So many times I see people comment on Facebook or other social media, “I’m sorry for your loss” after someone dies. That phrase has always rung hollow to me. I am sure many people just don’t know what to say, and want to express their condolences. But it’s not really true. It would be more true to say, I’m sorry for the grief you’re experiencing (or will experience). I’m sorry that you may experience loneliness, sadness, emptiness, or such. I’m sorry that we always experience the loss of the routine we had with the person (or the pet).
Think of it this way, when your dog dies, you’ll have those periods of time throughout your days when you used to play with them, walk them, feed them, etc. and after they are gone, you suddenly find yourself trying to fill that space of time! That’s what loss feels like. And sometimes we experience emotional turmoil too, like mad that the person left us, and then we feel guilty for feeling that way! There’s such a range of emotions that a person can feel after someone “crosses over” to the Other Side.
Thus, maybe it would be more honest for me to say, “I’m not as sorry for your loss as I am sorry for the many phases of grief you will experience. And I hope you will reach out to me, even if you just want someone to lend an ear and keep your thoughts confidential.”
A fellow blogger and journalist, John Neff, wrote an exquisite poem that I resonated deeply within me. Actually, John has written several poems I love. Here’s the link to the first I found beautiful: https://therealistjuggernaut.com/2024/07/01/the-hearts-lament/ And then the second: https://therealistjuggernaut.com/2024/07/18/poe-in-space-beyond-the-bounds-of-earthly-spires/
I told John I love these poems, and if I was remiss, he knows it now. Often beautiful poems help us say things we might otherwise struggle to find the words to express our feelings. My mission is to help people know they are never truly alone. And that mission is near and dear to my heart. Thinking of that, this poem hits me in the feels as well: https://therealistjuggernaut.com/2024/04/12/echoes-in-the-dark/
Why?
I lost an aunt and a husband of a dear family friend to suicide.
Then fast forward many years, I struggled with a dark night of the soul and the spirit of suicide tempted me to take my own life too! Prayer brought me out of it.
As most in my circle know, we lost David Wilcock to the Other Side several days ago, purportedly from taking his own life. While that seems unfathomable to many of us, only David knew what he was personally experiencing in his life. I share this link to honor the man, and soul he was while on this planet in this lifetime: https://www.youtube.com/live/VbXvRyKeWp8?si=dOnA8Zv_ijOGaHHb
I will also continue to ask for prayers and loving vibes to be sent along to our author friend and blogger pal, Michael in the UK (https://peacefulrampage.wordpress.com) for his family too.
I know how suddenly death can impact each of our lives. I also know there’s something vast on the Other Side. Not only because of the visitations I’ve had from my sister, Christina, and from my beautiful mother after she crossed over to the Grand Beyond. But also, because I was awakened in the middle of the night with a strong male voice telling me (twice!) the words, We Are All Connected. The subject of my 5th book.
Here’s the link where you can grab a copy of, We Are All Connected: The How and The Why. An analytical mind searches for answers.
Integrating the Spirals – JIGGLE WIGGLE
In my YouTube channel, I encourage those “over 50” to:
- Open to lifelong learning (observe, gently question, and loosen up pre-conceived beliefs, aka ‘Programming’)
- Become more aware of our thoughts and emotions to encourage more ease
- Loosen up and move our bodies (we’re stuck in our heads also due to our “Programming” and physically unhealthy)
- And become strong and resilient in spirit, soul, mind, and body.
- And to question EVERYTHING!
Link to my YouTube channel where you can see the videos: https://youtube.com/@spiralsister
Yours in consciousness-expansion as we evolve and revolve during our mystical awakening. All while doing-my-egoless-best, to take you on a limitless, spiraling thought ride to better health, through doing more with ease, to help us sustain the JOY in our lives! (With lots of Gratitude throughout.)
Creators of life-enhancing spiritual and soulful information, music, and digital designs for wholly vibrant living!
With elegance and profound gratitude,
Sheila “Spiral Sister” Murrey
The information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.
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Thank you for the mention, Sheila. I have always found it difficult to know what to say in moments of loss.
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