Me – 42 years later

Me – 42 years later

Rewriting my 1978 poem

My 1978 poem, “Me.”

Now, that I’ve broken free from the drama of my youth;

Having learned what it means to heal and become whole;

And written, spoken and sang many times about all of that;

Having traveled through many of the states I’d dreamed of;

I’ve found myself, and continued to be:

Steeped in history;

Fascinated by my ancestry;

Serene near the ocean;

Entranced by magical trees;

Engaged with mystical rocks;

And mesmerized by waterfalls;

Raising children at the World’s Most Famous Beach, and lastly at the Jersey shore;

Enjoying the beach sand in summer,

The endless sway of the palm trees,

More than watching the games people play;

I’ve lived in the middle of the USA in the icy winter and visited snowy New England,

To usher in new technology and witness twin granddaughters birth;

I haven’t always been true to myself,

but I’ve experienced magnificence growth in ALL.

I’ve found excitement, romance, pain, and peace;

I’ve discovered that I’ve always been me, in ALL ways—whether happy or sad;

And I am thankful.

I am content.

I was me all along.

And I put all of me into my children, the good, the bad, and the beautiful;

My soul hasn’t changed much, but my mind and heart has expanded;

Widening my perception;

Deepening my compassion;

I’ve enhanced my understanding of so many things;

And calibrated back to balance;

To continue to bloom where I am planted.

Me – 42 years later.

About me

I have a passion for WORDS and Connecting people. In particular, I love speaking and writing about spiritual and consciousness raising topics, holistic wellness and simple healthy living. I am empathic, intuitive, compassionate, and kind, with a keen and unified wisdom about life.

I’m an Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon. Plus, I’ve written a health book (in the making for 13 years), Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, that’s available here.

Observations about the author

Conversations surrounding emotional balance, moral ambiguities, and deep spiritual truths (such as We Are All Connected, and Put Your Hands Together When You Pray), are what Sheila is most passionate about. She feels a profound empathic Connection with people and what they’re going through by merely sharing her own truth, by speaking freely about her personal struggles and the challenges she continues to overcome. Sheila strives to ease lonelines, help those exiting toxic relationships, and to remind us all that we are stronger than we think we are, and that Everything Resolves to Gratitude in the end.

Let us serve you

My husband is an award-winning illustrator, plus he is a seasoned guitarist, bass player, and songwriter (of over 400 original songs). You can view some of his artwork and listen to all of his songs on http://RichardMurrey.com or check out his latest 24 songs here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC53E21F-JlTW2iQmPcEIWkQ

As well, you can hire us to promote your book, band, business, or services here: https://www.facebook.com/MurreyMakers-103294764612382/

Be the person your soul beckons you to be and let us promote you!

Here’s us: https://vimeo.com/416711742?ref=fb-share

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

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Don’t blame, reframe!

Don’t blame, reframe!

Whenever you are ready to blame someone for hurting you, take a breath, take a walk, or sit with the situation for awhile before reacting.

Reframe the event several times to see if you can find where you played a role.

When I have allowed myself to get upset over something, I have found that if I can have a few minutes to an hour alone, without someone taking my side right away, I can usually turn things around in my head and get out of blame. And it feels better to me when I can manage to stop blaming another—and not see myself as the victim.

How to step out of blame

  • Breathe
  • Take a few moments to change your state
  • Take a walk or change your environment
  • Consider the situation from another’s viewpoint
  • Do something else for a bit
  • If possible, message or call the person who caused your upset
  • Take a shower
  • Meditate or say a prayer (not just about the situation, but for all involved—including you
  • Sleep on it
Blue light butterfly 🦋

What can you learn from this?

Butterflies signify transformation because of the way they change during their metamorphosis. Try to see if you can find the lesson you can learn from the event you just experienced.

The person that caused your upset may have no idea they upset you. You may merely need a change of perspective. In nearly every case of upset I have experienced, I was too much in my own head about the situation and when I changed my environment (as in walking outside, watching a movie, jumping on a business call, or sleeping on it), I was able to thoroughly change my view of the event and release my hurt feelings.

