Why can’t we ALL just get along? (Or, I love you, but – part 2)

Dysfunctional families

As I ponder why some siblings don’t get along or even become estranged from one another, or why mothers and daughters can disagree and seem at odds with one another (all while feeling love for each other), it occurs to me it’s because though each love one another, or say we do, we are half the other parents DNA. And in the case of the mother and daughter, if the mother doesn’t get along with the father of course the same would hold true she would disagree with the daughter who is half the father’s DNA, attitudes, and such. It’s only logical. Siblings aren’t just 50 percent their mother’s DNA and 50 percent their father’s DNA either—each could be 49 percent of one and 51 percent the other, or some other mathematical percentage.

Too many times we get in our Ego when we could take a breath and simply be grateful we have people who love us in our lives!

I love you, but

I love you, but I am my own unique essence.
I love you, but I have been programmed and conditioned, however slightly, different than you.
I love you, but the lens by which I view life differs from the filter you look through.
I love you, but I have different needs than you.
I love you, but I got different amounts of our parent’s DNA, flaws, foibles, etc even though we are siblings.
I love you, but we each experience life differently each moment, each day!

Healing

I hope this helps anyone estranged from a sibling or a parent and teen who are having trouble communicating. Life is short. Don’t lose sight of what’s important. Nothing matters except the people who love you and whom you love.

Next time your parent or family member challenges you, ask yourself, “Is my ego hurt, or my soul?” I bet it’s your ego. And actually a lot of psychological analysts think ego is an illusion! So, you’re letting an illusion separate you from someone who really loves you but simply sees the world differently than you!

Where’s the love?

Here was part 1 of this post: https://sheilamurrey.net/2021/07/10/i-love-you-but/

A bit about me, your Spiral Sister

I would love to speak at your bookstore, crystal shop, acupuncture / chiropractor office, or other holistic / natural fair or festival. I support healthy lifestyle businesses. For information on both of my books, visit my Amazon author’s page — Click here.

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon. 

Plus, my holistic health book that details how I naturally reversed asthma, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is available now. Buy it here

Be the best version of who you want to be

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Even the death that most fear has a purpose

Even death that most are frightened of has a purpose.

Life from the Dead – sign in a park where tree died

Nature has much to teach us. Are we observing?

And while I was watching the sunrise, this man was carving “I Love … ” in the sand. Synchronistically, my cousin Josh had just carved the same sentence in the sand for his beautiful wife, Staci (the day before, on a different beach). I found that intriguing.

Unknown man carving out “I love (somebody’s name)” in the sand on the beach in Daytona Beach, FL

How many people are watching you? I bet this unknown man didn’t think many were watching him carve someone’s name into the sand of the beach that early in the morning on July 6th, 2022.

I wonder how many people watched my cousin Josh, carve Staci’s name in the sands of Myrtle Beach, SC — I love that she has this to remember of him (and his love for her).

Josh wrote, “I love Staci” and even added the year, 2022 – Myrtle Beach, SC

Such as the waves that wash away the words carved into the sand, our lives slip away one day at a time. https://sheilamurrey.net/2022/07/23/grief-ebb-and-flow-when-loved-ones-pass-away/

If you find it in your heart to help Josh’s wife and children, there is a GoFundMe account, as well as other immediate methods of sending support:

https://www.gofundme.com/f/staci-wilson-pay-for-medical-bills-and-food?qid=ab004096d70498caa180d80df81c851c

As is my daily Gratitude F-L-O-W practice that I share in Integrated Spiral sessions, I blow a kiss to Joshua (whom I believe is also in the Grand Beyond). Previous post: https://sheilamurrey.net/2022/07/13/observing-grief-comes-in-waves/

Tribute post in Joshua’s memory: https://sheilamurrey.net/2022/07/17/in-memory-of-my-younger-tender-hearted-first-cousin-joshua-wilson/

A bit about me, your Spiral Sister

Fractal of Omniscience. “Spiral Sister”Observer & Perceiver of Energy & Wisdom from Nature. Empath|Author|Connector|Speaker|Singer. ❤️🦋🌀〰️🔥🙏☯️

I would love to speak at your bookstore, crystal shop, acupuncture / chiropractor office, natural health foods store, art fair, music or yoga festival. I support healthy lifestyle businesses. I’m an Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon. Visit my author’s page here. 

Plus, I documented how I naturally reversed 30+ years of chronic asthma in my holistic health book, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, that’s available on Barnes and Noble: here

Be the best version of who you want to be. As it really does affect us ALL. We Are All Connected.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Grief: Ebb and flow (when loved ones pass away)

Grief can be so perplexing… for US, yes, we’re sad. It’s tragic. Often inexplicable. The loss. The gap we feel between when they were here in the physical with us. Then, we can reach for this thought, this sense, that our loved one is in a better place.

