [placeholder for link to come later].

But I digress for a moment. Prior to the sacred sites package part of our trip beginning, we arrived in Dublin, Ireland on Friday, June 28 to have a free day exploring Dublin city centre and prepare for a full day Game of Thrones tour on Saturday.

Our GoT tour did not disappoint! It was amazing! Our tour guide, Eric, had been an extra on the show for 8 seasons and totally knew his stuff. He gave us inside information about the show, behind-the-scenes, making of, the locations, and much more! He brought every location to life! He brought 8.5 x 11 inch laminated photos for us all to link the locations to scenes from the show to give us a point of reference, and to enable us to relive our tour whenever we rewatched the show! Excellent!

We had not expected it to be so physical, but we walked and hiked over 14,000 steps (equating to about 7 miles) over hilly terrain. We were pleased that we had the stamina to do it though, as it was quite the extraordinary experience! For more specifics on that day tour–click [placeholder for link to come later].

Our Sacred Celtic Journey tour included:

  • 12 night’s accommodations; we tacked on additional nights (before and after) to really make the most of it. Ultimately, we were so glad we did!
  • Transportation to/from airports and hotels to magnificent sites
  • Several meals with our group
  • Entry fees to parks and exhibits

Locations / Itinerary of our Sacred Celtic Journey:

Sunday, June 30

In Dublin, we visited St. Stephen’s Green and attended the opening ceremony “get-to-know-you” meeting with our group at a covered pavilion in this lovely city park. After hearing everyone’s intro stories and reasons for being on this trip, I resonated with unbounded JOY!

We stopped by this bench, the story of which I knew nothing about, held hands and said prayers for the historical women who had been so maligned and mistreated.

We walked through the city to an Irish pub for lunch–The Bankers Bar, where a sweetheart of a guy sang an Irish song to Susan when she ordered the Irish coffee, and Patricia (Patricia McGivern, certified hypnotist, author, and speaker and amazing leader of this tour) joined our table to hear Richard talk about UFOs.

Next, it was off to Trinity college to see the Book of Kells.

I was in awe of the whole place and had so been looking forward to this! However, the book was nice, but not as stupendous as I had expected. And similar to Disney, when you exit downstairs, you can’t leave without going through the gift shop. I made a mental note to look online later for souvenirs.

Don’t get me wrong, I was totally enthralled with the upstairs library and was told that students of Trinity college could check out books from it. Some of these books are worth a lot and are hidden!

After leaving the Book of Kells, our group walked through Dublin to dinner, seeing many sights such as the Ha’Penny bridge and taking photos along the way.

We dined with our group (well, part of our group) at another Bankers restaurant (not related to the lunch place), The Bank on College Green, which was fine dining and gorgeous. We sat in separate rooms (it’s not always easy to get 15 people seated together) and made the most of it by playing “table wars” with the other members of our group that weren’t seated near us.

It was a blast and our servers had a lot of fun taking part in that with us too! 😉

This light and fluffy strawberry cheesecake and sorbet dessert was like none I’d experienced before! Not too sugary. Yum!

This particular evening, we stayed at the lovely Trinity City Hotel. Note: Before our group had all arrived, my husband and I stayed at the modern Gibson hotel, which was a luxurious treat! (More about that on the next post.)

After dinner, a few of us met outside the hotel bar and heard lots of stories from an Irish tour guide, Amon (who was Scottish and not one of our guides), whom Pharon had met at the lobby elevator. He was lively and we all enjoyed his company. I kept looking up at the skylight because it was so light out at 10:30pm!

Monday, July 1

The next day we met Tony Corcoran, our tour bus guide and driver (of Wild Irish Tours), who took us to Westmead to meet a local named, Marty, who would give us all the ins and outs about Uisneach.

Uisneach, known to many as the spiritual center of ancient Ireland, was grand and magnificent. With soft grass, cows, and spectacular views of the countryside, it was even more spectacular to have it all to ourselves for a few hours.

At Usineach we walked many hilly acres, while Marty told us stories about the land and the annual Bealtaine Fire Celebration that occurs here.

I felt a heavy energy when I approached the circle where British soldiers had placed a stone marker. I acknowledged the powerful energy and when I walked away, it dissipated. On our way to the Catstone (a huge rock that not every visitor is allowed to see), my husband and I held back from the group a bit and spent some time with the trees, stones, and land. I loved the stones buried in the earth, the lush windswept grass, and the large clover.

At the Catstone, my first thought was, “I am watching you, rock. Don’t you move, rock.” from one of our favorite shorts, Dug’s Special Mission from the Pixar movie, Up. Mostly, I fondly admired the daisies growing up and out of the Catstone like hair. 😉

To help show the immensity of the Catstone, I’ll include a picture of our group:

While walking, Tony had told us a friend of his had died the night before and I expressed my sympathy and told him about my dad. As we walked together, I talked about the 200 acres my dad’s father had farmed in West Virginia and how this place reminded me of it. He patted me on my back and expressed his sympathy for me. Is that what Connection is all about?

Oh, and I had a “conversation” with the happy cows we saw. I felt connected with them too!

During the time I walked the lands of Uisneach, I thought of my family (my uncle Jim because he’s a woodworker, and my first cousin Greg because he’d love this place for the annual festival they hold and the cool vibe), and I took some pictures for them.

After leaving Uisneach, Tony knew of this aWEsOMe place for lunch called, Red Earth. It was a delicious food stop and store, where grabbed some snacks too! I loved it as much for their mouth-watering food, as I did for their butterfly logo! 🦋

I had the vegetarian green curry, which was the best I’d ever had!

And yes, I had to snap a quick selfie. LOL

And my husband really enjoyed his tantalizing burger too!

After an enjoyable lunch, it was on to Loughcrew. Since, for us, it was the second day (after our 7 mile GoT hike on Saturday, and our 10,000+ step day on Sunday) and the day our legs were the most sore, Richard and I stayed behind at the cafe while the group hiked to the stones. We shopped a bit, read about the place, and enjoyed carrot cake, coffee, and wine at the splendid Loughcrew cafe.

I was happy to have a break from the walking and realign my energy with a glass of delicious dry red wine. The name of it started with a U, something like “Undone” or “Unbroken” and it was from Chile.

I loved our group, especially Patricia, our fearless leader and organizer. She really had put together a most spectacular journey for us. And this was just the first of three countries! For me though, a spiritual journey means peace, quiet, slow, and time to “just BE.” And I was happy that Patricia encouraged us right from the get-go, to take care of our bodies. NOTE: From my NOW perspective, I understand why sometimes a spiritual journey must be a pilgrimage. Ahh, learning all the time!

Later on, Tony drove our group to the town of Kells, where we stayed one night. Kells is said to be the place (at the Kells monastery) that the monks kept the Book of Kells hidden and safe (during times of raids and wars). Tony told us a bit more about that and suggested we walk back up to the monastery (that we rode past) from our hotel, but hubby and I were too tired.

A nice thing about being in a group is that if you miss something, like the High Crosses, someone else will take a picture or video. I took tons of little videos on our trip because we really did see a lot!

In Kells, we stayed at the Headfort Arms hotel. It was a nice place, but the bathtubs have a very narrow bottom (they kind of slope inwards) under the showerhead. Perhaps they were made more for soaking than showering. And I don’t mean to complain, as overall, it was lovely. 

