Beau’s eulogy

In memory of Lou-Lou’s Beau… in grief and warmest love forever:

While I am in this sadness…
Let me somehow reach for all the moments of JOY you (Beau) gave me!

How your daily obedience to me without fuss, always amazed me…
How you could wait for me, no matter how long I had to be away from home, always so eager to see me! I know you loved dinner time, but was it all that prompted you to greet me so?Beau 2003

You always showed me such enthusiasm with a tail wagging greeting when I came home! (Except for the last few months, when you began not even waking up when I got up in the morning, or when I would come in the door).

One of my best memories of you  (and of Lou-Lou) were when we lived in the little house on York; the house with the doggy door, and big back yard. You would nearly “fly” from the doggy door, over and off of the porch, and run all around the yard! Oh, how you both loved that! And you would always go way out in the yard (by the back fence) to do your “business.” (You were so thoughtful in that way). As well as, you loved to chase the squirrels!

When we moved to the new townhouse, how quick you were to greet every neighbor, especially Muriel Springer (Susan Springer‘s mom — Susan would later become my Reiki teacher. Such synchronicities always).

We also met an older gentleman while we were walking the neighborhood, whose name I have long since forgotten. He loved you so much that he and his wife invited us in and we would chat for several minutes while they offered you water. You magnetized people! The man eventually declined from Alzheimer’s, left his wife, and moved in with his kids in another state – his wife later told me she felt it was so he could be close to them and their dog!

You helped me get outside to exercise by walking with you three times a day, meeting new neighbors, and finding new trees and flowers too!

Another strong memory, was the year I thought it would be a good time to take you to Bike Week in Daytona Beach with me because my son Matt lived on the beach and we could walk to Main Street with them.Sheila and Beau Bike Week Daytona 2010

Boy, was I wrong! You absolutely hated all the loud motorcycles and I watched you nearly, literally, come out of your skin when the bikes would blast by! So, I picked you up and carried you the whole time. And we didn’t stay long!

Here we are with my daughter Marie (who also loved you more than words)!

Marie Sheila and Beau Bike Week Daytona 2010

What with all our travels, you were always such a sport! You loved adventure – well, most of it. You always looked for the adventure – on every walk! Even from almost the beginning when you innocently thought you’d say hi to a Boxer, who turned on you and nearly killed you (that one time I walked you and Lou-Lou in a city park in Missouri)… I had to rush you to the doggy hospital to get drain tubes and stitches! What an ordeal that was! But you forged through it, and recovered so nicely. It did not deter you from making other doggy friends over the years, thankfully!

You always enjoyed going to mom and dad’s house. My mom and dad loved you too!

You fathered two litters of puppies, some of whom went on to great things! You were the best dad to them, cleaning them and showing them the doggy ropes, which I have been told, not many doggy dads do!

beau collage to 2007

You showed us all quiet unconditional love.

You always waited to be “invited” to sit on the couch with me. When Lou-Lou was alive, you always let her sit on me and you’d go to my side or feet. You were always the gentleman, the gentle heart!

You loved flowers. You loved finding new places to pee/potty, and you always wanted to go #2 as far away from the street or house as possible.

Beau 42613

You loved traveling with me, you and Lou-Lou were my companions and guards when I drove back and forth from Missouri to Florida for work all those years ago.

You taught me to wag more and bark less – in fact you rarely ever barked!

One time, (nearly two years ago) you met a beautiful big white dog (some kind of English Setter) and you barked in your loudest ever excited way, at him and wiggled all over! You were so adorable! You loved him so much, behaving that way every time we saw him on our walks! It was over the top! Almost embarrassing!! LOL

You made friends, yes human friends so very easily Debby Stott Aznar and Richard will always love you!!) You loved to stay with them when they babysat you! You were in your glory riding with Deb in her golf cart! Oh how you loved to ride in golf carts, and she wasn’t the first person you bummed a ride from over the years.

You taught me the meaning of “no complaints”.
You put up with more than I will probably ever know. And remained my steady and faithful friend.

Beau by my leg Nov 2014I will miss your snoring! And I felt your snore all the way up to the end.

I will miss carrying you up the steps, three times a day, up and down, for the last two years (due to your losing your depth perception).

I will miss taking you to the groomers and picking you up, all fresh smelling and gorgeous!

Beau and Lou-Lou Easter haircuts 2009

I am so glad you got to go on one last, short vacation to Georgia with us. I am sure it was hard on you, not knowing where you were, and with the yard on a hill, and cold ground — as it turns cold in the hills of Georgia in October. But, you got to be with me the whole weekend, and I loved holding you on the drive home. Beau in Georgia

I will try to say, so long with tears of joy that you will go in peace, at home – in my arms. And you did. With only one cry.

Your final trip. Over the Rainbow Bridge. I pray you’ll romp now with a big white dog, a special English Setter, or Lou-Lou, or both, whomever you prefer! I will hold that thought of you today and forever in my mind.

Beau closeup

Kisses always!

The last veterinarian, Dr. Francis Baker, came to our RV and showed us great compassion during this sad time. And I commented to Richard as she drove away with you, that you got one last ride in a Jeep (just as you had travelled with me all those years, when I had a Jeep). Somehow, in that moment, I was able to smile just a bit. Oh, Beau! Synchronicities. Ah!

Lou-Lou’s Beau (your official AKC registered name), will be memorialized at the base of the next tree I plant (maybe my son will do that for us, at his home, or we’ll plant an apple tree up north in Mike, Marie, and Jennie’s yard).

I will be forever grateful to my friend Liz Lowry, from Missouri, for strongly suggesting that I get a second Shih-Tzu, which, thanks to my cousin breeding them at the time, turned out to be you! I will be forever grateful to my cousin Molly Reynolds Curry for bringing Beau into our lives, and her mom and dad for delivering him to me in Florida, all those years ago.

You are the white knight, Beau. My best boy. Best furry friend ever. Your love will live in my heart forever.

20-Jan-2002 to 21-Oct-2015

My butterfly magnet

Rest in peace our beloved, Beau!

A bit about me:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice,” “Energy of Receiving”, plus author of “Blue Eyes: Ethereal Messages of Connection,” and holistic health book that details how I naturally reversed asthma, “Have Yourself a Wholly Vibrant Life: Reversing Asthma and Other Chronic Illness Naturally” all available on Amazon.

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People perish for lack of knowledge

So many people are perishing. They are literally perishing for lack of knowledge about vitamins, minerals, enzymes, and NUTRITION!

In America, the land of milk and honey, where we have so much abundance, it is odd that anyone is lacking VITAL food, full of nutrition, especially when it’s readily available to most of us at our local grocery store, or farmer’s market. If you’re a homeowner or have access to any piece of land, you are especially rich – because you CAN grow your own food!

If you’re fighting a dis-ease, nutrition absolutely the best FUEL for your body. Time is of the essence! Do not procrastinate to give your body what it needs. No one wants cancer, chronic or degenerative dis-ease. No one wants to suffer.

The absolute must-have food for your body is 100 percent organic, non-GMO vegetables, fruits, nuts, and seeds. While personally I believe a raw vegan diet is best for exceedingly vibrant health and renewal, even if you gently cook some of your food, the produce section of your market has everything you need to get and maintain a healthy, life-giving, renewing, lifestyle. Yes, even through the winter months!

I want so much for you to understand the supreme importance of nutrition and how it benefits your body. YOU HAVE OPTIONS!

This is a topic I am totally passionate about! I have learned quite a lot about enzyme-rich, nutritionally dense living vegan foods, and how intelligent they are for you, because I used to be hungry all the time, and fat, when I ate processed, nutritionally deficient foods. Fast food, canned, boxed, and overly processed foods never fill you up — thus you eat, and eat, and eat!  Often, all of that unstoppable eating, gets us fat, or worse, contributes to chronic dis-ease.

You eat, and eat, and never get proper nutrition. Then you wonder why you feel like crap, sluggish, with no energy, and suffer from type 2 diabetes, inflammation, and so on. How can this be?

To explain it thoroughly, I’d have to take you down the rabbit hole of nutrient deficient SOIL that vegetables and fruits are grown in these days, not to mention all the extra junk added to foods (which, attempts to make processed food taste good, perhaps even aimed at getting you addicted to it). Those additives raise your blood sugar levels and prevents your body from actually producing some of the things the body needs to maintain good health.

That’s all before we get into the conversation about pesticides and herbicides, which are sprayed on produce at the farms, along with hormones and antibiotics given to the animals, and so on. Much of what’s fed to animals is passed to us via dairy products, meat, etc. It’s a bit overwhelming when you think of all the contributing factors in the food chain, which are unhealthy for us and contribute to various dis-eases.