But believing (or knowing) is academic and doesn’t necessarily help us change our FEELINGS.

During bewildering times, our feelings can feel:

  • Mysterious
  • In a fog
  • Off putting
  • In a daze
  • Off kilter
  • Or like we’re off balance

It can feel like TIME has sped up or slowed way, way down.

I’ve had to sit with my emotions, in bewilderment, anger, frustration, and confusion during the last couple of weeks in regard to “the letting go” of my first cousin, but also due to the circumstances surrounding his murder. And I don’t want to sit in that upset.

Justice for Josh

I’ve consciously been working on ways to move through these feelings.

I’ve chosen to work through my grief and look INSIDE of myself as to what makes me put such an emphasis upon “justice.”

Again, as I’ve learned earlier this year:

Feel it. Cry. Let the Energy in motion (emotion) move THROUGH you (not get stuck).

You are loved. So loved. As I’ve said before, we really probably never know how much we’re loved (because most of us don’t love ourselves). But because we are loved, I believe blessings can come INTO us from above, below, beside, outside, and inside. 

I believe and sense that collective hearts are with us.

Any perceived loss of life, feels like loss for ALL of us, as I ponder the quote from my dear, minister uncle, here.

Feeling it, the sadness of separation

When a loved one transitions, it is probably an exhilarating and exuberant ride for them into the Grand glorious Beyond, but for US… UGH! It can cause us to feel BIG sadness, and go through stages of grief.

I’m no different than you. I am human and feel all the same emotions, especially when I’m under stress or experiencing turbulent times. I have learned tips and tricks for easing negative emotions, but these are all practices and none bypass or “stuff” the emotions. I believe feeling the need for justice is part of the human experience.

Previous post: https://sheilamurrey.net/2022/07/17/in-memory-of-my-younger-tender-hearted-first-cousin-joshua-wilson/

Omniscience God sees you

Omniscience, an Ever-Living, Ever-Conscious, Ever-Expanding, Ever-Pulsing, Ever-BEing… Energy… Nothing (no thing) happens outside of Omniscience. Therefore, WE are ALL enveloped by Omniscience. And WE are ALL so LOVED!!

We are sorry for your pain.

We are with you in spirit.

There is Limitless, Infinite Love available for you.

You are never really ever alone.

In ALL directions, Above, and Below, as in Heaven, grounded on Earth, WE are there.

Connected

We Are ALL Connected. Yes! We Are All Connected. That was a phrase I heard as a deep male voice in the middle of the night years ago that started my spiritual journey beyond religion.

Everything Resolves to Gratitude.

❤️🦋🌀〰️🎼☯️🙏☮️😘

A bit about me, your Spiral Sister

Fractal of Omniscience. “Spiral Sister”Observer & Perceiver of Energy & Wisdom from Nature. Empath|Author|Connector|Speaker|Singer. ❤️🦋🌀〰️🔥🙏☯️

I would love to speak at your bookstore, crystal shop, acupuncture / chiropractor office, natural health foods store, art fair, music or yoga festival. I support healthy lifestyle businesses. I’m an Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon. Visit my author’s page here. 

Plus, I documented how I naturally reversed 30+ years of chronic asthma in my holistic health book, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, that’s available on Barnes and Noble: here

Be the best version of who you want to be. As it really does affect us ALL. We Are All Connected.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/takeonyourself/

My emotions are not your responsibility

You say you love me but hardly have 5 minutes for me after driving 1000 miles for all of us to be together. ((UPDATE: I got my 5 minutes!!! And yes, no drama, no “stuffing” of emotions, and no MANIPULATION! I simply worked through my emotions, wrote this article—turning my “pain” into Art—and then breathed and “Allowed” ALL to simply, BE. And it worked out even better than I could have asked for, with MORE time and much more hugs and happy faces all around.))

Or maybe it’s more about your friends?

And that’s okay. As I know friends are family who we have chosen.

But why did you feel the need to point out the things I did that didn’t suit you?

I didn’t hear something you said, I moved towels in the bag you had expertly folded (which I apologized for), while trying to find something for someone else (being helpful) in the bag? Later, you said you spent time putting the towels in the bag in an orderly fashion, so I knew my action triggered you. Again, I am sorry I didn’t consider that.

You poke the bear. Nit-picking at me. Not appreciating me. I have improved and can “take” a lot, but eventually I break too. We are both “sensitive.”

Don’t you know your words matter to me?

Sunrise. Daytona Beach Shores

You have made comments to me which seem to be “put downs.” Maybe unintentionally.

I don’t think you have complimented me in any way. I don’t need you to lavish me with compliments (I’m not a narcissist). But once in a while it is nice to be appreciated. ((UPDATE: Thank you for telling me “Thank you so much” as we hugged goodbye. I love you too!!))