We ate dinner together as a group and talked a lot! Getting to know everyone in our group was one of the best parts of traveling this way! One of the coolest parts was learning of new shows and books to dig into. I was amazed how we all came together for this journey from so many different traditions (directions).

Tuesday, July 2

We visited Knowth and Newgrange, and both are noted to be older than Stonehenge & the Egyptian pyramids! Newgrange was the place of the blue light and spiral stone carvings that had magnetized me to take this tour!

Knowth was really amazing! The size of the mounds, as well as the number of them, really surprised me. The views from here were also grand. We could see Newgrange from Knowth.

We got to go inside and explore the megalithic tombs at Newgrange–they wouldn’t let people in the tomb at Knowth anymore. It’s sad and frustrating that some people carve or mark these ancient artifacts and ruin it for those who come later.

I FELT the Energy at Knowth. It was palpable! And I sensed a strong connection both for my mom and myself here when I saw the small white stones that looked so much like the Georgia white marble stones my mother just had to have in the home she and my dad built in West Virginia in the 1970s.

The construction of the mound at Newgrange was different than the mounds at Knowth. But many of the carvings were similar. Plus, we got to go inside the mound at Newgrange and experience a short light show (which simulated the sun coming through) and historical talk. Photos were not allowed inside though.

Later that day, we went to the Hill of Tara to visit its Stone of Destiny. Another bit of a hike, but we all wanted to see it.

Tony told us amazing Irish folk stories (that are passed down verbally within families) while we sat near a special healing tree at the Hill of Tara. I was moved to tears while he told a story about a midwife that had been told to children to scare them away from digging under the tree. It was so multifaceted and layered that it touched my heart deeply and I felt cleansed and wiped out afterwards.

Synchronistically, as Tony was telling the story a young girl walked behind him (like a scene out of a movie) and I thought of my granddaughter, Jennifer, and how intricately interwoven our lives are.

Before we left, Tony also told my husband, myself, and John, an amazing story about his Keyes/Keays lineage, and also about bog Myrtle (which calms nerves and can be put on skin to clear acne). We loved all the wisdom stories we heard and soaked it in. 

Afterwards, Tony (of Wild Irish Tours) drove us to Glendalough in the Wicklow mountains and told us about the trail across the street from the hotel. Our group said our thanks and goodbyes to Tony and he was on his way. We felt very privileged to have met him and hope to see him and meet his wife when they travel to Florida.

We experienced gentle healing, emotional support, and peace in Glendalough our entire stay. And we genuinely loved the Glendalough hotel–our room was lovely with a view of the beautiful grounds, the restaurant was fantastic, and the bar was comfortable and fun!

We spent two nights here, but felt we could have stayed 4 or 5 days, as it was that important and special.

From our hotel room window, I watched this hawk! And I fell in love with these trees.

I walked the labyrinth and spotted a family of deer. I experienced an emotional healing at St. Kevin’s well and was stung by stinging nettle. Synchronicities being as they are, stinging nettle tea is very good for the lungs and I had been drinking it for about a year, since visiting my girls in New Hampshire!

Wednesday, July 3

While in Glendalough we had our first of three past life group regressions with Patricia. Plus, Patricia had arranged for our group to meet and learn about the softness of Celtic Spirituality from Mary Meighan. And Mary was exceptional. We all wanted to bring her home with us!

Celtic Spirituality, as turns out, was an outgrowth of Paganism (though not the same, and not what we expected). We learned the history of Brigid, the softness and gentleness of Celtic Spirituality, and that it’s all about an invitation to walk the “tread easy upon the earth” path–giving more than taking, versus a hell and damnation fear-based faith.

Before Mary left, she gave us an Irish blessing and taught us an easy chant. And we all took turns holding and connecting with her ancient carving of Brigid, as shown next.

 

My past life regression–Glendalough

If you haven’t had a past life regression, the following may seem outlandish to you. But this was only one of a series I’ve experienced with Patricia, and she’s masterful. Even if you don’t believe in reincarnation, think of it as a creative writing exercise. You breathe and allow your mind to flow along with Patricia’s words and become deeply relaxed. I won’t explain it away though, as for me, it is a profoundly personal and metaphysical experience. And even if you’re “making it all up”, what’s the impetus for it?

I was already in a meditative state upon sitting to begin our group regression. My field of vision (with my eyes closed) had become filled with the indigo and cobalt blue color (which has been a thing for me since my first one-on-one regression). However, before we actually got started, one of our group, Dave, asked if we could go around the room and offer comments about our experiences thus far. I could have nudged him, as he was sitting beside me, but in the state I was in, I easily let that all go. And by the time three or four had spoken, someone (I later learned it was Trudy), shared something that sent gentle tears flowing freely down my cheeks. John shared, and then Carol. Carol’s father had passed and her emotions were raw. I don’t remember the exact words she said, but they resonated thoroughly within me. When it was my turn, still from a meditative state, I offered words that both Carol and Trudy told me later were healing for them. I don’t know what I said, but I remember the whole feeling of thanks that reverberated through me. I was in utter Gratitude for life, and for this TIME.

As Patricia started the regression, my conscious mind followed Patricia’s voice, and now in a deeply relaxed state, I looked for my feet. But, I didn’t have any! I was a sea creature with an eel-like tail (instead of feet), a long thin body and long angular face. But the best part? I had these brightly colored, cellular deep, spinning, “all-the-way-through my translucent body” chakras, (but I had just watched Aquaman on the flight over, so one might say my subconscious picked up cues from it). However, I watched Aquaman again, after we got home, and no, what I saw was much grander and more detailed than what the creatures looked like in that movie.

As this underwater creature, I wasn’t able to cry, and it was made known to me (in my regression) that is why I had came back as a human. You see, underwater you can’t feel tears against your skin. For work, I was sitting in a field of labradorite stones! And in my real current life, I love those stones! They had a kind of hieroglyphic type of carving on them. But, I’ll share more about why this is important in a later post. Stay tuned!

After our group experience inside the hotel conference room, we went outside to the well and healing tree. I tied a blade of greenery to the tree in memory of my dad (who passed away in March of this year). Mary told me to ask my grandmother (spiritually) to comfort me both for that and the nettles sting. And she did!

Thursday, July 4

I woke up at 5:30am and by 6:45am, I was hiking alone on Wicklow Way (across from the hotel). This is where I fortuitously saw a deer family. The baby even tried to nurse, but mama deer saw me and nudged her away–or she was weaning it. Nonetheless, I felt quite special witnessing this family of three, and before I left, another deer appeared also. Then in a flash, they ran off through the thicket. I thought of my mom, dad, and me. Because this was a family of three, just as we had been. And I remembered my dad telling me in recent years, how he couldn’t shoot deer anymore. He’d been a deer hunter most of his life (skilled with both bow and arrow and rifle). He told me that he could see the natural beauty in them. I knew he had a soft spot for them because as a teen he’d shared that he couldn’t eat the venison of deer he’d killed and cleaned.

I loved the purple flowers, which Beverly told me were foxglove (a type of digitalis). I also loved the ferns, thatched roofs, moss, and stone walls (some with little faerie holes in them).

