Why are you upset?

Upset? Why?

Why are you upset?

Well, as a highly sensitive person (HSP) and empath, I just learned today that, “You are only upset about someone else’s disturbance when you CONNECT with the negative Energy of their experience”! ❤️🦋🌀

It seems simple.

It seems I have heard something like that before. Or that at my age, I should have known that. Hmmm. I will meditate on that statement (sit with it) for a few days, and then update this post.

UPDATE: Be the change I wish to see in the world. Healing. Healed. Yes, I desire peace. And that’s why it is important for me to heal my wounds, past traumas, and triggers.

Would you like to share what you think this statement means?

You are only upset about someone else’s disturbance when you CONNECT with the negative Energy of their experience.

Why are you upset?

Choice

I know why I’m upset if someone does or says something TO me, and I know it’s my choice as to how I react. Some people laugh stuff off, but not me. I take stuff seriously. Ugh!

I know it’s my choice about how I react to external situations, but sometimes the emotions overwhelm me to the point that my logic doesn’t work. I use EFT to calm myself during those times, but I would prefer to feel less upset, especially when whatever the situation is has NOTHING to do with me!

Always a choice
Always a choice

Until today, I couldn’t figure out was why I let other people’s negative experiences bother me. When someone is sad or hurting, I empathize.

Why today?

I listened to Alania Starhawk’s lunchtime Facebook Live message and the statement in the image above just dropped into my mind!

Yes, whatever triggers a negative emotion in me, was already IN me! And at the moment of sensing the trigger, I have the ability to become conscious. When I am consciously aware, I can choose to soothe the past trauma or wound and make a better choice!

I’ve got this! And so do you.

We Are All Connected. OM

Many blessings to you in ALL ways.

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Practicing patience

Practicing patience

I went for a massage last Saturday and it seems my Licensed Massage Therapist (LMT) was having “one of those days.”

Do you know what I mean?

She was experiencing one of those days where lots of little things were going wrong. I could relate because I’ve been having one of those days for a couple of weeks. And when I am carrying a lot of tension, a massage is one of life’s luxuries that I feel is a necessity.

As it turned out, there was a message in the massage.

The message

My LMT started relating her experiences to me from her early morning. Since I felt I might be able to help her, and so, she wouldn’t take it out too much in the process of performing massage on me, I decided to listen closely. When she had fully vented, I began to offer her some cheerful comments to perhaps, lift her mood. At least I thought I would.

As she talked, we both began to realize what the issue was, and we both needed to learn and remind ourselves to practice… patience. Ah, a lesson and a great massage too!

The practice

She and I, maybe many of us, need to practice patience. Everyday. And there is work in that, I can tell you!

Perhaps we say we have patience. Maybe we have patience with ourselves, but get annoyed with others when they don’t move as fast as we want them to, do the job correctly the first time, or trust us to live up to our word. I’ve been told by people I’ve worked with over the years that I have “the patience of Job.” (Referring to the biblical story of Job.) So, I’ll give you a Bible verse I like, Matthew 6:8

Now, I know this verse has been and could continue to be interpreted and applied in many ways to our every day life. The way I like to think of it is, since God knows what we have need of before we ask then God doesn’t want us to worry.

Worry

Worry makes us sick.

Worry tires us.

When we’re rushing around, we’re worried that we aren’t going to get something done, meet someone, or get some place, on time.

We worry we’ll be late for a very important date. Why?

Worry implies we care more about what someone else thinks of us, than we think of ourselves.

How patience releases worry

So, I’m practicing patience. To let go of the need to please others. Sure, I like to arrive at work on time. And I like to show my boss that I go about urgent tasks, with a sense of urgency. However, all that stress, day after day, leads me to stress my body. It only hurts me in the long run.

I don’t know about you but I can’t remember ever getting a raise, or promotion due to rushing around.

Yes, consistent good performance, and meeting milestones at work – actually accomplishing things, that can bring rewards but I can always take time to breathe, to focus, to strive to understand, know the details – even if that takes me a few minutes longer. Taking my time means my work will be done correctly. Rushing may lead to errors. I’d rather have my work be clear, detailed, and accurate, than fast.

Been there, done that

My LMT wished she hadn’t left her office keys at the post office, when she went to check her mail. Her waiting client was patient with her though, thankfully. Perhaps, he’d once left his keys somewhere.

I bumped into a concrete post and put a small dent in the bumper of my husband’s truck – because I had to drop off my car key to a store that hadn’t correctly installed a part on my car the day before (meaning I shouldn’t have had to return there, had they done their job properly the first time). I’m glad my husband doesn’t get upset over things like that. Whew!

I had a friend damage one of my cars years ago and she didn’t feel a bit sorry! Unfortunately, I was irritated about that incident for a long time. I learned those feelings aren’t good for me to carry around.

A company I’m doing business with is threatening to sue me over a particular clause in a contract that I’d signed too quickly and apparently without fully considering the ramifications. They have no reason to sue me of course as I didn’t break our contract – but because I told them I was unhappy and didn’t want to do business together anymore they’re jumping to conclusions and threatening me. I guess it makes no difference that I’ve acted in good faith with full disclosure. It makes no difference that they’ll continue to make money by my association with them. It doesn’t matter either that they made mistakes – mistakes that have caused me to want to end our relationship. All of that leaves me feeling a bit disempowered, as well as aggravated, annoyed, grumpy, and angry.

Honor our feelings and other people

I’m honoring my feelings by venting and getting it out in the most healthy way I know, writing. I can’t put a positive spin on the experience yet, but because I have faith, I believe I can let go of it – one day.

I believe, as Jesus Christ commanded, it’s important to love our neighbor as ourselves. So I must love myself. I love myself when I honor all of my feelings. I’m not loving myself too much if by rushing around and stressing my body I make myself sick. Or if I deny my anger.

This brings me to my other interpretation of that Bible scripture I quoted previously.

Since God already knows what we have need of that must mean our prayers are only a form of obedience to God’s Word.

Lack mindset

Isn’t it interesting that typical prayers keep us focused on the lack of whatever it is we’re praying for?

Example: when we pray for someone to be healed it’s because they or others have told us they are sick. When we pray for someone to have a safe journey we are thinking of the unsafe things which could occur on their trip. We ought to be praying with FAITH which means… Believing What We’re Asking Has Already Been Accomplished!
Focus and feel we already possess whatever it is we are asking for as if we already have it.
Belief activates faith. Take it upon yourself to practice patience daily and let me know how it works out for you.