Speakers and Presenters: Grand Tips!

Grand tips for Speakers and Presenters

I have been speaking (and singing) in front of (and for) large groups ever since I can remember: in church settings, elementary school (putting on plays), college, social clubs, flea markets (selling products), networking events, yoga and music festivals (as emcee), and health fairs. I am no stranger to the stage. But, we can all refine and polish our public speaking and presentation skills, I am no exception.

I read an article today that prompted me to make a list of my tips, based on my experiences:

Before you speak

  • Know your subject well, yes do your research
  • Be able to defend or argue your story from multiple perspectives
  • Write down your speech and remove any filler words or phrases
  • Practice your speech in front of a mirror
  • When tempted to use, “you know,” “uhm,” or such just BREATHE (this space is necessary to slow your speaking rate down, as well as give the audience time to rest, make notes, and such)
  • Practice your speech in front of one or two people and ask for their feedback on how to improve it
Grand tips for speakers and presenters

Day of your speech

  • Meditate and expand your Energy out to ALL
  • Greet attendees or meet as many people at the event as possible, shake hands, fist bump, kiss babies, etc. (okay, maybe not kiss babies post-COVID times, but you get the idea)
  • Ease any jitters or “butterflies” using Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), Jin Shin Jyutsu (JSJ), or such (even humming to yourself works)
  • Once on stage, tune into your heart center and share your story from “that place”—from your soul
  • Look at some audience members from different sections of the room
  • Make eye contact with friendly “light” faces
  • Provide VALUE— never tell a story that doesn’t make a point (Thank you, Les Brown)
  • Involve your audience, ask “Have you ever…” or “Has this ever happened to you?”
  • Smile and laugh genuinely, when it fits
  • If you ever feel nervous, off track, forget what’s next, or self conscious, be wuiet for a moment and breathe, focus and speak from your soul, not your ego
  • Add color and depth to your personal stories, but don’t drone on, complain, or get caught up in negativity
  • People want to hear what you learned and how you grew from overcoming adversity
  • Don’t assume you know your audience—now, on Clubhouse, you probably won’t know them at all, and people are quite multifaceted these days
  • At the end of your lecture, bow and authentically with humility thank your audience for hearing you—they gave YOU moments of their lives

From Lenny Laskowski, https://www.presentation-guru.com/the-7-things-that-great-presenters-always-do-better-than-anyone-else/

Be Jesus

Be Jesus

You’ve heard, “Just Do It” as the marketing slogan. And you say you’re a Christian. But you don’t live like Jesus lived. You say it’s because He was God, or God in human form. You say He was perfect and that you cannot be perfect, because you are not God or not The Son of God.

But Jesus said WE are all sons and daughters of God. And that we could do even greater things than He did when He walked the earth.

Faith is trusting and knowing without any doubt.

BE Jesus.

Egoless

Jesus didn’t come to collect followers or win friends. He came to show us what IS possible. That it IS our birthright to live as He did. Study the scriptures with an eye to understand HOW He lived.

Living like Jesus has nothing to do with Ego.

Surrender your Ego.

This whole “need to be perfect,” and “need to be protected” stuff is all driven by Ego. That’s the only “work” you have to do—to let go of that.

BE Jesus.

Ego is manmade, and typically found when we get caught up in comparing ourselves (or our accomplishments) to others.

We are each unique, so all comparisons fall flat. No comparisons are needed. Comparisons are a waste of time. Waste of Energy.

Perfection

Ah, why do we limit our potential, limit our power by thinking we are not perfect? Jesus came to clean us and offer His “perfect protection.” So, why do we doubt ourselves? Do we doubt Him?

I don’t need to be perfect, or protected because I know that I’m enveloped by Omniscience. And I don’t say that with ANY sense of Ego.

I have spoken with some about this and they don’t understand.

It seems to me that being enveloped by Omniscience is when one is resonating IN a high level of faith, trust, knowing. IN that state of blissful resonance, one rests and surrenders to “Everything Resolves to Gratitude.”