I also meandered through the cemetery. I went back to the room to get hubby for breakfast and after that, we walked through the cemetery again and to the lake.

We departed at 11am for the Dublin airport to fly to Bristol, England. Stay tuned for my next two posts about that. I have so many pictures to share. And you will be stunned by our pictures and experiences of Stonehenge (inside the stones)!!!

“Whenever a knight of the Grail tried to follow a path made by someone else, he went altogether astray. Where there is a way or path, it is someone else’s footsteps. Each of us has to find his own way, and this is what gives our Occidental world its initiative and creative quality. Nobody can give you a mythology. The images that mean something to you, you’ll find in your dreams, in your visions, in your actions – and you’ll find out what they are after you’ve passed them.” — Joseph Campbell

How ONLY divides

How the use of the word “only” divides

Holy Bible

In many translations of the Holy Bible, you read in John 3:16 “For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life.”

When one quotes this verse, it can trigger emotions in some, because we presume that if we don’t believe Jesus is the only son of God, we will perish (die). Therefore, this verse is perhaps the most divisive and intriguing verse in the New Testament. And it has perplexed me for many years since the Bible also offers many verses that teach we are ALL sons and daughters of God.

There’s a couple things here though.

John 3:16 doesn’t say anyone who doesn’t believe that Jesus is the son of God will perish, but that those who DO believe, will live forever. Everyone dies eventually in this current life, so we really need to understand what the word “perish” means.

Also, John 3:16 points to Jesus as God’s only begotten (of Him), so it speaks of Jesus as God’s singular son. The verses that tell us we are ALL sons and daughters of God, use the plural form of the words “son/daughter.” I know that’s nit picky, but if we want to understand, then it’s important to dissect this carefully and understand definitions and that translations differ.

Spiritually Yours

A yellow butterfly (years ago), was the real beginning of my Connected spiritual and energetic “journey”…

About 1990 I had been visiting the grave of my second husband’s mom (she had passed a year before I’d met him; he had taken me there several times to visit her grave as that was his belief), when a yellow butterfly lit upon my shoulder and wouldn’t leave. Though I flicked at it to go away, it stuck around what seemed like 5 minutes or more, until new clarity entered my thoughts.

And years earlier (Christmas time 1980) I glimpsed the power of Omniscience after a guy backed into my mom’s car in a parking lot while my infant daughter and I were sitting in it waiting! He had driven away (yes, it was a hit and run) and I commanded him invoking Jesus’ name to return. When he turned around and returned, mom asked him why, and he didn’t know, but I knew. He felt compelled!

❤️🌀🙏

Differing Beliefs

Thus, we can choose to believe Jesus is the only son of God, the risen living Christ, or not. For those who believe, there is glorious love and hope.

However, for those who do not believe Jesus is the son of God, they can find love and hope also.

No one needs to argue or fight over who’s right or wrong. There’s no “one true church.” No one needs to prove their God is bigger than another. I don’t need to limit my beliefs to “people please” anyone.

This may come as a shock to you, but the Bible was not written for ALL people. In the first book of the Old Testament Genesis 4:16 we read that, “And Cain went out from the presence of the LORD, and dwelt in the land of Nod, on the east of Eden.” Obviously, there were other people with other beliefs before Adam and Eve were created! And the powerful good news is that our Creator God is Omnipotent, Omnipresent, and Omniscient Energy–which means God has already and is continuing to work everything out. Let go, and let God.

We only see through the glass darkly right now. And I think most of us are mature enough to realize that the “powers that be” love to keep the masses dumb, confused, arguing, and bickering in order to better control us. Remember a house divided cannot stand.

The earth is a garden with many different life forms. Can we pass the test to live harmoniously?

How can we consciously co-create and work to unify, when we are always arguing about our different core beliefs?

Knowing these things, I choose to thank Omniscience in and for ALL ways. This centers me and fills me with peace.

Love is ALL there is. #GRATITUDE

❤️🦋🌀☘️🙏😘

For Fun

Check out this original song, Dogma. It’s one of my favorites, written by my husband and performed and recorded in a Nashville, TN studio. You can download it (it’s Track 1) from this link: https://store.cdbaby.com/cd/chevyfordb26

A BIT ABOUT ME:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon.

Plus, the brand new book that’s been in the making for 13 years, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format).

Buy it here: https://beingwhollyvibrant.wordpress.com/2018/09/12/book-launch-take-it-upon-yourself-to-live-a-wholly-vibrant-life/

And now, I have a new STORE! It’s called the Take It Upon Yourself (or TIUY) store that you can access right here.

Be the best version of who you came here to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

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Living Wholly Vibrant and Cellular Rejuvenation

Living Wholly Vibrant and Cellular Rejuvenation: Soulful, Spiritual, Mental, Physical, Emotional

Often we carry around the weight of the world on our shoulders. We actually feel our thoughts have weight! Negative emotions seem to hinder us; anger, fear, grief, guilt, jealousy, resentment, shame, and more can distort the way we present ourselves to the world. Our real self, the glorious bright and shining version of our truest self, would never want to live in any of the various states of negative emotion for too long (that’s why BEing sick gives us a chance to rest and restore)!

The cellular communication of our cells equates to their quality. When we belittle, criticize, judge, or otherwise harm another, it distorts us. Oh, ye of little faith (and ignorance). Thoughts are things! What you do now, not only impacts your now, but your future (and perhaps on your past–another mystery of the interconnect life)! Let’s rejuvenate our mind-body so as to all our soul and spirit the opportunity to clear and balance our emotions, and ultimately train our minds (make our mind serviceable) so we can live our best lives, indeed to live a Wholly Vibrant Life!

Living Wholly Vibrant and Cellular Rejuvenation

Soulful:

When we are Connected fully, living our purpose and in soul-alignment, we feel it! We are as a drop of ocean water (self) is to the greater ocean (our unbounded soul). And in our drop of sea water, we contain all of the same stuff–we just don’t always know who we are or that one day we will make our way back into the surf of our soul, to bring back all of the experience and knowledge we’ve come here to embody. Be as water. Go with the F-L-O-W.

Spiritual:

We are spiritual BEings living an earthly experience. We live and breathe Spirit! When we stay Connected to Omniscience, to the ALL of who we are, we are grateful for each breath, thankful to our parents and ancestors who brought us into BEing. Thus, it is easy to live in and with an attitude of gratitude. Mindful practices keeps us ONE with the Omnipresence of Love and manifests as a beautiful life.

Mental:

Each of us have Energy (electrical fire) running through the neurons of our brains and cells. When the fire is not burning so bright, we diminish (depress). When the fire is burning brilliant, we are passion and “on fire” for our purpose, and what unites us with our soul! There are no obstacles. To forgive means to give in advance and give others a chance to catch up–we ALL learn at differing rates of speed! Connect with the greater consciousness. We learn through each experience and expand–not only our identifiable consciousness, but the Collective Consciousness as well. This explains how the “Take It Upon Yourself” individual matters to the “We Are All Connected” ONE. Grow. Understand that life is infinite–full of potential and unlimited possibility.

