What to do after?
After a loved one passes away, transitions to the Grand Beyond, and has their Continuation Day?
How long do we mourn? What else is there to do?
How can grief be good? Who the hell came up with that old adage? Ugh!
I have cried and cried, but at some point I realized, I couldn’t change anything.
So, why all the tears? What good was that doing? Okay, I was processing my emotions and letting them out. That’s helpful perhaps. I was cleansing my body by the act of crying. But why was I crying?
I can’t change anything in the past.
I can’t spend anymore time with my parents (in the physical), or talk with them anymore.
So, because of that, because there is no more time to sit with my mom or dad, I feel guilty for not visiting them more, for not listening to them more, and for not taking more of their wise advice. I feel guilty for a lot of things.
However, as I allow those feelings to flow over and through my mind and body, washing my heart center, I realize those are simply my thoughts (my perceptions) of situations that occurred in the past. Past hurts were previously discussed (in many cases, YEARS ago) and lovingly forgiven, so there’s no practical need for my mind to rethink on those times now. I have learned that regret is simply an action of the mind. I don’t know if anyone really understands why the mind does that, but I think most people’s minds go through those gyrations.
As I sit NOW in this time and space, I feel utter and thorough GRATITUDE for ALL. Ahh, the Eternal Gratitude!
My beautiful parents gave me sooo many priceless gifts! They created ME! They gave me life, breath, and were my most important teachers! And as much as I love, speak and write about them, no amount of words can begin to describe the immense gratitude I FEEL. Ahh!!
I am so glad that both of my parents knew I loved them. Oh, how glad I am that we always told each other, “I love you” and “hugs & kisses” each time we talked!
We learn through the mistakes, miscommunications, fault-finding, pain, and more. And we learn humility. We learn grace. We learn that we can’t take anything with us when we transition from this life. And how many of us think that day will never come. But, it will.
We count it and think we can keep it. We say our watches are time keeping.
For some, our Continuation Day will come too soon. For nearly everyone, it will come unexpectedly.
In every moment, are we exposing our best selves to each other? Are we a shining light?
Stones to Diamonds
What’s the difference between the diamond and the rock?
And the cutting. Look how the skillfully cut diamond SHINES!!!
From stones to diamonds, pressure over time makes the difference. Do we buckle and cry under pressure, or grow stronger emotionally?
In loving memory
Let’s enjoy (IN joy) each other. Let’s enjoy each moment.
No moments are wasted. All bring value.
Let’s talk. Laugh. Video conference. Take the road trip. And fly to new lands!
It is easier, and feels better, to release the grief and celebrate in Gratitude. Eternally.
Hugs and kisses!!
UPDATE: Less than 24 hours after posting this, I received an email with words that eloquently summarize:
Ah, I love this BIG WINK from the Universe today, from Ram Giri Braun (my first guru teacher, whose teachings continue to live on… thank you. Namaste. OM) ❤️🦋🌀
We Are All Connected. OM
Many blessings to you in ALL ways.
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