
Experiencing nervousness in certain social situations is common. For instance, a first date or a public speaking engagement may evoke feelings of “…
Social Anxiety
Experiencing nervousness in certain social situations is common. For instance, a first date or a public speaking engagement may evoke feelings of “…
Social Anxiety
Quite simply, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) cured my addiction/habit of finger skin-picking/chewing. And I believe my story might help others, so I feel compelled to share it. You might wonder what I mean by “picking my fingers.” Years ago I quit biting my fingernails, but I only traded that habit for something less. The main cause of the “picking” had not been addressed.
I bought a book called, Tapping the Healer Within because my acupuncture doctor had told me about it, and because I had tried everything else. I found that book a bit convoluted and besides, it mostly dealt with phobias and anxieties – neither of which I thought I had. More importantly, it was difficult for me to hold the book and try to tap on my body with my other hand. Or maybe that was only my excuse – but the book, though interesting to me, wasn’t enough to help me.
A few weeks before my personal EFT visit with a local therapist, my encouraging hubby and I watched a mind-expanding show on TLC called, I Can Make You Thin. One of the episodes showed the host using EFT to help people overcome their food cravings. Because I had also tried everything to lose weight, I decided that I really needed some one-on-one personal guidance with that, as well as my finger skin-picking habit.
At about that time, I met an EFT practitioner named, Janice Cunningham (Health Quest Titusville, Florida). I was eager to get in for an appointment. During a 2.5-hour session (on a Saturday) with Janice, I described both of my issues fully. By the time we’d wrapped up our session, I found a total resolution to some deep-seated wrong mental programming, and amazingly, I had the best night’s sleep that I’d had in years that night! I guess I had not even realized that my sleep pattern had also been an issue.
My appointment with Janice also greatly helped me to release the finger skin-picking addiction. Janice and I spent nearly two hours going back into my past, into my former marriage, teenage years, and finally, childhood years. I realized that I had picked up my habit of fingernail-biting at the same time asthma began – when I was six years of age. My mom had always been a terrible nail-biter, biting right down into the quick, so I knew I’d picked up the habit from mom, I simply had not realized how much of a connection there was between that habit, my asthma, and my mom.
I realized fully during my session that when my mom’s father died, my grandfather, the sadness surrounding his death deeply affected me. When I was six years of age, coincidently, I received an asthma diagnosis. You’ll recall I had explained earlier that my grandfather had died at home after being in the hospital for cancer surgery. They sent him home with the understanding that the doctors had done all they could do. At least my grandfather died at home.
As an aside, one of the things my mother always said was to stay away from hospitals if possible. I think she had heard about people who went to the hospital and died from some infection (like Sepsis) or had the wrong procedure done! My mother’s fear of the hospital was not lost on me. The important thing about that experience for me though, was that even though I was a child, I had a deep connection to my grandfather’s passing, mostly due to how upset my mom was during that time. And because I was thoroughly connected to my mother emotionally.
My mama was very upset about losing her father. She and I, at that time, felt that death was the end. And though our religious belief was that we would see him again in the afterlife, we suffered greatly at the time of his death and for weeks after. I vividly recall believing if she could lose him, I could lose her. And there was no way I could live – I wouldn’t be able to breathe, in fact – without my mom. Knowing what I know now, I hard-wired that grief right into my lungs, because of the emotional charge involved in that event, due to my vivid recall of it.
My EFT session felt like counseling and hypnosis (though I was awake and totally aware of what was happening) as though Janice was talking to me on a deep level. During the session, Janice recommended I take some notes, both of the things I was becoming aware of and how to run through this process again on my own. The following is an account of the written notes I made:
Through this experience and the many more that followed, I learned we tend to hold fear as a sort of security blanket. I don’t know why, as I think that is the root cause of most of our suffering. And the Buddhists and Taoists believe and teach that also.
This is also a reason I bring up the topic of God and spiritual things in this book. Our beliefs—whether we have hope or not and if we believe this Universe is friendly or not—have a lot to do with how each of us feels bodily.
You may not think fear is the same as a person who is negative all the time, but I would wager that a person who is consistently afraid of this thing or the other, is a person who puts a lot of emphasis on protecting what they think belongs to them. Some might call that kind of person a control freak. They may be a person who lives for “things” and is a pack rat or hoarder. They may also be the kind of person who suffers because of all the things and people to whom they are attached. There’s a lot of healing in letting go, of people, places, and things. And you can’t take any of it with you when you transition (or pass away) from this life to whatever comes next.
The Bible in the book of Philippians has a verse that instructs us to think about whatever is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, excellent, or praiseworthy. And the author of those words, Paul, said that as we think these thoughts the God of peace will be with us. I used to encourage my mother to focus on these things—and during her last two or three years, if not more, she did, because she was always in gratitude during our last visits.
