Whenever you are ready to blame someone for hurting you, take a breath, take a walk, or sit with the situation for awhile before reacting.
Reframe the event several times to see if you can find where you played a role.
When I have allowed myself to get upset over something, I have found that if I can have a few minutes to an hour alone, without someone taking my side right away, I can usually turn things around in my head and get out of blame. And it feels better to me when I can manage to stop blaming another—and not see myself as the victim.
How to step out of blame
Breathe
Take a few moments to change your state
Take a walk or change your environment
Consider the situation from another’s viewpoint
Do something else for a bit
If possible, message or call the person who caused your upset
Take a shower
Meditate or say a prayer (not just about the situation, but for all involved—including you
Sleep on it
Blue light butterfly 🦋
What can you learn from this?
Butterflies signify transformation because of the way they change during their metamorphosis. Try to see if you can find the lesson you can learn from the event you just experienced.
The person that caused your upset may have no idea they upset you. You may merely need a change of perspective. In nearly every case of upset I have experienced, I was too much in my own head about the situation and when I changed my environment (as in walking outside, watching a movie, jumping on a business call, or sleeping on it), I was able to thoroughly change my view of the event and release my hurt feelings.
Ego
Yes, usually our hurt feelings have something to do with our ego. When I’m upset, it’s usually because my ego was bruised in one way or another—even if only a tiny bit.
And I don’t even consider myself to have much of an ego, but apparently I do.
It won’t hurt me to let go of more ego either. When we can embrace humility, it can help us stand more confidently. We can accept that we have a lot to offer others, in service—whether we are praised or not.
When people talk bad about you
I know it feels painful when someone talks bad about you. But would you rather be right, or feel good? If we want to feel better, reframing the situation can help.
I have had these situations occur in my life. I don’t blame the people (because to do so would put me in victim mode), but I have used those episodes to help me make better choices.
I used to shake my head before walking away, but I don’t do that anymore—because even that is a waste of my energy. I say to myself, they just aren’t on the same wavelength as me. Sometimes I teach by sharing, but mostly I just let it go. ❤️🦋🌀😉
A bit about us:
My husband is an award-winning illustrator, plus he is a seasoned guitarist, bass player, and songwriter (of over 400 original songs). You can view some of his artwork and listen to all of his songs on http://RichardMurrey.com or check out his latest 24 songs here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC53E21F-JlTW2iQmPcEIWkQ
I’m an Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon. Plus, I’ve written a new book (in the making for 13 years), Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, that’s now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format). Buy it here.
Conversations surrounding emotional balance, moral ambiguities, and deep spiritual truths (such as We Are All Connected, and Put Your Hands Together When You Pray), are what Sheila is most passionate about. She feels a profound empathic Connection with people and what they’re going through by merely sharing her own truth, by speaking freely about her personal struggles and the challenges she continues to overcome. Sheila strives to ease lonelines, help those exiting toxic relationships, and to remind us all that we are stronger than we think we are, and that Everything Resolves to Gratitude in the end.
Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.
Your chattering mind may be telling you that negative, wrong, or hurtful things seem to happen to innocent people (and children). But dear heart, we don’t know why they came to live at this time in history, or the lessons they are here to learn. As well, other people’s problems aren’t really our business—unless of course, they ask for your help.
As well, when you get pulled DOWN by such thinking (about others), that is the law at work. Balancing ALL. ❤️🦋🌀
Now is the time
We are living in such awakened and conscious times! Yes! And we can look back and see the historical suffering that has occurred and learn from it. We are the ones we have been waiting for! We are the healers and light bringers. We can raise the vibration of the ALL!
True help
When you look at others who are confused or hurting, you desire to help. But true help, their growth—is an inside job (for them). You can be kind to them and offer them compassion, and comfort, but often growing can be painful.
Racists can be kind.
Meditate. Go within yourself to ease and clear your old patterns. This will expand the consciousness of those around you, as a ripple emanating in the water as a stone is dropped in. Those with lower vibratory tendencies will shape up, or ship out (and away from you)! You’ll know this is true as you begin to lighten up, and notice many around you, in your sphere of influence, living a lighter life.
Reach out
Reach out to me if what I have said resonates with you. I am in your circle ready to share tips and practices with you as you step up your inner game.
I’ve been where you are, doubting the law of attraction and that the path of least resistance is real. I’ve valued my intellect over my intuition too. But no more. Now, I observe detached from problems and focus on self compassion, play breaks, and time basking in meditation. I was one they said was “so serious.” I’ve lightened up and know you can too.
Light workers don’t hate
Lastly, you may consider yourself a light worker. But here is a big truth. Light workers don’t hate.
So, if you are struggling with that or find yourself questioning this truth, please reach out. I would love to offer some wisdom (and a whole lot of unconditional love), I feel will offer you freedom from some of the heavier thoughts you may be thinking.
❤️🦋🌀🙏☀️💦🌱
A bit about us:
My husband is an award-winning illustrator, plus he is a seasoned guitarist, bass player, and songwriter (of over 400 original songs). You can view some of his artwork and listen to all of his songs on http://RichardMurrey.com or check out his latest 24 songs here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC53E21F-JlTW2iQmPcEIWkQ
I’m an Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon. Plus, I’ve written a new book (in the making for 13 years), Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, that’s now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format). Buy it here.
Thank you for helping me choose a better feeling thought!
I don’t know if I’ve ever (publicly) explained this before, but I absorb, and tolerate, even accept ”upset“ to a point, but after kindly expressing my concerns or frustrations (to one or more people), and not being heard, I then speak in a firm, perhaps demanding ”tone” or get loud.
At some point, my emotions boil over. And it only seems people hear me then. Ugh!
Either you want people to share, or you don’t. I am not shy, nor boastful. I am nice. I am kind.