I can’t seem to be trusted or able to do anything right.

Can you give me credit for doing the best that I can?

I had been working my processes and letting the comments pass over me without tears, until the last one (yesterday). That I should have kept my mouth shut. It triggered me. It embarrassed me (though it shouldn’t have, as we don’t need to people-please). I don’t think you meant to be hurtful, but it sounded quite rude to me. So, I wanted to leave (the outing) and not return.

It seems your friends matter more to you, than me. And I love that you love your friends. But I would also like to matter. Otherwise, I don’t feel wanted.

I may be gone before your friends are (though I think we all know now, life is short).

I spent a fortune to come see you, but I don’t know if you know that.

And supposedly you love me more.

I haven’t felt very respected or wanted. (Again because we have not spent even 5 uninterrupted minutes together in 5 days, and when I did come to sit and talk with you at the beach, you seemed to need to relax and not talk). And that’s okay. I didn’t want to force anything.

But I would have simply loved to have had a talk (without being made to feel I couldn’t say or do something right).

I guess this is why people spend more time at work.

Because we aren’t celebrated when we do take time to be with family.

Why is it the ones we love and the ones who say they love us, act unkind when (they say) kindness is important to them?

No wonder people spend more time at work.

They want to go where they are celebrated, not tolerated.

I did my EFT Tapping and realized why I got upset (finally, after about the 5th time something you said felt disrespectful), to become aware of these things.

I don’t expect you’ll read this. That’s not the point anyway.

The point is, my emotions are not your responsibility.

Though I am sad, I will mind my Energy and make different decisions.

I am glad you are your own person. And it isn’t my Ego that is hurt. I know I am not perfect, nor have I ever needed to be perfect. And I don’t expect you to be perfect either.

I will extend you that kindness.

I am still learning. Working my processes. Thank you for giving me more to chew on. Heal more layers. I love you!

Book Review: Dancing with The Field: Bringing Joy, Passion and Play into Everyday Life

Book Review: Dancing with The Field: Bringing Joy, Passion and Play into Everyday Life

An energetic, illuminating, and enlightening read.

Kris Kelkar’s book, Dancing with The Field: Bringing Joy, Passion and Play into Everyday Life, was a JOY to read! I sped through this book within a month (quite unusual for me)! It just sucked me IN! (Or perhaps, I sucked this book IN because of my extreme interest in the subject and eagerness to PULL this knowledge into ME! Haha!)

“We never see anything in its totality because everything is made up of layer upon layer of vibration that is constantly changing and exchanging information with the field. Our thinking minds create separation in an effort to understand, but that separation stops us from seeing the whole-that everything is connected to the one vibratory source, which is the Field. The Field does not only exist around us, but it also exists in us, through us, and as us.” Kris Kelkar, author Dancing with The Field: Bringing Joy, Passion and Play into Everyday Life

Interconnections and Vibrations

Throughout Dancing with The Field, Kris offers us deeply engaging, easy-to-follow, information on the Science of vibrational interconnections and how The Field underpins EVERYTHING!

As an Observer of Nature, I teach others how to shift our eyes to see things differently, so we might view multiple sides of a story or the various aspects of ANYTHING. And Kris adds a beautiful explanation, in the quote I share above, for why I do what I do! Reading that one page helped crystalize (for me) what I’ve been yearning to explain, simply.

Waves of Energy

Kris writes about the waves of Energy, yes. And of magic, mystery, and coherence. He dives into Spirituality and metaphysical teachings, as he explains frameworks. And touches on Tibetan Buddhism too!

Kris and I are on the same wavelength it seems. Similar to things I teach, Kris sees spiritual practices as training wheels too, like guidance or guard rails to living life. But, not so necessarily needed that we have become enmeshed with these particular dogmas such that they become an end to our means–in other words, we don’t have to worship the framework! (Even Jesus was teaching us a WAY we could live, not that we were supposed to WORSHIP Him!)

As well, and to build on this for a moment, we can take the profound words of Alan Watts, Terence McKenna, John Lennon, George Harrison, and Russell Brand and codify them into a religion (Oh, wait! “New Age” probably has already done that! LOL), but we don’t have to do that, nor do I think any of them would want us to do that! I know (from speaking with him) Neale Donald Walsch doesn’t want us to worship him! (Wink to Neale!) Of course, bowing is okay and gently honoring and humbling. To BOTH parties! As each of us are fractals of Omniscience. OMG I’m on a roll! ROFL!

Okay, Sheila. Calm down. Ha! Breathe. Ground. Center. OM

Kris does emphasize the value and healing of GROUP PRAYER though, as that creates coherence in the WAVE! And I believe that too, especially after experiencing the power I felt during a recent group OM chant, led by Dr. Shamini Jain! There were about 1000 people in the room and as am empath, I could FEEL the resonance and palpable Energy during that blissful coherent chant! I could FEEL the resonance in my soul as the blood in my body produced GodBumps!!!