Janice used EFT in a compassionate and caring way. The end result of the two hours for my fingers was every difficulty my mom had ever had, in her marriage, health, etc. I felt as though I needed to help her, or ‘SAVE’ her. Though mom had a very strong faith in Jesus, it was always something I had felt – that I needed to save her. Once we broke this down and got to this deep-seated REASON for my habit, so many other things lifted within my mind and body as well. I can’t say enough wonderful things about EFT. If you think you’ve tried everything to find relief from anxiety, depression, weight issues, nerve problems, etc. I implore you to seek out an EFT therapist in your area. You do not need to “believe in it” for it to work for you. And what do you have to lose?
Over the years, I took the words attributed to Jesus in the Bible about “saving people” to mean, “love people.” For I am not responsible for saving anyone else or even making them happy. However, the cells of my body hold me accountable for making myself happy (it feels good when I align with my Soul) to keep my Temple (Mind and Body), healthy. I can love my enemies, but I don’t have to live with them!
Thus, because I am a super responsible person – I’m supposed to do something. (This is the conflict that causes the habitual negative behavior). And because I have an analytical mind, I often find my thoughts at odds with the evidence-based medicine that is predominantly used in hospitals, as I believe the evidence of healing I’ve experienced is true too—anecdotal experience is real and is true!
I relied on prayer, EFT, breath work, reflexology, and all kinds of alternative methods to calm and help myself think clearly when my husband was in the hospital in October 2022. I was dumbstruck how little the hospital staff communicated with each other, even though they wheeled a computer into the room with them each time! I found myself telling each doctor, intern, resident, specialist, and nurse who came into the room to see my husband most all of the same things because they did not relay the information to each other. Since I am a business analyst in Information Technology by trade the lack of appropriate information handoffs I witnessed was alarming!
p.s. I used to teach EFT at a Wellness clinic in St. Petersburg, Florida and I have lectured on the benefits of EFT at several events. I am planning on offering some general introductory EFT sessions via Zoom if anyone is interested in participating–let me know in the comments.
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Omniscience knows ALL. Omniscience is always with you because you are a fractal of Omniscience. You are truly never alone in this ever-expanding Universe.
Be the best version of who you want to be–because if you’re reading my words your soul is probably beckoning you to align with it and live up to your highest ideals. Not perfect because who is perfect? Most stagnate or ‘get stuck’ while on their way to being whatever they think perfection is. Making progress is enough. Carrying your Karma lightly is enough. Be kind to yourself while living responsibly. Who you ARE affects us ALL. We Are All Connected.
The information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.
My husband is an award-winning illustrator, plus he’s a seasoned guitarist, bass player, and songwriter (with over 400 original songs). You can view some of his artwork and listen to all of his songs at: http://listen4music.com
Here’s a video of us performing on Vimeo: https://vimeo.com/416711742?ref=fb-share
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I’m an Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving” available on Amazon. Plus, I documented how I naturally reversed 30+ years of chronic asthma in my holistic health book, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, that’s available on Barnes and Noble with the second edition coming out soon on Amazon.
Connecting…
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Silver Birch was a spirit guide who spoke through Maurice Barbanell
I have the power to overcome everything
It is wonderful to be with you. I’m humbly honored to serve. I go to a Reiki circle in Bradenton, Florida every other Tuesday night. Because even though I may not always feel the energy in my hands, I’m practicing. I’m practicing being a vessel. And I love the connections I’ve made there. (I’m going for another Reiki certification Oct. 23 and 24, 2022 and another weekend in November as well.)
You know doctors are only practicing medicine. And that’s an important point. Let’s say that again. doctors, medical doctors are only practicing medicine. Just remember that keep that in mind the next time you go.
I wonder if my dentists whom I’ve been to in the past are only practicing as well? It certainly seems like they try out new thing because people every so often, like my friend who had five back surgeries and six years, the surgeon she went to, apparently is still practicing even though he’s the head or chief blah, blah, blah, of surgery in one of the best hospitals in the country!
So, it seems that people just keep promoting people. You keep standing on great shoulders and rising, but you’re always still practicing no matter how high in in a clinical setting you go or even in higher education, you know, the faculty. I mean, they don’t just reach some pinnacle and then “know it all.” They don’t just know something and then teach it forever. They’re always learning, so I guess that means they’re always practicing as well.
At any rate to get back from that spiral, rabbit hole of the thought. In my Reiki circles, I’m always practicing energy. I’m practicing energy medicine or energy healing. And I’m just the vessel it’s not me, you know, and I’ve had that experience before and I’ve talked about that publicly. It’s not about me, I could walk into a room and talk with 10 or 20 people and never tell them my name because it is not about me, this person who’s been named, right. It’s my energy, my aura, my presence, my awareness.
