Beau’s eulogy

In memory of Lou-Lou’s Beau… in grief and warmest love forever:

While I am in this sadness…
Let me somehow reach for all the moments of JOY you (Beau) gave me!

How your daily obedience to me without fuss, always amazed me…
How you could wait for me, no matter how long I had to be away from home, always so eager to see me! I know you loved dinner time, but was it all that prompted you to greet me so?Beau 2003

You always showed me such enthusiasm with a tail wagging greeting when I came home! (Except for the last few months, when you began not even waking up when I got up in the morning, or when I would come in the door).

One of my best memories of you  (and of Lou-Lou) were when we lived in the little house on York; the house with the doggy door, and big back yard. You would nearly “fly” from the doggy door, over and off of the porch, and run all around the yard! Oh, how you both loved that! And you would always go way out in the yard (by the back fence) to do your “business.” (You were so thoughtful in that way). As well as, you loved to chase the squirrels!

When we moved to the new townhouse, how quick you were to greet every neighbor, especially Muriel Springer (Susan Springer‘s mom — Susan would later become my Reiki teacher. Such synchronicities always).

We also met an older gentleman while we were walking the neighborhood, whose name I have long since forgotten. He loved you so much that he and his wife invited us in and we would chat for several minutes while they offered you water. You magnetized people! The man eventually declined from Alzheimer’s, left his wife, and moved in with his kids in another state – his wife later told me she felt it was so he could be close to them and their dog!

You helped me get outside to exercise by walking with you three times a day, meeting new neighbors, and finding new trees and flowers too!

Another strong memory, was the year I thought it would be a good time to take you to Bike Week in Daytona Beach with me because my son Matt lived on the beach and we could walk to Main Street with them.Sheila and Beau Bike Week Daytona 2010

Boy, was I wrong! You absolutely hated all the loud motorcycles and I watched you nearly, literally, come out of your skin when the bikes would blast by! So, I picked you up and carried you the whole time. And we didn’t stay long!

Here we are with my daughter Marie (who also loved you more than words)!

Marie Sheila and Beau Bike Week Daytona 2010

What with all our travels, you were always such a sport! You loved adventure – well, most of it. You always looked for the adventure – on every walk! Even from almost the beginning when you innocently thought you’d say hi to a Boxer, who turned on you and nearly killed you (that one time I walked you and Lou-Lou in a city park in Missouri)… I had to rush you to the doggy hospital to get drain tubes and stitches! What an ordeal that was! But you forged through it, and recovered so nicely. It did not deter you from making other doggy friends over the years, thankfully!

You always enjoyed going to mom and dad’s house. My mom and dad loved you too!

You fathered two litters of puppies, some of whom went on to great things! You were the best dad to them, cleaning them and showing them the doggy ropes, which I have been told, not many doggy dads do!

beau collage to 2007

You showed us all quiet unconditional love.

You always waited to be “invited” to sit on the couch with me. When Lou-Lou was alive, you always let her sit on me and you’d go to my side or feet. You were always the gentleman, the gentle heart!

You loved flowers. You loved finding new places to pee/potty, and you always wanted to go #2 as far away from the street or house as possible.

Beau 42613

You loved traveling with me, you and Lou-Lou were my companions and guards when I drove back and forth from Missouri to Florida for work all those years ago.

You taught me to wag more and bark less – in fact you rarely ever barked!

One time, (nearly two years ago) you met a beautiful big white dog (some kind of English Setter) and you barked in your loudest ever excited way, at him and wiggled all over! You were so adorable! You loved him so much, behaving that way every time we saw him on our walks! It was over the top! Almost embarrassing!! LOL

You made friends, yes human friends so very easily Debby Stott Aznar and Richard will always love you!!) You loved to stay with them when they babysat you! You were in your glory riding with Deb in her golf cart! Oh how you loved to ride in golf carts, and she wasn’t the first person you bummed a ride from over the years.

You taught me the meaning of “no complaints”.
You put up with more than I will probably ever know. And remained my steady and faithful friend.