The stream of consciousness, when cut, will come out in another way. Because Life ALLways finds a way.
Have you been belittled, or picked last?
In my 58 years on this planet, I’ve learned that I’m typically too nice, overly sensitive, and emotional. But, I am not a victim, and certainly do not wallow in victimhood.
I’m a deep and careful listener, loyal friend, and strong advocate (especially for the underdogs, misunderstood, misfits, and those who create a healthier world for us all—beyond the next 7 generations). I am a critical thinker. And embrace individuality. I love the freedom I find in BEing independent.
I have a profound knowing that We Are All Connected. And that we’re only as strong as our weakest link.
We can pull together, or we can pull apart.
Notice the separation of the colors of the rainbow 🌈? What does it make you appreciate?
Even the rainbow’s colors are separated. But, by what? Though the colors are separate, we love the rainbow.
I listen first
I sit and I listen, gratefully with as much compassion as I have access to with mySelf, as others talk, often sharing too much of the current discord.
Then I speak.
But, it doesn’t feel good to me, when my voice gets “put in the back of the bus” by someone.
I only speak when I feel a strong urge. When I am compelled to share. I am propelled by Omniscience. And when my voice is cut off while I am sending love, what shall I do? This physically hurts me. I care deeply. But because of my complexion, my pain doesn’t matter? We ALL have a message, but here I go again, having to write it through my tears because SOMEONE felt they needed to hear from their more important “in that moment” others.
Imperfect action
In my humble opinion, promoting or monetizing poor behavior—is of a low vibration. And it serves to perpetuate one-sided, dense thinking. And yes, I know how that sounds. I am well aware that is a judgment, and obviously, others see nothing wrong with it to further their “cause.” We never really know who (or how) others, no matter their complexion or ethnicity, have been persecuted.
Learning all the time
Do you believe as I, that life is a school? And that Everything, in particular, every experience we have is presented to us for learning?
Do you often wish you would respond to each challenge with your best response? Perhaps people use bullying tactics to feel empowered. Perhaps bullying is their way of standing in their power. But, to the one in their way, it feels as though they are preying on the vulnerable or weak person.
I write a lot about the power of words, and tone. And tone can be expressed in writing, as well as when spoken. Thus, I thought I had grown to a place where words couldn’t hurt me. But, I believe that we all mirror each other to some degree.
Mirror work
I don’t want to mirror someone’s dark side, so I often walk away, and simply stop arguing or fighting. I realize that “sending them love” would be my highest vibrational response, yet I am not always emotionally strong enough. At times, I have pushed back and been direct, only for the situation to escalate—even to the point of physical abuse.
An example:
This brings me to relate a recent situation: I was emotionally triggered by a response (that looked and felt quite rude), to a comment made by one of my longest and dearest friends on my group, We Are All Connected. My dear friend had expressed her deeply religious comment (based on her belief) to a beautiful photo I had shared. The problem was that an acquaintance didn’t like my friends’ comment and felt offended by it because he is an atheist.
Initially, when I read his comment I felt it in my body. And the feeling wasn’t good. My gut wrenched because I felt like I had been punched! I wanted to spare my friends feelings, and as the admin, I removed HIS comment. That set off more back and forth from him because he felt I was choosing sides. And I was. Not because I don’t like him, or dislike atheists, or because I like her more, and approve of her religious beliefs, but simply to FEEL BETTER. (And he clearly broke the group rules anyway—he was not kind.)
Second example:
I have taken a lot of being talked down to, even in the business coaching program I am currently in. I often receive criticism, push back, month after month. Though we are encouraged to think big, and come up with a program worthy of a $10k price-tag, MY ideas are often dismissed as either “fantasy,” “unrealistic,” or that we may not be UP TO delivering what we want to offer.
So, I had one of those “last straw” moments in a group the other day. And unfortunately that moment coincided with other personal stressors (which I had tried to explain to my coach the day before, but was ushered to focus on our objective for efficiency’s sake).
Either you want people to share, or you don’t. I thought the point of a small group discussion was to speak our heart?
Of course I honor everyone on our intimate group calls. But, they had been quiet and I felt the inspiration to speak, so I broke through any thoughts about being misunderstood, and I opened my mouth to speak healing.
I will never know, now, what my last sentence would have been (I felt it was only going to one last sentence), because our coach felt he needed to hear from others (whom had been silent for 8 minutes, and no one knew why). And thankfully, I had gotten to share a few thoughts a few minutes earlier. Sad to say, but I think my grandmother may have been speaking through me. I think she wanted to say something about how we never know who or how others, no matter their complexion or ethnicity, have been persecuted. But apparently, this was not the time (to speak that knowledge aloud).
Empowerment Coaching
I can find value in Everything. And I can turn, turn, turn, to the next best feeling.
All that to say, as a writer, and spiritually open-minded, caring, empathic, and such, I came abruptly, face-to-face with my own fallibility. I am human. I am not perfect. So how can I be an empowering coach?
By teaching you this? Thank YOU (in appreciation of whomever is challenging me in any moment), for helping me make a better choice.
Ponder
Maybe we need to start by changing the way we think about these words:
black and dark, white and light.
Look deeper.
Consider this:
People for whatever reason, even as children, are afraid of the dark.
Light complexion people tend to call anyone with a darker complexion, black.
Black in the light spectrum is the absorption of all the other colors.
Others?
Let’s ponder this.
At some point, in the spiral of time, humanity will learn to appreciate, honor, and even revere, the CONTRAST that brings about Creation.
ALLways remember:
You are worthy.
Your inner YOU is L-I-M-I-T-L-E-S-S
As ALLways, thank YOU for helping me make a better choice.
This is not a political post. This is a psychological inquiry into mySelf and human nature.