I’ve been teaching certain classes and practices, methods and processes within my larger Integrated Spiral™ DE-Program (link here; and example of the process here) for over a year. But Kris summed it all up so nicely in this quote:

“We never see anything in its totality because everything is made up of layer upon layer of vibration that is constantly changing and exchanging information with the field. Our thinking minds create separation in an effort to understand, but that separation stops us from seeing the whole-that everything is connected to the one vibratory source, which is the Field. The Field does not only exist around us, but it also exists in us, through us, and as us.”

Kris Kelkar, author Dancing with The Field: Bringing Joy, Passion and Play into Everyday Life

Favorite chapters

My favorite chapters, which I plan to read again and again, are:

  • Our Bodies are Doorways to the Field
  • Balanced, Attuned, and Aligned (as I’ve been doing the balancing and integrating, but with less focus on tuning. And why we read books like this–to remind us!)
  • The Field in Relationship (as my husband and I practice this a LOT!)
  • The Nutrient of Attention (as I struggle from having suffered “low self esteem” when I was young, to now, a few calling ME (ha!) “arrogant”!)
  • Breathing in The Field
  • Ecstatic Breathing
  • Conscious Slow Breathing
  • Breathing Bypasses Programming

Notice all the chapters having to do with BREATHING are favorites.

Why?

Ready?

Because I’m a BREATHER! Haha!

Sorry, sorry… but that’s a twist on a favorite movie line of mine from Something about Mary, “We got a bleeder!” – and if you haven’t seen it or don’t remember, here’s a clip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IBwTeyZDRos

In summary

I’ve been a student of Nassim Haramein for several years, so I “get” what The Field is (and is no doubt why I was drawn to buy this book). BUT, I had not read any other book where someone from Kris’ background and education could explain certain things in a language that more matched my own, without all the scientific terms. (I do consider myself a scientist, but only in the natural sense of the word, as I observe, measure, research, test/experiment, and document.)

I love that Kris has also learned from the work of Dr. Joe Dispenza. Love Dr. Joe! Now, I’m wondering if I’ll bump into Kris at any event with Wim Hof, Dr. Bruce Lipton, or Gregg Braden?!? Ha! I bet we’ll meet one day!

For me, after finishing this book yesterday… and once again I resoundingly state that, Everything Resolves to Gratitude.

Pick up a copy

Buy Dancing with The Field: Bringing Joy, Passion and Play into Everyday Life here. It is available as a paperback and on Kindle (so you can read it on your smartphone like I did).

A bit about me, your Spiral Sister

Fractal of Omniscience. “Spiral Sister”🌀Observer & Perceiver of Energy & Wisdom from Nature. Empath|Author|Connector|Speaker|Singer.❤️🦋🌀🎼〰️🙏🔥☯️

I would love to speak at your bookstore, crystal shop, acupuncture / chiropractor office, natural health foods store, art fair, music or yoga festival. I support healthy lifestyle businesses. I’m an Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon. Visit my author’s page here. 

Plus, I documented how I naturally reversed 30+ years of chronic asthma in my holistic health book, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, that’s available on Barnes and Noble: here

Be the best version of who you want to be. As it really does affect us ALL. We Are All Connected.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/takeonyourself/

Book Review: New Perspectives, Past Lives

Book Review: New Perspectives, Past Lives

A beautiful soul-reaching, inspiring, reverent, vulnerable, and enlightening read!

Book Review (showing Book Cover): New Perspectives, Past Lives

Shari Hinkle’s book, New Perspectives, Past Lives is a book that I spent quite a while reading as it touched me deeply. Knowing Shari personally, having traveled with her (and a group) to Ireland, England, and Scotland in the summer of 2019 helped too, as I could hear her voice in my head as I read, and put a frame around some things she’s told me.

Meet Shari

Massage therapist, Pilates instructor, and new author, Shari Hinkle, Connects with me on so many levels! And we can talk for hours, even while she’s massaging this body that I inhabit! LOL (then again, I am always intrigued and asking questions of most of my massage therapist (LMT) friends! Go figure!)

Shari and I seek and observe (and then share) many of the synchronicities that we each experience. And we both love talking about anything that’s vibrational in nature, Energy Medicine, personal responsibility and choices, as well as, how We Are All Connected (and interconnections that are ALL around us)!

After having many profound past life regression sessions with Patricia McGivern and writing this book, Shari also offers past life regression sessions to clients. And if you’re interested, continue reading and consider connecting with Shari for your own session.

Interconnections and Vibrations

Throughout New Perspectives, Past Lives, Shari offers us more about how everything is interconnected through Vibration. She explains why we use phrases like, “feeling blue,” “out of the blue,” and “green with envy.” (Remember, color is a vibration).