When I think about and analyze all the reasons processed foods hurt us, it propels me to do all I can to educate people. Do you know that white sugar is addictive as heroin? Yep. Interesting huh?

So, would you rather pay the farmer, or the doctor? I’d rather pay the farmer!

Eating healthy may not be as glamorous as laying in a hospital with an IV in your arm (not!), but I’ve got way to much to do than to lay around feeling sick and yucky. Nor do I want to go to any doctor office or hospital. Those can be pretty scary places!

I don’t know about you, but I want to fully LIVE! I want to feel GREAT, vibrant, vital, with lots of energy!

I feel my best when I eat mostly organic whole local produce, nuts and seeds. I do not need dairy. I do not need grains. I do not need animal products every day (actually I only consume one serving of chicken or fish ever other day currently). It is possible to live on a raw vegetable and fruit juice diet, with some raw vegetable salads along with nuts and seeds, soups, or only juicing.

You will probably feel better on the kinds of foods I recommend than you’ve ever felt in your life!

What follows is the diet I’ve been following for several months:

One glass of lemon water or lemon Kombucha upon awakening in the morning

One protein drink (mixed with water)

One or two small fresh veggie salads, the size of which varies – depending upon if it’s an “eating day” or a “non-eating day”

Salad snacks consist mainly of:

  • Cucumbers – chopped
  • Celery – chopped
  • Sweet peppers – chopped
  • Onion – chopped
  • Raw garlic – sliced
  • Zucchini or Squash – chopped
  • Avocado
  • Mustard or soy-free Veganaise
  • Hot sauce

Raw almonds can be used as a snack also.

Berries are the best fruit snack as they are the least sweet, then mango, pineapple or half a banana can be eaten occasionally

Another protein drink (mixed with water)

1 or 2 green juices are best, daily.

Every other day, eat one serving of baked, broiled, or grilled fish or chicken and a salad or green vegetables.

Coconut oil can be taken for nutritional needs as desired.

If hungry before bed, make another protein drink (mixed with water) – typically done on the nights that I do not eat a dinner meal.

This diet eliminates sugar, grains, soy, bad salts, bad oils, and dairy.

In my experience, this is a healthy diet and one that has been promoted by doctors I have conferred with.

Here’s a video that explains a bit more about why I am doing an intermittent fasting type of diet:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4UkZAwKoCP8

If you don’t think you can go without food for a whole entire day, you might like this alternative:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xHQbg4xH9lw

DISCLAIMER: This information is freely shared for educational purposes only. Site author / owner cannot assume responsibility for how this information is applied – as each person is unique, with their own dietary needs / restrictions. Please consult with your own licensed health and wellness practitioner before beginning a new diet or big lifestyle change.

A bit about me:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice,” “Energy of Receiving”, plus author of “Blue Eyes: Ethereal Messages of Connection,” and holistic health book that details how I naturally reversed asthma, “Have Yourself a Wholly Vibrant Life: Reversing Asthma and Other Chronic Illness Naturally” all available on Amazon.

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

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Be as the blade of grass, grow through the dirt.

I’ve heard it said, “you’re either growing or dying” and that, “the universe is either expanding or shrinking.” If that is true, then it seems to acknowledge that everything in life, all there is around us, is dynamic – nothing is static.

In a previous post, I wrote that, “We grow as blades of grass, up through the earth.” And that “dirt, or earth, is analogous to all of the resistance we encounter.” Perhaps resistance is “sin”?

These thoughts were instigated years ago, when a coworker encouraged me with the phrase, “Bloom where you are planted.” Oh how right she was!

At that time, I felt constant irritation from a superior when he would casually walk by my desk and tell me to smile–while I was working!

Being the studious and serious type, smiling while concentrating on work tasks was something I just didn’t do. The more he admonished me to smile, the more aggravated I became.

In passing, I must have mentioned my exasperation to my friend, when she lavished me with that golden nugget of truth–about the blooming. I even remember thinking of a response to her–“yes, no matter how much fertilizer is put upon you!” (but I didn’t tell her).

Day in and day out, I would notice people around me laughing, chatting, and cutting up during the day, but I wasn’t.

I am an empath. I am a highly sensitive person (HSP). I feel lots of things very strongly.

I have discovered that I become resentful when things aren’t fair or balanced.

While working in an office, I recall thinking, “we’re here to work” and “we’re here to earn our pay.”

Why was I always the one to feel so determined! I was always applying effort. The pitfalls of continually wanting to do my best, try hard, people-please, and succeed, yada, yada. But at what cost to my Self?

Realizing I was wallowing in resistance, I knew I had to climb out of it, or it would bury me. A seed pushes against dirt in order to grow, but I felt as though I was pushing against me, not growing, but receding! Plants, indeed everything in the living kingdom need the resistance in order to grow, and grow strong.

One day, I learned what hell meant.

Out in the garden we can hell for potatoes, as in “we’re sweating out here helling for potatoes.” Hell is just “the ground”, or “the dirt.” It never was meant to be some fearful place of oppression or torment.

So, my thoughts of “this is hell” was the only thing that kept me disturbed. And I lacked the knowledge, at the time, of how to climb up out of the grave (of the frustrating job) up the slippery walls of resistance and into freedom.

Eventually, as other factors contributed, I left the job.

Years later, during a time of fasting, those years of struggle came to mind, but with softness and thanksgiving, the resentment fading. Not only had I learned more about myself, but as a body builder strengthens muscles from lifting weights, I had grown emotional muscles! I was “blooming” from what I had perceived of previously as resistance!

I distinctly remembered the day I had begun saying to myself (about my boss), “Thank you for helping me to make a better decision”–whenever I’d felt picked on or taken advantage of (to do more work). I couldn’t change whether or not I was picked on, but I could have changed my reaction to it! And it had always been my choice–whether I was willing or able to know it then or not–as to how much work I was willing to take on.

All the feelings I’d felt were solely based on my perception and may not have been entirely accurate, as one can never really see things from ALL sides anyway.

Looking back, I saw where I had resisted quite a few things during that time, which is probably why I felt harried and stressed.

Oh, had I just learned to “go with the flow” sooner, I could have smiled and experienced joy.

I’ve learned, we didn’t come into this life for the struggle. Life will go on without us after we’re gone. Whether we leave a company, end a marriage, or die. Nothing’s static, everything changes.

Now? I’m learning to let go and breathe. Get more play into each day. My former superior might be happy to know that once in awhile, even if I’m troubleshooting something, I smile and “IN Joy” the action of whatever it is I’m attempting to do. I wish for you the same.

See ya on the flip-side, dynamic good buddy.

Life’s a thrill, hang on and enjoy the ride!

A bit about me:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice,” “Energy of Receiving”, plus author of “Blue Eyes: Ethereal Messages of Connection,” and holistic health book that details how I naturally reversed asthma, “Have Yourself a Wholly Vibrant Life: Reversing Asthma and Other Chronic Illness Naturally” all available on Amazon.

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

For more about me, this blog, how I create websites, why I wrote a holistic health book, and more, find me on Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn.

12 easy ways to reduce stress!

The following list of helpful and easy ways to reduce stress, is ordered from activities that require the least physical effort, to the most. For the most part, this is a list you can reach for during your workday break times (as there are many more ways to reduce stress when you’re home).

Give one or more a try, especially if any are new to you! You may be surprised with the results!

My favorites are:

  1. Prayer
  2. Meditation / Mindfulness
  3. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT “Tapping”)
  4. Jin Shin Jyutsu
  5. Pranayama breathing
  6. Sniff some essential oil
  7. Gentle stretching
  8. Get up and walk around
  9. Swaying to music
  10. Mindful stair-climbing in conjunction with EFT / JSJ
  11. Yoga
  12. Pilates

For a bit more information on these, I like the following links:

Guided prayers

Or, my favorite prayer is simply, “Thank you“. If there is time, you can think of and add anything you’re grateful for. You just cannot be grateful and upset at the same time.

Meditation and yoga teacher Dr. Alison J. Kay offers weekly group telephone calls, online video-conferencing (Google Hangout), and private sessions where you can learn about meditation techniques. She teaches yoga classes too! Alison’s yoga classes are designed for specific issues / needs; i.e., yoga for triathletes, yoga for runners, yoga for hockey players, yoga for teenage girls, etc. Her group fitness classes include: yoga, mind-body, and core-strengthening. Check out my blog post about her here.

My wonderful Jin Shin Jyutsu teacher, Michelle Giambra offers classes at her studio in Sarasota, Florida and she has a Facebook page here.