One understands the meaning of that phrase.

Personal relationship with Jesus the Christ via the Holy Spirit is wonderful… but I have never felt it necessary to “convert” others or that Jesus is the ONLY way to God. Holy dialogue is inclusive. Jesus (in his lifetime) was the way to get around having to go to a priest to commune with God. Holy Spirit (Spirituality) is available to ALL.

It will ALL work out in the end. Breathe. Be still and know.

Be Whole.

BE Jesus.

❤️🦋🌀🙏☯️

Learn more about my Integrated Spiral program here, where we connect spiritual types more fully with their bodies and connect body conscious types with Spirituality.

Integrated Spiral transformational coaching 

A bit about me, your Spiral Sister

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, both available on Amazon.

I would love to speak at your bookstore, crystal shop, acupuncture / chiropractor office, or other holistic / natural fair or festival. I support healthy lifestyle businesses. For information on both of my books, visit my Amazon author’s page — Click here.

After 13 years of research and work, my health book, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is available at: https://read.barnesandnoble.com/book/take-it-upon-yourself-to-live-a-wholly-vibrant-life/

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Follow me on Twitter at: TakeOnYourself

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Today, a poem

Today, a poem

Whether you work or play,
Reach for the highest vibe today;

For when you glide in graceful flow,
Effortless work you will always know.

Whenever I feel confused or low,
I look at a tree and find its bow.

I muse and wonder why the branches bend,
providing shelter to birds, a godsend.

Often we stand 180 degrees apart,
Yet listen to understand when we open our heart.

I don’t always know the answers, my friend,
But I believe we all will, in the end.

Sheila Murrey, Spiral Sister ❤️🦋🌀

Chakra Balancing:Yoga to Balance Mind-Body, Spirit and Soul

I am sooo glad I attended this aWEsOMe class four years ago:

Chakra Balancing:
Yoga to Balance the Mind, Body, & Spirit offered by Dr. Ronald Porter in St. Petersburg, Florida

In the yogic tradition, the chakras are known as wheels of spinning energy found throughout the body.

Usually, energy has the ability to flow though us with ease. However, the situations we encounter in life can often leave our energy blocked and unable to flow freely.

Gentle way to bring healing to your body. It’s as close to you as your breath.

Working with the chakras through yoga is a means of restoring a healthy flow of energy throughout the subtle energetic body, therefore bringing balance to the physical body.

Dr. Ronald K. Porter proved to me (during the workshop) that through movement and breath, I could partner with the Energies in my body to heal it!

In the class, we explored both the meaning of the chakras and subtle energetic body, and engaged in a yoga practice specifically focused on balancing the chakras.

Practicing yoga in this way, and incorporating it into my soul helped me realize I was also doing some very deep soul work too. Thus, why I added Soul to the title of this post. ❤️🦋🌀☯️

I found relief in my body, as I did the breathwork to move Energy into spaces and places I had not focused on in years, if ever.

Specifically guiding my breath, brought immediate healing to one of my knees, and kept the energy medicine working on it for several days later! I knew I had found a healing method I was going to continue to use for the rest of my life.

I now incorporate basic elements of this in my transformational self-coaching program, Integrated Spiral. Won’t you join me?

Learn more about it here:

Integrated Spiral transformational coaching

A bit about me, your Spiral Sister

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, both available on Amazon.

I would love to speak at your bookstore, crystal shop, acupuncture / chiropractor office, or other holistic / natural fair or festival. I support healthy lifestyle businesses. For information on both of my books, visit my Amazon author’s page — Click here.

After 13 years of research and work, my health book, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is available at: https://read.barnesandnoble.com/book/take-it-upon-yourself-to-live-a-wholly-vibrant-life/

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Follow me on Twitter at: TakeOnYourself

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Becoming an Everyday Shaman

An Everyday Shaman

My current environment (living off grid on private property), has afforded me the opportunity to really, thoroughly, BE in nature.