When I make a turn, and I drive down the street and then I have a thought drop in that I’m gonna see an open house sign. And I have time my schedule to stop if I choose to. What do you think that is? A few minutes ago that happened to me. And so after I ran my errand on my way back home, I decided to turn and follow the street sign that said open house, and I went down another street not far. It was actually the first house as I made the turn. And it was indeed an open house with Exit Realty and it had a four digit house number 3558 or something like that. I don’t want a house anyway. And if I did get a house, I’d want us very small house. And then my next thought was, the price is probably too high in Sarasota. It’s gonna be at least $300,000 And I’m not gonna buy a $300,000 house. So I didn’t stop. I thought I will look at the house. I’ll look it up on the Exit Realty website later that MLS or Zillow or something, but that’s kind of how this works for me. I’m driving down the road and I’m sort of in this meditative state where there’s nothing being asked of me. I’m just present. I’m aware I’m an open channel, if you will. I’m an open vessel for energy to come in, sit and then flow out and I do practice, and practice some more.
I’ve recently become aware I need to take that defensive driving mentality and apply that to other things in life, just like my anxiety levels or anxious thought levels, when I get anxious. I think I’m going to be asked to do something at work I don’t know how to do, or don’t want to do, or don’t like to do, and I start feeling those little tiny feelings of anxiety well up inside. I can apply the defensive driving attitude to that and say, you know, I don’t have to feel these anxious feelings. I don’t have to think these anxious thoughts. I can get up I can walk to the kitchen, I can get some water, I can wash dishes, I can make something to eat, put something on the stove to cook on low, that kind of thing. And then I can go back to work and one step at a time. One activity one action at a time until the task is done. I don’t have to sit in that anxiety.
I can tap on my body on myself. I usually tap around my collarbone Okay, the K37 point works. I can do my breathing. And now with WildFit. I’m doing the 5-5-5-5 breathing they teach and allowing that force of nature, even the 4-4-4 breath or 5-7-8 works too. I’ve decided I’m going to try to check out something new here. So on my way home, I’m going to make another new planned stop down the street called, Village of the Arts.
But I just wanted to really get that thought out there that medical doctors are just practicing. My dad used to say they bury their mistakes. Haha. Thank you for dropping that one. And just because my hands don’t get hot when I practice breaking, I’m simply continuing to go and I’m continuing to flow the energy. I’m a slow FLOW-er. I’m a flow-er of energy. And that’s really all I am right now. I’m flowing energy. As I feel it. I’m letting it flow through me as if and as it comes through my hands. I’m trusting and I have faith that it is and I do some movements that I’ve learned and practiced and sometimes just intuitively come to me to help him ever I am performing Reiki on.
One last thought when I hit the button to start transcribing this, I had a thought about if we all flow energy, if we all are present, why do we need priests? Why do we need pastors? And how many people sit in their depression? Sit in their loneliness or committed suicide? And the Pope, the priest, the pastor, they’re not there. They’re not there. So, why do we have these people?
Well, they’re an accumulation or like I said earlier, they’re stacked upon stack upon stack. There are people that are standing on other people’s shoulders and they reach something and go get to where they are. But are they any better than any of the rest of us? Do I really need them? My conclusion is no. We don’t. And I’ve even went so far as to call for the dismantling of churches, which has gotten me into a bit of trouble and have some friends and family members have unfollowed or blocked me on social media. So be it.
I just don’t believe in continuing to support religious institutions that are culpable of many ills, abuses, and wars. I mean, we’ve had the Protestants and Catholics fighting and killing each other in Ireland. They’re both supposedly Christian. Why in the world would they be killing each other? Why? Over a dogma! Over a way, a method of doing something! Killing each other over how they choose to practice and preach the gospel, or of not spreading the gospel? You know, I mean, it just seems to me to be a bit ridiculous.
So no, I don’t think we need these kinds of organizations. If you want to use the church because it makes you feel better you want to go assemble together, because it makes you FEEL stronger. Okay. You feel the churches are there in times of crisis, and you’ll actually go and use them. You’ll actually allow that community to support you and to correct you. And offer you guidance solutions, potential new ideas and open expand your awareness, expand your consciousness, provide limitless potentials, opportunities, possibilities, and that’s great. If indeed that helps strengthen you, okay. But I think you’re stronger than that as you always have God’s Omniscience Spirit within you. Please don’t deny the Power of God within you.
Transcribed by https://otter.ai
Clearing the Static
Just like the static most of us saw (after the last broadcast of the day on our television 📺 set), we (in our energy body or aura), can gather static around us that needs to be cleared daily.
Stay with me for a moment.
If you walk across a carpeted room on a cold day and touch metal, you may get a shock. That shock is an example of static electricity.
You can’t SEE the static electricity, unless it’s dark and sometimes then, it’s visible. But nevertheless, the static electricity IS there.
And seeds grow in the darkness of the soil, so yes, we “go there” into the darkness inside of ourselves to ground and center. Don’t worry! It is not scary, it is freeing! Know thyself.
Rub a balloon over a person’s head of hair and static electricity causes the hair to rise.
No one argues that static electricity exists, though mostly, it’s invisible.
It’s just physics. And physics is a Science that is continually evolving (as are we)!
Why then, is it so hard to believe that each of us have an energy body? And that the state of that energy body can impact our health!