Find someone who sells Young Living essential oils and buy Stress Away, a beautiful blend of Copaiba, Lime, Cedarwood, Vanilla, Ocotea, and Lavender.

Gentle stretching might involve a few chair yoga moves, or just raising your hands and arms as high as you can and slowly lowering them out and down to your sides while breathing with purpose to slow down. Click here to find some chair yoga videos.

It’s amazing how just breaking your attention, even for a few moments, can ease stress and anxiety! Get up and walk around. A few minutes of walking around will help you to calm, breathe, look at other things, and change your focus. Yes, even just going to the restroom counts!

I like to sway to some original music when I come home after a work. Who wants elevator music? If I could do this at work, life really would be a breeze! To find some exciting new music, click here.

Mindful stair-climbing is something I’ve sort of invented for myself. Well at least I thought so, until I Googled it and found this. I do all sorts of meditation while climbing 8-10 flights of stairs, twice a day. I do it for exercise, and to relieve stress. It clears my head and I can return to work in less than 10 minutes – refreshed. I climb sideways, count backwards from 100, count by 3s, or 4s, etc. and sometimes I just focus on a mantra. It works for me!

Pilates has been the best new class I’ve embarked on in the past year. It’s given me increased range of motion, taught me to breathe more deeply into different areas of the body, and motivated me to eat less and better so I could lose weight (down 13 pounds so far!). Guess I’ll have to keep updating this page to tell you my progress, huh? If you’ve never tried it, check it out. I go to Blue Sage Pilates in Bradenton, Florida. If you live in the area, you may want to give Karol a call and schedule a session! If you can’t find a Pilates class near you, check this out — click here.

Ah, now doesn’t that feel better?

A bit about me:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice,” “Energy of Receiving”, plus author of “Blue Eyes: Ethereal Messages of Connection,” and holistic health book that details how I naturally reversed asthma, “Have Yourself a Wholly Vibrant Life: Reversing Asthma and Other Chronic Illness Naturally” all available on Amazon.

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

For more about me, this blog, how I create websites, why I wrote a holistic health book, and more, find me on Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn.

Fasting again… more insights and synchronicities

Hello friends and tribe,

As I have written previously, in the “We Are All Connected” article, “In my experience, if your heart is pointed in the direction of LOVE you emanate a vibration, sending ripples of unconditional love and compassion outward, which allow you to be a blessing to others. You will help yourself and lift others.”

I have also spoken about frequency, vibration, and energy as it pertains to the tone of our voice. As we communicate our words to each other, our tone sets off and gives to all, the intention of our hearts. Our tone actually communicates MORE than the words we are speaking! It may be one reason why some of us prefer to learn from hearing people speak, vs. reading, though I am certainly grateful that a good many of us read!

Now that my doggie is going deaf, I have noticed that he still responds to my voice and I think that is because my tone sends a vibration to him, that while he cannot hear the way he used to, he still knows the vibration of ME (and what I’m requesting of him).

Imagine throwing an object into water. You see the ripple effect from the pressure disturbance. In physics, one name for this effect, is the Huygen’s principle.

Huygen’s principle theorizes a “qualitative explanation of linear and spherical wave propagation” but does not answer the question of why waves are not circular (irregularities are maintained ) when an irregular shaped object is thrown into water.

What has that got to do with fasting, insights and synchronicities?

As you know, when you fast (abstain from solid food) the body uses the time it normally would to digest food to take care of a lot of other processes instead. For me, it always sharpens my mental abilities, opening me to new insights.

I am prone to using the time I would otherwise be thinking of what I want to eat, shopping (well, my husband does most of the shopping actually), preparing food, etc. to using the freed up time to read, exercise (even walking Beau more), watch YouTube videos, pray, clean, engage with others, think, and write.

Yes, while it’s my nature to analyze and over-think, this occurs on an even deeper level when I am fasting and though synchronicities abound, I am more aware of them.

So, I’ve looked back on some of my tweets (I love Twitter because I can note these deep thoughts in the moment) on days I’ve fasted (or when I’ve just came off a fast). In the moment, I’ve tagged these deep thoughts with #Love, #God, or #Peace. The particular thoughts that just seem to drop into my mind, are the ones I specifically tagged #God, or even ended with “- God” as if to sign them from God (as some church billboards have done).

Looking back on that, I see that Love, God, and Peace are all attributes of the energy and vibration that makes up All-That-Is, All One, the Ever-Living, Filling-ALL-Space, LIMITLESS Creator that vibrationally, connects us all.

  • You ARE only seeing PART of the picture – ever. God.
  • All tone of voice comes from the intention we are flowing, transmitting from our hearts. We literally pulse vibration outward!
  • See a pulsing, breathing yin yang symbol in your minds’ eye.
  • Most people have had God’s unconditional love, conditioned right out of them.
  • We are each a leaf on God’s tree (Gaia), each with our own unique perspective.
  • Displaying confidence is really just YOU, your real unlimited self!
  • Because I am a “being“, I am always worthy, because I am always . Always on my way. Always accepting.
  • When you with the ones you think the of, the world is yours!
  • When what you believe in hurts other people rather than helps, it’s not about , it’s about you.
  • When my tasks are aligned with my , I am going with the flow and feel great! When I am tired after work, I was in resistance.
  • If you can your enemies, man everything else comes !
  • There is nothing static in this world. Everything , revolves, shrinks, or grows. That’s life!
  • It’s simple really. Instead of “God made us in God’s image”, we see and make God to be like us, in our image. (Which is what causes the most problems.) God is Energy, in All. 
  • Why were we made in God’s image? To reflect God in all we be, do, and have!
  • Be as water, flow on and all. Seek your own level (balance). Water is not good or bad, water just IS.
  • Imagine God is the water in our bodies. About 70% of the body is water.
  • WE are to God upon each other, as water reflects the sky.
  • Whenever I bad, sad, mad, etc. it is always because my perspective differs from God’s POV which, is ALL WAYS

If your in a quandary about something, the best you can do in the moment may be to stop and do nothing (but keep breathing). Then, as you begin to start again, say yes only to the things that come your way that feel lighter (vs. heavier) feeling for the guiding bodily sensations before making a particular choice. Many call that listening to their “gut feeling.” I call these familiar sensations, my “God bumps”, and they are my validation that I’m heading the right way – and perhaps also confirming, so are you.

My way, may not be, your way. Many paths – one destination.

Don’t ignore your inner guidance – it exists for a reason.cropped-cropped-takeituponyourself-small-logo2.jpgIf you want to experience greater vitality, health, and prosperity, choose thoughts that move you to FEEL good. That’s about as simple as it gets and even a child can understand.

Please check out my books, other blog titles here — thank you.

In the name of our Limitless, Ever-Living, Omniscient, Omnipresent, Omnipotent, Pulsating, Be-ing, Creator Source God who IS the Energy that holds the Universe together. Beyond what we can see. Beyond what we now know. Faith IS the substance of things not yet seen.

In ALL ways, BE a blessing.

Amen and Namaste. OM

A bit about me:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice,” “Energy of Receiving”, plus author of “Blue Eyes: Ethereal Messages of Connection,” and holistic health book that details how I naturally reversed asthma, “Have Yourself a Wholly Vibrant Life: Reversing Asthma and Other Chronic Illness Naturally” all available on Amazon.

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

For more about me, this blog, how I create websites, why I wrote a holistic health book, and more, find me on Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn.

How to climb the ladder, or get the job you really want!

Climbing the career ladder

My friends have asked me many times, “How did you get that job”? I’ve told them some of these things, but maybe not all, so I am beginning a list (I’ll update it) of all my ladder climbing tips.

Also, how can you “play by the rules“, if you don’t know what the rules are?

Like me, you may have read other articles on this topic that have offered “x number of ways to get the job you want” or some other similar titles.

Most already know we must:

  • Know about the job (understand what the new job may entail)
  • Prepare a winning keyword-friendly resume (to get it by the automatic resume robots)
  • Rehearse and visual yourself doing great at the interview (when you get one)

The interview:

  • Dress appropriately and professionally for the interview
  • Ask intelligent and open-ended questions (you also want to interview your potential new boss)
  • Do NOT ask personal questions
  • Do NOT ask about office politics, vacation accrual, or salary
  • If you have notes, or a laptop – open them up and be ready to refer to them or show samples of your work (if asked or if you feel stumped with a question)
  • Smile and show enthusiasm for the role (people hire people they like)

But I’m not going to talk about those old, and well worn topics because you should already know those (if not, google those to find out more).