WARNING! You may not like this post of self examination because it may challenge your own personal beliefs or biases. So, only the strongest of will, most open-minded, and highly mature persons are allowed. Hahahaha! Not really. But sometimes I feel like those are the only people reading my blog! (I love you ALL! ❤️🦋🌀)
The list
I am like Trump because I feel an urge to speak my mind, publicly. This has been true of me since I was a teenager and started talking to anyone and everyone on my dad’s CB radio! 🔈🎤
I am like Trump because I love looking at the whole enchilada, or big picture of a situation (and of life). And it’s freakin’ HUGE! (By the way, I love using the word “huge” and don’t want to stop using it. I know at any given point, we are only seeing and experiencing a small segment of life (that which we ourselves are living), but beyond my own personal space, I see a huge world! A ginormous world full of abundance and unlimited possibilities for ALL. ❤️🌀
We are only ever seeing part of the picture.
I am like Trump because I think I could be a goodleader. (Emphasis on “think.”) I would rather lead than follow. And true leaders, learn from their mistakes. 🧐💭
I am like Trump because while I dislike criticism (who doesn’t?), I can tolerate it, learn from it, and on my better days, use it to empower mySelf. A lot of my best ideas have been born from changing my perspective. One of my mantras is: Thank you for helping me make a better choice. And it was birthed after working for someone who irritated me—DAILY! ❤️🤪
I am like Trump because I often follow my feelings, especially about medical stuff (duh, my book, which offers advice to others), and how I take care of my own health. I don’t wait for double blind, placebo controlled studies—I Am The Placebo. Nod to Dr. Joe Dispenza. ❤️😉
Oneness. It’s not just loving what we like.
I am like Trump because I like to use Twitter. It is a cultural phenomenon! (Actually, that could be said about all social media.) I write like I speak also. Mostly, my brain isn’t fully engaged until my mouth starts moving! Hahahaha! Yes, that gets me into trouble at times. But, you hear my honest answer, even if you don’t like it. I am not a politician! 🤯🤣 I love how Twitter helps keep me from overthinking (as I am obviously doing now), while coaxing me to write concisely and in the moment—though I don’t tweet very often, I have a strong urge to tweet. 🐦😉
I am like Trump because I am not always right, but I am always considering my next move—often 3 steps ahead. (A good chess player, though I don’t play chess.) 😉🤯
I am like Trump because I am a strategic thinker, or critical thinker. And at this point you may be thinking critically of me! Hahahaha! Why does the Billy Joel song, “You May Be Right” ring in my ears as I write this?!? 🎼🙃
I am like Trump because I value a solid work ethic, and highly promote personal liberties, assuming proper guidance (learn and earn). ✍️💵
I am like Trump because I value education. I value street smarts as much as higher education (as I have learned from both). I taught my children (and those under my watch), not to touch the hot stove. (I recognize controls and rules are not necessarily a bad thing, and are good until a level of maturation, independence, and critical thinking is achieved. 🕰💡
So, you see, I can write a short blog article! Hahahaha! 🤣😂🤣
I may not have a lot in common with President Trump, but my dad thought a lot of him (as my dad was a wheeler dealer and thrived on the art of a deal), and so do millions of Americans. ❤️🇺🇸
Thus, I thought it might be wise of me to analyze (and note), where I align with our president—in particular, before criticizing him for his tweets or decisions. And as you know, I really dislike labels, name-calling, and such.
This was the inspiration for my process and write this article:
My dads RC “trainer” – check out the name: Apprentice
I am like Trump because I wrote a book! Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life!
As my husband often says, “He who tooteth not his own horn, the same shall not be tooted”!
As always, I hope I have inspired you to find a better feeling thought! Please comment and let me know. Much love and many blessings to you and yours.
Amen. Awomen. Namaste. OM ❤️🦋🌀
A bit about us:
My husband is an award-winning illustrator, plus he is a seasoned guitarist, bass player, and songwriter (of over 400 original songs). You can view some of his artwork and listen to all of his songs on http://RichardMurrey.com or check out his latest 24 songs here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC53E21F-JlTW2iQmPcEIWkQ
I’m an Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon. Plus, I’ve written a new book (in the making for 13 years), Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, that’s now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format). Buy it here.
From the first moment we arrived at our new camp spot, I felt at home. Like I could really breathe here.
It has been one month now, since we moved to family property in north Florida. And we have been living off the grid, (that is no electric power pole, no city water or sewer, no landline phone, and no cable).
In this article, I’ll specifically focus on our Energy needs.
First, we powered our RV (a 36 foot 5th wheel), by running a gasoline fueled generator.
A week or so later, we bought 12 gel golf cart type batteries. By adding a large bank of batteries, we would run our generator a few hours a day—typically, 4 or 5 hours depending upon what we plugged into the outlets, or if we cooked on the stove, or used the microwave.
We quit using our hot water heater, large refrigerator, and air conditioner the first day. They were simply power hogs, and we could immediately see how inefficient they were.
12 battery bank (build in progress)
We’ve ordered our 12 solar panels, so that will be the next step. And if all goes well, this setup could last us several years. It will pay for itself within a year or two (more or less). Not in energy cost savings, but because we aren’t paying lot rent to a campground or park.
It’s been a bit of an adjustment to live a sustainable and simple life in Florida, where the temperatures in February can vary greatly during one day.
Hermit-land
I wanted to move to this place for more than a year. And right before we took the leap to move, my friend Lauren told me I might grow from being a hermit (or spending some time alone, as I like to think of it). Thus, as I sit to write this, I think I’ll call this place my hermit-land. It even has its own share of ferns, moss, and faerie-like homes, which amuse me.