Ego

Yes, usually our hurt feelings have something to do with our ego. When I’m upset, it’s usually because my ego was bruised in one way or another—even if only a tiny bit.

And I don’t even consider myself to have much of an ego, but apparently I do.

It won’t hurt me to let go of more ego either. When we can embrace humility, it can help us stand more confidently. We can accept that we have a lot to offer others, in service—whether we are praised or not.

When people talk bad about you

I know it feels painful when someone talks bad about you. But would you rather be right, or feel good? If we want to feel better, reframing the situation can help.

I have had these situations occur in my life. I don’t blame the people (because to do so would put me in victim mode), but I have used those episodes to help me make better choices.

I used to shake my head before walking away, but I don’t do that anymore—because even that is a waste of my energy. I say to myself, they just aren’t on the same wavelength as me. Sometimes I teach by sharing, but mostly I just let it go. ❤️🦋🌀😉

A bit about us:

My husband is an award-winning illustrator, plus he is a seasoned guitarist, bass player, and songwriter (of over 400 original songs). You can view some of his artwork and listen to all of his songs on http://RichardMurrey.com or check out his latest 24 songs here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC53E21F-JlTW2iQmPcEIWkQ

I’m an Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon. Plus, I’ve written a new book (in the making for 13 years), Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, that’s now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format). Buy it here.

As well, you can hire us to promote your book, band, business, or services here: https://www.facebook.com/MurreyMakers-103294764612382/

Be the person your soul beckons you to be and let us promote you!

Here’s us: https://vimeo.com/416711742?ref=fb-share

Observations about Sheila

Conversations surrounding emotional balance, moral ambiguities, and deep spiritual truths (such as We Are All Connected, and Put Your Hands Together When You Pray), are what Sheila is most passionate about. She feels a profound empathic Connection with people and what they’re going through by merely sharing her own truth, by speaking freely about her personal struggles and the challenges she continues to overcome. Sheila strives to ease loneliness through teaching and sharing group collectives, help those exiting toxic relationships, and while reminding us ALL that we are stronger than we think we are, and that “Everything Resolves to Gratitude” in the end.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Follow me on Twitter at: TakeOnYourself

The truth lies somewhere in between

Truth lies somewhere in between

Arguing and bickering

Some people seem to thrive on arguing. I’m thinking in particular of lawyers, couples in tumultuous relationships, and those who always stir up or fuel discord on Facebook (and other social media).

My dad would often tell my mom to, “Change the subject.” And then he would change it!

I don’t think dad really ever liked arguing with my mom, though they constantly bickered. And all of that lead to my awareness that, “The truth lies somewhere in between.” And “It takes two to fight.”

Yet, it took me decades to learn that one of the two in an argument simply needs to STOP FIGHTING (in essence, release the resistance), to end the argument.

Yes, though my parents loved each other passionately, their love was not unconditional. Through watching them, I learned all about conditional love. So, how could I know what true love was?

Observations of parts

I observed, during a Bible class I participated in a few years ago, that some attendees argued more about specifics, like healthcare and sexism as related to Trump. I had to keep pulling people up to the macro general level and why we were there.

I seemed to only see the downside to love growing up in a dysfunctional family. I never thought anyone got it right. And then later, when I fell in love (or what I thought was love), I perpetuated the toxic cycle.

Truth lies somewhere in between

Which part am I?

  • I am not my body
  • I am not my mind
  • I am more than the sum total of my collective experience

I can list my likes and attributes, but you may still have a better idea of who I am, than I will ever have.

As my adult children and I have recounted stories from their youth, they certainly saw a different side of me than I self witnessed. The same must be true of how I viewed my parents volatile relationship.

Examining my characteristics

  • I am honest
  • I am sensitive
  • I am empathic; sometimes intuitive
  • I love deeply
  • I am resilient
  • I have fought tough relationship battles that might have wrecked others
  • I am a loyal friend (and keeper of secrets)
  • I allow my feelings to be hurt (and sometimes become resentful, until I become fully aware that I allowed my feelings to be hurt).
  • I hold stuff in (I say it is to “protect” others and spare them from having to observe it or get involved—but is that really true?)
  • I have been a codependent (but does one ever really heal from codependency?)