Shari also explores how our soul can draw us to a physical place and location, such as how we were drawn to the Sacred Sites of visit Ireland, England, and Scotland. She calls this kind of draw an “energy of connectedness.”

Layers of Energy

Shari writes about the layers of Energy and lessons she learned from re-experiencing her past lives through her hypnosis past life regressions sessions with Patricia McGivern.

Shari was re-introduced to characters as she made her way through a series of past life regressions with Patricia, and some of those persons (or personages) were people she’s met in THIS life! Baffling and thrilling, right? I won’t spoil it for you, but when you read it, look closely at the character, Gilda.

In one past life, Shari learned that “There is Power in the Pause.” (capitals mine) I meditated on that sentence for some time. (And as you may remember I love the book, Power over Force, and as a writer the word Power tends to always leap off a page!)

I found that Shari’s way of explaining bodily sensations were unique in this book, and I believe that’s because of the training in massage and Pilates she’s had. She puts a special spin on things that I’ve felt but had a hard time describing! Here’s one quick example,

The “imprint” of energy began to magnify up to my brow bone and then around my head.”

From New Perspectives, Past Lives by Shari Hinkle

Loving reminders

In New Perspectives, Past Lives, Shari touched on something one of my grandfathers always used to say, “Stop and smell the flowers.” Statements such as these, as I read them, make me feel as though my family on the other side of The Veil are sitting beside me! Ah! Love it.

Some layers of stuck energy actually hinder us from living up to our highest potential, or keep us from “shining bring” as Shari says. I know after our trip to the Sacred Sites on our Sacred Celtic Journey in July 2019, I began writing emails–even business emails–starting with the words, “Hello bright shining ones.” I had never done that before!

If you think re-living a past life experience might be painful, know that a hypnotherapist can bring you back to reality very quickly. And that immediately, or within some short time period following the session, you’ll probably feel relief (either physical, mental, or emotional) from having gone through the process and released something that had been bound in that former life. That’s certainly been my experience, as well as gain broader, deeper, and a much more intimately personal understanding of spirit, Omniscience God, sense of Compassion for others, and ALL.

In summary

New Perspectives, Past Lives is soul-expanding, and mesmerizing. It is relevant (especially if you have unexplained body pain), enlightening, and curious–in the mystical way.

For me, the new perspective I gained confirmed once again that, Everything Resolves to Gratitude.

Pick up a copy

Buy New Perspectives, Past Lives here. It is available as a paperback and on Kindle (so you can read it on your smartphone like I did).

Connect with Shari Hinkle at: http://newperspectivesmassage.com/about

A bit about me, your Spiral Sister

Fractal of Omniscience. “Spiral Sister”🌀Observer & Perceiver of Energy & Wisdom from Nature. Empath|Author|Connector|Speaker|Singer.❤️🦋🌀🎼〰️🙏🔥☯️

I would love to speak at your bookstore, crystal shop, acupuncture / chiropractor office, natural health foods store, art fair, music or yoga festival. I support healthy lifestyle businesses. I’m an Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon. Visit my author’s page here. 

Plus, I documented how I naturally reversed 30+ years of chronic asthma in my holistic health book, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, that’s available on Barnes and Noble: here

Be the best version of who you want to be. As it really does affect us ALL. We Are All Connected.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/takeonyourself/

What Love, Like, and Westworld have in common

I awoke from a dream.

My mother and I had been visiting. I had been talking with her and fitting her with a dress for some special occasion. My daughter/granddaughter was asleep in the next room.

At some point my mother’s acute hearing turned to the bedroom and she quickly made her way to the door, opened it, and caught my daughter/granddaughter quietly playing on the floor, next to the nightlight.

My daughter ran across the bed, to the adjacent bathroom, all the while screaming at the top of her lungs because mom was going to whip her.

From my now vantage point, it was terrorizing! I wanted to intervene, but I was frozen in stillness.

After I woke up, I had to analyze the dream, and write it down because in an instant I became the clockmaker. The clockmaker god of my own Westworld.

We can love someone, yet not like them.

We can love someone and not always like them. ❤️🦋🌀〰️

Why?

How is that possible?

Love is always unconditional if it’s truly love.

Liking someone, it seems to follow, is about Control.

In the case of my daughter, she had not went to sleep when my mother put her to bed. She disobeyed.

Mom’s need to control her led to a whipping which meant none of us would fall asleep naturally happy or at ease.

All my daughter had wanted was to listen to mom and I talk, and would have fallen asleep on the floor, not really hurting anything. However, my mom had a different expectation.

Thus, when my daughter didn’t adhere to my mother’s expectation, mom viewed it as disobedience and the thrashing ensued. Oh, my poor daughter! “Mom don’t”—I wanted to yell.