Physical:

Our bodies manifest from ALL we take in (ingest), surround ourselves with (environment), and experience (go through). On a cellular level (read Dr. Bruce Lipton’s ground-breaking book, The Biology of Belief to understand this), our bodies are created from and continue to recreate based on the genetic blueprint, but express (become / manifest) their particular aspects (to BE the way they are) per the environment they are in! This is cellular rejuvenation. This is the way to connect soul to body. Nurture yourself and others. Be energetic in your daily life, you came here to express ALL of who you are!

Emotional:

Coming round full circle here. Our emotions are as the surf is to the ocean. Our emotions are always moving (ALLways). When we allow ourselves the time and kindness, feel anger, feel love, feel joy, and all in between we learn to enjoy (IN Joy) life; allowing, nurturing, feeling free, and BEing ALL we came to be. We allow ourselves and others the freedom to create peace and harmony, and/or teach lessons. Daily integration of practices you’ve come to learn such as, open-attention, mindfulness, meditation, and prayer provides you with all you need to properly and compassionately communicate (full of grace and ease) with anyone.

Live and breathe Love & Gratitude 

Thank Omniscience ALLways. OM

For Fun

Check out this original song, The Connection. It’s one of my favorites (as I was the muse for it), written by my husband and performed and recorded in a Nashville, TN studio. You can download it (it’s Track 14) from this link: https://store.cdbaby.com/cd/chevyfordband2

A BIT ABOUT ME:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon.

Plus, the brand new book that’s been in the making for 13 years, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format).

Buy it here: https://beingwhollyvibrant.wordpress.com/2018/09/12/book-launch-take-it-upon-yourself-to-live-a-wholly-vibrant-life/

And now, I have a new STORE! It’s called the Take It Upon Yourself (or TIUY) store that you can access right here.

Be the best version of who you came here to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

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Working through A Course in Miracles

Reading and Working through A Course in Miracles are two completely different things.

Reading A Course in Miracles (ACIM) is quite different than working through the lessons in the course. And I believe the author’s intent was that we work through the course and apply it to our own unique life journey, i.e. the way (our perception) we each uniquely view life. Yes, the way we perceive life with all of its ups and downs.

Find a teacher

Thus, I’ve been following a teacher of A Course in Miracles (Chris Cade) for many years (via his emails and videos), but never really took the time to apply each teaching to my life as a daily practice, until now.

What I’ve come to notice

I won’t plagaerize Chris’ teaching, but I will share some of the lessons I’ve learned from it. Maybe reading this will encourage you to check it out. I’ve learned that each of the following thoughts, which I’ve had at different points of my life, disrupted my serenity and calm (and that they all kind of feel the same–each taking up about the same amount of space in my head:

I am not angry at my most loved family member for not agreeing with me about the pedophile priests for the reason I think. (Note the attachment involved here, “my” and “most loved” along with two “reasons” to be angry.)

I am not afraid of my ex for the reason I think.

I am not worried about any of my family members’ suffering or state of lack for the reason I think.

I am not worried about some creditor for the reason I think.

I am not depressed about some potential problem for the reason I think.

I am not agitated about some health issue for the reason I think.

I am not anxious during hurricane season because we live in Florida near the water or any other reason I think. (Note how the mind layers “reason” upon “reason” to convince itself of its’ rightness?)

These thoughts seem to take me off balance, thus, I really want the course to help me with that, and release the upset to return my most often state to calm and centered.

We have already discussed “upset” before and how to question our thoughts. Now, ACIM asks me to realize that Anything I am upset about—it happened in the past (even if it happened one second ago)!

  • All hurt (experience)
  • All education (training)
  • All learning (lessons)

ALL were in the PAST.

Why I continually seek

I am the person I am today because of Everything I have experienced up to this point in life. But, every moment I know I can make a different choice. I am open to that. I am open to unlimited and boundless potential! I am happy where I am NOW, and eager for more!

I know there was a reason for the puritanical ways (strict adherence to The Law to teach reverence and humility), but it makes me sad to think of those times. I much prefer Jesus’ words of Love. “And the greatest of these (commandments) is Love.” ❤️🦋🌀

Live and breathe Love & Gratitude

Thank Omniscience ALLways. OM

For Fun

Check out this original song, Dogma. It’s one of my favorites, written by my husband and performed and recorded in a Nashville, TN studio. You can download it (it’s Track 1) from this link: https://store.cdbaby.com/cd/chevyfordb26

A BIT ABOUT ME:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon.

Plus, the brand new book that’s been in the making for 13 years, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format).

Buy it here: https://beingwhollyvibrant.wordpress.com/2018/09/12/book-launch-take-it-upon-yourself-to-live-a-wholly-vibrant-life/

And now, I have a new STORE! It’s called the Take It Upon Yourself (or TIUY) store that you can access right here.

Be the best version of who you came here to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

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Expanding Consciousness

Expanding Consciousness

What kinds of things do you do to challenge or stretch your consciousness?

I guess Consciousness, as a topic, interests me because of my mother’s demise from Alzheimer’s dis-ease. Because I am forward thinking. And I am so into the whole mind-body-spirit thing–Holistic Health–as well as, coming to understand the “Interconnection of ALL.”

Expanding Consciousness
Expanding Consciousness

Intriguing ideas

Shirley MacLaine has said she believes the reason why we’re here (in this life) is curiosity. And I feel there are myriad topics we can be curious about, only one of which is Consciousness.

Science has yet to provide us much solid evidence on where our consciousness resides. Much research is ongoing about that. And it intrigues me.

Many fictional TV and film creations, such as Fringe the X-Men movies, brought noetic concepts into mainstream awareness.

Noetic Science

Since the 1970s, the term, “noetics” (“how beliefs, thoughts, and intentions affect the physical world”), has been used by several authors. The books Deep Spirit: Cracking the Noetic Code (2008) by Christian de Quincey and The Lost Symbol (2009) by Dan Brown, reveal a plethora of interesting information on the topics of consciousness and spirituality. Visit the Institute of Noetic Sciences, for more.

When I learned about the noetic sciences and began attending IONS group meetings, that led me to discover the Pachamama Alliance (to be discussed in another post).

Now, such terms as, conscious businesses and socially responsible corporations are becoming well known.

Seat of Consciousness

I’ve heard that Consciousness, more than simply being in our mind or brain, is actually a grand field of interconnected waves that we plug into, as we would turn on a TV to watch a transmitted program. Perhaps the great masters knew of this.

I’ve studied a series of books called, Life and teachings of the masters of the Far East by Baird T. Spalding, which expands upon the belief in the Christ Consciousness and the Buddha Consciousness. Yet, my favorite book that continues to expand my consciousness with every reading is Christ in You, by Anonymous.

About making changes

It has been said that nobody will change anything in their life until the perceived fear of the unknown is less than the pain of remaining the same.

Tony Robbins has talked about how people will violate their own values in order to meet one or more of their perceived needs.

I find moral ambiguities intriguing. I find the shadows we create (as we block the light), interesting.

Conscious change

I read a lot about how in order to actually make changes of habits that actually stick, one must make conscious changes in day-to-day routines.