I don’t want to hold stuff inside, but anytime I get mad or speak my mind it pisses other people off.

I struggle with people pleasing. Or people not listening to me. I never saw my mom get too far when she argued with dad or others, so I decided early to forgo the arguments. Or so I thought! Both my first and second husbands argued with me. Ugh. And my children were witnesses to so much of that—and I hate that!

Learning from the lessons

Whenever I am emotionally triggered, I read this:

I never like to be disrespected, bullied, or have my intelligence questioned, or be treated less than I am! But I know I’m not always right. As well, others, no matter how well or how long they have known me, don’t know all of my thoughts, wishes, or desires, and that I strive to always respect others and show kindness if nothing else. I know many people are hurting, sad, mad, over or under medicated, or are hungry for love. And I realize no one knows Everything—not yet.

❤️🦋🌀🙏😉

What to do?

  • I am too analytical to blindly follow
  • I am independent
  • I am curious and always seeking
  • I can focus on the positives

I have some clairsentience and clairaudience abilities, though not tuned specifically to aid others. Perhaps I will offer these senses and abilities more of my time.

Fight to feel better

…When you feel bad nothing works. You labor to get out of bed. You stub your toe on a table that has never moved and you’ve known for years where it is. You lose your car keys, glasses, or phone. Walk around with a big old frown on your face and you know it drives people away from you. You’re fighting with yourself about something. Let go of whatever you’re resisting and your day will improve.

From my book, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life!

Be as water

I love the water (but looking at it, or walking along the shore more than swimming in it–though I love to float!)

Water doesn’t fight with itself. Or does it?

Water rages. Water flows. Water falls. Water is still.

I will EXPLORE more ways to be like water!

Yes!

I will find my own balance.

I will find my own level.

I will start by reminding myself that the truth lies somewhere in between. I will not judge by what I see in the mirror, but simply point out the many facets of truth, per the mirror disco ball.

As Scott Buck, a writer on both Six Feet Under and Dexter series dramas often made a foundational point of saying, “We never really know a person.”

I like to compare our personalities to facets inside a kaleidoscope or disco ball. We reflect what we see or imagine others to be.
❤️🦋🌀

Even racists can be kind. And I am about over all the hate from the other side. ❤️🦋🌀

A bit about us:

My husband is an award-winning illustrator, plus he is a seasoned guitarist, bass player, and songwriter (of over 400 original songs). You can view some of his artwork and listen to all of his songs on http://RichardMurrey.com or check out his latest 24 songs here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC53E21F-JlTW2iQmPcEIWkQ

I’m an Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon. Plus, I’ve written a new book (in the making for 13 years), Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, that’s now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format). Buy it here.

As well, you can hire us to promote your book, band, business, or services here: https://www.facebook.com/MurreyMakers-103294764612382/

Be the best version of who you want to be and let us promote you!

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Follow me on Twitter at: TakeOnYourself

Expanding Consciousness

Expanding Consciousness

What kinds of things do you do to challenge or stretch your consciousness?

I guess Consciousness, as a topic, interests me because of my mother’s demise from Alzheimer’s dis-ease. Because I am forward thinking. And I am so into the whole mind-body-spirit thing–Holistic Health–as well as, coming to understand the “Interconnection of ALL.”

Expanding Consciousness
Expanding Consciousness

Intriguing ideas

Shirley MacLaine has said she believes the reason why we’re here (in this life) is curiosity. And I feel there are myriad topics we can be curious about, only one of which is Consciousness.

Science has yet to provide us much solid evidence on where our consciousness resides. Much research is ongoing about that. And it intrigues me.

Many fictional TV and film creations, such as Fringe the X-Men movies, brought noetic concepts into mainstream awareness.

Noetic Science

Since the 1970s, the term, “noetics” (“how beliefs, thoughts, and intentions affect the physical world”), has been used by several authors. The books Deep Spirit: Cracking the Noetic Code (2008) by Christian de Quincey and The Lost Symbol (2009) by Dan Brown, reveal a plethora of interesting information on the topics of consciousness and spirituality. Visit the Institute of Noetic Sciences, for more.