Beau by my leg Nov 2014I will miss your snoring! And I felt your snore all the way up to the end.

I will miss carrying you up the steps, three times a day, up and down, for the last two years (due to your losing your depth perception).

I will miss taking you to the groomers and picking you up, all fresh smelling and gorgeous!

Beau and Lou-Lou Easter haircuts 2009

I am so glad you got to go on one last, short vacation to Georgia with us. I am sure it was hard on you, not knowing where you were, and with the yard on a hill, and cold ground — as it turns cold in the hills of Georgia in October. But, you got to be with me the whole weekend, and I loved holding you on the drive home. Beau in Georgia

I will try to say, so long with tears of joy that you will go in peace, at home – in my arms. And you did. With only one cry.

Your final trip. Over the Rainbow Bridge. I pray you’ll romp now with a big white dog, a special English Setter, or Lou-Lou, or both, whomever you prefer! I will hold that thought of you today and forever in my mind.

Beau closeup

Kisses always!

The last veterinarian, Dr. Francis Baker, came to our RV and showed us great compassion during this sad time. And I commented to Richard as she drove away with you, that you got one last ride in a Jeep (just as you had travelled with me all those years, when I had a Jeep). Somehow, in that moment, I was able to smile just a bit. Oh, Beau! Synchronicities. Ah!

Lou-Lou’s Beau (your official AKC registered name), will be memorialized at the base of the next tree I plant (maybe my son will do that for us, at his home, or we’ll plant an apple tree up north in Mike, Marie, and Jennie’s yard).

I will be forever grateful to my friend Liz Lowry, from Missouri, for strongly suggesting that I get a second Shih-Tzu, which, thanks to my cousin breeding them at the time, turned out to be you! I will be forever grateful to my cousin Molly Reynolds Curry for bringing Beau into our lives, and her mom and dad for delivering him to me in Florida, all those years ago.

You are the white knight, Beau. My best boy. Best furry friend ever. Your love will live in my heart forever.

20-Jan-2002 to 21-Oct-2015

My butterfly magnet

Rest in peace our beloved, Beau!

Be as the blade of grass, grow through the dirt.

I’ve heard it said, “you’re either growing or dying” and that, “the universe is either expanding or shrinking.” If that is true, then it seems to acknowledge that everything in life, all there is around us, is dynamic – nothing is static.

In a previous post, I wrote that, “We grow as blades of grass, up through the earth.” And that “dirt, or earth, is analogous to all of the resistance we encounter.” These thoughts were instigated years ago, when a coworker encouraged me with the phrase, “Bloom where you are planted.” Oh how right she was!

At that time, I felt constant irritation from a superior when he would casually walk by my desk and tell me to smile – while I was working! Being the studious and serious type, smiling while concentrating on work tasks was something I just didn’t do. The more he admonished me to smile, the more aggravated I became. In passing, I must have mentioned my exasperation one day to my friend, when she lavished me with that golden nugget of truth – about the blooming. I even remember thinking of a response to her – likened to – “yes, no matter how much fertilizer is put upon you!” (but I didn’t tell her).

Day in and day out, I would notice people around me laughing, chatting, and cutting up during the day, but I wasn’t.

I am an empath. I am a highly sensitive person (HSP). I feel lots of things very strongly.

I have discovered that I become resentful when things aren’t fair or balanced.

While working in an office, I recall thinking, “we’re here to work” and “we’re here to earn our pay.” Why was I always the one to feel so determined! I was always applying effort. The pitfalls of continually wanting to do my best, try hard, people-please, and succeed, yada, yada. But at what cost to my Self?

Realizing I was wallowing in resistance, I knew I had to climb out of it, or it would bury me. A seed pushes against dirt in order to grow, but I felt as though I was pushing against me, not growing, but receding! Plants, indeed everything in the living kingdom need the resistance in order to grow, and grow strong.