This means one must consciously choose to drop one task / habit in exchange for another. Willingly. With focus. And we have to be operating in or near the vibration/frequency range (resonance) before we can begin to understand anything new too. 😉

Because I focus on incorporating new ideas, tactics, and tips into my life, I read (or listen to many of the following advanced teachers):

  • Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith
  • Gregg Braden
  • Chris Cade
  • Dr. Joe Dispenza
  • Tim Ferriss
  • MIT biochemist, Raymond Francis
  • Nassim Haramein
  • Dr. Bruce Lipton
  • Dan McDonald, “The Life Regenerator”
  • Lama Nicholas Packard
  • Dr. Linus Pauling – Nobel Prize Winner
  • Joseph Pilates
  • Sadhguru
  • Dr. Albert Schweitzer
  • Alania Starhawk
  • Eckhart Tolle
  • Neale Donald Walsch

Further reading

It never ends. And we never want it to end. The universe continues to expand.

Here are more books to check out on the subject of expanding consciousness:
Wayne Dyer recommended, Psych Cybernetics by Dr Maltz. (It is about belief too.)
Books by Bruce Moen:

https://www.amazon.com/s?k=books+bruce+moen&ref=is_s

Global Shift and Conscious Evolution
Global Shift and Conscious Evolution
Supernormal and The Way of the Explorer
Supernormal and The Way of the Explorer
Consciousness & Healing and The Conscious Activist
Consciousness & Healing and The Conscious Activist
Global Mind Change and Entangled Minds
Global Mind Change and Entangled Minds
The Living Universe and Living Deeply
The Living Universe and Living Deeply
The Global Brain Awakens and The Conscious Universe
The Global Brain Awakens and The Conscious Universe

Happy expanding!

Books on healing with Ayurveda

Thank Omniscience ALLways. OM

For Fun

Check out this original song, Invisible Gods. It’s one of my favorites, written by my husband and performed and recorded in a Nashville, TN studio. You can download it (it’s Track 5) from this link: https://store.cdbaby.com/cd/chevyfordb19

A BIT ABOUT ME:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon.

Plus, the brand new book that’s been in the making for 13 years, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format).

Buy it here: https://beingwhollyvibrant.wordpress.com/2018/09/12/book-launch-take-it-upon-yourself-to-live-a-wholly-vibrant-life/

And now, I have a new STORE! It’s called the Take It Upon Yourself (or TIUY) store that you can access right here.

Be the best version of who you came here to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

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Eulogy for my amazing father, Nelson Williams

Eulogy for my amazing dad

The following are my most profound thoughts, love, memories, and knowing of my papa, Nelson Williams, who passed away during the early morning hours of March 8th, 2019.

It’s been 29 blog posts and 21 months since I wrote my eulogy for my beloved mother. And this is my 100th post on Take It Upon Yourself. It feels fitting to me also, in the grand scheme of things, because my dad was the most independent person I have ever known.

My papa wasn’t ill, so when he went to sleep and didn’t wake up the next day, we were all stunned and bewildered. We are still in a state of unbelief of his passing. However, I know dad missed mama everyday since her passing, so to think of them together again, is comforting. Now, they are reunited on the magnificent and grand other side of the veil.

113-mom-and-dad-in-golf-cart-at-flywheel-festiver-2012-or-2013

The early years

When my dad, Nelson (nicknamed, Old Hickory) was growing up, times were tough. He grew up on a large farm, but it was depression days and money was tight. You can gain a bit of insight from seeing this picture of dad (middle, tallest) here in the one room schoolhouse, where he attended school.

Dad at school as a boy

Nelson was one of six children. There were three girls and three boys. Dad was the second eldest son. I can only imagine, from the years I visited the farmhouse where dad was born and raised, how they lived. But dad told many good stories from his childhood and what it was like to grow up on the farm. And he loved the farm, having kept an acre or so of land there, even after his parents passed away.

School years Nelson

One of those stories involved dad’s mom bathing the kids outside on the porch in a big metal wash tub. The same one his mom would use to wash their clothes in with the washboard. I knew he grew up without indoor plumbing because as a child I witnessed dad and uncle Jack building a bathroom for my grandparents in their farm house. I also remember having to use the outhouse.

I’ll come back to this later, but dad always enjoyed the water. Swimming, boating, and so on, as evidenced by this swim card I found!

4H Red Cross swimmers card - Nelson

I haven’t found many pictures from dad’s youth, I’m thinking folks just didn’t take many back then, but here are a couple that must have meant a lot to dad, since he kept them.

Dad and friends at school

Dad and friend

Perhaps some of my family can enlighten us (in the comments) or with a phone call, and let me know who was in these pictures with my dad.

Dad played football for a time during his high school years, but after a rumble on the field or a tear inside one knee (depending upon who’s relaying the story), he quit and never played again. We never even watched football on TV.

Dad was also a member of the Future Farmers of America (FFA) and used to tell me stories about raising animals.

FFA card 1955 - Nelson

By the time my dad met mom, he owned his first car. He was so proud of it! 

Dads 1956 Ford

Mom loved to take photographs, and took these photos of dad at her parent’s home.

Dad July 1960

Dad at moms parents July 1960

Marriage

Dad and mom met at a drive-in restaurant. One of those curb-side service kind. As the story goes, dad spotted mom in her car (she’d went with a girlfriend of hers), receiving food on the tray. He walked up and asked her for a bite of her sandwich! Stunned, she told him he could buy his own.  Read mom’s eulogy for more.

BettyAnn and Nelson Wedding Day 1960 in her parent

BettyAnn and Nelson Wedding Day 01061960

Even at age 20, when I look at dad and mom in these photos, they look so young! I can only imagine how it was for them then, how happy they were and full of dreams.

BettyAnn and Nelson Wedding Day (3) 1960

They were married at mom’s parent’s home. See them holding hands?

BettyAnn and Nelson Wedding Day (2) 1960

Incredible know-how

One of the best things dad did, was make me! Well, obviously with help from mom. 

Daddy and Sheila at age 3 months

When I was a baby, we lived in a mobile home on a hillside. And more cars were to come and go. Dad had this white convertible top car for awhile (pictured first, at the farm where he’d grown up, and next, where we first lived). I actually found a vehicle registration card from 1957 for a ’49 Chevy.

Dads first car

First cars 1964

By the time I was 3, dad and mom had bought a house. I was sure “daddy’s girl.” Cars were such a big deal for us all. Dad would own several in his life, more than I can recall or count. Mom used to say that by the time I was 4 I could tell her the make and model of any driving by. That had to be something dad was teaching me. Papa loved to drive!

Dad also made me curious about electronics, which has served me well (since I’ve had a 30 year career in digital electronics and computer software). I think of dad often while problem solving (tear!).

When I find a picture of the Browning Golden Eagle and linear he used to have (or one like it), I’ll come back and post it. It was meaningful because as I would fall asleep at night, I’d hear the ping of dad’s mic as he communicated with the world via that CB radio. Mom would fuss at dad about that, but as the kid and always wanting to make peace, I somehow learned to “tune it out.” The linear would boost dad’s radio reception and he would often tell me the next day of how he had “talked skip” with people as far away as Japan! Plus, all that stuff about talking skip totally fascinated me!

Dad and Sheila at Alberdias 1966

And speaking of radio, dad also loved listening to music. In the 1960s, dad especially loved Kenny Rogers and the First Edition. Just Dropped In (To See What Condition My Condition Was In), was one of his favorite songs. Dad usually always had a little AM radio on, and gave me several when I was little. I remember waking up in the mornings to songs of the 60s. Papa was first to give me a radio. He even gave me a couple stuffed animal ones with the radio inside.