We can tune ourselves to resonate with EASE. We can make small adjustments to free our minds of static and confusion to feel less anxious, clear and confident—Connected to ALL.
Years ago, the movie Poltergeist made the TV screen static seem scary, like it was a portal into a dark and evil place. But I say, we must rise above the “programming”!
Would you like to learn some ways to clear the static in your head, and in your life?
Would you like these ways to be things you can quickly stack onto your daily habits? #stackhabits
If so, then…
Click here to take the next step… and I’ll meet you there. ❤️🦋🌀🎼☯️🙏☮️
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I would love to speak at your bookstore, crystal shop, acupuncture / chiropractor office, or other holistic / natural fair or festival. I support healthy lifestyle businesses. For information on both of my books, visit my Amazon author’s page — Click here.
An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon.
Plus, my holistic health book that details how I naturally reversed asthma, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is available now. Buy it here.
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Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.
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Some people seem to thrive on arguing. I’m thinking in particular of lawyers, couples in tumultuous relationships, and those who always stir up or fuel discord on Facebook (and other social media).
My dad would often tell my mom to, “Change the subject.” And then he would change it!
I don’t think dad really ever liked arguing with my mom, though they constantly bickered. And all of that lead to my awareness that, “The truth lies somewhere in between.” And “It takes two to fight.”
Yet, it took me decades to learn that one of the two in an argument simply needs to STOP FIGHTING (in essence, release the resistance), to end the argument.
Yes, though my parents loved each other passionately, their love was not unconditional. Through watching them, I learned all about conditional love. So, how could I know what true love was?
I observed, during a Bible class I participated in a few years ago, that some attendees argued more about specifics, like healthcare and sexism as related to Trump. I had to keep pulling people up to the macro general level and why we were there.
I seemed to only see the downside to love growing up in a dysfunctional family. I never thought anyone got it right. And then later, when I fell in love (or what I thought was love), I perpetuated the toxic cycle.
I can list my likes and attributes, but you may still have a better idea of who I am, than I will ever have.
As my adult children and I have recounted stories from their youth, they certainly saw a different side of me than I self witnessed. The same must be true of how I viewed my parents volatile relationship.
I don’t want to hold stuff inside, but anytime I get mad or speak my mind it pisses other people off.
I struggle with people pleasing. Or people not listening to me. I never saw my mom get too far when she argued with dad or others, so I decided early to forgo the arguments. Or so I thought! Both my first and second husbands argued with me. Ugh. And my children were witnesses to so much of that—and I hate that!
Whenever I am emotionally triggered, I read this:
I never like to be disrespected, bullied, or have my intelligence questioned, or be treated less than I am! But I know I’m not always right. As well, others, no matter how well or how long they have known me, don’t know all of my thoughts, wishes, or desires, and that I strive to always respect others and show kindness if nothing else. I know many people are hurting, sad, mad, over or under medicated, or are hungry for love. And I realize no one knows Everything—not yet.
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I have some clairsentience and clairaudience abilities, though not tuned specifically to aid others. Perhaps I will offer these senses and abilities more of my time.
…When you feel bad nothing works. You labor to get out of bed. You stub your toe on a table that has never moved and you’ve known for years where it is. You lose your car keys, glasses, or phone. Walk around with a big old frown on your face and you know it drives people away from you. You’re fighting with yourself about something. Let go of whatever you’re resisting and your day will improve.
From my book, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life!
I love the water (but looking at it, or walking along the shore more than swimming in it–though I love to float!)
Water doesn’t fight with itself. Or does it?
Water rages. Water flows. Water falls. Water is still.
I will EXPLORE more ways to be like water!
Yes!
I will find my own balance.
I will find my own level.
I will start by reminding myself that the truth lies somewhere in between. I will not judge by what I see in the mirror, but simply point out the many facets of truth, per the mirror disco ball.
As Scott Buck, a writer on both Six Feet Under and Dexter series dramas often made a foundational point of saying, “We never really know a person.”
I like to compare our personalities to facets inside a kaleidoscope or disco ball. We reflect what we see or imagine others to be.
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Even racists can be kind. And I am about over all the hate from the other side. ❤️🦋🌀
I would love to speak at your bookstore, crystal shop, acupuncture / chiropractor office, or other holistic / natural fair or festival. I support healthy lifestyle businesses. For information on both of my books, visit my Amazon author’s page — Click here.
An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon.
Plus, my holistic health book that details how I naturally reversed asthma, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is available now. Buy it here.
Be the best version of who you want to be.
Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.
Follow me on Twitter at: TakeOnYourself
My husband and I turned off the television and cut the cable about 2 years ago. Why? There were many reasons that still hold true today, as I will elaborate:
Being a child of the 60s, I used to sit on the floor (or lay down), and watch television (TV) for many hours. Hours on end. And when I wanted to watch a different show, I had to physically get up to change the CHANNEL. (Gasp! I know, right?)