One day I learned what hell meant. Out in the garden we can hell for potatoes, as in “we’re sweating out here helling for potatoes.” Hell is just “the ground”, or “the dirt.” It never was meant to be some fearful place of oppression or torment. So, my thoughts of “this is hell” was the only thing that kept me disturbed. And I lacked the knowledge, at the time, of how to climb up out of the grave (of the frustrating job) up the slippery walls of resistance and into freedom.

Eventually, as other factors contributed, I left the job.

Years later, during a time of fasting, those years of struggle came to mind, but with softness and thanksgiving, the resentment fading. Not only had I learned more about myself, but as a body builder strengthens muscles from lifting weights, I had grown emotional muscles, in fact “blooming“, from what I had perceived as resistance!

I distinctly remembered the day I had begun saying to myself (about my boss), “Thank you for helping me to make a better decision” – whenever I’d felt picked on or taken advantage of (to do more work). I couldn’t change whether or not I was picked on, but I could have changed my reaction to it! And it had always been my choice – whether I was willing or able to know it then or not – as to how much work I was willing to take on.

All the feelings I’d felt were solely based on my perception and may not have been entirely accurate, as one can never really see things from all sides anyway.

Looking back, I saw where I had resisted quite a few things during that time, which is probably why I felt harried and stressed. Oh, had I just learned to “go with the flow” sooner, I could have smiled and experienced joy.

I’ve learned, we didn’t come into this life for the struggle. Life will go on without us after we’re gone. Whether we leave a company, end a marriage, or die. Nothing’s static, everything changes.

Now? I’m learning to let go and breathe. Get more play into each day. My former superior might be happy to know that once in awhile, even if I’m troubleshooting something, I smile and “in – joy” doing whatever it is I’m attempting to do. I wish for you the same.

See ya on the flip-side dynamic good buddy.

Life’s a thrill, hang on and enjoy the ride!

Juicing, Paleo, No-Grain Diet, Mostly Vegetarian – Who needs labels?

Many diets. Who needs labels?

Okay so I am finally ready to reveal my new diet. I have been doing this for several months now and it’s working. It’s really working. I have lost weight effortlessly. Gained vitality. Renewed my body Temple. And increased the frequency with which, I feel connected to Source Creator God, and all of you. We Are All Connected.

We Are All One. Yes, yes, and yahoo… YES!

Many diets. Who needs labels?
Many diets. Who needs labels?

We are what we eat and absorb.

Here’s the deal about diet for life (lifestyle) change:

I drink raw vegetable juice — everyday. At least one 16 ounce raw veggie juice, often 32 ounces. Plus water. Monday through Friday–I only juice during the day. And if I don’t have time to juice for myself,

I buy juices from a raw vegan cafe; thank you Ionie’s Cafe! Ionie’s vacuum seal the juice in glass mason jars.

I pack my juice in a ThirtyOne bag (with ice) and enjoy at work. Then, for the evening meal… I eat a light meal or soup for dinner. That’s it.

If I feel the need to eat something, I will mix raw nuts and seeds, typically only a 1/2 cup or less and throw in my work bag. Mostly pumpkin and sunflower seeds, walnuts, pecans, almonds, and brazil nuts. I eat a bit more on the weekends, but nothing outrageous.

The weekday light meal? Primarily, a can of Amy’s Organic soup, or a salad with grilled or broiled fish. Now and then, I will have some other vegetable like broccoli, sweet potato, or asparagus, but rarely white potatoes. On occasion, I will get a beef patty (no bun), or a steak, but I suspect I will only do that once every two or three months. I have basically lost my desire to eat meat. I like turkey once in awhile too, but we always look for the less processed, organic variety when we buy it.

I am not eating any processed sugar — unless you count wine. I had some sugar over the holidays because my daughter makes (and ships) chocolate truffles from New Hampshire and I love supporting her, so I had a few of those (one a day, every other day). Yes I am attempting to be transparent here. This also keeps me humble and on track. I do not desire to cheat because that’s only cheating my Temple.

UPDATE 1/1/2016: No more truffles and a lot less wine.