When I learned about the noetic sciences and began attending IONS group meetings, that led me to discover the Pachamama Alliance (to be discussed in another post).

Now, such terms as, conscious businesses and socially responsible corporations are becoming well known.

Seat of Consciousness

I’ve heard that Consciousness, more than simply being in our mind or brain, is actually a grand field of interconnected waves that we plug into, as we would turn on a TV to watch a transmitted program. Perhaps the great masters knew of this.

I’ve studied a series of books called, Life and teachings of the masters of the Far East by Baird T. Spalding, which expands upon the belief in the Christ Consciousness and the Buddha Consciousness. Yet, my favorite book that continues to expand my consciousness with every reading is Christ in You, by Anonymous.

About making changes

It has been said that nobody will change anything in their life until the perceived fear of the unknown is less than the pain of remaining the same.

Tony Robbins has talked about how people will violate their own values in order to meet one or more of their perceived needs.

I find moral ambiguities intriguing. I find the shadows we create (as we block the light), interesting.

Conscious change

I read a lot about how in order to actually make changes of habits that actually stick, one must make conscious changes in day-to-day routines.

This means one must consciously choose to drop one task / habit in exchange for another. Willingly. With focus. And we have to be operating in or near the vibration/frequency range (resonance) before we can begin to understand anything new too. 😉

Because I focus on incorporating new ideas, tactics, and tips into my life, I read (or listen to many of the following advanced teachers):

  • Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith
  • Gregg Braden
  • Chris Cade
  • Dr. Joe Dispenza
  • Tim Ferriss
  • MIT biochemist, Raymond Francis
  • Nassim Haramein
  • Dr. Bruce Lipton
  • Dan McDonald, “The Life Regenerator”
  • Lama Nicholas Packard
  • Dr. Linus Pauling – Nobel Prize Winner
  • Joseph Pilates
  • Sadhguru
  • Dr. Albert Schweitzer
  • Alania Starhawk
  • Eckhart Tolle
  • Neale Donald Walsch

Further reading

It never ends. And we never want it to end. The universe continues to expand.

Here are more books to check out on the subject of expanding consciousness:
Wayne Dyer recommended, Psych Cybernetics by Dr Maltz. (It is about belief too.)
Books by Bruce Moen:

https://www.amazon.com/s?k=books+bruce+moen&ref=is_s

Global Shift and Conscious Evolution
Global Shift and Conscious Evolution
Supernormal and The Way of the Explorer
Supernormal and The Way of the Explorer
Consciousness & Healing and The Conscious Activist
Consciousness & Healing and The Conscious Activist
Global Mind Change and Entangled Minds
Global Mind Change and Entangled Minds
The Living Universe and Living Deeply
The Living Universe and Living Deeply
The Global Brain Awakens and The Conscious Universe
The Global Brain Awakens and The Conscious Universe

Happy expanding!

Books on healing with Ayurveda

Thank Omniscience ALLways. OM

For Fun

Check out this original song, Invisible Gods. It’s one of my favorites, written by my husband and performed and recorded in a Nashville, TN studio. You can download it (it’s Track 5) from this link: https://store.cdbaby.com/cd/chevyfordb19

A BIT ABOUT ME:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon.

Plus, the brand new book that’s been in the making for 13 years, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format).

Buy it here: https://beingwhollyvibrant.wordpress.com/2018/09/12/book-launch-take-it-upon-yourself-to-live-a-wholly-vibrant-life/

And now, I have a new STORE! It’s called the Take It Upon Yourself (or TIUY) store that you can access right here.

Be the best version of who you came here to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Follow me on Twitter at: TakeOnYourself

Progressing in one’s career

I was once asked how I progressed in my technical career.

Be willing
Be willing

Career Progress

I replied:

By being willing;

By being vulnerable and okay with making mistakes (correcting afterward);

By listening to understand the business need (or the bigger picture);

By always being first to raise my hand and volunteer when our department was implementing anything new (not only software);

By always learning why the new gadget was important to the business;

By transferring skills to new processes;

By doing whatever it took to help the team be successful;

By applying timely criticism to the benefit of a current task (only late or public criticism bothers me);

By taking classes;

By attending every conference (and presented also), anytime I could;

By applying my intellect.