Being a Pappaw (and later, a great Grandpa)

Daddy was thrilled when my kiddos came long. First, my daughter, then my son. He loved them as his own. 

Dad feeding Marie with mom 1980

Dad mom and marie 1981

dad holding Matt with Marie playing Boaz Feb 83

Right from the start, my children called my dad, “Pappaw.”

Dad with Marie and Matt at Boaz house Jun 1983

Best pic of Dad with Marie and Matt in Boaz 1983

Dad with the kids out back in Boaz 1983

Dad even got to meet his first great granddaughter (when they came to visit us in Florida). Unfortunately, though I prodded him to do so, he never made it to New Hampshire to meet his twin granddaughters who were born 5 years after the first.

Visit dad first met his great granddaughter

Here are a couple of pictures of papa holding his great granddaughter.

Papa and Jennifer

Papa looking at his great granddaughter

Learning all the time

Dad knew a lot about many subjects. He was always learning. And always talking with people. Yes, a real social butterfly!

One subject I didn’t realize dad was so well-versed in was plants and trees. After mom passed away, my husband and I drove to WV to be with dad (my son also drove up the next day). Dad and I took a walk through the grounds of a KOA campground (behind the hotel where we all stayed) and he could point to any tree or such and tell me what it was. I was amazed and thrilled to hear such things!

It was no wonder that I called daddy, “Mountain Man” because he really knew a lot and could figure anything out. He was a tinkerer. A hands on and practical DIY kinda guy for sure. One could even call him a modern day survivalist or “prepper”, as he knew how to survive on next to nothing and through thick and thin.

Varied accomplishments

Here are some of my dad’s amazing accomplishments (without ever graduating from high school – and having a learning disability that caused him difficulty all through life with reading and spelling):

Dad went to Hollywood for a short time (at age 18) to pursue acting. He said one of his high school teachers had encouraged him to do so, after seeing his acting performance in a school play. But, dad didn’t like Hollywood. He would only give me the reason of, “They teach you how to lie.”

Papa moved 100 miles from his home to work at a bread factory. For years dad would go out of his way not to have to drive down 19th street where the Storck baking company factory was though, because he had grown such a dislike of the smell of bread baking.

At some point, and I didn’t know this until I found this card, dad was even on the radio as a new reporter!

dad radio reporter card

Dad sold electrolux vacuum cleaners door to door for a few years and seemed to enjoy it. We always had the best vacuum one could buy, though I thought that was because of my asthma and allergies. Years later, I realized it was because of what dad had learned about vacuuming. Also on that note, when I was a kid, papa kept all of our cars, boats, campers, and such meticulously clean.

On the advice of my uncle Bob and my grandfather (mom’s dad), dad got a job driving semi truck and became a member of the Teamsters union. Dad also learned how to repair the big truck engines as well. And papa was so proud of driving truck. Papa took me out in the truck a few times. I remember going into the Helms trucking terminal in Parkersburg to this day, the way the guys had to load the trucks and the paper logs they had to fill out.

People talk about having home-based businesses or side gigs nowadays, but my dad was the first I knew to run a side hustle from home when I was a kid. He ran a CB business – we used to go to “roundups” on Sundays (which is why I love the flea market type of environment)! I grew up hearing the ping of his Browning Golden Eagle running a linear too, which caused me to have to learn to “tune out” the noise in order to fall asleep at night.

After we moved from the mobile home, dad and mom bought a small buff brick house about 17 miles from mom’s parents. We lived in that house from the time I was 3 til I was 11 or so. A keen eye will observe the sign above the garage door about the 2-way radios. And you can see how tall our CB radio and TV antenna was in the back of the house. Yes, others had TV antenna’s, but you can see the difference between those and the CB radio antenna.

Dads VW Beetle

cars in the driveway 1972

Buff brick house July 1965

Here’s one of dad working on a motorcycle, with mom and I watching, along with our neighbor and friend, Greg Bruce (on his little Hot Wheels trike). 

Dad working on a trike mom and Sheila watching with Greg on hot wheels

Before we moved, I remember mom saying we should take a couple of pictures to remember our little house. Dad took one with mom and I in front of her white Thunderbird she loved, and then mom took one of dad and I.

Dad and I in front of moms white thunderbird about 1973 

Homebuilding

Dad and mom bought 6 and a half acres not far from that house. They’d only bought land though, and had to improve it before we could even put a temporary mobile home on it to live in. Because the land was highway frontage and unimproved, dad traded for a dozer and other heavy equipment to fill the low land part of it. He also had to put in a road, before he could even think about digging the hole for a basement. Dad’s repair know-how served him so well over the years, that it led to his interest in owning, repairing, and using heavy equipment. The following are a few examples:

drilled well on Boaz property 1973

Dads backhoe

Improving the Boaz property

Dad and Sheila working on old boat 1976

That land was where we all worked together to materialize my parents’ dream home–a huge multi-brown color brick & white Georgia marble stone home. (I was a teenager and could only do so much, but do remember helping to build the rafters for the roof, and carry lumber and supplies around.) It took my folks five years to complete the house, during which time we lived in a couple of different mobile homes on the front of the property.

Another construction pic of the house

Our house under construction

More of the house under construction

Dad in Boaz house Sept 1983

Dad laying stone on house

Dad laying the white Georgia marble stone on back of the house

Boaz house dad built 1983

Dad and mom both literally put their skin into building this house, which still stands today, though it looks a lot different since later owners covered the beautiful brick with siding. (Gasp!)

Dad on phone in Boaz house - Apr 1983

Dad had also acquired a 17 acre farm and horses, I know we had a pony while we lived in the first house, so I’m not exactly sure when the farm came into our possession, but they must not have thought it would be a good place to build their big home (in retrospect, it might have been the better move).

I recall cleaning out the barn, bailing hay, and riding with my dad. Those were truly father-daughter bonding times. One of my favorite memories was riding my Shetland pony named Betsy alongside my dad (he was riding our American Quarter horse mare named Sue), along the top of the ridge of our farm.

Factoid: Mom used to tell a story about the time country singer and legend, Mel Tillis was interested in buying that farm. Seems it was the highest elevation in our county!

Once the house was done, dad sold used cars on the side. For a few years, we always had different cars around.

Dad in his Triumph mid 1970s

Dad built an apartment building in Marietta and a house in Vienna in the Hickory Hills subdivision. The house dad built a few miles away from where we lived was what some people would call a spec house, and at one point, he wanted us all to move into it. Ugh, but I didn’t want to change schools. Another regret. 

Dad became a licensed single engine VFR aircraft pilot when I was in my teens. He loved to fly! When I had my daughter, he took her flying! I never had much interest in the Cessna.

Dads plane WV

Dad also bought and used a sawmill to build a log home on the 6 acre property. However, the economy took a tumble and people weren’t buying log homes and dad’s home building business failed. The business failure was devastating for my parents, but dad wouldn’t go down without a fight.

Dad took a couple of dump trucks to Florida, traded for some property (on which we would place a double-wide mobile home) and worked these dump trucks daily to scratch out a living. That move also enabled dad to make my dream of moving to Florida come true. The best example of “turning lemons into lemonade” I have ever seen!