Faerie homes? Old Florida
I’ll share some of my top reasons next, for moving here. Though, since relocating, I’ve discovered several more reasons. And these are not in any particular order:
Never lived in north Florida
Yearned to be with family
Desired to commune with nature
Wanted more room to walk
Ached for peace, quiet, and serenity
Longed to plant a garden (again)
Wanted to learn how to manage my own Energy
Do more with less
Read more
Play more music
Discover new places
Be closer to the Florida line for ease of travel
To fulfill my dad’s dream
But didn’t want to own property again
And didn’t want to pay lot rent
Easing into it
Learning how to managing one’s own Energy can be challenging, especially for us older folks. So, my son decided to show us how to live off grid, by having us plug into and run a generator for power during the first two weeks. We had some cold nights, and tripped a breaker when we turned on our electric fireplace.
We ran several checks to determine what we could run efficiently. And we made the necessary changes.
I chose not to run the hot water heater, because I had adjusted to lukewarm and cold showers (Thanks to Wim Hof’s teachings), and my son provided hot showers on property in a nice standalone bath house. Plus, I could warm a bit of water on the stove for washing dishes once a day, as needed. No need to keep multiple gallons of water hot all day and night long.
We chose not to use our big refrigerator (that had came standard in our 5th wheel). We borrowed an apartment sized fridge from my son and it suited our needs—especially after our food stock changed.
A few weeks after we moved, we began hearing of the Wuhan China (later termed, COVID-19), virus, so we had additional restrictions placed upon how much we could explore. For instance, we had discovered a few good restaurants, but they closed down, or only served take out orders. And our idea of checking out the parks and springs had to be put on hold too. We have been able to walk the property and adjust to our new daily routine, albeit not as easily as we might have hoped.
Some of what I love the most about living at our new spot, is being able to hang out with my son, cook, and enjoy the evening fires. Oh, and the stargazing!
Fire
We’ve gotten a little too much nature at times, such as being bitten by various bugs. And we’ve experienced strained muscles from lifting jugs of gas, plus a good deal of sweating during mid-afternoon heat (though we’re parked in the shade).
Note: we’ve not been running our air conditioner, though we could for awhile if it is the only thing plugged into the generator. And I have actually been feeling BETTER! I attribute it to less stress, less noise, and breathing natural air!
Learn how to live simply
My son runs the Dude Off Grid Facebook group, where you can see videos and more, and learn how you can live off grid too.
Cut costs, get out of debt, and help the planet! Sure seems like a win-win situation to me!
I don’t think there’s anything more fulfilling than learning how to Take It Upon Yourself to learn and do things for yourself. So much self worth and self esteem comes from that. Bravo son! And thank YOU for reading.
❤️🦋🌀
A bit about us:
My husband is an award-winning illustrator, plus he is a seasoned guitarist, bass player, and songwriter (of over 400 original songs). You can view some of his artwork and listen to all of his songs on http://RichardMurrey.com or check out his latest 24 songs here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC53E21F-JlTW2iQmPcEIWkQ
I’m an Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon. Plus, I’ve written a new book (in the making for 13 years), Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, that’s now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format). Buy it here.
Until recently, I didn’t know a whole lot about the Solstices.
Previously published on The Wellness Universe, December 20, 2019
Except that many years ago, I had been told by a particular religious group that the Christmas holiday was celebrated at about the same time that Pagans celebrated the Winter Solstice. I knew that astronomically-speaking, the Winter Solstice was the shortest day, (a day with the least daylight), that we experience during a year. So if this is your first dive into the topic, you’re not alone.
When is the Winter Solstice?
In the northern hemisphere, the Winter Solstice occurs from about December 18th to the 25th; depending upon the year. Most people acknowledge the Winter Solstice only on December 21st or December 22nd. At the prehistoric sacred site of Newgrange in Ireland, the sunrise Winter Solstice will be observed and celebrated between the dates of December 18th to the 23rd, 2019.
Since many people from around the world revere the Winter Solstice as a deeply spiritual time, that reason alone makes it an interesting topic to understand. We all know how fractional religious matters can be. Yet, Spirit seeks to unify the fragmented parts of the whole.
Different Views
Some think the Winter Solstice is a time of connection, quiet reflection, and profound joy. Others experience this time as busy, complicated, or even chaotic; and not just around planning celebrations or such. Sensitive or intuitive persons actually dream a lot or experience spiritual downloads of information!
Naturally, the hustle and bustle of the holiday season may make it difficult to find time for ourselves, but we can use the Winter Solstice as a way to excuse ourselves from some of the drama and overwhelm and take a pause. Yes, take some time and sit for awhile to reflect on your hopes, wishes and desires for the future.
It might also be a good time to contemplate about how your year went, and maybe set new intentions and realign your priorities.
Eastern beliefs offer an explanation of how the Solstices affect us. Not only symbolically, but in a very real sense; yin energy is the darkness before the Winter Solstice and then at sunrise, the dark opens to the lightness of the yang energy.
By seeking to first understand, we may actually give ourselves more space to live and let live, let go of the past and give ourselves a break from feeling the need to control.
Curiosity, Like Love, is Eternal
Like the spirals engraved on the neolithic and monolithic rocks at sites like, Knowth and Newgrange in Ireland and Stonehenge in England, humans have sought to leave their mark on the planet.
I listed Knowth first because some believe it to be the oldest of the astronomically-oriented structures built. Unfortunately, the caretakers of the Knowth site do not allow entrance into its chamber.
Exterior of the large mound at Knowth
Thankfully, near Knowth you can visit the larger site of Newgrange and go inside its tomb. However, to enter the burial chamber during the Winter Solstice sunrise, you must fill out a lottery application and be chosen to gain entry. The lucky few who win the opportunity to go inside the tomb at sunrise, get to see the rays of sunlight fill the chamber via a lightbox cut-out of the stones above the passageway entry. Those inside the chamber during sunrise will watch as sunlight fills the entire chamber, (weather permitting), for 17 precious minutes. Yes, it’s a very big deal and a once-in-a-lifetime experience!