Teamwork and Integrity matters
Teamwork and Integrity matters

Here are my tips:

  • Always be on time to work at your current job. If there is a valid reason, state it succinctly. No one wants to hear excuses.
  • If you are going to be late, call, text, and email your boss. Don’t rely on one method of communication to relay this very important information. If you know you are the type of person who is often late or out of office be sure to discuss this with your supervisor up front and determine how he / she would like to be notified.
  • Not showing up for work is a sign of disrespect and people will never respect you, if you display disrespect. I have worked with people who have been fired for not coming in to work.
  • Be on time for meetings. No manager wants to wait around for you to begin his / her meeting. It’s also disrespectful and disruptive to the group when you arrive late to a meeting, especially a weekly meeting, or one that has been pre-arranged and on your calendar.
  • Do critically acclaimed outstanding work at your current job. If you’re the only one at your position then you already know why this tip is key. Build a strong relationship with your boss, and their management (whenever possible). If you work on a team, read the next section about teamwork and why it matters.
  • Always be in learning mode – be the first to know as much as you can about the new software the company is rolling out.
  • Raise your hand – be first to volunteer for special projects, lead a new team, or take the project no one else wants. Many people do not want to speak up or raise their hand first, so if you do, your supervisor will LOVE it! Brownie points? Yes, absolutely! Why not? Don’t listen to any lazy or uncaring people if they tell you otherwise. They aren’t feeding / housing your family! There will come a day when your superior will give you a glowing recommendation or promotion, and that’s your goal (it’s why you’re reading this) right?
  • Always happily accept direction from your boss with a gleam in your eye! Believe it or not, many managers dislike having to “tell you what to do” so, when they come to you with a request, listen attentively, take notes if you need to, ask for clarification if needed, or prioritization if you’re already swamped, but always be eager for something else to do!
  • Work at an accurate reasonable speed – employers understand that you cannot work safely or with quality at break-neck speed, but when something has been designated a high priority you should definitely move with a sense of urgency to complete the task to your best ability.

Why teamwork matters

Back when I was in college, it really irritated me when one or more people on my project team would slack – not do their fair share of the project work. I’d step up and do more because of my super responsible nature so we could get a high grade. I learned early on the true value of teamwork and team-building.

At work when a team forms, I have experienced team dynamics that follow the “forming, storming, norming, and performing” model credited to Bruce Tuckman in 1965. You can visit wikipedia or buy books about it.

First, the boss may assign several disparate people a goal to complete a project. A team forms, but because you don’t know each other, you encounter a period of ice-breaking and posturing. You may not have a choice over who participates on the team.

The more the team comes together to get the project underway, the group will storm – meaning some people will want to lead, cause conflict, be negative, point out potential issues, or demand respect that has yet to be earned. Arguments and miscommunication occur during the storming phase. Members will pick sides. One or more may decide it’s okay to slack. The boss may need to step back in during the storming phase. When they don’t, it can take the team much longer to get their “ducks in a row” (so to speak).

When the energy of the team evens out and any or all bickering subsides, the team will be in the normal phase and stuff will flow easier. The ebb and flow of cooperation will be experienced by all of the teammates. Communication will improve between all members. Team members may even become friends. The boss doesn’t have to step in much because he / she can direct one team member to effectively communicate the request to the team and trust the team will receive the information and act on it appropriately.

When the work is evenly distributed and stuff is getting done in a timely fashion, the team will be in the performing mode. You feel it when you’re in a good rhythm and mutual respect and admiration is occurring. It’s exciting! A performing team is unstoppable! Results will be achieved and the team will exude confidence and pride in their accomplishments.

Unfortunately, some people never quite get the whole teamwork attitude though. You’ll need to have a lot of patience as long as these folks remain on your team. It would benefit everyone on the team, and within the company as well, if they’d learn how much teamwork matters.

When team members support each other, they’ll often graciously provide references to individuals within the group when the time comes for one or more folks to move on to leadership roles within the organization, or to a position with another institution or company. A job reference is the ultimate professional compliment! You’ll need three references for your next job and recruiters only want recent references, not someone you did an outstanding job for five or more years ago.

A bit about me:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice,” “Energy of Receiving”, plus author of “Blue Eyes: Ethereal Messages of Connection,” and holistic health book that details how I naturally reversed asthma, “Have Yourself a Wholly Vibrant Life: Reversing Asthma and Other Chronic Illness Naturally” all available on Amazon.

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

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What a Feeling!

What a FEELING

I must say, today has been a ridiculously aWEsOMe day! I’ve just been published, a second time!

Celebrating the book

The book launched on Amazon.com with amazing success… by this evening, yes the end of the first full day – the book “The Energy of Receiving” reached #3 in the Self-Help category, AND #1 in the Self-Help, Spiritual category!!! I, along with my publisher, and the other 16 authors (18 total) who co-created this book are THRILLED!!!

I’m reading my copy of the book and posting a review on Amazon about it SOON!

What a FEELING!
What a FEELING!

Getting ready for the yoga festival

Also, my husband and I will be participating in the Awakening Into the Sun weekend festival in St. Petersburg March 7th and 8th 2015, and we’ll have a booth where I’ll be selling, and signing copies of the book. I will have 20 paperback copies for sale so, if you want a signed copy, come on out!

Glorious feelings!

As an empath, it will be interesting to see how much I feel during the event, and how many times I experience “God bumps”. I continue to note, when and where I feel God bumps, and it seems that it’s whenever I am talking about God, or spiritual (deep thought) topics, become familiar with someone’s pain (mental, emotional, or physical), or open a gateway (to unlimited possibility).

Update

The festival was an aWEsOMe success! We enjoyed meeting many new people, reconnecting with friends, watching and listening to new musicians, and sharing with other like-minded, like-spirited folk! I will be blogging about many of our friends in the upcoming weeks and months, so stay tuned! 🙂

On the eve of our 10th wedding anniversary, my husband and I really have a lot to be thankful for, and celebrate.

About the book

You can click below to check out my latest book and buy, if you’re so inclined (and thank you). My chapter is called, “Be Open To Receive”.

The book includes many lessons I’ve learned. Lessons to do with putting aside one’s judgments and making s-p-a-c-e to allow God, the Universe, the Law of Attraction, or whatever name you want to call the magical, mysterious LIMITLESS unseen power of Energy, to bring you all you’ve ever really needed, at just the right time.

Click to view the book, “The Energy of Receiving” by Happiness Publishing on Amazon.

You can also now visit my author page on Amazon –>> Click Here!

Press release

Check out the press release for the book –>> Click Here!

Much love to our family and friends. With heart-felt thanks, Thank You All.

We Are All Connected.

A bit about me:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice,” “Energy of Receiving”, plus author of “Blue Eyes: Ethereal Messages of Connection,” and holistic health book that details how I naturally reversed asthma, “Have Yourself a Wholly Vibrant Life: Reversing Asthma and Other Chronic Illness Naturally” all available on Amazon.

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

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Juicing, Paleo, No-Grain Diet, Mostly Vegetarian – Who needs labels?

Many diets. Who needs labels?

I am finally ready to reveal my new diet. I have been doing this for several months now and it’s working. It’s really working. I have lost weight effortlessly. Gained vitality. Renewed my body Temple. And increased the frequency with which, I feel connected to Source Creator God, and all of you. We Are All Connected.

We Are All One. Yes, yes, and yahoo… YES!

Many diets. Who needs labels?
Many diets. Who needs labels?

We are what we eat and absorb.

Here’s the deal about diet for life (lifestyle) change:

I drink raw vegetable juice — everyday. At least one 16 ounce raw veggie juice, often 32 ounces. Plus water. Monday through Friday–I only juice during the day. And if I don’t have time to juice for myself,

I buy juices from a raw vegan cafe; thank you Ionie’s Cafe! Ionie’s vacuum seal the juice in glass mason jars.

I pack my juice in a ThirtyOne bag (with ice) and enjoy at work. Then, for the evening meal… I eat a light meal or soup for dinner. That’s it.

If I feel the need to eat something, I will mix raw nuts and seeds, typically only a 1/2 cup or less and throw in my work bag. Mostly pumpkin and sunflower seeds, walnuts, pecans, almonds, and brazil nuts. I eat a bit more on the weekends, but nothing outrageous.

The weekday light meal? Primarily, a can of Amy’s Organic soup, or a salad with grilled or broiled fish. Now and then, I will have some other vegetable like broccoli, sweet potato, or asparagus, but rarely white potatoes. On occasion, I will get a beef patty (no bun), or a steak, but I suspect I will only do that once every two or three months. I have basically lost my desire to eat meat. I like turkey once in awhile too, but we always look for the less processed, organic variety when we buy it.