When dad traded for the Florida property, which would become their home for nearly 40 years, I had came to Florida with him. Dad sat me down with a newspaper and asked me to look for a nice double-wide mobile home. I found one. It was cheap, but had to be moved. Dad did it all himself! I had thought he might kill himself trying to wench each of the two halves of the home together!

FL Double-wide moving it in 1984

FL Double-wide 1984

The Wheeler Dealer

Always the practical, mr. fix-it one, dad traded for many items, found discarded items, repaired and sold them for a profit. Dad retired from full-time, punch a time-clock work at age 40, which is nearly an unheard of thing for most.

After moving to Florida, dad was always finding items at the dump or at yard sales, fixing and reselling them. He loved to tinker! And then the stuff just kept piling up. 

Dad worked at McDonalds for a few months, maintainence and trash. I think he just wanted to get out of the house. He also worked for a concrete company driving truck for a year or so. He only quit due to the seat in the truck having broke and he received a neck injury from which, I do not believe he ever fully recovered.

Speaking of injuries received from accidents, dad was also once hit by a drunk driver in a corvette (dad was driving a Metro and his seat broke backwards upon impact). Mom and I both thought that accident could have killed him. And dad never swallowed right after that. The hit and run driver, (whom we later learned was an attorney) wrote dad an a sob story apology letter. Though I called several attorney’s and strongly suggested dad sue the guy (who had left the scene and the police had to catch him and bring him back), but no, dad wouldn’t go to court. The law still made the guy pay restitution, but it was small pittance to the open and shut million dollar lawsuit dad could have won had he only gone to court. 

Few vacations

Because dad and mom were both such hard workers, we hardly ever took a vacation. Most people wondered how mom and dad acquired so much in their lives, believe me, it was due to bone-grinding WORK. A solid work ethic like few I’ve seen in my life, I tell you.

Freda Dad Mom me and my cousins 1967

And a few trips to the beach, either Virginia Beach or Ocean City, Maryland. This was on the way to Virginia Beach, VA.

Dad and I on way to Virgina Beach first vacation 1968

Most of the times we took a vacation were when we drove to a family reunion, wedding, or somebody died.

Williams family when grandmother died 1976

Williams family 1979

Reunion Williams family 1995 or 1996

Only once did my folks fly a commercial jet to go to Washington state and Nevada to visit relatives. And I didn’t go. 

Mom and Dad in Las Vegas with April 1979

Loved the water

One of my favorite pictures of mom and dad had been taken of them while swimming in Veto lake. I asked dad not long ago, who took that picture? He replied, “Oh, there was always someone around willing to take a picture.” 

Mom and Dad at Veto Lake 1960

During one of our few beach vacations, I snapped this one of mom and dad, and it’s still one of my most favorite pictures.

Mom and dad at the beach about 1970

Though we didn’t take many vacations, but we did hang out at the river a lot while I was growing up, and a the lake near where dad grew up. As well, when mom and dad would watch my kids, they would take them boating. 

Dad in our Glastron boat at Sutton Lake with family

Dad mom and Marie and the Williamstown bridge 1984

Dad at the river Sept 82

Dad Marie and Matt boating in the pool

Dad in boat in the pool with Marie and Matt 1983

Holidays and more

One year (when I was a kid) mom was into wigs, and in this picture, she was wearing a blonde one. This was a memorable Christmas. I decided to add this happy moment when dad surprised mom with what I think was a $50 bill.

One of the interesting points for me while looking at this, is that I actually found the rock ashtray (while going through mom’s things after her passing) that’s on the table behind them. Another is that my husband and I bought the same La-Z-boy recliner chairs this last year for our RV (though we got the cloth versions). The more things change, the more they stay the same. 

Dad and mom Christmas maybe 1970

Later on, we tried to spend every Christmas together in Florida.

Dads great smile at Christmas 1988

Dad great smile at Christmas maybe 1992

I recall dad being surprised with any gifts that were bigger than a bread box, because he and mom often shopped at flea markets. 

Dad at Christmas Daytona Beach 1992

Dad opening VCR at Christmas 1992

Here’s dad and I with my daughter.

Marie Sheila and dad Christmas Daytona Beach 1992

And this is dad and mom with my daughter. We were always close.

Marie mom and dad Christmas Daytona Beach 1992

Matt Mom and Dad Christmas 2000

And then there was that time papa walked me down the aisle for the second time.

Dad walking me down the aisle at my second wedding 1991

Dad mom and me at my second wedding maybe 1991

Perhaps one of the best takeaways I have from my second marriage will forever be this grand picture I have of my parents. I know there is value in Everything.

Mom and dad at my second wedding in FL June 1991

Enjoying our visits

Here’s a couple pictures from one of the times my son and I met them at the Daytona Beach flea market.

Dad mom and Sheila Daytona Beach flea market 2000

Dad mom and Matt at Daytona flea market 2000

I think it was when my son and I had returned from Texas and they drove an hour to meet us. We would always do our best to meet somewhere for a visit, no matter how brief. It was always important for us to stay Connected.

Factoid: My folks always seemed to live a couple hours from wherever we were living in Florida, so a favorite meeting place for years (that was half way) was Titusville.

The following is a sampling of pictures we took during some of our visits:

Marie Mom Dad and Sheila April 2010

Dad and us one Thanksgiving

Matt Richard Sheila Mom and dad at Matts Oct 2012

mom and dad sheila richard and matt Oct 2012

Mom Sheila dad Richard and Matt Oct 2012

dad and sheila dec 2008

dad and marie dec 2008

As things go, many years later, we meet at the Daytona Beach flea market again, but this time, for mom and dad to get a quick visit with their granddaughter and great granddaughter.

Marie Jennifer Mom and Dad at Daytona Beach flea market 2012

Dad and mama got to spend a lot of quality time with my son in the last 10 years or so. More reasons to be thankful.

Dad and Matt maybe three years ago

Mom smiling at Matts Christmas Dec 2013

And I would visit when I could.

Dad Mom and Sheila

Nelson Sheila BettyAnn and Matt

The Caregiver

Dad eventually became a full-time caregiver for my mom, as she was memory impaired and what medical professionals call “a wanderer” for about the last 4 or 5 years of her life. Sadly, last 2 years of mom’s life, dad had to put her in adult diapers. He fed and  clothed her. In short, he did everything for her. She never wanted to go to a nursing home, and she never did.

Mom and Dad Christmas at Matts Dec 2013

Dad and I had our differences over the years, perhaps, most likely even, because I am stubborn and fiercely independent like him. Or for other reasons, yet still undiscovered. However, over the last ten years or so, I grew to hold immense respect for my papa. I watched him do the best he could as mom’s sole caregiver. And I witnessed his enduring love for mama. It really was profound. I will never really know how dad took care of mom. I always encouraged him to put her in a dementia day care center (at least during the half of the year they were in Florida), but he would ask me, “Will they give her back”? And honestly, though I told him they would, I didn’t know.

Because mom and dad were inseparable the last ten years or so, after mom passed, dad would tell me every time we talked, “I just miss her so much.” And I knew he did. When I would see dad, his eyes were bleary at the mention of mom’s name.