Ah, yes. All those shows, or rather PROGRAMS. They were funny, sad, dramatic, or fascinating. They were full of words and actions all specifically geared to grab and hold my attention via a CHANNEL and PROGRAM me! And boy, did they keep me focused. They put me into such a trance like state that my mother often had a hard time getting my attention!
Many years later, it dawned on me. They call it television PROGRAMMING for a reason. And I had been hoodwinked to think they had just been entertaining me. But, the entertainment industry is a business. BIG BUSINESS.
Fast forward some 40 years. My husband began watching my favorite soap opera with me. After a few weeks, he said, “They just keep bringing these characters back from the dead, don’t they?” And then something clicked in me. It’s all the same story—repeating all the time! I began to spot the patterns. And in every show on mainstream TV, we could surmise the storyline and tell what the plot would be, before it even happened!
Eventually, after being lulled to sleep enough times, or annoyed by lazy screenwriters, we quit watching any mainstream TV and switched entirely to the pay CHANNELS! The writers for the shows on HBO, Showtime, and such were so much sharper! But even with that, we would find ourselves bored in one or two seasons of most series, and watch movies instead.
More importantly, we could see certain agendas being pushed. Common narratives. Plus, we were always being “sold” something. The advertising was getting so ridiculous! And we wondered if we were the only ones awakening to the games show BUSINESS was playing.
What was happening to the masses of people watching?
First, let’s start with those monotonous soap operas. We know they were originally developed to sell the stay-at-home moms, soap. Yes, literally.
Then, there were episodic shows that prompted the whole consumer mentality to “keep up with the Joneses”—whomever the Joneses were! And who would care? Apparently, a whole lot of folks. And the beast of advertising every product or service from A to Z began to run rampant.
People tend to literally zone out in front of the TV and in that mental state, whatever they see and hear gets absorbed into their mind—and into every cell of their body!
We lose track of time when we watch TV. And many of the shows seem to push dogmas or agendas. And when one disagrees with those threads of dogma, that can cause anxious feelings or ANXIETY! I want to feel FREE and at peace.
Historically speaking, when the television remote came onto the scene, people as a society began to mute the commercials. Why? And when we got a video recording device, for me at least (it was an $800 VCR from a rental place), we could fast forward through all the commercials! I loved that, but didn’t think about why. I was just happy that I could watch my daytime soaps at night after I got home from work! Oh, those were the days!
But, I digress.
It seemed every family show was full of chaos and challenges. Everyone was always buying something new. Or one of the characters had some lingering issue. The dumber or more silly the story, the funnier we thought it was, until it wasn’t. Every good family value seemed to be shaken.
I yearned for smart stories and plots. Intelligent writing that would intrigue me. I wanted more love and no fear—because I’d learned that every choice came from clear discernment.
We have been overly stimulated by the commercials. Big business runs it all anyway. I mean, who else can afford a TV commercial?When alcohol and tobacco ads were banned, the pharmaceutical and insurance industries jumped in to fill the void. Oh, brother!
Those big pharma commercials began to bother me so much, I would get mad! And that’s when I began to awaken. I began to question what the hell was going on. The list of side effects include DEATH!
I’ve been a holistic health researcher and proponent of alternative health methods since 2005, but actually my interest in natural health began much earlier (when I was 6 years old). I explain this all in my book, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life! (Hint: my mom and her parents believed and used spiritual healing ways, and chiropractic.)
When I questioned myself and why it took me 20 years to quit watching my favorite soap opera I realized it all boiled down to consumerism. And I had been programmed since I was a toddler!
Thankfully, I’ve emerged from the PROGRAMMING! And it’s a good thing too, because we are too busy to watch TV now.
Whew! Until I wrote this, I hadn’t realized why I was so tired! (And why I had been feeling down for a week or so and missed a business retreat).
Yes, I still must take care to actually DO my own self care!
We’re smart. Too intelligent to be sold to or duped for long. We’re Awakening. Stubborn and independent. And we’re critical thinkers. Yep. That’s why.
No one knows your body (and mind) as well as YOU! And this is where (and why) I get all spiritual, because everything is Connected.
We can be our own shaman, guru, preacher, healer, and priest.
We love heart energy and work on renewing our minds everyday. We are fully capable of reaching, listening to, and communing with Spirit everyday.
Spirit created the body and renews the mind, if we but open ourselves to receive.
Jesus, the Christ came to show us the Whole way to live. With God (Omniscience). And that each of us have all that we need. We don’t need a church—sure it is nice to fellowship there, share, show compassion, or enjoy some time, but the point is that we don’t NEED it. Empower yourself with self study. Or simply commune with God as a little child.
A bit about us:
My husband is an award-winning illustrator, plus he is a seasoned guitarist, bass player, and songwriter (of over 400 original songs). You can view some of his artwork and listen to all of his songs at: http://listen4music.com
Here’s us: https://vimeo.com/416711742?ref=fb-share
I would love to speak at your bookstore, crystal shop, acupuncture / chiropractor office, or other holistic / natural fair or festival. I support healthy lifestyle businesses. For information on both of my books, visit my Amazon author’s page — Click here.