I am not eating any processed sugar — unless you count wine. I had some sugar over the holidays because my daughter makes (and ships) chocolate truffles from New Hampshire and I love supporting her, so I had a few of those (one a day, every other day). Yes I am attempting to be transparent here. This also keeps me humble and on track. I do not desire to cheat because that’s only cheating my Temple.

UPDATE 1/1/2016: No more truffles and a lot less wine.

Let go of diet labels

I am learning that I am a cross between a raw vegan and a paleo or no-grain eater. I am not a 100% raw vegan because I do still consume eggs, honey, fish, seafood, and very little meat. But I put into daily practice much of what I learned from being a raw vegan back in 2009-2010. I love raw vegan nut cheese instead of dairy cheese. Whenever I eat dairy cheese I can always tell the difference. I’ve also learned that my body does not digest raw tomatoes very well.

As for spiritual growth

As for the spirituality aspects of clean eating… the other night a lady asked if I go to church. I answered a triumphant… No. But then I thought, why would I when I believe my body is the Temple. Yes, with a capital T. And I believe all of your bodies are Temples too. I believe in God-made, vs. Man-made. I will always. That is a core belief of mine. Hmmm. I just misspelled belief as belife. Isn’t that interesting? I corrected it but now I am thinking be-life is actually better!

Fasting

I am finding that by fasting during the daytime on weekdays, it has heightened my spiritual awareness, including also a physical awareness of how much people around me EAT. The over consumption in America is disheartening. It’s not wonder so many of us are overweight and miserable. I highly suspect our bodies were never meant to be in this shape, and yes, round is a shape.

Focus

I am focused on learning more about energy medicine. By changing my focus from food: what to eat, how to make it, when to buy it, etc. I definitely have more time available for reading, sharing, and learning about energy, frequency, brain waves, intuition, etc.

Feeling good

Case in point, this week I took my first Jin Shin Jyutsu class. I am amazed how how wonderful I feel! I feel good, really good.

I mean, I always feel pretty good. Can’t complain. But on occasion I’ve experienced vertigo (ever since working at the Space Center, which I felt may have had something to do with it). The vertigo would come and go. I felt that I had to be watchful when it came to doing any task that might set it off. Laying on a massage table for a massage, at times, could cause me to experience vertigo. Forget about head down yoga postures!

So, the other day after 30 minutes of Jin Shin Jyutsu – both of my ears “opened”! I was ecstatic! Now I can flip my head over to put a towel on my head after getting out of the shower! Yay! Yahoo!

About faith, timing, and living life more abundantly

The Bible is full of stories about how God created us in His image and wants us to live life and have it more abundantly. To me, those understandings mean that He provides for us, in all ways, for our health, and for our needs. I think we’re the ones that think that means He will always answer our prayers and give us what we desire, but I do not think so. I believe our needs are always, in ALL WAYS, provided.

Sometimes God withholds some things, and some answers, for a later time for us, when we are prepared to handle those things. This is why I believe God’s timing is always perfect. And blessed assurance tells me that is why, when the student is ready, the teacher arrives.

Have faith. You know, faith – which is the opposite of worry. Faith IS the substance of things not yet seen. That said, worry is actually a sin because God tells us to have faith. Exercise your faith by taking care of yourself. The Bible also instructs us how to eat and move our bodies, but how many of us follow those instructions? I think it pleases God when we learn about those and practice those habits. Pork is not the other white meat. Pigs are dirty animals that have no sweat glands. Quit dishing on PETA people and take an honest look at what they have to say. Or talk to a pig farmer. Watch a documentary. Just don’t eat pork. Make it easy. Those parasites in pork, yeah they live through the cooking process. And really, the more crap you eat, the harder it will be for you to feel good. I’d bet it also shortens your life. And if you believe suicide is a sin then dying a slow death by eating stupid silly non-beneficial foods is a sin too.

Now, I am not preaching all this stuff to make you feel guilty. Just quit complaining about what other people do and think about what you do. Study to show thyself approved and make one small change at a time until you feel good. I am not above anyone. I am human and I fail. But God has been showing me some things. So, I am sharing what I learn in an effort to help you feel good. Nothing more. Be healthy. Live well.

What’s not needed

Quit running to doctors and putting your faith into what amounts to be medical witchcraft (Yes look up the history, especially all of you who are so fast to point a finger at anyone who believes in another religion). Those big pharmaceutical companies you love so much are a cog in the wheel of the beast. They do NOTHING to cure anyone. They may prolong life but in what state? They do not cure. They ease suffering perhaps. They mask symptoms so you never DO anything to heal your Temple. In my estimation, they are the liars. They are the ones who are selling you false hope. I am tired of hearing people’s excuses why they need this or that drug from a chronic illness. Your lifestyle, mostly the food you’re eating, that’s what’s chronic. 

Go to the doctor if you break a bone, but for asthma, digestive issues, migraines, back aches, arthritis, inflammation, and more… seek alternative advice. I am not a doctor, nor do I prescribe any treatments or solutions. I am shaking you awake! Take It Upon Yourself to live your best, most vital life!

As for exercise, meditation, and Jin Shin Jyutsu

Jin Shin Jyutsu is an energy medicine art that I have decided to focus on this year. I am learning (thanks to reader comments and friends), that it’s best to meditate, then perform Jin Shin Jyutsu, then do my daily stair climbing. That makes sense to me. But I am always trying to maximize what little spare time I have. I work full-time. So, I do the stair climbing when I need a break at work. Thankfully I am able to take a 10-15 minute break twice a day, and my stair climbing has improved so much that I can climb 8 flights safely, and return, within that time. Much less actually.

Exercise works the body, and meditation dedicates the mind. I will learn transcendental meditation (TM) at some point.

The pulsing, or vibration that I feel when I practice Jin Shin Jyutsu is simply amazing! I feel God bumps when I talk about it! I need nothing outside of myself to validate anything for me.

I am connected to my breath, I am enjoying all the self-care I have learned about this past year. I am excited and hopeful about the future. All really is well.

A bit about me:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice,” “Energy of Receiving”, plus author of “Blue Eyes: Ethereal Messages of Connection,” and holistic health book that details how I naturally reversed asthma, “Have Yourself a Wholly Vibrant Life: Reversing Asthma and Other Chronic Illness Naturally” all available on Amazon.

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

For more about me, this blog, how I create websites, why I wrote a holistic health book, and more, find me on Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn.

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Also, don’t forget to check out my new book! My chapter is: “We Are All Connected” (Page 172) and takes up where my blog post of the same name leaves off. I am a newly published author (of a co-creative work) and it’s sooo exciting! Here’s the link:

https://www.amazon.com/Sheila-Murrey/e/B00TVAU25I

A bit about me:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice,” “Energy of Receiving”, plus author of “Blue Eyes: Ethereal Messages of Connection,” and holistic health book that details how I naturally reversed asthma, “Have Yourself a Wholly Vibrant Life: Reversing Asthma and Other Chronic Illness Naturally” all available on Amazon.

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

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Take what you need, leave the rest

I’ve attended many different church services (of different religions) over the years, and I have found some common thinking among them.

I love learning about God and all means of connecting with our Creator. I don’t search because I haven’t found God, I search because there’s so many different ways to connect with God!

But, in all of those churches, there were some preachers who said things I didn’t like (meaning that I found some of the things they said divisive. Their sermons didn’t resonate as positive. Phrases such as:

  • “We’re right, they’re wrong”
  • “We are the only church preaching the true gospel”
  • “We’re the only ones baptizing the correct way”
  • “All other religions are wrong

Those statements seemed contrary to my nature and what God put upon my heart and some were contradictory to what Jesus said (or have been attributed to Jesus) in the Bible.

When I asked some of the followers of these various churches about the things their preacher taught, they most often replied: “I may not believe everything the church, religion, or my preacher teaches, but I follow the basic tenets and leave the rest.”

I asked them why they would continue to attend (or belong) to a church or faith that did not align with their beliefs. Most would answer something along the lines of:

  • “I stay out of respect for my spouse, parents, grandparents, etc.”
  • “The preacher is smarter, more studied, etc. than me”
  • “I’ve gone to this church my whole life and changing now would be too difficult”
  • “Perhaps I’m being convicted and have more to learn here”

I came upon the statement of: “Take what you need and leave the rest” when I attended several different 12 step recovery programs (during a time when an ex-spouse was dealing with substance abuse and his doctor wanted our family to undergo therapy).

The concept reminded me of what those church goers told me years before, so I began applying the “take what you need, and leave the rest” concept to many things in life. Truly, in all of my research and study I have not found anyone who “knows it all,” so that phrase has helped me open to more. I have not found anyone who has a perfect life, or “has it all,” (no matter how you define the words: perfect and all).