My husband and I also live in an RV. We’ve lived in our 38 foot 5th wheel home for 10 years, as of this writing. Initially, we both worked outside the home, but now, we are both home all day, everyday. (I have been working from home for the last 3 years.)

I have had to be a hermit due to COVID-19 too.

An Everyday Shaman

So, here’s my little breakdown of what I have learned so far and why I am exploring Shamanism:

Bug bites

I don’t like being bitten by bugs: yellow flies, ants, or other. Do I know they have a right to be here? Yes. Do I know they are food for other creatures? Yes. But I am aggravated when my skin itches and feet, fingers, or toes swell up from the inflammation the bites have caused!

I take a moment and BREATHE.

I try new and different salves.

I make my own salves from Comfrey I have grown. Shamans are said to learn from plants and make nature-based medicines, like balms, tonics and tinctures, and salves, and are focused on documenting and sharing beliefs about herbal remedies for various maladies. Check!

And I am getting better at remembering to apply bug repellent (I have tried many different natural and botanical pest repellents), BEFORE I go outside. Even if I am only goinglring out for 5 minutes!

I have had to accept insects are on this planet for a reason. They do a lot of good!

In our garden, insects turn the soil. They attract birds and pollinators too, which enables our vegetables to grow. ☀️💦🌱

I say again, what you resist, persists!

Take another moment and BREATHE. Change your Energy. ❤️🦋🌀

Multi-Directional, Multi-Dimensional

Every morning for the last few years, I have been doing this shaman-like practice:

I fully bend at the waist and let my hands and arms hang to the floor. As I rise, I raise my hands to the sky and say, “Thank you for all the gifts and blessings (knowings) that I have received from the East” (and do this for each direction, north, south, east, and west while turning my body to stand facing each of those directions).

I thank God above, earth below, my past behind, my future ahead, and the cells of my body within. I thank my parents and ancestors and know ALL are WITH thee (my grandparents name was Withee, and this makes that statement personal for me). I know ALL is WELL. ❤️🦋🌀🙏😘

I then, consciously send LOVE out in all directions: north, east, south, west, above, below, forward, and behind. Unseen and seen. Past, present, and future. Indeed, in ALL directions for the benefit of ALL.

There is nothing to forgive, because there is value in Everything. And Everything Resolves to Gratitude. ❤️🙏

Unifying

Lately, I have mostly been getting my socializing online. And while I enjoy being online, some people tend to hide behind their keyboard and say things that are disempowering, unsupportive, judgmental, even unkind online that they wouldn’t tell me in person. And that saddens me.

Some of my “Love and Light” friends don’t act like they believe in unifying. They claim to believe in unity, but then they call me, or others names. Name calling is NOT unifying. There, I’ve said it.

And for Christians, one of the most used directives in the Bible is, “If my children,” “When my people,” and so on, do this or that.

God’s children, God’s people are called to be unifying, to serve, and to Love.

For more about this, read my previous article here.

So, yes, sometimes it is loving to leave someone, if you can’t manage to see another’s perspective and be open to growth and change, or muster the self control to be kind. ❤️🙏

What you resist persists

Will we get mad at certain things or people? Probably. But to live a wholly vibrant and fulfilling life, self control (starting with mastering your thoughts and emotions), is your work. Everyone has their own opinions. Let others be. Is it really your job to ruffle feathers?

Consider these quotes:

If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. 🦋

Ghandi

Remember, when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

Albert Einstein

Every feeling makes a subconscious impression. The dominant of two feelings is the one expressed.

Neville Goddard

Self control

Look at yourself. Are you perfect? And what is perfection about anyway? As I’ve written about before, expand your mind to find perfection in the imperfection.

Life’s an art more than it is a science. The need to be perfect is fear based. There is no perfection in Art.

Shine your light. No judging required. Have a little self control. Timing is Everything. I get that this is a matter of practice.

Conditional

By its very definition, Love is unconditional. You can’t say, “I love you” and then get mad when your loved one does something you do not like. That would mean you only like that person when they meet your conditions.