Unless you’ve lived it, there’s really no way to explain the futility of Alzheimer’s disease on a person, or on their caregiver. Bless my mother’s heart! And bless my dad’s heart! Dad always told me, and my kids, “Just do the best you can.” I believe he did his best for mama too. 

Mom and dad at Matts in Melbourne 2015

Actually, dad did have some experience with caregiving, as the reason he and my uncle Jack built an indoor bathroom for his mom was because she’d suffered a stroke. This was one of the times dad had mom bleach his hair blonde before a get-together with his mom, sister, and more.

Dad with his mother Gela and girls

60 years together

Mom and dad met in 1959. And as the story of their meeting goes, mom was with a girlfriend and dad was with his buddy, Dick Kight. Dad saw mom at a drive-in burger place. When the girls’ food arrived, dad asked mom for a bite of her sandwich. She told him he should buy his own, but being the kind soul, also gave him a bite. Dad retold this story many times as well, especially reminding me that he’d been with his best friend (synchronistically, Dick later moved to St. Petersburg, Florida and was killed while installing a CB radio antenna.)  In order to find out mom’s name, he had to meet her at church on Sunday.

Dad and mom 2001

mom dad and beau dec 2008

After mom passed away, June 8, 2017, dad told me he wanted to be with mom forever. He also asked my thoughts on our family church and baptism. And he surprised me the morning after mom’s memorial service, stating that he wanted mom’s brother to baptize him.

Obviously, though dad hardly ever attended church with mom and I over the years, her influence from their first meeting at church, until her death, made quite the impression on him. After mom passed, dad asked my uncle (her brother) to baptize him. And so the circle is complete.

 

Dad’s unexpected passing

I know what people say. When a couple’s been together many years and one goes, the other will often follow within a year. But, dad had been doing good! Yes, I realize that he was depressed. Yet, I thought that was the grief process. I know every time he spoke to me about mom, he’d tell me, “I miss her so much.” And that was hard to hear, because I knew he was sincere.

We took the following pictures in West Virginia (after mom passed). Mostly I wanted to get the bear in the photos because dad’s father used to do taxidermy. Plus, the Black bear is a symbol for the state of West Virginia. Even a day after mom passed, I was trying to cheer dad, albeit in whatever small way I could. Dad really didn’t want me to take pictures, but he’d just gotten some new teeth and wanted to see what they’d look like. You can see however, he wasn’t smiling. But I wanted some pictures of dad and my son, and dad and I with the bear too because I didn’t think I’d be back that way for many years.

Note about dad’s beard: Dad was always reinventing his look, dark hair, blonde hair, silver or white hair, long hair, short hair, or he’d shave his head. And he’d gone for years without a beard (as mom never liked it), but as her memory started to go, he’d began wearing a beard.

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Dad and Matt with the bear at Days Inn June 2017

Dad and Sheila with the bear June 2017

The next photos are of dad in Florida.

Dad and Matt Fellsmere 2012

My son had quit his job and moved to the same property with dad in south Florida, to help dad organize and sell some things. And while it came as a bit of a surprise, they got an offer on the property (where mom and dad had lived for nearly 40 years), on dad’s birthday in 2018. Dad called me and asked me, “What do you think”? And I said, “I think it’s a sign from mama that the offer has come in on your birthday.” Maybe that was all he needed to hear, but he agreed to the sale. Of course, he had second thoughts later, especially when it actually came time to move. He looked back on a lot of things about that time though, and wondered if it wasn’t too late to sue some people. (And my parents never sued anyone in their life, so I knew dad was doing a lot of thinking.)

Dad sitting Fellsmere 2012

The move (from south to north Florida) went pretty good, I think. And thankfully, my son was able to help dad through it all. 

Dad and Matt in Fellsmere

I’d just visited dad and my son in January at the new property to celebrate what would have been mom and dad’s 59th wedding anniversary, and pre-celebrate my birthday. Dad gave me a 4-way lug wrench. Mostly because he wanted me to put it under the front seat of our car as a weapon in case anyone attacked me. That’s how dad’s think I guess, no matter their age.

My son and his girlfriend spent the last day with dad. Matt and dad had gone to bring back a boat from south to north Florida. The picture of dad and Matt was taken a few years ago.

Dad and Matt in the boat dad moved the day he passed

These are the last pictures of dad with my son, and also of dad with his beloved dog, Annie.

dad and matt last pic together

Dad and Annie

Back to the bear

When my son and I went back to WV a day after dad passed (to tie up loose ends), and I walked back into the same hotel where we’d stayed 21 months prior, I lost it when I saw the bear. 

As I grieve the loss of my dad (in the physical), I find that I could never really know him. And this knowing takes me back to two of my favorite series, Six Feet Under and Dexter. As Scott Buck, a writer on both series often made a foundational point of saying, “We never really know a person.”
I like to compare our personalities to facets inside a kaleidoscope or disco ball. We reflect what we see or imagine others to be.

Dads haircut 2009

During the last 21 months dad would make comments to me about how people in the far past had told untrue stories about him. I suppose that could be true. Even the unpleasant things I remember from my youth, I acknowledge now, were all filtered through the pain of my mother, and my child-eyes. It would take me most of my adult life to understand even a fraction of what they lived through. How could I really? I wasn’t born and raised in their era, with next to nothing. I struggled in my 20s and 30s, yes. But they struggled even more, literally working their fingers to the bone to achieve their American Dream.

Mom Dad Sheila at Canaan Family Reunion 2001

I feel guilty about what I’m about to say now, but as it became ever more clear that mom was suffering from Alzheimer’s disease, I once looked at dad and said, “You are paying for the sins of your past.” And he looked shocked and sad. In that deeply connected moment, I felt his pain and disbelief. And in the next moment, I vowed to myself never to utter anything like that to him again.

Dad and mom portrait at age 30

While I don’t discount my memories of past hurts, I realized it was not my place to judge my dad (or really, anyone). And it certainly doesn’t matter now, as all that remains in my heart and mind for my dad is LOVE.
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Turn to the Heart

Turn to the Heart

Turn to the Heart and dive deep into its sweet waters.
Become drunk with the sweetness you find there and nowhere else.

Turn to the HeartTurn to the Heart


Why crave about a million thoughts that won’t enrich you,
when the treasure of all treasures is right inside you?
Why run after knowledge, when the fruit of all knowledge is ripe and ready to pick in your Heart?

You have searched, since the beginning of time, for the reason of your existence.
By endlessly seeking you have forgotten how to find.
Now let go of the childish games of the mind and open to the source that is calling to you from before time!    

Why travel a thorny path when a soft road lies at your feet?
That road leads to the source of love in your Heart.
Here God awaits you with the food you have longed for;
here the bliss of your existence flows like a never-ending stream of delight.

Why are you still thirsty? Bow down to love.
Empty your pockets of rods and fill them with the emeralds from the riverbed.
See the light pours into you from the Heart and from you into the world.

You are rich beyond understanding.
Why do you still behave like a beggar?
Fill yourself from the source and empty yourself into the world.
You will find that your fullness will never end.

~ Ramgiri

© HeartSourcing, Ramgiri Braun, Ph.D. | June, 2018
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Love,
Ramgiri & the HeartSourcing® Team

The above is republished with permission.

Much love to you in ALL ways.

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