Entrance to the Newgrange neolithic chamber
Interestingly, Stonehenge may be the world’s most famous prehistoric monument and sacred site to host the Summer and Winter Solstices that is aligned to the Winter Solstice sunset; while Newgrange only aligns to the Winter Solstice sunrise. I find this dichotomy intriguing.
The opportunity exists for all of us to visit these sacred sites and stir our inner curiosity about who and why all of the etchings were made on these gigantic stones. And we can be grateful that we are alive during this time in history when it is possible to visit these sacred sites.
I have been forever changed by visiting the West Kennet Long Barrow, (an Avebury site), Knowth, Newgrange and Stonehenge. Where allowed, I stood, walked, sat near and touched, many of these incredible stones; marveling their presence.
Last July, while meditating at Stonehenge inside the stone circle, I came to know of our “rightness to BE,” in the world. The experience quickly put me into a meditative state; when I am home, it takes me many minutes to reach that state of meditation. At Stonehenge, I became aware of why certain sites are sacred, and why, if we have the opportunity, we should protect them.
As I take the next long and luscious deep breath, I reach for the grace to continue to live and travel to these highly energetic places for many years to come. I want to take my granddaughters to these sites when they are of age.
Marking the Time
Nature shows us the effects of time. The inner rings on the trees mark the passing of years. Very few things last forever and no one agrees on the age of the neolithic structures that still stand on the earth.
Astronomically-speaking, the Winter Solstice marks the beginning of longer days and shorter nights. This is why it makes sense that as we head into the dark time of year, with shorter days, we allow ourselves the luxury of some time to journey within.
The Winter Solstice is observed by various cultures; not only Pagans and Druids. Eastern and Western cultures give meaning to the Solstice, because it marks the transition from darkness to light, or cold to warm.
In Japan, the Winter Solstice is a celebration of all things pertaining to the fruit Yuzu; that typically includes taking hot bath soaks filled with different tart citrus fruits. This event ushers in an important change in season. Cleansing rituals like celebrating the Solstice are honoring, both to us and our ancestors, before the earth makes another journey around our golden and life-giving sun.
Balance and Synchronicity
For me, this will be the first holiday I’ve experienced without my dad and third without my mom; at least in the physical sense, and I am an only child. Perhaps that is why the Universe has gifted me with so much recently; I’m thrilled, no matter the why or how!
I am simply grateful that through the use of all the holistic tools I have put into my proverbial “wellness toolbox,” I finally feel centered and balanced; even when emotionally triggered. Yay!
As an aside, one of my blog articles, “Why Am I So Emotional-Tips for Grief” was scheduled to be published on January 6th, 2020; that is my parent’s wedding anniversary! When I read the email from the Wellness Universe with that publishing date, I immediately sensed it was because my mom and dad are still with me in spirit. Truly, you can’t make this stuff up!
Yes, I see the synchronicity more clearly and feel this statement that was given to me spiritually or psychically years ago, even stronger now; “We Are ALL Connected.”
I write this as an aside, and that it’s a big reason why I am personally going to spend dedicated and focused time before and during the Winter Solstice to unpack my thoughts and set a new course for adventure!
I hope this article has been interesting and informative and that sometime soon you can experience the joy that awaits for you on the Winter Solstice in whatever way you observe this time marker.
I won a place for myself and a guest, (out of 30,861 lottery applications drawn by children from three different schools), to go inside the Newgrange burial chamber for the Winter Solstice sunrise on Dec. 18th, 2019 in Ireland and we are going! Stay tuned for the next post to read all about what mysteries it unlocks for me.
I truly see where I’ve been moving into the 5th density of experience since 2005.
In the beginning
I became aware something profound was happening to me when I started getting GodBumps while talking about Conscious Living, expanding awareness, Christ Consciousness, raw vegan foods, Spirituality, etc. with coworkers. And I have been on a quest to discover “WHY” ever since.
Getting it
When you really GET Jesus (or the Christ, or Buddha, etc.) you no longer need the church, temple, etc. Going can be invigorating or fun, but you don’t need it.
An easy way to discern
You’ll find church to be wherever you hang out with others of like-mind and they will uplift you.
You don’t have to be brainwashed or programmed into a certain rigidity. Too narrow of a focus can lead to separation.
Virtuous Integration
If you want to experience the love of unity, apply and integrate what you’ve learned into your day to day. Practices do not need to become rituals, but deeper awareness while performing daily tasks. Pray without ceasing. Seek the meaning and lesson from every interaction.
Continue to become aware of your own virtues; the highest ideals and values of your life.
When you really GET why you came to live in a body, you’ll no longer need teachers or coaches. You can have fun with them and continue layering knowledge and wisdom gained into your system, but mostly everything you need to know can flow into you, if you are open to receive. Be an open vessel.
Layer upon layer new techniques or such, but understand why you are taking care of your body. You’ll live a wholly vibrant life!
Reasons people leave Church
Outgrow it – see through the programming
Have been offended
Not being told the Truth
Been traumatized or abused
Victimhood
Intolerance
Bashing other churches or faiths
Questioned too much
Gossip / slander
Infidelity
Sanctimonious attitudes
Hypocrisy
Now, don’t kill the thought messenger for pointing these things out. You are more than sheeple!
Our bodies are our temple
Having cleaned a branch church building for months and then being told to leave during a storm when shelter was needed, showed my mom which side those “good church members” were on—and it was not God’s. I could see right through them, though it took mom a bit longer to come around to that knowing. Those hypocrites were living in fear of the insurance company!
Ah, split energies! Know this: Jesus didn’t preach in churches!
Choose you this day how you will feel, and whom you will serve. Find your inner tranquility in each moment.
My being-ness resonated with this video.