You are rarely loving anyone. You like people. You like animals. You don’t love people when they do or say things you don’t like or agree with. It’s a wonder anyone stays married anymore or has children. So much discord.

Try a little patience with those who think different than you. Love is a seed. Let it grow instead of rooting it out or stomping it to death.

You don’t know what’s best for everyone. Nor do you or I know everything. Honestly, none of us will ever know Everything.

Art of Allowing

Because I have had to find a way to actually live my beliefs with a husband who is “constantly under foot” and doesn’t always agree with me in thought, word, or deed (action and timing), I am so glad the Universe brought Law of Attraction and Art of Allowing into my life in 2008.

Now, I am really integrating everything I have learned into my life!

When I get stressed, I stand up, take some deep breaths, exercise, do some yoga or qigong, take a walk, or sing!

Growing living things

I have planted seeds and watched them sprout.

Too much rain washes them out of seeding containers or moves them out of the place where I put them in the garden.

Too little water and the plants die. I am hydrating myself more now too!

I love watching ferns sprout through the dirt and form a delicate spiral. I love ferns and never knew they did that until I walked through the forest enough times to observe them growing.

We all grow through the dirt. ❤️🦋🌀🙏☀️💦🌱

Sending love

The gratitude and love I feel and send is unconditional. I must send it to those I disagree with, as much or more than to those I agree with, otherwise I am not growing or expanding my consciousness.

I have broken down too. But, for now, I choose to bend as the willow. I choose to rise in growth. I choose to unplug from my phone and rest. I choose to turn, turn, turn. There is a season for ALL things.

Wrapping it up

I’ve written previously about some of my dreams and hypnosis sessions (similar to vision quests that Shamans do) to gain knowledge, direct revelations, and other dimensional guidance and healing.

I use breathwork, solitary time (to include prayer and meditation), fasting, singing, and chanting, like Shamans do. I enjoy drumming, but tend to do it only on my body, instead of an actual drum. I don’t use psychedelic substances, but can reach an altered state of consciousness by meditating.

I communicate with crystals, dirt, sky, stones, trees, and some animals. I know that I am a diviner, with an ability to bring healing to the planet by connecting Heaven and Earth.

Some shamans work with unseen elements within the subtle realms of sound frequencies and light (bodies of light and shadows). And while I know they are there, I am not bold enough to think for a moment that they work with me, though I am grateful for their help should they choose to intervene.

I embrace the ALL of what is wanted along with what is not wanted. The dark and the bright shining light that comes from mindfulness and accepting the sacred geometry within nature. There really is value in Everything.

Namaste. OM

A bit about me:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon.

Plus, the brand new book that’s been in the making for 13 years, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format).

Buy it here: https://beingwhollyvibrant.wordpress.com/2018/09/12/book-launch-take-it-upon-yourself-to-live-a-wholly-vibrant-life/

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Check out this original song, I Know Stuff. My husband wrote this song and it was performed and recorded in a Nashville, TN studio. You can listen to it here: https://youtu.be/tvLaiqS8sYw

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

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Don’t blame, reframe!

Don’t blame, reframe!

Whenever you are ready to blame someone for hurting you, take a breath, take a walk, or sit with the situation for awhile before reacting.

Reframe the event several times to see if you can find where you played a role.

When I have allowed myself to get upset over something, I have found that if I can have a few minutes to an hour alone, without someone taking my side right away, I can usually turn things around in my head and get out of blame. And it feels better to me when I can manage to stop blaming another—and not see myself as the victim.

How to step out of blame

  • Breathe
  • Take a few moments to change your state
  • Take a walk or change your environment
  • Consider the situation from another’s viewpoint
  • Do something else for a bit
  • If possible, message or call the person who caused your upset
  • Take a shower
  • Meditate or say a prayer (not just about the situation, but for all involved—including you
  • Sleep on it
Blue light butterfly 🦋

What can you learn from this?