In the series, Westworld, Creator god makes each person with a bit of him in them, or in his image.

How are we making ourselves, and our children?

Patting myself on the back

My biggest takeaway from 2021, was to give myself a physical pat on the back for accomplishing sooo much—though I had multiple obstacles and challenges.

Think patting yourself on the back for your accomplishments is bad? That could be a limiting belief.

If you don’t pat yourself on the back, it’s doubtful that anyone else will.

Patting yourself on the back is NOT arrogant or egotistical! You work hard. You are studious. Resilient. And you’re flexible. Adaptable. Look yourself in the eyes (in a mirror) and SMILE!

My husband has this saying, “He who tooteth not his own horn, the same shall not be tooted”! Haha! What do you think of that?

Plan for success

I keep a variety of notes around me, from little sticky notes, to journals, to poster drawings of my spiral method, to notes and research on my laptop and in my iPhone.

“The spiral of energy is akin to layers of an onion. And each layer of that onion, using reductionist thinking, could be sold as truth—as the only part of the onion that exists.”
Sheila “Spiral Sister” Murrey

When inspiration comes, I jot it down and sometimes I post these on Facebook or Instagram. The ones that really resonate with me, I put on a shirt, mug, or such:

See all designs at: https://www.teepublic.com/user/takeituponyourself?utm_source=designer&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=GcgLVtV76Y8
The Presence of God is EVERYWHERE ❤️🦋🌀〰️
Most people have had God’s unconditional love, conditioned right out of them.

Create success

To create my success, I set my sights on accomplishing the my top 5 goals by believing in myself, my brain and body, and in my voice. My daily practices include:

  • Gratitude Flow (IntegratedSpiral.com)
  • Meditation
  • Singing (to feel good)
  • Moving (to burn cortisol), Qigong / Yoga, Dancing
  • Acupressure
  • Doing Energy work: EFT Tapping, Eden Method, etc.
  • Writing

To elaborate

Dancing adds JOY into each day and helps me burn calories.

My Integrated Spiral™ Gratitude F-L-O-W keeps me grounded and in touch with my ancestors and relations in the Grand Beyond. Yes, We Are All Connected. 💙🦋🌀〰️

Meeting with Clubhouse groups (keeps my mindset UP).

Staying in touch with family and friends keeps me accountable (and strengthens my integrity.

Tracking my steps, weighing in, and measuring my body weekly, helps me stay focused on my health.

Posting something everyday on social media builds my following. I love sharing my perspective on reality in hopes that it uplifts others (and their businesses), though I acknowledge “shadow” too, because I believe in yin and yang, and balance. ☯️

With a little help from my friends

Take It Upon Yourself and strengthen the unseen “fabric” that connects us ALL.

I’ve been thrilled to sit in circle with Patti Stevens. And be a part of her Women’s Soul Journey group on Facebook. I met Patti on a yoga cruise in January of 2020, and had an instant soul Connection with her.

Shout out to Robin Quinn Keehn!

Robin runs her own business called, Quitting Culture and has been one of my cheerleaders throughout 2020 and 2021. She’s super confident and full of integrity! I highly recommend her if you’re just starting out in business.

As well, Marilen Crump runs the Phenomenal Female Business Network and has been running business masterminds groups for women for many years. I’m in a couple of her groups and I have actually partnered with fantastic entrepreneurs via these groups! My tip: When networking online (especially in Facebook groups), simply be your helpful self and you’ll attract your authentic tribe who wants to work with you. ❤️😉

Queen Kimmie Tyson is another one of my cheerleaders who runs a thriving business and podcast with her musical husband, Shawn7. Queen Kimmie got me into Clubhouse and I have made incredible friends with several through sharing unscripted there from the depths of my soul. Connect with me there by searching my name or “Spiral Sister” to join our calls.

I’m telling you, it’s so encouraging and motivating to have a group of fantastic business mentors on your side.

My TOP 5 goals for 2021 were:

  1. Integration of my Spirit and Soul into ALL I am and do DAILY, to help me stay balanced and Connected
  2. Take Joy in running Integrated Spiral (a transformational, small group, self-coaching DE-program)
  3. Close open loops within the week and celebrate to reinforce that habit
  4. Market our music while promoting others (as I have been doing on N1M)
  5. Continue writing (metaphysical novel in progress), created a course on Communing with TREES, blogging, creating t-shirt designs and more, and generating ideas for a Vlog or podcast

Forward progress is continuing.

Many blessings to you in ALL ways. ❤️🦋🌀🎼☯️🙏☮️

A bit about me, your Spiral Sister

I would love to speak at your bookstore, crystal shop, acupuncture / chiropractor office, or other holistic / natural fair or festival. I support healthy lifestyle businesses. For information on both of my books, visit my Amazon author’s page — Click here.