I appreciated Neale’s transparency and Eckhart’s powerful stillness (even while he was speaking), as contradictory as that seems.
Bliss. Yes, the more we integrate and allow our Spirit to lead (instead of our Ego), in our daily activities, the more we feel it and know the truth of us.
No graven images
Why no graven images?
Primarily because graven images remind us of the past. And we are to live in the present moment. The dead do not need shrines. And everything man-made will be destroyed in the end. Everything is temporary.
God is ever-living Omniscience
Are you smarter than God? You think you are if you presume to know how God wants you to worship a particular religion. The knowing or “path” to LIMITLESS Source Energy Creator is a narrow one because most find it too difficult to let go of earthly material possessions and simply be present in every situation.
#Namaste #GodInYou #Holism
We are much more than we see. We are Spirit focused like a laser light beam into a physical body, with a lot of unseen energy round about us. ❤️🦋🌀
I pose this question to you: Where do I end and you begin?
What’s the outcome?
The Grand Beyond
Ah! The bliss and joy I feel when I imagine what the heavenly realm of the Grand Beyond is!
I imagine all the beautiful sunrises and sunsets one sees from the expansive view from the Grand Beyond.
What might it be like to reconnect with my loved ones in the Grand Beyond…
Even if I am not with my loved ones in the Grand Beyond after my Continuation Day, perhaps I will go on to create a new galaxy where many can enjoy the earthly fruits of their labor. And my loved ones can gaze upon that galaxy with awe. They may choose to join also!Oh, what a heavenly and splendid galaxy it will be!
I am writing a metaphysical novel that will explore the nature of these things, but for now, I will leave you with this:
When we wake from sleeping with a song in our head, sometimes even seeing famous people singing a song we’ve never heard before (and for some, they jump up and write the song), where does that come from?
Continuing on with the sharing of thoughts and pictures from our June/July 2019 vacation to Europe, this post covers our three days in England. During these three days we covered a lot of ground, literally and figuratively!
Our Sacred Celtic Journey was with author and speaker, Patricia McGivern (learn more about her at: https://www.patriciamcgivern.com).
The tour took us to Bath, Lacock, Avebury, West Kennet Long Barrow, and Stonehenge (which was abSOULutely phenomenal!) plus, we explored Glastonbury (the Abbey, Tor, and Chalice Well) and also got to have a quick stop in the tiny town of Wells, home to one of the grandest of cathedrals!
Thursday July 4
We arrived in Bristol, England and had a bus (for our group), take us on about an hour’s drive to Bath, England.
Bath
In Bath, we stayed at the Apex Bath hotel. We had a wonderful room and comfortable bed. We had walked so much in Ireland that we were really appreciative to have the rest of this day to “just BE.”
We walked through town and marveled at the architecture of the cathedral.
Bath Cathedral Bath Cathedral doorsBeside the Cathedral as we walked to dinner
We dined at the famous Sally Lunn’s—home of Sally Lunn’s Buns. Our group believes Sally’s is haunted, as one of our gals experienced some odd happenings while she was in the restroom! She heard the door open, and water run in the sink, and door close, but no footsteps and no talking!
Our food was delicious and even months later, as I write this, I can still recall the feeling and experience of the place.
Vegetarian option of a Sally Lunn’s bunFamous Sally Lunn’s bun with meat on topSign above entrance to Sally Lunn’s
Picture of us in front:
Friday July 5
On this morning, we enjoyed breakfast at the hotel and afterwards met author, Andrew Phillip Smith. He presented interesting information from his book, The Lost Teachings of the Cathars. I have not read his book, but he certainly seemed an expert on the topic.
In the Languedoc area of Southern France, the Cathars met in groups and did not build churches. They were peaceful, educated, believed in equality of men and women and the early pure teachings of Jesus before being massacred by the Catholic Church in the Albigensian crusade. As well, we learned that the Cathars were celibate (called, Perfects) and confessed to each other in front of believers. Once a Perfect met their Perfect other, they went to Kingdom of Heaven (didn’t need to reincarnate into another vessel or creature). In 1209 something important happened (Reference to my 1212 life that I found out about while in Sedona.)
Supposedly, Mary Magdalene was alone with Jesus at the temple, the well, and in the garden. May not have married him but may have been his Perfect. They wouldn’t have had physical sex though, as that was not the belief or way at the time. This would have put the Cathars at odds with the Catholics.
Cathars believed in Laying on of hands (Refer to the story of the horse-lost shoe between to stones/horshoe over the door); Reference the Nag Hammadi; During the Inquisition we learned about the Cathars (so something good came out of it, yes something good can even come out of the Inquisition!). He even said Adam and Eve were not able to move until the spirit went into them!
While somewhat fascinating, I couldn’t help pinch myself a few times though, as I looked out the windows of the hotel. I was simply in awe to be in England. ❤️
Lacock Village
We walked through town again to catch another tour bus to go to Lacock (where Harry Potter was filmed), Avebury, West Kennet Long Barrow, Woodhenge, and finally, to Stonehenge. Honestly, I could write one whole article on my experience at Stonehenge, it was that amazing and phenomenal.
At Lacock, Richard and I walked and talked with our driver who was a retired police officer. He told us some stories about how their criminal justice system operated and that people aren’t allowed to own guns there. We were very interested in the architecture and way of life of the villagers of Lacock. Even the barn was very well taken care of. Walking these aged streets were certainly a walk back in time.
Walking around Lacock
We ended our walk at the church and Patricia asked me to come and see an important memorial of a young mother and children.
Beautiful stained glass windows inside the churchI was enthralled with the back door of the churchPatricia McGivern at the tombTomb of Mary Ann Hooper and children
West Kennet Long Barrow
A short drive later, we arrived at West Kennet Long Barrow (a neolithic tomb built around 3,650).