An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon.
Plus, my holistic health book that details how I naturally reversed asthma, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is available now. Buy it here.
Be the best version of who you want to be.
Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.
I was completely unnerved!
As a highly sensitive person (HSP) I wanted to stay with my friend at an outdoor cafe and enjoy our visit, but a roaring motorcycle went by and the noise overwhelmed me!
I lost touch with the truth of who I am. I got rattled. I almost picked up my stuff and left, as I was quite literally… BESIDE MYSELF!
I had arrived 10 minutes early to Ionie’s cafe in Sarasota, Florida on a beautiful Saturday afternoon (Jan. 17th, 2015)– a week after my birthday.
A dear friend and I had previously agreed (earlier that same day) to meet at 1pm there and though she is usually early, she wasn’t on this particular day. I don’t state this to judge, only to establish a precursor to my story.
The last time we had met there, we sat outside and I was prepared to sit outside, but when I arrived I noticed that both outdoor deck tables were full so, I proceeded inside to find a table. It was a fairly busy time there.
My friend arrived a few minutes after 1 (I did not note the exact time because I had been relaxing, listening to the peaceful music and drinking a beet juice drink and water).
As she arrived, we said hello and hugged briefly and she asked if we could sit outside. I told her the tables were full and she said, she’d seen an empty one on the way in (possibly so, things change of course). I said “There wasn’t one available when I came in”, and that I preferred to stay inside (I don’t know why, perhaps because I’d become comfortable). Having none of that however, my friend went back outside to hold the table and asked our server, if we could move my things out there.
I gave in (another precursor) and just as I sat down outside a VERY loud motorcycle went by and I proclaimed that it was the reason I did not want to sit there. She said, “We sat out here the last time”, and I should have said, “Yes, and I didn’t like it” and “since we sat outside before, let’s try inside today.” After all, I had invited her to join me – as I had been there several times by myself. But, I didn’t. I allowed myself to be manipulated, after all, I love change and am flexible to the desire of others (many times to my detriment though)!
At any rate, the point of this writing this now is my logical attempt to put words around the experience of the FEELING that overtook me. When that motorcycle went by, I felt as though I was going to come OUT of my skin!! My entire nervous system shook. My hands and legs trembled. I went back inside of the cafe to reclaim the previous table with thoughts in my mind of leaving. But I wanted to preserve the friendship and felt if I reacted in a dramatic way, I might rock the boat. As well, I have written book chapters about “Connections” and “Being open to receive” so I opted within my mind to find a way to overcome my reaction, noting to mySelf in that moment that I may be overreacting.
My friend had came back in and tried to reassure me that they had another table out to the side of the building (not on the street) where we could move the chairs from the other outdoor deck table in order to sit in a quieter spot. Thus, compromising (or giving in), we sat under a tree by the parking lot. It was a bit easier on my senses.
I awkwardly explained to her that I needed to calm myself. I sat utterly quiet. I repositioned my chair, made my body comfortable, and breathed for about the count of ten.
After settling in to the new outdoor spot, the conversation we had over the course of 2 hours, was very beautiful, engaging, and I even expressed to her how I was learning to handle events like what had just happened. I had felt my central nervous system was burned out, as I worked in another town (at that time) and had to wear headphones most everyday because of the city and office noise.
An emergency vehicle went by at one point and I expressed (in a bit easier way this time) that this also disturbed me. It mostly aggravated me (I put my fingers in my ears while the siren was sounded) because when they turned off the siren, I took my fingers out of my ears, then they immediately sounded the siren again! Ugh!! I rhetorically asked, “Why can’t they just leave it on until they get to wherever it is they’re going”?
When it was time to leave, we exchanged a hug and my friend genuinely thanked me for sitting outside. And in that moment I knew we would not have had our lovely visit if I had left earlier when I was mad over the initial irritation.
Allowing this moment to be as it is and just be aware of it;
I must always reach for the best feeling thought and comfort myself;
Just breathe;
Touch an acupressure point or focus on one and breathe;
I may not always express or articulate my pain or displeasure appropriately, but I can at least let the person know that I need a few moments to center myself.
Later on that day, I recognized my emotional balance and growth. And that at no point in this experience, which I called an “assault on my senses” did I cry! Even just a year or so prior, I may have cried during, or after the experience, or when I would later recount the story to my husband. Hmmm… change is GOOD!
The next day I found this beautiful interview:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NJ9UtuWfs3U
The lotus grow out of mud – you cannot grow a lotus on marble but in mud.
Suffering is mud to grow the flower of understanding and Love.
I offer you the following FOUR mantras you can meditate with:
1) “Darling, I’m here for you”
How can you love if you aren’t there? You are not preoccupied with the past or future.