Let go of diet labels

I am learning that I am a cross between a raw vegan and a paleo or no-grain eater. I am not a 100% raw vegan because I do still consume eggs, honey, fish, seafood, and very little meat. But I put into daily practice much of what I learned from being a raw vegan back in 2009-2010. I love raw vegan nut cheese instead of dairy cheese. Whenever I eat dairy cheese I can always tell the difference. I’ve also learned that my body does not digest raw tomatoes very well.

As for spiritual growth

As for the spirituality aspects of clean eating… the other night a lady asked if I go to church. I answered a triumphant… No. But then I thought, why would I when I believe my body is the Temple. Yes, with a capital T. And I believe all of your bodies are Temples too. I believe in God-made, vs. Man-made. I will always. That is a core belief of mine. Hmmm. I just misspelled belief as belife. Isn’t that interesting? I corrected it but now I am thinking be-life is actually better!

Fasting

I am finding that by fasting during the daytime on weekdays, it has heightened my spiritual awareness, including also a physical awareness of how much people around me EAT. The over consumption in America is disheartening. It’s not wonder so many of us are overweight and miserable. I highly suspect our bodies were never meant to be in this shape, and yes, round is a shape.

Focus

I am focused on learning more about energy medicine. By changing my focus from food: what to eat, how to make it, when to buy it, etc. I definitely have more time available for reading, sharing, and learning about energy, frequency, brain waves, intuition, etc.

Feeling good

Case in point, this week I took my first Jin Shin Jyutsu class. I am amazed how how wonderful I feel! I feel good, really good.

I mean, I always feel pretty good. Can’t complain. But on occasion I’ve experienced vertigo (ever since working at the Space Center, which I felt may have had something to do with it). The vertigo would come and go. I felt that I had to be watchful when it came to doing any task that might set it off. Laying on a massage table for a massage, at times, could cause me to experience vertigo. Forget about head down yoga postures!

So, the other day after 30 minutes of Jin Shin Jyutsu – both of my ears “opened”! I was ecstatic! Now I can flip my head over to put a towel on my head after getting out of the shower! Yay! Yahoo!

About faith, timing, and living life more abundantly

The Bible is full of stories about how God created us in His image and wants us to live life and have it more abundantly. To me, those understandings mean that He provides for us, in all ways, for our health, and for our needs. I think we’re the ones that think that means He will always answer our prayers and give us what we desire, but I do not think so. I believe our needs are always, in ALL WAYS, provided.

Sometimes God withholds some things, and some answers, for a later time for us, when we are prepared to handle those things. This is why I believe God’s timing is always perfect. And blessed assurance tells me that is why, when the student is ready, the teacher arrives.

Have faith. You know, faith – which is the opposite of worry. Faith IS the substance of things not yet seen. That said, worry is actually a sin because God tells us to have faith. Exercise your faith by taking care of yourself. The Bible also instructs us how to eat and move our bodies, but how many of us follow those instructions? I think it pleases God when we learn about those and practice those habits. Pork is not the other white meat. Pigs are dirty animals that have no sweat glands. Quit dishing on PETA people and take an honest look at what they have to say. Or talk to a pig farmer. Watch a documentary. Just don’t eat pork. Make it easy. Those parasites in pork, yeah they live through the cooking process. And really, the more crap you eat, the harder it will be for you to feel good. I’d bet it also shortens your life. And if you believe suicide is a sin then dying a slow death by eating stupid silly non-beneficial foods is a sin too.

Now, I am not preaching all this stuff to make you feel guilty. Just quit complaining about what other people do and think about what you do. Study to show thyself approved and make one small change at a time until you feel good. I am not above anyone. I am human and I fail. But God has been showing me some things. So, I am sharing what I learn in an effort to help you feel good. Nothing more. Be healthy. Live well.