Butterflies signify transformation because of the way they change during their metamorphosis. Try to see if you can find the lesson you can learn from the event you just experienced.

The person that caused your upset may have no idea they upset you. You may merely need a change of perspective. In nearly every case of upset I have experienced, I was too much in my own head about the situation and when I changed my environment (as in walking outside, watching a movie, jumping on a business call, or sleeping on it), I was able to thoroughly change my view of the event and release my hurt feelings.

Ego

Yes, usually our hurt feelings have something to do with our ego. When I’m upset, it’s usually because my ego was bruised in one way or another—even if only a tiny bit.

And I don’t even consider myself to have much of an ego, but apparently I do.

It won’t hurt me to let go of more ego either. When we can embrace humility, it can help us stand more confidently. We can accept that we have a lot to offer others, in service—whether we are praised or not.

When people talk bad about you

I know it feels painful when someone talks bad about you. But would you rather be right, or feel good? If we want to feel better, reframing the situation can help.

I have had these situations occur in my life. I don’t blame the people (because to do so would put me in victim mode), but I have used those episodes to help me make better choices.

I used to shake my head before walking away, but I don’t do that anymore—because even that is a waste of my energy. I say to myself, they just aren’t on the same wavelength as me. Sometimes I teach by sharing, but mostly I just let it go. ❤️🦋🌀😉

A bit about us:

My husband is an award-winning illustrator, plus he is a seasoned guitarist, bass player, and songwriter (of over 400 original songs). You can view some of his artwork and listen to all of his songs on http://RichardMurrey.com or check out his latest 24 songs here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC53E21F-JlTW2iQmPcEIWkQ

I’m an Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon. Plus, I’ve written a new book (in the making for 13 years), Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, that’s now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format). Buy it here.

As well, you can hire us to promote your book, band, business, or services here: https://www.facebook.com/MurreyMakers-103294764612382/

Be the person your soul beckons you to be and let us promote you!

Here’s us: https://vimeo.com/416711742?ref=fb-share

Observations about Sheila

Conversations surrounding emotional balance, moral ambiguities, and deep spiritual truths (such as We Are All Connected, and Put Your Hands Together When You Pray), are what Sheila is most passionate about. She feels a profound empathic Connection with people and what they’re going through by merely sharing her own truth, by speaking freely about her personal struggles and the challenges she continues to overcome. Sheila strives to ease loneliness through teaching and sharing group collectives, help those exiting toxic relationships, and while reminding us ALL that we are stronger than we think we are, and that “Everything Resolves to Gratitude” in the end.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Follow me on Twitter at: TakeOnYourself

Read each morning

Read each morning

Today, and everyday, the peace of Omnipotent God, or what I have been given to know as, Omniscience—envelops me. May I see more aspects of OM.

From a place of peace.

I am enveloped by Omniscience

May I become more consciously aware of the essence of Omniscience, or Omnipresence.

Omniscience is always. There. Here. In. Through. Out. Around. East. West. North. South. Above. Below. Beside.

I love the empty space, white space, shadows, etc. and I recognize they aren’t really empty at all. ❤️🦋🌀

Light appears as ALL colors.

We are fractals of Omniscience

And we are each emanating Energy as a fractal of YOU.

All attachments are illusion. Even the attachment to your Ego isn’t real. The multi-faceted aspects of ourselves often do not shine from our innermost being or truth. This is because, human nature being what it is, personalities evolve (for better or worse), at differing rates of speed.

I can forget all things except the Love of Omniscience. 🌀

Quotes by Sheila Murrey

Open my awareness of boundless opportunities

Creator, as I awake each day, open my awareness to the boundless opportunities and abundant miracles (big and small), that I may enhance and expand my perception of ALL things. And as we share eternity, may I feel unlimited by time.

Energy control.

Time knows no bounds

I observe only growth, and note how each item of your creation grows at differing rates of speed, be it bird 🐦, bee 🐝, or me. Growth transcends time. I make a conscious choice not to judge others who have not learned the things I have learned (are not up to speed with me), and I choose to be easy on myself whenever I am tempted to feel that I am not up to speed with others who have reached their highest potential. I give myself Time.