I’ve written before about my maternal grandparents–whom raised my mother and her siblings in a particular faith–that taught belief in an Almighty, Living God. One of the most challenging aspects of that Christian faith is how many other people, even other Christians, called that church a cult! But, had I not been raised in that faith, I would not have experienced the healing power of God via “laying on of hands,” (the first and most powerful Source of Energy Medicine).

In fact, I was healed of colitis, when I was young, because my mom knew to call upon the elders of the church to pray for me.

To explain a bit more, when I was about seven or eight years of age, there was a time when I experienced severe abdominal pain, cramping, bloating, and difficulty eliminating (all symptoms of colitis). My mother took me to the hospital emergency room. During the physical examination, I became hysterical because of one particular method the doctor used, which nearly scared me to death, and physically hurt!

I think my shrieks and cries of pain reminded my mom that our family typically prayed first and asked for laying on of hands by the elders (totally calming and non-invasive), before we would go to a doctor or hospital. So, she took me home and called the elders of the church to come and administer laying on of hands to me. After their prayer, I never experienced any more symptoms of colitis!

NOTE: The doctor had prescribed some paregoric Kaopectate that a pharmacist had to compound for me, along with an enema. The interesting thing to me now, about his recommendation of the enema, is that had we believed in having colonics / colon hydrotherapy or enemas on a regular basis and right ways of eating, I never would have been in that situation to begin with!

I should also mention, at this point, that I recognize in some emergency instances intensive allopathic medical interventions may be necessary. I do not mean for anyone to throw the baby out with the bathwater so to speak and throw all allopathic medicine to the curb.

All healing comes from God and God allows doctors, nurses, and healers (including allopathic practitioners) to possess abilities and skills that help people. However, in my experience, prayer is the most powerful thing we can do. And the Mind, Body, and Spirit sciences are proving this!

I have had friends and family who prayed, and then went to the doctor. I am not judging that. God works in all ways, often mysterious! God can heal you on the way to the doctor! The important distinction is: Ask God first! Ask and continue asking. Then be open to receive God’s answer.

Do not judge or condemn others who believe differently than you, as they have their own path. If you believe God lives in you, they may also believe God lives within them!

When you argue with anyone about their beliefs, the vibration of that interaction actually runs counter to what God wants which, is for all peoples to live in peace acknowledging Creator God.

If you want to open to receive more, the Bible teaches:

“Study to show yourself approved to God…”

“Be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind…”

As for the religion of my youth, while I feel it beautifully served me well for a time, I am continuing to seek wisdom by following the pulsing sensation (“God bumps”) I feel in my body when God, our Source, our Creator confirms to me, that I am on the path. I’ve learned that judgment does not resonate with me. Holism speaks to me.

Now, “church” for me, occurs anytime I talk with at least one other person about our LIMITLESS Ever-Living Filling-All-Space Creator. And I continue to research and study. I find much in the new Sciences, and the study of ancient ways–thrilling! To me it all validates God, it does not negate God.

Darwinian evolution theory is out – disproven. Science still does not know where we came from, but chromosome 2 in our DNA proves we did not evolve from ape-man.

The school books are WRONG.

Currently, I am reconnecting with things that interested me as a child. Because I used to love archeology and dinosaurs I began listening to Gregg Braden. I enjoyed his recent interview about his book Deep Truth – (click on the words Deep Truth to watch his video on YouTube) or  watch the interview I saw on GaiamTV.

Gregg’s interview led me to explore this site, about heart-based coherence: Global Coherence

I follow and study the work and writing of many enlightened people. To me, this is a topic I will be able to study the rest of my life. There’s soooo very much to learn!

In all things I wish you love, peace, and many blessings. In fact, everything you have and all that is around you right now (even any suffering you may be experiencing) is with you for a reason. Let it open and bless you.

My intention with ALL that I write is that you will receive it in a way that feels good to you (and in alignment with your inner being–soul).

Take what you need, leave the rest.

Thank you and Namaste.

A bit about me:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice,” “Energy of Receiving”, plus author of “Blue Eyes: Ethereal Messages of Connection,” and holistic health book that details how I naturally reversed asthma, “Have Yourself a Wholly Vibrant Life: Reversing Asthma and Other Chronic Illness Naturally” all available on Amazon.

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

For more about me, this blog, how I create websites, why I wrote a holistic health book, and more, find me on Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn.

Words are only as powerful as we allow

In many circles you will hear people say that “words are powerful,” but do you believe it?

If words are powerful, do you know why? Because words carry vibration. Vibrational TONE. The tone sets up something for people, and animals too, that carries your intention forward.

Think of a time when you called out to a loved one, or pet, by name. Maybe they came to you. Their choice. Their free will. But, maybe they didn’t come to you. Or maybe not immediately. Perhaps they chose to stop whatever it was they were doing that you didn’t like. Or, perhaps not!

You call out again. Still, they do not bend to YOUR will, wishes, or desire. You call AGAIN. This time your tone of voice changes, getting more irritated, annoyed, angry, and LOUD. You can’t understand why, with all of the energy your vocally transmitting to this person (or pet), that they aren’t listening. And hear me now (believe me later), you’re not commanding their attention.

You are attempting to control that person or animal with words.

Yet, the only difference in the words is the tone.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to drop whatever I am doing and go near a person who’s yelling at me, especially when I hear them using an angry tone. If however, I sense they are calling for me from a caring heart-centered place, I will go. Especially, since I am an empath.

If, however, I sense the yelling has a concern behind it, such as: “Get out of the way,” “Fire,” or “Help,” then yes, I will likely respond by moving quickly, calling out to others, getting help, or offering assistance.

You can tell someone’s intention by their tone of voice.

We almost instinctively perceive tone!

The first thing the person who yells a lot must get (understand) is that they do not control anyone.

The authoritative shouter may make someone uncomfortable enough that they choose to do something for them / bend to their will (think of a soldier going through boot camp) but, 100% of the time, all day, every day, the person on the receiving end of the shouting / yelling has a choice.

If you are yelling at me, I can choose to do as you desire, or NOT! The world does not revolve around you!

So, why do people feel the need to control others with their words? What is all the damned yelling and shouting about anyway?

Over time, yelling at me just desensitizes me to the shouting. Or, my body becomes so stressed that I leave, and get away from that person – even if it means quitting a job! Loud vocals stress my body, if I choose to internalize those commanding words.

I would simply say, loud vocals stress my body, but that is only true if I’m accepting of them.

For example, if I love a particular rock band, I can go to the concert and love the loud singer! So, again, it’s all in our interpretation or how we perceive the tones, or words.

Children hear, “sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me”. Is this true?

Studies show people who are constantly yelled at become negatively conditioned. (The particular study I linked to here says it also depends upon how much credit we give to the person yelling at us, someone in authority, or parent, etc. their words carry more weight!)

Words roared at us, even more so by those we love, either set us up to become aggressive (anger directed outward) or go into our shell, turning anger inward which, turns into depression or resentment. They may get to a point where they no longer pay attention to anyone who yells at them or they cry, become nervous, etc.

Yes, some words hurt, but maybe not for all the reasons we think.

The intention of the person using the word sets the tone. It’s not just the word that hurts.

Words after all, are just words. They are not REAL. They may represent something, but they are abstract and we can choose to define them any which way we want!

Words need to have a shared definition before they really count for anything anyway. Shared definition is very important – for example, you may define the word “fun” very different than I define the word “fun”. Interestingly we may define the words: “hurt,” “fear,” “pain,” etc. very differently based upon our understanding and experience.

When someone speaks light, fun, happy, or encouraging words to us the tone is typically lighter too! We feel it. Think of how your lover speaks to you. Think of how your best friend speaks to you when you’re engaging in fun, giggly, or perhaps deep insightful conversation. Think of how your grandparent or other close relative speaks to you WHEN they are flowing pure love (energy) to you. You feel loved, warm, and cared for as they speak! You know that they love you, their words are soothing and envelope you in love. Ah!

So let’s try a little experiment. As you sit there and read my words, be sure there is nothing else going to make you excited, no drama – ok? Make sure you’re not distracted and that you are relatively calm and peaceful.

As you begin to read the following list of words –  note if any push your buttons. Specifically do they get  you riled up, mad, sad, or other negative emotion. You’re safe. No one is physically going to harm you and you know this. Only check as you read each word slowly if you feel any mental or physical response. Here goes:

  • Confrontation
  • You’re ugly
  • Scream
  • Attack
  • You’re stupid
  • Betrayal
  • Fight
  • You’re bad
  • Struggle
  • Aggravate
  • Shut up
  • Insult
  • Coward
  • Assault

Do you feel anything in your mind or body as you read the words? Can you agree that these are just words. Characters on the screen. If you felt anything in your mind or body do you see where that is because of the way you define the word or link it with a previous experience?