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon. 

Plus, my holistic health book that details how I naturally reversed asthma, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is available now. Buy it here

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The house that Sheila built

House of lives

The house that Sheila built is not a house in the physical sense, but a house of Connected Persons. Persons who are Connected to me spiritually and soulfully. These are people who are of the utmost importance to me. The VIPs of my life!

Perhaps this is a sort of moral inventory I am making here, but as a store has inventory, my “house” is made up of all the dear people I have had the immense pleasure to know.

As an only child, I am humbled and surprised at the number of incredible people who have and continue to walk the road of life with me. Hmm, what a thought!

Husband

I’ve heard it said that as we age, friendship with our spouse, or significant other, is more important than physical attraction (or sex). I agree.

If you are lucky enough to meet and marry your soulmate, then there’s that. And it’s really beautiful if you can bring as much happiness to this person as you do for yourself.

My husband, Richard, is truly my soulmate and “love of my life.” ❤️🙏😘

My first two marriages ended badly, and while I learned life lessons from both relationships, I regret the hurt and pain. I can’t turn back time. And for my part, and yes, each person owns some of the responsibility of failing in those situations (no one is really better than another when it comes right down to it), but for some, that takes years to see. Thus, I am sorry. I thought I did my best, but we can’t see what we can’t SEE.

Children and grandchildren

It takes children to make grandchildren. Thus, it seems I should speak of my own children next, but no. Reason being, I wasn’t as mindful or “aware” of the profound soul Connection I had to my children when they were young.

So, let me tell you about the deep soul Connection I have with my eldest granddaughter, Jennifer Ann. My relationship with her best represents how nuanced and intricately interlaced ALL of our Connections are (though for the most part, unacknowledged).

My story with Jennifer goes back 10 years…

I was working in Boca Raton, Florida. I still remember taking my cell phone outside and walking up and down the hall while breathing with my daughter while she was in labor with Jennifer. I missed Jennifer’s actual birth, but treasure my memories of helping my daughter with her childbirth breathwork (eventually, Jennifer had to be born via C-section).

Anyway, as soon as I could, I took a few days off and flew to Connecticut, so I could comfort my daughter and meet my new granddaughter. Oh, she was an indescribable JOY to hold!

Throughout my visit, I observed (and felt) the spiritual Connection between Jennifer and myself. I explained the experience in my book as follows:

When I held Jennifer, I felt an immense resonance – truly representative of “Unconditional Love and LIMITLESS Source Energy.”

I spoke these words to Jennifer, “I know who you are. You are pure positive Source Energy.” At the precise moment the word “energy” left my lips, Jennifer whipped her head around – so much so that it surprised me – and looked me straight in the eye! The look she gave me as our eyes met seemed to ask, “How did you know”?

Excerpt from:
Murrey, Sheila. “Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life!” Apple Books.
This material may be protected by copyright.

Years later, when my twin granddaughters were born, I flew to New Hampshire, but this trip north challenged me to drive in the snow and ice over an hour from the airport to the hospital. I’d do it all over again though, as to stay in the hospital with my daughter and her girls the first 3 days of their lives was a priceless experience!

While holding my twin granddaughters those first days, I felt the nearly indescribable love and soul Connection with each of them that I’d felt (and continue to feel), with Jennifer.

At the end of one of my visits, I had instinctively swirled my fingers towards both girls in an energetic spiral manner, and both Jaclyn and Jewel had loved it. (Later I realized my dad had done this, so my spinning my index finger in circles wasn’t “instinct,” it was learned and fixed in my subconscious!)

On a subsequent visit, one of the twins, Jewel, had began twisting and twirling a lock of her hair. At that moment, however subconsciously, I believe Integrated Spiral was birthed.

I didn’t acknowledge or realize my previous spiral energy actions had made any influence on the girls until Jewel began twirling her hair.

I thought about the times when my two children were babies and my dad had swirled his finger towards their bellies and said, “bory bory” (we still don’t know why or what it means), and they would gleefully coo! Children are sooo easily mesmerized!

Coming back around full circle to my children, I love my daughter and son dearly. I cannot imagine who I’d be, or even if I would still be alive at this point, had they not come into my life when they did. I grew up in multitudinous ways with them. ❤️

Extended family

We don’t pick these folks, but love them or not, they can teach you invaluable life lessons if you are open to receive. So, judge not.

We all seem to switch places as the years go on, and you really don’t know who will come through for you when you least expect it and need them most.

Mentors

I’ve written a previous blog (here), some years ago about the exquisite mentors I have had the privilege to know, work for, and befriend. I do not believe I could have progressed in my life and career without their brilliant advice, support, and friendship.

Everyone should have a mentor and in turn, mentor someone. It is a rich relationship, that reaps lifelong benefits, well beyond money. A mentor can bring balance and stability, by bringing new awareness and offering you different perspectives.