Abide in Love & Compassion

The more I fully open and express to abide in You, the more I shine brilliant Love. And from LOVE, compassion, peace, and joy ripple and spiral outward.
❤️🦋🌀☀️🌱🎼😘

A bit about us:

My husband is an award-winning illustrator, plus he is a seasoned guitarist, bass player, and songwriter (of over 400 original songs). You can view some of his artwork and listen to all of his songs on http://RichardMurrey.com or check out his latest 24 songs here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC53E21F-JlTW2iQmPcEIWkQ

I’m an Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon. Plus, I’ve written a new book (in the making for 13 years), Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, that’s now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format). Buy it here.

As well, you can hire us to promote your book, band, business, or services here: https://www.facebook.com/MurreyMakers-103294764612382/

Be the person your soul beckons you to be and let us promote you!

Here’s us: https://vimeo.com/416711742?ref=fb-share

Observations about Sheila

Conversations surrounding emotional balance, moral ambiguities, and deep spiritual truths (such as We Are All Connected, and Put Your Hands Together When You Pray), are what Sheila is most passionate about. She feels a profound empathic Connection with people and what they’re going through by merely sharing her own truth, by speaking freely about her personal struggles and the challenges she continues to overcome. Sheila strives to ease loneliness through teaching and sharing group collectives, help those exiting toxic relationships, and while reminding us ALL that we are stronger than we think we are, and that “Everything Resolves to Gratitude” in the end. ❤️🙏

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Follow me on Twitter at: TakeOnYourself

Thank you for helping me choose a better feeling thought!

Thank you for helping me choose a better feeling thought!

I don’t know if I’ve ever (publicly) explained this before, but I absorb, and tolerate, even accept ”upset“ to a point, but after kindly expressing my concerns or frustrations (to one or more people), and not being heard, I then speak in a firm, perhaps demanding ”tone” or get loud.

At some point, my emotions boil over. And it only seems people hear me then. Ugh!

Either you want people to share, or you don’t. I am not shy, nor boastful. I am nice. I am kind.

The stream of consciousness, when cut, will come out in another way. Because Life ALLways finds a way.

Have you been belittled, or picked last?

In my 58 years on this planet, I’ve learned that
I’m typically too nice, overly sensitive, and emotional. But, I am not a victim, and certainly do not wallow in victimhood.

I’m a deep and careful listener, loyal friend, and strong advocate (especially for the underdogs, misunderstood, misfits, and those who create a healthier world for us all—beyond the next 7 generations). I am a critical thinker. And embrace individuality. I love the freedom I find in BEing independent.

I have a profound knowing that We Are All Connected. And that we’re only as strong as our weakest link.

We can pull together, or we can pull apart.

Notice the separation of the colors of the rainbow 🌈? What does it make you appreciate?

Even the rainbow’s colors are separated. But, by what? Though the colors are separate, we love the rainbow.

I listen first

I sit and I listen, gratefully with as much compassion as I have access to with mySelf, as others talk, often sharing too much of the current discord.

Then I speak.

But, it doesn’t feel good to me, when my voice gets “put in the back of the bus” by someone.

I only speak when I feel a strong urge. When I am compelled to share. I am propelled by Omniscience. And when my voice is cut off while I am sending love, what shall I do? This physically hurts me. I care deeply. But because of my complexion, my pain doesn’t matter? We ALL have a message, but here I go again, having to write it through my tears because SOMEONE felt they needed to hear from their more important “in that moment” others.

Imperfect action

In my humble opinion, promoting or monetizing poor behavior—is of a low vibration. And it serves to perpetuate one-sided, dense thinking. And yes, I know how that sounds. I am well aware that is a judgment, and obviously, others see nothing wrong with it to further their “cause.”
We never really know who (or how) others, no matter their complexion or ethnicity, have been persecuted.