What’s not needed

Quit running to doctors and putting your faith into what amounts to be medical witchcraft (Yes look up the history, especially all of you who are so fast to point a finger at anyone who believes in another religion). Those big pharmaceutical companies you love so much are a cog in the wheel of the beast. They do NOTHING to cure anyone. They may prolong life but in what state? They do not cure. They ease suffering perhaps. They mask symptoms so you never DO anything to heal your Temple. In my estimation, they are the liars. They are the ones who are selling you false hope. I am tired of hearing people’s excuses why they need this or that drug from a chronic illness. Your lifestyle, mostly the food you’re eating, that’s what’s chronic. 

Go to the doctor if you break a bone, but for asthma, digestive issues, migraines, back aches, arthritis, inflammation, and more… seek alternative advice. I am not a doctor, nor do I prescribe any treatments or solutions. I am shaking you awake! Take It Upon Yourself to live your best, most vital life!

As for exercise, meditation, and Jin Shin Jyutsu

Jin Shin Jyutsu is an energy medicine art that I have decided to focus on this year. I am learning (thanks to reader comments and friends), that it’s best to meditate, then perform Jin Shin Jyutsu, then do my daily stair climbing. That makes sense to me. But I am always trying to maximize what little spare time I have. I work full-time. So, I do the stair climbing when I need a break at work. Thankfully I am able to take a 10-15 minute break twice a day, and my stair climbing has improved so much that I can climb 8 flights safely, and return, within that time. Much less actually.

Exercise works the body, and meditation dedicates the mind. I will learn transcendental meditation (TM) at some point.

The pulsing, or vibration that I feel when I practice Jin Shin Jyutsu is simply amazing! I feel God bumps when I talk about it! I need nothing outside of myself to validate anything for me.

I am connected to my breath, I am enjoying all the self-care I have learned about this past year. I am excited and hopeful about the future. All really is well.

Announcing a new book

I have a second new book coming out in February, so stay tuned for more on that. The name of the book is, The Energy of Receiving by Happiness Publishing. My first book is doing well on Amazon. You can find it here –>> Transform Your Life, Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Insights.

Living a blessed, blissful, and happy life in balance

Live blessed and blissful in balance

To live a blessed, blissful, joyous, and happy life to me, means living life in balance, squeezing all the juice out of life in the present moment while aware and conscious of God, (Source, Holy Spirit, Energy, Creator), the Divine Presence that I call, Omniscience.

My work

My “work” (day job) is not just what I do Monday through Friday each week to earn a paycheck. But it aids in my learning how things work. It often causes me to consciously acknowledge  how energy works because I find many contrasts there! LOL

My main and utmost job though is to myself, my inner being, my true nature which is, to work on a spiritual and energetic level.

Live blessed and blissful in balance

God Bumps

To always focus as Spirit leads me, where I feel the bodily sensation of “God Bumps” (thrill bumps, chills, tingles, ripple feelings). The more I feel these God Bumps the more it seems to occur whenever I meet, have a conversation with, or sit in the presence of other beings who are also on a path of enlightenment. These God Bumps are energy resonating within my body. Typically it brings me to the present moment, to be conscious of the fact that I am a spiritual being having an earthly experience.

I seek out (and visit again and again) the people and places, that cause me to feel God Bumps. I believe I feel these sensations because I am an empath. I really feel it when I make a soul connection with someone. I also blog (write) about it! Click here for my other articles.

Not above or below

I’ve always held a belief that no one is more worthy of: spiritual enlightenment, fame, huge salary, or any other so-called measure of success – than anyone else. More is going on. I’ve always felt some sort of injustice when I read of the huge salaries and bonuses some people receive, while many others are barely making ends meet. Do some people really work harder, smarter, than the rest of us? Clearly different classes of people have always existed through history. A few who live very well, while many thousands, even millions subsist.

Also, I have prayed for the upliftment of religious leaders who got caught up in scandalous activities. Not that everyone who is a spiritual leader or teacher is perfect, save one I know of, but I hold such leaders to a higher standard – and I think many of us feel that way.

Jesus – The Christ

Speaking of the perfect one? The Holy savior, Jesus Christ of Nazareth. My mother taught me of Jesus’ perfection as He was/is God made flesh. I am of the mind that God made Jesus to show us the true way of enlightenment – and how we are all energy.