Often the old saying is true, it’s not what you know, it’s who you know.

Friends

When I was young, I always befriended those who were not immediately or easily acknowledged, accepted or liked by others.

I have always stood up for the underdog. And I have been bullied for it.

When the first black family moved to our town, I befriended the children. They were sooo friendly and we got along famously! I didn’t see color or ever think to treat anyone any differently because of their skin tone, or any different feature, but other kids did and I was curious as to why that was the case.

I went home and mentioned to my folks how much I enjoyed my new friends company (and how not many others seemed to) and my mom was fine with me inviting them over. But my dad cautioned me saying, “you can be friends, but nothing more.” Later, my mom clarified that dad would never want me to date anyone of a different race or nationality.

It was the first I knew of racism, and it really perplexed and bewildered me! I felt the emotional pain of conflicting thoughts.

Thankfully, dad changed (or softened) many of his views before he left this earth, but the memory of that emotional hurt still lingers. My mom was much more open to discussing race with me because of our Cherokee Native American ancestry. (I am of mixed ethnicity.)

Though my complexion is light, I consider ALL my brothers and sisters. It is also why I wrote this:

“Dancing with the Energy,

In the pinpoint center of the spiral,

She came alone with no siblings.

But as she unwound herself, the spiral emerged.

Then, she harmonized with many, and THEY became her siblings.” ❤️🦋🌀

To this day, I hold my true friends near and dear to my heart. I love that my circle of friends include beautiful hearts and souls of every race, creed, religion, sexual orientation, political affiliation, etc.

Sheila’s poem, “Dancing with the Energy” – screen capture from her Clubhouse bio.

I choose friends based on their heart, and the soul Connection I feel when I am with them (even if only by voice).

Yes, interestingly, some of my dearest friends I haven’t even met in person. We’ve only met by phone on Clubhouse or on Zoom. Soul Connections do not rely on the physical. Isn’t that intriguing?

Colleagues

After having spent 30 plus years in Information Technology, I have gotten to know and spent many days, weeks, months, and years working with many excellent colleagues. And I do mean, incredible people. I am thrilled to have formed lasting friendships with many.

Several former colleagues continue to Connect with me (even if initiated for a reference—but always to chat about a bit more than superficial things). I am always happy to hear from them. Giving out professional references is one way I can “give back” in honor of the help and advice my mentors always graciously gave me.

In particular, I want to thank the many “scary smart” folks I had the pleasure of getting to know, and working with at:

  • The Veterans Administration on the VETSNET team (4 years, 4 months) of employees and contractors from Liberty, Booz Allen Hamilton, Halfaker, and others, while employed by Advanced Systems Design (ASD).
  • Emerson Process Management (3 years)
  • Jabil Circuit
  • AT&T Mobility
  • Walt Disney World, Parks & Resorts Operations
  • Campus Management
  • Florida Virtual School
  • US Air Force Space Wing (2)
  • NASA, Space Gateway Support, and InDyne Inc. at Kennedy Space Center (5)
  • Lone Star College
  • OnSource Consulting, Inc.
  • Ellucian (4)
  • Embry-Riddle Aeronautical University (10)

Acquaintances

Smile. Be nice or at least kind to everyone you meet. You really never know when or where people will pop back into your life.

I have had some people show back up in my life (from seemingly unimportant encounters), that have utterly astonished me.

Some individuals have shown up again in my life “out of the blue” providing me evidence that metaphysical or supernatural powers are indeed at work—often. There’s simply been too many bizarre and uncanny encounters occur (incredibly timed) for me to simply chalk these kinds of experiences up as “coincidences.”

In closing

I believe (because I’ve witnessed it), that everyone moves along at differing rates of speed. And thinking that thought helps me when I don’t understand another’s perspective. As well, my mantra of Everything Resolves to Gratitude helps me a lot too!

I choose to hang with uplifting souls to help mySelf! It simply FEELS great! ❤️🦋🌀〰️

The more things change, the more they seem to circle back (and stay the same).

So, I would like to offer the main intention I bring into each relationship, and yes, at the start of each day and in any difficult moment:

To offer a way to open your mind to receive the Connected nature of it ALL.

Excerpt from:
Murrey, Sheila. “Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life!” Apple Books.
This material may be protected by copyright.

A bit about me, your Spiral Sister

I would love to speak at your bookstore, crystal shop, acupuncture / chiropractor office, or other holistic / natural fair or festival. I support healthy lifestyle businesses. For information on both of my books, visit my Amazon author’s page — Click here.

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon. 

Plus, my holistic health book that details how I naturally reversed asthma, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is available now. Buy it here

Be the best version of who you want to be

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Follow me on Twitter at: TakeOnYourself