Learning all the time

Do you believe as I, that life is a school? And that Everything, in particular, every experience we have is presented to us for learning?

Do you often wish you would respond to each challenge with your best response?
Perhaps people use bullying tactics to feel empowered. Perhaps bullying is their way of standing in their power. But, to the one in their way, it feels as though they are preying on the vulnerable or weak person.

I write a lot about the power of words, and tone. And tone can be expressed in writing, as well as when spoken. Thus, I thought I had grown to a place where words couldn’t hurt me.
But, I believe that we all mirror each other to some degree.

Mirror work

I don’t want to mirror someone’s dark side, so I often walk away, and simply stop arguing or fighting. I realize that “sending them love” would be my highest vibrational response, yet I am not always emotionally strong enough. At times, I have pushed back and been direct, only for the situation to escalate—even to the point of physical abuse.

An example:

This brings me to relate a recent situation:
I was emotionally triggered by a response (that looked and felt quite rude), to a comment made by one of my longest and dearest friends on my group, We Are All Connected. My dear friend had expressed her deeply religious comment (based on her belief) to a beautiful photo I had shared. The problem was that an acquaintance didn’t like my friends’ comment and felt offended by it because he is an atheist.

Initially, when I read his comment I felt it in my body. And the feeling wasn’t good. My gut wrenched because I felt like I had been punched! I wanted to spare my friends feelings, and as the admin, I removed HIS comment. That set off more back and forth from him because he felt I was choosing sides. And I was. Not because I don’t like him, or dislike atheists, or because I like her more, and approve of her religious beliefs, but simply to FEEL BETTER. (And he clearly broke the group rules anyway—he was not kind.)

Second example:

I have taken a lot of being talked down to, even in the business coaching program I am currently in. I often receive criticism, push back, month after month. Though we are encouraged to think big, and come up with a program worthy of a $10k price-tag, MY ideas are often dismissed as either “fantasy,” “unrealistic,” or that we may not be UP TO delivering what we want to offer.

So, I had one of those “last straw” moments in a group the other day. And unfortunately that moment coincided with other personal stressors (which I had tried to explain to my coach the day before, but was ushered to focus on our objective for efficiency’s sake).

Either you want people to share, or you don’t. I thought the point of a small group discussion was to speak our heart?

Of course I honor everyone on our intimate group calls. But, they had been quiet and I felt the inspiration to speak, so I broke through any thoughts about being misunderstood, and I opened my mouth to speak healing.

I will never know, now, what the last sentence would have been (it was only one more sentence), because our coach felt he needed to hear from others in our group (whom had not spoken in 8 minutes, and no one knew why). And thankfully, I had gotten to share a few thoughts, a few minutes earlier. I think my grandmother may have been speaking through me. And it’s sad her words were not allowed to be heard. I think she wanted us to realize that we never know who or how others, no matter their complexion or ethnicity, have been persecuted. But apparently, that was not the time (to speak that knowledge aloud).

Empowerment Coaching

I can find value in Everything. And I can turn, turn, turn, to the next best feeling.

All that to say, as a writer, and spiritually open-minded, caring, empathic, and such, I came abruptly, face-to-face with my own fallibility. I am human. I am not perfect. So how can I be an empowering coach?

By teaching you this?
Thank YOU (in appreciation of whomever is challenging me in any moment), for helping me make a better choice.

Ponder

Maybe we need to start by changing the way we think about these words:

black and dark, white and light.

Look deeper.

Consider this:

  • People for whatever reason, even as children, are afraid of the dark.
  • Light complexion people tend to call anyone with a darker complexion, black.
  • Black in the light spectrum is the absorption of all the other colors.
  • Others?

Let’s ponder this.

At some point, in the spiral of time, humanity will learn to appreciate, honor, and even revere, the CONTRAST that brings about Creation.

ALLways remember:

You are worthy.

Your inner YOU is L-I-M-I-T-L-E-S-S

As ALLways, thank YOU for helping me make a better choice.

❤️🦋🌀🙏☀️🌱