2) “Darling, I know you are there”
Use this to recognize the existence of the other person.
when your beloved one suffers use the third mantra:
3) “Darling, I know you suffer that is why I am here for you”
Simply your presence can give someone a lift.
Lastly, when you suffer and you believe your suffering has been caused by your beloved one – use the fourth mantra:
4) “Darling, I suffer. I am trying my best to practice Love, please help me.”
❤️🦋🌀
It seems simple.
This is also quite a beautiful lesson:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KopmSpe33Eg
I learned that I am my perceptions. I learned what the true nature of “I” is.
Listening.
Perceiving.
Observing.
With Attention.
The real me is the “I” that is underneath all of the circumstances of my life.
In the moment of non-thinking is Attention.
Timeless, untouched by time. I before it becomes this or that. Just “I”.
My first guru of the Eastern arts and teacher, Ram Giri Braun, taught me this wonderful mantra in 2008:
“I am loving awareness.”
He said this is not for the mind, this is from Ram Dass. It is not meant to make sense. It’s about feeling something. Get in touch with YOU. Get in touch with the lovable YOU that’s inside of you.
Ram Giri taught me Open Attention and HeartSourcing.
You can learn about that too, here.
On Jan. 31st, 2015 I took a class at Suncoast Jin Shin Jyutsu with Michelle Giambra in Sarasota, FL. At the beginning of the class Michelle stated that, “Synchronicities abound.” And then another lady in the class said, “We love the synchronicities that abound here”! Beautiful!
Note: The first four letters in Michelle’s last name are, “G-I-A-M” like the online TV channel I love GIAM, that later changed their name to GAIA: https://www.gaia.com )
I learned there are ways to hold my body that will calm me, ease tension, and anxiety! Break-throughs!!
We Are All Connected. OM
Many blessings to you in ALL ways.
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As kids, I recall the term “fraidy cat” (and scaredy cat”) being used on more than one occasion while playing at the playground.
I don’t thin I considered myself to be a fraidy cat, however I’m sure I was in certain situations.
As I teach Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) to others, I realize that this aspect of being a fraidy cat lives inside most of us, in one way or another (depending upon the situation we’re facing).
Wouldn’t it be nice if you had someone by your side, to hold your hand, when you feel most scared and vulnerable?
That’s what I’m offering to you, NOW.
PM me on Facebook, or email me: sheila.murrey@gmail.com
Let’s see what feelings we can shift, so that you can experience calm.
If you’re reading this right now, chances are there’s something you are afraid of committing to, scared of saying, or feel tense about doing. I’d love to ease you through it.
I have years of “trial-by-fire” real life experience of walking people by the hand, literally, through some of life’s scariest and riskiest situations.
Let me help you gracefully glide through whatever difficult thing you’re facing —
I am ready to assist.
Your fraidy cat coach,
sheila
Check out this original song, For the Little Ones. My husband wrote this song and it was performed and recorded in a Nashville, TN studio. You can download it (it’s Track 5) from this link: https://store.cdbaby.com/cd/chevyfordb26
An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon.
Plus, the brand new book that’s been in the making for 13 years, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format).
Buy it here.
Be the best version of who you want to be.
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Originally published on EXAMINER Sept. 7, 2013
Have you ever had the experience of someone making you mad / angry, and in that moment you either didn’t know what to say, or you would cuss, hurl insults, flip a certain finger, yell, scream, throw a fit, or act in some other seemingly uncontrollable manner?
Maybe in the moment of confrontation you go into a rage, attack, cry, pout, or run away? Or you just can’t wait to get home, so you can tell your spouse, tell the offending person off on Facebook, slide into emotional eating, or make gooey fattening comfort food and chow down into oblivion.
I have great news!! A healthy, non-calorie, alternative you can use on yourself to calm your central nervous system! And it’s FREE, once you learn it, and you can do it at nearly any time.
I’ve found relief from the anxiety experienced during those highly charged confrontations. Plus, I’ve learned WHY I never seem to know what to say in that hostile moment.
It’s how we’re wired, and it has everything to do with the fight or flight response! The amygdala in our brains is actually so busy trying to figure out if we should scream or flee from the offending person that the analytical part of our brain can’t get a word in, or out! Seems funny to say that now but it really is what happens and that too, is frustrating – causing us even more irritation in the moment!
The confrontation ends and a few minutes later, or an hour, or a day, we think to ourselves, “why didn’t I say…”.
When I get upset I’d rather not feel nervous or tense, I’d rather like to laugh, walk away, or be able to just shrug it all off. Instead, even if it’s only my self talk, I get irritated and think “get a life”, or such. But, I don’t like that. I’d like to always be conscious of my thoughts and in control of the words that come out of my mouth. Wouldn’t you?
I’d like to say anything other than hurl an insult (which I admit is rare but has happened). I hear people say, “it is what it is”, “life goes on”, “God bless you”, or simply laugh and never give it any thought. Me? Noooo… I tend to bring it all home and stew about it.
Ruminating on negative things leads to stress. And if carried around long enough it could affect my health.