Trekking up the hill to West Kennet Long Barrow
We played with taking photos and theorizing about these stones. I happily spied on two birds atop one of the stones at the entrance to the chamber and remarked to Patricia, “One has a feather stuck on its beak”! It wasn’t a busy place that day, so it was relaxing. And we liked that we could touch everything, which heightened my curiosity and made it all the more informative.
Richard explores the stonesEntering the burial chamber Richard points to a fissure in this “stone”Closeup View from the top of the mound
We joked about desiring to see a crop circle here, and wildly enough, a couple of weeks after we left, we read about a crop circle appearing near this place! “Missed it by that much”!
Avebury
Next, we spent a few hours at Avebury, exploring the largest megalithic stone circle in the world! Again, we were intrigued by the “flesh” type of texture to these humongous stones. We marveled at the placement of the stones and the various “growths” on their surface.
Avebury signMy darling husband, smiling after a back stretch Feeling the texture of the stonesOur friend, Pharon, resting by one of the stonesIncredible “holding hands” with these “stones”Fascinating closeupCatching sunlight over this magnificent stone
We learned that Avebury is also a henge, as Stonehenge is and were further intrigued. Since our visit, we have become quite hooked on the topic!
After leaving Avebury, we stopped along the road for a fantastic lunch at a place called, The Waggon and Horses. Not only was the food savory and delicious, but the building charmed me with delight!
The Waggon and Horses entryway history plaqueEntry door with the spiral glass panels 🌀The sewing machine reminds me of my mom, the glass windows are thicker at the bottom, and the candle is real. What a beautiful and mystical place to dine. Wood beams on the ceiling, splendor abounds. We are seated for lunch.Traditional fish and chips, and whiskey. (No peas for me, but every place served them!)Love the stairs and cobblestonesA back doorStopped to get to know these magnificent horses along the wayWe learn the story of the white horse. And this magnificent Friesian is a stunning example. Friendly too!Woodhenge
Before arriving at Stonehenge, we made a quick stop at Woodhenge. We learned that the wood markers had been placed where stones had once been.
Stonehenge
Walking the path towards Stonehenge
I will summarize to state that I felt the energy affecting me before we even reached the stones, as we rode the park bus out to the stones, and more while walking to the stones.
I noticed our shadows and took this artsy “giants” shot:
Foreshadowing Stonehenge The sun was in perfect position Casting light on the subject The heel stoneThe Druid priest provided instructions
As the sun was setting and I entered the stone circle, I felt a strong yet calm energy as I took each meaningful step. I felt an indescribable connection to this sacred site!
Walking inside this megalithic stone circle was deeply personal and most intriguing. Even now, looking at the photos as I write this, brings me back INTO engagement with those feelings.
One of the stones up closeThe sunset between the stonesWalking among the powerful stones Before meditating feeling deeply Susan and the sunsetShari, Kim, the Druid priest and sunsetPharon in meditation
After taking pictures and video of the sunset, I found a mostly buried blue healing stone (that Pharon had told me about earlier). I sat very near one of the blue stones and was blissfully surprised at how quickly I dropped into a meditative state.
My few minutes of meditation within the inner circle at Stonehenge was profound! I was quite surprised after leaving there to learn that my husband had taken a picture of myself and some of our others while we were meditating! Love!
Note: Even now, I continue to connect to that stone when meditating at home.
Sitting to meditate In meditation inside the stone circle of Stonehenge Coming out of meditation and seeing how many had joined inTime seemed to stand stillSunset was captivating SunsetKim, Sheila, and Pharon (Sedona SiStars)Stonehenge was everything and more than I had anticipated Our group at Stonehenge
Saturday July 6
Today (on the date of my daughter’s birthday), I was a bit emotional because of not being with her, but also because I was out of the country and not able to talk with her. In English tradition though, I put my chin up and trekked on, as we had a lot to see!
Wells
We made a quick stop in Wells, England’s smallest city. And we were all astonished at the sight we saw there!
Wells signThe Wells cathedral Closer view of the Wells cathedral. What grandeur and opulence!
Glastonbury
Glastonbury signSynchronistically, we were in Glastonbury while there was a Holistic Spiritual & Wellness Fayre going on!
We left the hotel at 8am for a full day in Glastonbury (where it is believed that Joseph of Arimathea and King Arthur may be buried); we had our second past life regression out back of the Abbey and before the group tour of the Abbey.
My husband, Richard, had been dealing with a hip that was hurting, so we didn’t go on the Abbey tour, but I felt that was all in divine time. As it happened, a friend had lost her green Prasiolite crystal after our regression session and I was available to walk with her, help look for it, and have some time to talk. Had Richard not have needed to rest, I would not have been available.
Abbey ruinsHubby’s selfie
The grounds here were spectacular. I covered a lot of ground myself taking in the roses and other flowers growing on the walls and looking for meaningful items.
Richard and I at Glastonbury AbbeyI love steps, especially ancient onesThe height and construction of the wallThe beautiful flowers growing along the wallThe Lady Chapel signEntry door – The Lady’s Chapel Exit of the Lady’s Chapel Inside the Lady’s ChapelTaking time to stop and smell the flowers Reminded me of the little concrete donkey my mom had in our backyard for several years
I spent quite awhile in the Abbey’s museum and was immediately drawn to these blue glass fragments (reminiscent of the luminous blue stones I had seen in my first regression session in Glendalough—see part 1 post).
Blue glass fragments Getting lost in the blueMarvelous blueAncient Abbey door on display in the museum Incredible Tapestry
Before leaving we had a few minutes to shop and find some gifts for my granddaughters and myself. 😉
We walked into town for lunch and had a delicious meal at a cafe where we had quiche and English tea.
Delicious quiche and salad lunchSheila having traditional English tea (with pinkie out!)