Yes, being willing is a solid first step to career advancement.

We Are All Connected.

Many blessings to you in ALL ways. OM

Check out this original song: She Ain’t Cliche. It’s one that my husband wrote, which could be about me. It was performed and recorded in a Nashville, TN studio. You can download it (it’s Track 8) from this link: https://store.cdbaby.com/cd/chevyfordb2

A bit about me:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon.

Plus, the brand new book that’s been in the making for 13 years, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format).

Buy it here.

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Follow me on Twitter at: TakeOnYourself

Sometimes all you can do is “Believe”

What do we believe in?

Believe in the power of life.

Believe in the power of love.

Believe time can heal all wounds.

Believe in the power of life.
Believe in the power of life.

Believe that tomorrow will come and that it will be a new day, a day that will give you (and others) a chance to change.

Belief is what it’s all about, all day, everyday. Your beliefs rule on a subconscious level. And when you want to change something in your life, sometimes all you can do, is “Believe” in the new way, making a conscious choice to change.

BEing an empath

I am an empath, intuitive, and highly sensitive person (HSP). When I connect with others on a deep level, I am able to feel their pain. I experience bodily sensations–so much so that it wigs me out at times!

Over the years, I’ve learned how to navigate my feelings by connecting with others who have already walked the empath “path” and found their footing. And even though I know (and practice often) several different holistic healing modalities and philosophies: Laying on of Hands, Reiki, The Art of Allowing, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), Jin Shin Jyutsu (JSJ), prayer, Energy Medicine, singing, chanting, and meditation, at times, I can still find myself in certain situations that test my resolve for freedom and relief. It is then, that I bring myself back to my beliefs.

Believe it

You’d better believe it!
Or else. Else what?
Why did my mom always use the phrase, “You’d better believe it” whenever she was scolding me or trying to correct me for something?

Beliefs can cause pain

I was “beside myself” when someone related a powerful and gut-wrenching story from their early childhood. I literally broke down in tears (in a small group of people I just met), which is quite unusual for me, and all I could say was, “PAIN (gasp), why do people cause others so much PAIN”?

Later on, when I got home that night, I became unconsolable.

I tried each of the various healing modalities I knew, yet I couldn’t rest, much less sleep. I prayed, meditated, held my hands together, and finally reached a “giving up” point. I let go.

I concluded that I would NEVER comprehend why people hurt others–especially children because my mind cannot comprehend whatever their “why” is. My mind doesn’t work the way their mind works. I was not hating the mean-spirited or ignorant person who caused this person pain, but I couldn’t shake the images my mind had created–from hearing the awful story.

As I laid awake in bed, I kept reeling about how damaging the event must have been for that dear one. Also, my mind was blown– I couldn’t conceive of any logical conclusion as to why anyone would willfully inflict such trauma on a child–or on anyone for that matter.

The various modalities I practice, typically allow me the freedom to hold a space for myself to relax, breathe, and “allow” myself to feel better, grounded, and emotionally stronger. But, not that night. That night, I felt as though I was “walking through the valley of death.” It was not pretty. It did not feel good.

Thankfully, the next morning’s meditation provided me with the gift of relief. Not a knowing of why, because we could never contain the “why”, but of a knowing that my friend survived her ordeal–somehow. Thank God!

Whenever I observe someone else’s sorrow, I feel negative emotion. I believe this occurs to pull me into action. To help in any way that I can.

Yes, thank our Limitless, Ever-Living, Filling-All-Space, Creator Source God for the paradigms of belief.

Beliefs may contribute to dis-ease

Holding shame, hurt, guilt, sadness, loss, grief, and other painful feelings (typically due to a certain belief) can cause unease in the body. And you can choose to change those beliefs. You can shift your thought patterns. You can find HOPE.

I want to enjoy a long and vibrant life–if nothing else, so I am active and healthy to do lots of fun things with my beautiful granddaughter when we get to spend time together. I bet you also want to feel freedom, joy, and vitality in your body, mind, and spirit. Please believe that you can!