Jesus did not look upon illness or dis-ease, He saw us in our whole (Holy) state of being. That is so when you study of His many miracles. He asked the lame to “take up thy bed and walk” because the man had to believe he could walk – before he walked! Jesus already knew he could because walking was within the man’s ability. Jesus healed the woman (or helped her to experience her healing) who merely touched His garment because she reached out to Him by faith. Remember the Holy scriptures say Jesus said, “your faith has made you whole”.

Jesus came to show us, teach us, of our inner holy state, (our divinity) – but sadly many people still do not “get it”. That is why He said, “many will come in My name but deny the power thereof”. Power = energy.

Energy

Energy separates us from the inanimate objects man creates. We cannot breathe life / energy into anything we make. Our babies get their Spirit, energy, breath from God, Divine Source. God breathes and works through us and all living things.

Earning and Worthiness

We are all inherently worthy to have our needs met – even our desires. If one person can somehow manage to “earn” a billion dollars, then others must also be capable. If one person is able to feed millions, others must also be able. At least the possibility of attaining our desire is possible. This is why I believe we have a great responsibility. Not only to take care of ourselves so we can help others, but to acknowledge our connectedness. We can attain wonderful health. We can attain wealth – and wealth means different things to different people.

I know some will not receive this so well, because they believe some have more advantages, are stronger, more driven, or smarter than others. I believe all have the ability, even those who are told they have some sort of disability. We are only limited by our thoughts, our imagination. We are limited when we do not understand, do not know, that it’s all energy. We are energy. Every living thing on this planet has energy running through it.

Examples

Once at Disney I was asked “what is innovation”? At the time all I could think of was, it’s the entire scope, big picture – larger than any one invention. I wasn’t complete in my answer. Innovation is taking other things, and putting them together in new ways. We are innovations – energy building blocks put together in different ways, we look different and speak different languages, believe different things, but the common thread among us is the foundational component of ENERGY. So in this very magical way – we are all connected and able to help, sustain, and heal each other. We are called to recognize and honor this fundamental knowing.

I also worked with a lovely gal who reminded me to use the essential oils that I had. The oils had helped me so much in 2005 to release asthma from my body, and because they aren’t processed through the liver, one can heal without putting a load on that crucial organ.

If you have difficulty letting go, work to heal your liver because it is a storage place for anger, resentment, bitterness, hatred, jealousy, envy, addictions, and a host of destructive feelings.

I learned to Put a drop of Release oil blend on my belly to ease stored emotions from the liver. Of course, drinking half your body weight in ounces of pure water daily and doing a liver cleanse is helpful too.

My Calling and True Nature

I believe that is my true nature, my calling. Energy is fully functioning omnipresent and omniscient in our being and dis-ease is when we disconnect (for whatever reason) from it. With every breath, God. With every heartbeat God. Pray without ceasing. The best prayer you could ever say is: “Thank You.”

The reason I love “laying on of hands”, and other healing energy work, is because it honors and places our Creator, Source, God as our supreme healer. I worship God when I pray or in other ways, work to assist others in the health and healing of their bodies. This is why my quest is to learn more about energy healing. Ever on the look out for how I can better assist.

The most wonderful masterful healers I have discovered include (but are not limited to):

Joan Massey (Affordable Acupuncture, South Carolina)

Alison J. Kay (Healer, author, radio show host, coach)

Dr. Laurie Zakresky (Divine Books, Madeira Beach)

Dr. Bauduin at Madeira Beach Center for Natural Medicine

John of God (Lives and works in Brazil – connected through Crystal bed at First Unity Church, St. Petersburg)

My daily mission is: to consistently and joyfully manage the contrast between things that frustrate me, which cause me to ask for improvements in my spiritual yet earthbound experience, and reach for better feeling thoughts, keeping my body at ease, allowing myself to receive the divine blessings God has in store for me (which, Jesus came to show are our birthright).

In other words: To be joyfully aware of LIMITLESS Filling-All-Space Creator in every present moment.