Chalice well
We left about 1pm for the Chalice Well, England’s most loved and well known holy well that is believed to possess healing qualities). On the way to our tour bus, I spied my synchronistic blue on one of the buildings! I tell you, I didn’t miss a beat of receiving all of the subtle winks from the Universe I was given on this trip!
Blue window trim and above it! 💙🦋🌀Even the bus stops were quaint! See the spirals (top left)?At Chalice well, stopped to have Richard take my picture for my granddaughter by yellow flowers. 😉For my grandmother who grew roses, grandfather who always said to, “Stop and smell the roses.”Chalice WellStreet beside and outside of the Chalice well
Our guide for this day took us up a side street to The White Spring where back in the day, commoners could gather water (the rest runs down under the grate beside the street.) He also took us in the building (that isn’t always open), where we could see The Red Spring—and as our luck would have it, we even saw a nude man after his dip in the spring! LOL Oh, my! (No photography was allowed in there and we know why!)
Glastonbury Tor
Richard and I took one look at the hill and decided to stay at the bus with our driver, Richard, and talk about the legends and more with him. To us, connecting with those who live in these places are more important than the buildings and such. We enjoyed talking about the sheep and such too, and he prepared a lovely cheese and cider snack for us all after the rest of our group returned. Totally unexpected and delightful!
Glastonbury Tor signThe group climbs to the TorWhile they are gone, I find an interesting alter
Back in Bath
Wrapping it up, we spent several hours at the Roman Baths museum in Bath. We were amazed by how much was here and I could write another article on all we discovered here! It was one of the biggest surprises of our trip, as we didn’t know much about this at all and had no idea that we would be so mesmerized by it all, from the engineering and architecture, to the art! We knew Romans were intelligent, but obviously much more than we had thought!
Second story view down onto the bath where the roof had been removed when another civilization had built on top of this!Another second story view and statuesInside the museum (they offer a guided tour or self tour with audio)Model scale of how the original bath lookedModel scale with arched roof over the bathWater flows to the bath from the original springPlexiglass floor allows you to walk over the water flow right out to the bathFlowing out to the bathInto the bathSome original lead pipeline remains (which probably poisoned them!)Don’t drink it, birdie!Bath level
Note: As destiny would have it, out of 30,861 applications I won the lottery entry into the Newgrange neolithic chamber for the 2019 winter solstice sunrise! We are sooo excited to return to Ireland!
Check out this original song, When I Dream. My husband wrote this song and it was performed and recorded in a Nashville, TN studio. You can download it (it’s Track 11) from this link: https://store.cdbaby.com/cd/chevyfordb26
A bit about me:
An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon.
We are not separate, but deeply connected emanations of the One Presence.
Hands together to Connect
To begin to know this as a reality, a practical way (or daily practice) you can begin to do right now is to put your hands together at the same time each day for a moment or two and simply think or say something like, “Angels ALL around–Hands together to Connect.”
Do you follow any of these authors or speakers? (In alphabetical order)
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Robert Atkinson
Heather Joy Bassett
Michael Bernard Beckwith
Steve Bhaerman
Joan Borysenko
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Chief Phil Lane Jr.
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RASHA
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Reading and Working through A Course in Miracles are two completely different things.
Reading A Course in Miracles (ACIM) is quite different than working through the lessons in the course. And I believe the author’s intent was that we work through the course and apply it to our own unique life journey, i.e. the way (our perception) we each uniquely view life. Yes, the way we perceive life with all of its ups and downs.
Find a teacher
Thus, I’ve been following a teacher of A Course in Miracles (Chris Cade) for many years (via his emails and videos), but never really took the time to apply each teaching to my life as a dailypractice, until now.
What I’ve come to notice
I won’t plagaerize Chris’ teaching, but I will share some of the lessons I’ve learned from it. Maybe reading this will encourage you to check it out. I’ve learned that each of the following thoughts, which I’ve had at different points of my life, disrupted my serenity and calm (and that they all kind of feel the same–each taking up about the same amount of space in my head:
I am not angry at my most loved family member for not agreeing with me about the pedophile priests for the reason I think. (Note the attachment involved here, “my” and “most loved” along with two “reasons” to be angry.)
I am not afraid of my ex for the reason I think.
I am not worried about any of my family members’ suffering or state of lack for the reason I think.
I am not worried about some creditor for the reason I think.
I am not depressed about some potential problem for the reason I think.
I am not agitated about some health issue for the reason I think.
I am not anxious during hurricane season because we live in Florida near the water or any other reason I think. (Note how the mind layers “reason” upon “reason” to convince itself of its’ rightness?)
These thoughts seem to take me off balance, thus, I really want the course to help me with that, and release the upset to return my most often state to calm and centered.
We have already discussed “upset” before and how to question our thoughts. Now, ACIM asks me to realize that Anything I am upset about—it happened in the past (even if it happened one second ago)!
All hurt (experience)
All education (training)
All learning (lessons)
ALL were in the PAST.
Why I continually seek
I am the person I am today because of Everything I have experienced up to this point in life. But, every moment I know I can make a different choice. I am open to that. I am open to unlimited and boundless potential! I am happy where I am NOW, and eager for more!
I know there was a reason for the puritanical ways (strict adherence to The Law to teach reverence and humility), but it makes me sad to think of those times. I much prefer Jesus’ words of Love. “And the greatest of these (commandments) is Love.” ❤️🦋🌀
Live and breathe Love & Gratitude
Thank Omniscience ALLways. OM
For Fun
Check out this original song, Dogma. It’s one of my favorites, written by my husband and performed and recorded in a Nashville, TN studio. You can download it (it’s Track 1) from this link: https://store.cdbaby.com/cd/chevyfordb26
A BIT ABOUT ME:
An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon.