I have shared with several people (via email, phone, online chats, and most recently at Awakening Wellness Center in St. Petersburg, Florida) who have really been at the “end of their rope.” In some cases, I’ve felt very strongly that they may not want to live another day. Through their angst, words, or tears, I felt their isolation and pain. I’ve felt their suffering. And I’ve yearned to help in some way, because We Are All Connected.

Introducing Lela

To this end, I would love to introduce my friend across the ocean, Lela Starseed.

You see, I know Lela’s story personally (as I edited her book of memoirs last year). And I watched several of Lela’s heartfelt videos, and connected with her via live online video conferencing. I could sense Lela’s complete and genuine love for people and desire to help others ease out of their painful experiences. She can help you put your “victimhood” behind you. She can assist you to find a better way to live! You can feel better! And you can thrive!

Lela Starseed has powerfully transformed her own life, from a painful past that caused her much suffering, to her current state of being a beautiful warm, intelligent light, with a sincere gift of healing to share with you! Lela is an empowered teacher for us all!

Lela is also offering my readers a very special offer, to work with her one-on-one via online video conferencing. Lela’s offer is amazing, as you’ll read next.

Blessings to you my friends, in ALL ways. – Sheila

From Lela:

I am delighted to offer a complimentary healing session to anyone who feels inspired to work with me.

For those of you who don’t know me, my name is Lela Starseed and I have had a very extraordinary and interesting life.

I spent many years experiencing a wide range of different illnesses and didn’t understand why I kept manifesting these illnesses and negative experiences.

After years of soul searching, healing and doing the inner work, I realized I could just eradicate my symptoms by my belief.

When we work together, we see what is needed to clear blocks that you may be experiencing in your life.  We may work with visualizations, meditation, and connect into your body and soul to see what is needed for healing.

Your soul is extremely wise! It is amazing how fast healing can take place! And your body always provides the answers.

It is a sacred time for just you and you alone. And you will be given the space to express whatever needs to be expressed.

Finally, it is always an absolute pleasure for me to witness the healing that can just happen. We have always had the power to heal ourselves, but sometimes we need to be guided back to our source of being.

UPDATE: June 18, 2016 Unfortunately, not long after I had published this post, a young coworker committed suicide. In an effort to offer some sense of understanding and compassion of her demise, I pray that anyone who is sad, lonely, depressed, in pain, or in any way feels they may be suicidal, please reach out for help. Tomorrow is always another day–and there is hope.

You can always call Silent Unity 24 hours a day, 7 days a week for prayer: 800-669-7729

And the suicide hotline is: 800-273-8255

Many blessings to you all, in ALL ways.

OM

A bit about me:

Check out this original song, It All Starts Within You. My husband wrote this song and it was performed and recorded in a Nashville, TN studio. You can download it (it’s Track 9) from this link: https://store.cdbaby.com/cd/chevyfordb2

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon.

Plus, the brand new book that’s been in the making for 13 years, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format).

Buy it here.

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Follow me on Twitter at: TakeOnYourself

Limiting Beliefs

What are your “limiting beliefs”?

Limiting beliefs are thoughts you keep thinking, that probably sneak out in your speaking, that are your perceived limitations, and they limit you from moving forward in at least one area of life.

Limited perspective

After a year of working on my limiting beliefs – the ones I had already admitted to myself – I happened to hear myself say, “Nobody listens to me” while discussing something with a coworker. Aha! I’d just caught a limiting belief!

Nobody listens to me
Nobody listens to me

It’s something I say over and over again, and think even more! It IS a limiting belief and it’s not true! People do listen to me, even if they don’t – in the moment – express the hearing of my message, or acknowledge that what I’m saying may prompt them to action, or change.

I stopped right in the middle of the conversation and explained to my coworker that I had to jot down my “aha moment.”

BEing still

Meditation has helped me become aware of my thoughts. Listening to myself, I can barely have a conversation anymore without really hearing what I say! Am I communicating my highest intention?

Aha moments are vitally important. I am always learning (from my own words) and love these type of profound teachable moments, which add serenity to my life!