To me, this is the sum total of living a blessed, blissful, joyous, and happy life – everyday no matter what the circumstances.

Always remember we walk by faith. Be conscious every present moment. We walk in the light and are never alone. We are all connected.

Namaste and love,

Sheila

Decision Making, Risk Taking, and Accepting Responsibility for Choices

Decision Making, Risk Taking, and Accepting Responsibility

Yes, I know the title is long. I haven’t posted anything in my self analysis section in awhile because I’ve been busy. Went to Connecticut to visit my beautiful one year old granddaughter. Left a job. Began a new job. Got involved with “another” multi-level marketing (MLM) business.

Excuses?

These sound like excuses don’t they? Maybe they are or maybe they’re valid reasons. In either case, it’s me, explaining myself to you. But why? I don’t owe anyone an explanation especially since this is my blog and I write for the love of writing. That’s the point – people tend to “explain” themselves to everyone all the time.

Explanations

Explaining. We all do this to some degree or another – every day. We typically explain ourselves even to people who really aren’t all that important in our lives. What a waste of energy!

Energy drain

Do you know that when we explain our choices we drain ourselves of energy? Most of us “explainers” are strong “people-pleasers”. We often care more about what others think of us, than we think of ourselves. We do this out of a need to feel ACCEPTED.

Beliefs

We believe we can’t be happy (accept ourselves) unless a) we make others happy, or b) we need others to make us happy. And that’s simply not true. We can CHOOSE to BEHAPPY. All on our own. No one else needs to DO anything for us, nor do we need to do anything for anyone else.

What a concept!

Do you know where your true JOY comes from?

Being happy with yourself. Accept yourself. Be happy with your life – your journey. If you’re not happy perhaps you’ve made some wrong choices or put yourself in a situation you’d rather not be in. I say “wrong choices” only because ultimately your choices didn’t make you happy! But you learned life lessons. Perhaps you’re feeling sorry for yourself. Give yourself credit for who you are NOW.

Learn and Choose

Choice

You can make a very powerful choice. You can choose to be happy amidst whatever circumstances you find yourself in or you can choose to make different choices.

Sit still – right where you are… for a few minutes and just – BE.

Think of all of the good things in your life. Times when you made wonderful choices. You have every reason in the world to be happy!

There have been times in my life when my supervisor or manager at work wondered why I didn’t make decisions. Typically it was because I was waiting on something or someone to do something first. When I read this article it perfectly explained that situation. I didn’t make certain work decisions because I was waiting for someone’s approval. All that waiting was so draining. And it also seemed that sometimes I’d make a decision only to be criticized (sometimes severely). It put me in the vicious cycle of never being able to win. We’ve all heard people say, “no matter what I do – I can’t win” or “you can’t please everyone”. And that was me – until now.

I make work decisions based upon a risk taking matrix. In the most basic terms it goes something like this:

  • Is this decision in my best interest? (You sacrifice yourself and your happiness if whatever decision your making is for someone, anyone else.)
  • Is this choice best for the company? (This includes considering all ethics, laws, etc.)
  • In 20, 50, or 100 years will this matter?
  • What is the worst that could happen?

I recognize and accept responsibility. Making a wrong decision almost always can be reversed – if the need is great enough. And I do not work in a field where lives depend upon my decisions. Point is, if the decision is mine to make – I must make it with the best information I understand at the time not necessarily by considering “the need to please others”. There is a time and place for building consensus among team members but this is not the focus of this post.

It’s no wonder people-pleasers have a hard time trusting their own intuition. They’ve been waiting on someone else to do something – anything to relieve them of the need to “make a decision.” I have actually known people who cannot decide upon what restaurant to eat at, or even what item to order once they get there!

A former manager I worked with a few years ago told me one of the traits he looks for in those he promotes is the ability to make a decision! His statement still rings in my ears.

Fear

How many people are scared to make a decision?

We must learn to become risk takers and accept responsibility for our choices if we ever hope to become enlightened and be our best most joyous self.