Thankfully though, I am transforming for the better! I choose to stay in conscious alignment with my true nature more every day. I choose to let it all go, right then, right in the moment. Ahhh. Before, how I felt depended on whatever had influenced my day. Now, I really am empowered!
I found out about EFT years ago when I learned of the meridian system of the body from my acupuncture doctor. I even went to an EFT coach for one-on-one help with a couple of issues. Later, I took some friends to the EFT coach.
I’ve been practicing EFT /Tapping much more regularly for a host of things, and I love it! So much so, that I am talking and writing about it.
On Sept. 5, 2013 I gave my first FREE public EFT / Tapping presentation!
I really enjoyed sharing this information with new friends at our RV park.
Seven people came out for the event, and I’ve already received heartwarming feedback. It’s helped people feel better, and that’s the whole point. Relief! Results!
The attendees were: a senior couple, three single ladies, a single guy, and my husband (8 including me)! Woot! The single gentleman was concerned for his doggie at home – who experiences storm anxiety so we even tapped about that! Great group! So open to learning, sharing, and tapping together! We tapped on anxiety, on the economy/government/politics, and all the stormy weather we’ve been having this lately in St. Petersburg, FL.
If you don’t have a clue about EFT / Tapping, I have several websites I can point you to and videos. I’ll include several links below.
Here are the basics:
Talk about your problem, negative feelings, anything unwanted, sad emotion, depressing thing that’s going on IN THE MOMENT while tapping on the side of one hand with two or three fingers from the other hand. Rate on a scale of 1-10 how much you’re feeling the negative or unwanted emotion before you start and after you end. This will help you to know the Tapping provided relief.
Say this “problem” 3 times, beginning with “Even though” and ending with “I deeply and completely love and accept myself or something about myself that I believe is true about ME, like: my body, my soul, my feelings, my emotions, my name, etc.)”. You will want the statement to be true, so you can use your own words, the ones that resonate your truth. Here are some examples of this:
The scenario: A clerk is short, brisk, rude or some such thing and it upsets me. I walk out in a huff vowing to myself never to go back to that store again! I feel the irritation and maybe even anger in my body. I do not want to carry that negative emotion to the next interaction I have with anyone, much less all day, much less all week, etc. So as I leave the store and enter my car I say out loud to myself while tapping the side of my hand:
Now, I move through the rest of the tapping points, choosing one word from anything I just said about the problem to reinforce to my brain that I really did feel / experience this issue:
For each point tap 5 to 7 times, not necessary to count them just tap and talk and go with the flow. Also these words are just an example, say whatever your feeling. I realize you may not know what word to associate with the feeling but with practice that will come easier and easier.
The under arm point for women is at the bra line, for men it’s about a hand width from the arm pit.
Repeat this process two or three more times, using different words. Hopefully you’ll notice that you’re choosing easier, lighter words because by the second or third round you’re feeling better! I’ve found the second round goes something like this:
And then…
Last round:
Then…
The photo / drawing that follows is a realistic example of the three (3) main EYE tapping points for our EFT work. Top end of eyebrow point, beside and under the eye. Below the nose / above the lip and below the bottom lip in the crease of the chin. Points are marked in pink.
The next drawing displays the tapping points marked in blue. This includes: top end of the eyebrow, beside and below the eye. Between nose and upper lip. Below the bottom lip on crease of chin. Also, where we tap on the top of the head.
For deeper understanding about other ways EFT can help you, read my previous article here.
Here are the links to more on EFT / Tapping – pick the one that best suits your needs!
The Tapping Solution – Nick Ortner
How EFT works in the brain – Nick Ortner
EFT – Gary Craig
Anxiety tapping – Margaret Lynch
EFT for digestion – Julie Schiffman of Dr. Mercola Center
Special thanks to those who assisted me during my first EFT presentation:
Thanks to my wonderful soul-sister “test” tapping model – Lola!!!
Responses about EFT results I’ve received:
You were terrific! Thanks for the wonderful presentation on EFT!! It works!!
Class attendeeOh, you’ll enjoy this! M. has her 3 year grand daughter tapping! Is that too cool?!?!
You are amazing Sheila! Hope you have a wonderful day!
Hugs,
B.I wanted to thank you SO MUCH for the knowledge you shared on your site. I clicked on the EFT tapping menu tab and have been doing the tapping for the last three days after watching the video, reading about it and printing out the instructions. I have been tapping about body pain and also for anxiety and so far, it is helping a great deal thus, I am MOST GRATEFUL to YOU for passing along this knowledge. I have forwarded the information to two others…
Friend
UPDATE: I will be offering a class on Freedom from anxiety using EFT on:
Saturday February 4th, 2017
Noon – 1pm
Awakening Wellness Center
6161 Dr Martin Luther King Jr Street N – Suite 102, St Petersburg, FL
Suggested: $10
Take it upon yourself to be healthy, joyful, vibrant, and beautiful. Be who you want to be.
Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.