When someone relays a hurtful story do you, do you find yourself wincing or in some other way empathizing with their story? Again, you are not IN their story – no one is attacking you, but often I find that many of us (especially empathic people) in some small way can sense or feel the pain the person went through during their experience. It’s also the reason I won’t watch certain movies. If I don’t feel the pain in my body I may have bad dreams because the movie assaulted my mind.

To take this topic, “Words are only as powerful as we allow” in another direction, what about doctors who tell their patients they only have 6 months to live? Those words hurt in another way.

In my opinion, doctors break the Hippocratic oath when they tell patients they only have x number of weeks or months to live or there’s nothing else they can do. The doctor may not shout at you, so it’s not the volume of the voice (such as yelling) but those words are very heavy to receive. In fact, it has been theorized that a doctor’s end of life time frame prediction could induce an auto-suggestion manifesting as self fulfilling prophecy.

What’s wrong in this scenario is that people ascribe so much weight to the doctor’s words because of the physician’s credentials and so-called authority. The finality of the meaning we ascribe to the time limit of this death sentence (no pun intended) really packs a punch! In fact, I recall several people telling me that when their doctor told them they only had x weeks or months to live they literally felt a “punch in the gut” of their body!

So, do you stop to question if the doctor’s statement is really true before reacting? Do you take a few minutes to engage your cognitive mind, stay calm, and let the doctor know you want a second, or third opinion? Do you seek out many other experts? Or do you take this one doctor’s word for when you will die? I invite you to think about that because the nocebo effect (read Bruce Lipton’s book “Biology of Belief”) is being proven every day. Of course if you challenge those negative words (and some do – thankfully) they prove the opposite and outlive the prescribed time frame and experience spontaneous healing!

I have been studying the placebo (and nocebo effect) that Bruce Lipton, Phd. speaks of for several years. When we got into the “raw and living foods” philosophy of eating back in 2008 we shared meals with many people who rejected their allopathic physician’s “limit on their life span” and took it upon themselves to gain knowledge and allow their bodies to heal naturally. Dr. Lipton still interviews about the placebo effect and how traditional western doctors only get about 15 minutes of education on it in medical school. In my opinion, even if doctors got a whole course on the placebo effect (and nocebo effect) it wouldn’t be enough.

Dr. Alison J. Kay talks about the placebo effect as well. She has studied in the east, Asia and India and thoroughly knows and understands the basis of the placebo effect (using several modalities, including meditation) and it’s relationship basis of subtle energy. (Reference my full article about Dr. Kay’s work here.)

Recently I’ve come upon an interview by Dr. Paul Drouin of http://iquim.org/ along with Dr. Joe Dispenza where they discuss the placebo effect –>> Click here. This also may explain by how so called “false hope” may indeed be helpful to someone. When you look at the science (which is just measured observation) it begins to make sense.

Let me give you some happy and light words and see if now, they change your mood, or if you feel these in your mind or body:

  • Safe
  • Hug
  • Silly
  • Joke
  • Fun
  • Tickle
  • Whisper
  • Smile
  • Love
  • Laugh
  • Winning
  • Cuddle
  • Soft

How do you feel now? Again, just words. Again, just what meaning you attach to these. Did you think of your pets, loved ones, children, etc.?

One of the Pixar short video’s we love is called, “Dug’s Special Mission” from the movie “Up”. In it there’s a line that my husband and I say to each other often when we’re seeking to be understood. It’s always said in fun, and with a light heart. The line is: “Do you understand the words that I am speaking to you now”? It is our belief that the intention and tone used when words are spoken, often say much more than the word chosen implies.

I am a tonal. I read between the lines – a LOT! Sometimes I get it wrong, or maybe not. Maybe people just catch themselves and then clarify what they mean when I question their words, but I am always seeking to understand. Sometimes when I perceive someone speaking in a harsh or brisk tone it takes me awhile to figure out if they intend to be forceful, irritating, or hurtful. Their tone has probably caused me some undue fatigue. I have even been irritated by the tone of someone’s laughter! Has that ever happened to you?

If you are in any kind of pain or dis-ease, let’s try that same word power game. Focus on the pain in your body. Assign the pain a number 1-10 with 10 being the most intense. Now read the following words:

  • Trust myself
  • Kind
  • Hug myself
  • It’s OK
  • Allow
  • Comfort
  • Getting better
  • Peace
  • I’m alive
  • Knowing
  • Healing
  • Power
  • I’m still breathing
  • Pure Joy
  • Blessed
  • Pure Love
  • Light
  • Flow
  • Bliss

Check in with your pain again. Has your number 1-10 come down?

Even if your number only came down one number say, from a 9 to an 8, that’s improvement! If so, this validates and proves to you the power of words. Read them again but this time in the voice of one person (who either now or from your past) who has a voice you love and who always spoke in a nice, sweet, caring tone. Do it now.

Recheck your pain level.

Bottom line: Words only carry the power (vibration and energy) as we allow. The tone in which the words are spoken (either out loud or in our heads), or the authority of those who speak the words – attempts to make the words carry more meaning / power, however we still have a choice whether to buy in to that or not. If we do not buy into people’s authority, the power of their words mean less to us. If we can decipher someone’s intention based upon the tone we can also better choose whether to accept or reject their words.

Peace and love to all.

A bit about me:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice,” “Energy of Receiving”, plus author of “Blue Eyes: Ethereal Messages of Connection,” and holistic health book that details how I naturally reversed asthma, “Have Yourself a Wholly Vibrant Life: Reversing Asthma and Other Chronic Illness Naturally” all available on Amazon.

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

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Honoring our Connections

To honor our Connections

This is an analysis of CONNECTIONS…

The Big connections.

The seemingly little connections.

Yet, ALL REAL connections.

Unlocking potentials

I’ve been saying YES to many things for many years which, has brought me to this place, to write about connections. The connections we all make everyday. When you step outside your door each day, a HUGE potential exists for you to connect with someone new that offers the possibility to alter the direction of your life!

Are you OPEN to the possibilities?

Are you open to making new connections?

The Merriam-Webster definition of connection is: “join two or more things“, “the state of being connected” and “a situation in which two or more things have the same cause, origins, goal, etc.” What does this remind you of? It reminds me of Jesus’ sayings:

“…if two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father who is in heaven.”

“…where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst.”

Be open

So, you need to be open, don’t you? You need to be willing to be one of the two parties involved.

When you step outside each day, you connect with the ground (unless you live on a boat)! And in that case, as you place a toe in water, you cause a ripple. But I digress–though,  I wonder what the fish and other water creatures perceive of your toe in the water?

Anyway, when you put your foot on the floor upon awakening from sleep, say to yourself, Thank You. Try this for a week or two. What new awareness opens to you?

Once you’ve gone out of your home, chances are, you will connect with another person. Are you grumpy? Not feeling well? Anxious because you’re running late?

spiral-energy

Mental Constructs

Time is a man-made concept. Not everyone lives by the same “rules” about time, and what about all those times zones?

So, take a breath. Smile at the person in front of you. Be grateful you have the opportunity for this interaction, even if it’s a short interaction.

Just be grateful. #GRATITUDE

Anything can happen today!

If there’s ever a time when you start to feel sorry for yourself, read the account of Job in the Bible.

You can live with less ego in your life when you understand that we’re all connected.

Be in Gratitude daily, yes, really FEEL it– whether something you label as GOOD or something you label as BAD happens. One will feel good, the other will teach you something– IF you’re open and willing to learn. See with new eyes and hear with new ears!

Isn’t this an exciting time to be alive on planet Earth???

Intersecting aligning points

We are connected to the Earth, to the cosmos, to the air, water, plant life, and every living being and creature on the planet in one way or another. We can turn away, or we can embrace these Connections. I feel we become richer, more “whole” as a people when we embrace these Connections.

American astrophysicist Neil DeGrasse Tyson has said, “We are all connected; To each other biologically. To the earth chemically. To the rest of the universe atomically.”

The point is: you really can’t even walk outside without being faced with opportunities to connect with others. You can choose to make those connections good or not. Your attitude and how you respond to others really does make a difference. Not just to them, but to YOU.

You can learn to become more in tune with the Connections all around you.

One of my healers, Nora Ross gave me another tactic as a way to promote peace. When someone approaches me, Nora taught me to say the following mentally to myself (inner dialog) “I love you” toward them.