Blocks

I have blocked my own energy and creative power in the past by feeling a deep need to always explain myself. I am now learning to be much more aware and when I feel the need to explain I think for a moment and reason it out.

I begin to think different thoughts.

Happy thoughts.

It sounds easy enough as I write this, but I tell you – in the moment it’s not so easy.

I almost have to force myself to smile first, before I can guide my thoughts to something happy. People that aren’t “explainers” probably would have no idea what I’m talking about.

In control

The other day a person said something to me in front of others that I didn’t like. I felt the need to explain my side but I didn’t. I felt all of the emotions (due to my thoughts) about the experience well up inside me, my face grew hot, and though I didn’t look in a mirror I knew my chest and neck were probably red, but by gradually and systematically changing my thoughts (changing my focus) within less than five minutes I felt back in control. Empowered. No need to explain. No need to get angry. No need to do anything.

Think about what is most important in your life. Who is most important in your life. Put yourself and how you feel – with the goal to be happy – first. Notice the better you feel – the better you feel. Why? To feel better! In turn, you and those you love will feel better too. People around you pick up on your energy. We Are All Connected whether you realize it or not.

If someone is consistently draining you of your energy you only have two choices. Let whatever they say roll off of you as easily as water rolls off a ducks back. Or let the person (or job) go – out of your life.

When someone dissatisfies me in any way, I tell myself, “thank you for helping me make a better decision.” If it happens to be because of some poor service in a restaurant I choose not to go back. If it’s a business situation, I end the association. I’ve quit going to particular service providers. Changed doctors. You name it.

There’s plenty of options out there and I’m not going to stick around someone or remain in a situation that’s not in my best interest. Why would I? I don’t want to come home and complain to my spouse about things I certainly am adult enough to change.

I am quite sure that my words may not teach you how to make decisions, take risks, or accept responsibility for your choices. You may choose to completely disagree with me and that’s okay. I won’t try to change you. 🙂

Have a Magical Day

It’s seems like a very little thing. But sometimes it’s the little things that count.

I picked up a new tag line for my email signature space. I thanked the coworker (whom I’d copied it from) and let him know that I had decided to use it as well. Instead of “Regards”, or “Sincerely”, it was, “Create a Pleasant Day.” I used it for both for personal and business emails. Then, after accepting a role at Walt Disney World I changed it to, “Create a Magical Day” which, just played on the “Have a Magical Day” Disney slogan. They use it around the parks and we always ended conference calls with that phrase. I always thought it was lovely.

During a children’s program, that happened to be on TV while I was sitting with my grand baby, I heard the actors say something about magic words. Before that time, I’d just been thinking some random thoughts about how we really do create our days based on what we focus on. As the words “hocus pocus” were spoken I thought, Aha! Hocus pocus rhymes with FOCUS!

I’d been focusing on taking my daughter and grand baby back to the airport – they live in New Hampshire – and I knew I shouldn’t be spending any time thinking about that when I only had a few more hours to play with Jennie. Maybe indeed something magical was hidden in the words hocus pocus – were they guideposts to remind us that what we focus on, we give power to, thus we create?

What we focus on – that’s like something I recall from a lot of self help reading, “what we think about, we bring about” I believe is how it goes. And while studying energy work I’ve learned that where thoughts go, energy flows. It’s what’s behind ALL the intention talk.

So, when I sign off my emails, don’t think that I’m being all Disney, Harry Potter, or whatever. It’s just a way for me to remind myself (and maybe others too) that if we want to have a pleasant day, a day of pleasing and being pleased, a day full of joy or bit of bliss – then take few moments and focus on the positive. Think about what you’d like to happen, what might be nice if it worked out, instead of all the other seemingly endless things to nag or complain about. You know what you’re missing and I know what I’m missing but we don’t need to focus on what’s missing. Focus on what we have. Ah, that’s like living in gratitude, isn’t it?

World knows we all have plenty to be down about but what good does that really do? Thinking more pleasant magical thoughts makes me happier – and when I’m happier I bet there’s at least a few people around me who are happier too.