I am an empath, so I must always be observant of my thoughts to know whether I’m taking on someone else’s stuff, or whether indeed, my thoughts and feelings are my own.

Now I know that anytime I start to go down the thought path of “nobody listens to me”, I can change it to “everybody listens to me”, or “everybody hears me”.

I’ll try that and see how other things change in my life. Now that’s a limiting belief worth sharing.

A bit about me:

Check out this original song, Didn’t I Tell You. My husband wrote this song and it was performed and recorded in a Nashville, TN studio. You can download it (it’s Track 6) from this link: https://store.cdbaby.com/cd/chevyfordb2

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon.

Plus, the brand new book that’s been in the making for 13 years, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format).

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Take It Upon Yourself is about accepting responsibility for yourself. Your health. Your dreams. Your talents. Your passions and desires. It’s about knowing who YOU are.

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Who are you? Have you asked yourself this question? Have you said, “Self, who am I”?

Take a look in the mirror – go ahead, take a good look. Do you know who you are? I realize I may err on being a bit annoying here. But I just wonder how many of us really examine ourselves – and ask ourselves this question. How well do we know our own unique person… mind, body, and soul (or spirit if you’re so inclined to believe in a spiritual self). Each of us have a unique set of fingerprints to remind us that we’re all different, particular, specific individuals.

I’ve been asking myself who I am since turning fifty (50) years of age. I am on a journey of self discovery. I can describe attributes and characteristics of myself, but who am I?

I have discovered that I am Energy, focused in a physical body. I am the sum total of my previous choices and experiences.

I’ve accomplished many things that I never thought I would. I’ve been given everything I have ever wanted. Along the way I did some things I would not do again – but I learned lessons from those experiences. I can’t explain why I did some of the things I did, but I think I had good reasons at the timeI think most people act on the best information they understand at the time.

So, I can’t condemn my former self since I acknowledge that my past choices taught me lessons and turned me into the person I accept as my self today. I believe love is a choice. Life, humility, gratitude, sanity – all are choices.

I have also come to an awareness that beliefs are just thoughts we keep thinking over and over – we always have the power within us to think different (better) thoughts and change ourselves if we don’t like what we see in the mirror. Me? I’m always changing!

So, who am I? LOL

I accept responsibility, fully, for who I am. And I deeply love and accept myself for who I am.

I am a mother, a new grandmother, and wife. I’m a highly responsible individual. I take it upon myself to feel better and make healthy choices everyday. I’m fabulous. 🙂 And I bet you’re fabulous too!

I am more than my mind, body, and soul / spirit. I am the culmination of everything I’ve experienced. And I stand on GREAT shoulders. Strong, loyal, God-loving, parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, and so on.

I have also had great mentors and teachers along the way too! Thankfully, God gave me one in particular who proved the value of higher education to me many years ago (because I couldn’t wait to finish high school and had never wanted to go to college). She proved me wrong. Obtaining two degrees kept me gainfully employed on my career path!

Some of my ancestors were persecuted for their beliefs, religion, and even their race, which knowing this – keeps me grounded and humble. I believe that also is the reason, or at least one reason, why I am an empath. I am strong. A survivor of hurt, pains, and traumas. A survivor of former marriages, of loves lost.

I look in the mirror and see a woman who’s changed – a lot!

I now eat foods that I didn’t eat five (5) years ago. I beat asthma. I’m a creative and technical career woman. I’ve co-written songs (with my talented soul-mate hubby), and tried all sorts of alternative health modalities that most of my family and friends haven’t yet explored. I’ve gained weight, but I’ve lost it too! I consider myself somewhat of a renaissance woman. Forging ahead and leading my daughter and granddaughter down new trails.

Taking it upon myself, I want something better for them, an easier path perhaps, than what I had. And I know a lot of people who feel the same way. They want to give their kids more than they had – not material things exactly – but knowledge!

Knowledge is power. An explored, informed, due diligence done, and educated response to life – wow! Just imagine the time I’ll save them, and maybe some pain too.

I heard it once said that a wise person learns not from experience, but from the experiences of others.

I’d like to go down that road less traveled. So, I invite you to… take it upon yourself.

Imagine who you want to be. Won’t you?