What I have found is that when I practice this, the way I respond to people changes. If someone approaches me for assistance and I respond, “How may I bless you today?” or “How may I help (serve) you today?” instead of “Yes?” or “What?” this enhances my vibration. And the meeting becomes quite a profound experience and allows a magnificent exchange to occur.

For more, about how we’re all connected read the book Transform Your Life Book 2 – Inspirational Stories and Expert Insights that includes my chapter called, “We Are All Connected.” This was my first co-author book project and it’s filled with timeless insight from many gifted authors.

For more about being open, find my second co-authored book called, The Energy of Receiving” by Happiness Publishing. The chapter I wrote is called, “Open to Receive.”

I’ve been living by, and thinking in agreement with these two mantras for many years: “We Are All Connected” and “God’s timing is always perfect.” However, this is a PROCESS, there is NO COMPLETION or finish line.

Philosophy would also aim for us to “know thyself.”

One of the most profound Connections we can uncover is how our inner being is connected to God.

As well, when I discover a Connection like that with another, I call it a “soul connection” or say we’re in “soul-alignment.

Some of the major soul-alignments in my life have been / are:

  • Without my mom sharing a bite of her sandwich with my dad, I would not be here, so I thank each of them (in my inner dialogue everyday for creating me–since they have both passed away, crossed over to the Grand Beyond.)
  • Without my body having experienced asthma my mom may have not taken me to a chiropractor as a child whom first taught me about natural (even holistic) health care
  • Without my maternal grandparents going to the church they did, my mother following their lead, and raising me within a “Living God believing Christian-faith“, I would not have experienced the healing power of God via “laying on of hands” – the first and most powerful Source of Energy Medicine
  • Without my dad being in the Citizen Band (CB) business (isn’t that interesting and perfect for me since it’s all about Frequency) I would not have met my first husband, and father to both of my children

Convergence

Are you getting a sense of ALL the many points of convergence that had to occur in my life to bring me to the awareness and consciousness that you’re reading in my posts?

  • Without my friend, Margie, (also of the same “Ever-Living God still speaks today” Christian faith) I would not have taken my first college class, which led to me working for a University for 10 years and obtaining my first degree in Aviation Business Administration (lots of emphasis on writing, both during my work there and their rigorous science degree program).
  • Without my first supervisor at that university, Lois McDonough, sticking by her decision to hire me (when certain forces were against that happening), I never would have worked there for ten years, earning an associates in science degree, and being able to provide for my two children and myself. I will always honor, Lois for her backbone and tenacity!
  • Without one mentor turned friend (whom I met while working on a complex database project that nobody else wanted to undertake at the university), Digi, I wouldn’t have moved out of the higher ed arena to the corporate world in 1997.
  • Without friends and coworkers, Nancy and Holly, I would not have met my wonderful “love of my life” husband, Richard! (And thank you Suzi for marrying us!) And without my friend Pattie I wouldn’t have met her sister Nancy!
  • Without continuing my education, I wouldn’t have the financially strong and relevant career I have today (as well as, meeting the beautiful coworkers and mentors I’ve met along the way–many of whom have played pivotal roles in my personal development).
  • Without Richard introducing me to juicing, distilled water, and a healthier way to eat (no soda or fast food since 2003), I am quite sure I would not be as healthy as I am today, and later… all those baby steps enabled me to go raw vegan, do a 40 day juice fast, etc.
  • Without Richard’s auntie Millie, (her wisdom and encouragement was so enlightening to me) I would not have tried acupuncture
  • Without listening to my own inner guidance (the intuition of gut feelings) when I didn’t feel the first acupuncture doctor was right, going back and seeing Joan Massey, Doctor of Oriental Medicine for several months and asking her questions, learning, and following her advice, I would still have asthma
  • Without beginning my quest for health at HealthQuest (when Dr. Joan was there) I wouldn’t have met Dory Valentine my massage therapist and yoga teacher. I also began having colon hydrotherapy and found a great deal of healing from that practice.
  • Without Joan I wouldn’t have met Nora Ross (who treated me using multiple modalities including Raindrop Therapy using therapeutic essential oils)
  • Without God leading me to put my hands together when I pray and my own inner being allowing the asthma in my body to reverse and heal I would not be writing and speaking about natural and holistic health, nor would I be as healthy as I am today – able to do so much! No diseases, no aches or pains, no surgeries (as in “replacements”), and NO medications!!! Yes, I survived pharmaceuticals!
  • Without my kids, who are now grown up, I would not have three beautiful and smart granddaughters who teach me much about the simplicity of being excited and thrilled all over again with all the little things of life.

I honor all of the people who have blessed me in my journey. The connections I have experienced in my life, most all have enabled me to learn and grow in many different aspects.

And the beat goes on

I continue honoring all of my connections.

Thank you to my recruiter and friend, Doreen Austin, and a referral from a previous coworker that culminated in bringing me to work in St. Petersburg, Florida–moving from Orlando, July 2013. Oh, how delicious life has become!

I would not yet be a published author without the connections afforded me by my holistic life coach, Dr. Alison J. Kay, (who also has a practice that assists in the clearing of our subconscious blocks). I found Dr. Kay on LinkedIn and reached out to her several times, even before moving to the west coast of Florida as a sort of pre-paving a way for me to work (in some capacity) within the holistic health and wellness arena, and continue writing on a subject that thrills me immensely on a soul level.

In Dr. Kay’s book, “What If There’s Nothing Wrong” she discusses the scientific evidences along with ancient understandings of various aspects of connection – connection of the mind to the body, “an interconnection between all animate life”, and how science is proving these connections. Dr. Kay’s book connects with what I have been studying and writing about as she states, “the mind-body connection puts the power back in the hands of the individual…” and this is the basis of my upcoming third book, “Take It Upon Yourself.”

In this particular video, you’ll learn:

“…the genetic characteristics of our ancestors live in our blood today.” Dr D’Adamo in the Blood Type Diet book. And this points to the fact that a portion of our ancestors still–within us.

Dr. Oz says on Oprah’s website, “…the next big frontier in medicine is energy medicine“. I believe we are at an exquisite time in history when western medicine will open to the connections to the subtle energies that guide us, working in and through us all.

Dr. Alison introduced me to Joeel and Natalie Rivera of Transformation Magazine and Transformation Publishing when I assisted her at the Atman Center during an event. That fortuitous meeting led to my participation in my first co-authored book. As well, while at the Atman Center, I met Mary Ann of Awakened Fibers. I think  of Mary Ann daily when I hug my Beau pillow (read about that here).

At this same Atman Center event, I was incredibly blessed to meet Alania Starhawk of We Believe In Light and Patricia McGivern, the magnificent author of the beautifully profound book, Angel Babies.

Assisting Dr. Kay at the second annual Awakening Into The Sun festival (initially at First Unity of St. Petersburg), led me to participate at the annual Awakening Into The Sun festival (which I have continued to do since), volunteer and teach EFT classes at the Awakening Wellness center (a dream of mine). How does it get any better than this? Woo-hoo!

Proof

“Sure, most physicists will tell you it’s impossible to feel this entanglement, this “spooky” connection to another living being. But when you reflect on a past love or a mother’s inexplicable knowledge of their child in danger; then you really have to stop and look at the evidence. There is proof that we are all connected, and it has more to do with the creation of the universe than the simple fact that we are all humans.”
Read more about how we are all connected here.

In my experience, if your heart is pointed in the direction of LOVE you emanate a vibration, sending ripples of unconditionallove and compassion outward, which allow you to be a blessing to others. You will help yourself and lift others.

If you don’t know what to do next, follow what feels lighter (vs. heavier) and really feel for these guiding feelings IN your body before making a particular choice. Many call that listening to their “gut feeling”. I call these my “God bumps” and they are my validation that I’m heading the right way. My way, may not be your way. But, there are many paths that lead to the same destination.

Don’t ignore your inner guidance – it exists for a reason. You were fearfully and wonderfully made.

If you want to experience greater prosperity, health, and vitality, choose thoughts that move you in the direction that FEELS good to YOU.

If you would like to experience emotional freedom from anxiety, pain, or other negative emotion–reach out to me. I am here to help.

Please check out my books, other blog titles here and share with others.

Be a blessing. Much love to you in ALL ways.

Amen and Namaste. OM

A bit about me:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice,” “Energy of Receiving”, plus author of “Blue Eyes: Ethereal Messages of Connection,” and holistic health book that details how I naturally reversed asthma, “Have Yourself a Wholly Vibrant Life: Reversing Asthma and Other Chronic Illness Naturally” all available on Amazon.

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

For more about me, this blog, how I create websites, why I wrote a holistic health book, and more, find me on Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn.