Me – 42 years later

Me – 42 years later

Rewriting my 1978 poem

My 1978 poem, “Me.”

Now, that I’ve broken free from the drama of my youth;

Having learned what it means to heal and become whole;

And written, spoken and sang many times about all of that;

Having traveled through many of the states I’d dreamed of;

I’ve found myself, and continued to be:

Steeped in history;

Fascinated by my ancestry;

Serene near the ocean;

Entranced by magical trees;

Engaged with mystical rocks;

And mesmerized by waterfalls;

Raising children at the World’s Most Famous Beach, and lastly at the Jersey shore;

Enjoying the beach sand in summer,

The endless sway of the palm trees,

More than watching the games people play;

I’ve lived in the middle of the USA in the icy winter and visited snowy New England,

To usher in new technology and witness twin granddaughters birth;

I haven’t always been true to myself,

but I’ve experienced magnificence growth in ALL.

I’ve found excitement, romance, pain, and peace;

I’ve discovered that I’ve always been me, in ALL ways—whether happy or sad;

And I am thankful.

I am content.

I was me all along.

And I put all of me into my children, the good, the bad, and the beautiful;

My soul hasn’t changed much, but my mind and heart has expanded;

Widening my perception;

Deepening my compassion;

I’ve enhanced my understanding of so many things;

And calibrated back to balance;

To continue to bloom where I am planted.

Me – 42 years later.

About me

I have a passion for WORDS and Connecting people. In particular, I love speaking and writing about spiritual and consciousness raising topics, holistic wellness and simple healthy living. I am empathic, intuitive, compassionate, and kind, with a keen and unified wisdom about life.

I’m an Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon. Plus, I’ve written a health book (in the making for 13 years), Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, that’s available here.

Observations about the author

Conversations surrounding emotional balance, moral ambiguities, and deep spiritual truths (such as We Are All Connected, and Put Your Hands Together When You Pray), are what Sheila is most passionate about. She feels a profound empathic Connection with people and what they’re going through by merely sharing her own truth, by speaking freely about her personal struggles and the challenges she continues to overcome. Sheila strives to ease lonelines, help those exiting toxic relationships, and to remind us all that we are stronger than we think we are, and that Everything Resolves to Gratitude in the end.

Let us serve you

My husband is an award-winning illustrator, plus he is a seasoned guitarist, bass player, and songwriter (of over 400 original songs). You can view some of his artwork and listen to all of his songs on http://RichardMurrey.com or check out his latest 24 songs here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC53E21F-JlTW2iQmPcEIWkQ

As well, you can hire us to promote your book, band, business, or services here: https://www.facebook.com/MurreyMakers-103294764612382/

Be the person your soul beckons you to be and let us promote you!

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We’re livin’ Off Grid

More off grid living

It looks idyllic, doesn’t it?

Our new camp spot

Our RV spot

From the first moment we arrived at our new camp spot, I felt at home. Like I could really breathe here.

It has been one month now, since we moved to family property in north Florida. And we have been living off the grid, (that is no electric power pole, no city water or sewer, no landline phone, and no cable).

In this article, I’ll specifically focus on our Energy needs.

First, we powered our RV (a 36 foot 5th wheel), by running a gasoline fueled generator.

A week or so later, we bought 12 gel golf cart type batteries. By adding a large bank of batteries, we would run our generator a few hours a day—typically, 4 or 5 hours depending upon what we plugged into the outlets, or if we cooked on the stove, or used the microwave.

We quit using our hot water heater, large refrigerator, and air conditioner the first day. They were simply power hogs, and we could immediately see how inefficient they were.

12 battery bank (build in progress)

We’ve ordered our 12 solar panels, so that will be the next step. And if all goes well, this setup could last us several years. It will pay for itself within a year or two (more or less). Not in energy cost savings, but because we aren’t paying lot rent to a campground or park.

It’s been a bit of an adjustment to live a sustainable and simple life in Florida, where the temperatures in February can vary greatly during one day.

Hermit-land

I wanted to move to this place for more than a year. And right before we took the leap to move, my friend Lauren told me I might grow from being a hermit (or spending some time alone, as I like to think of it). Thus, as I sit to write this, I think I’ll call this place my hermit-land. It even has its own share of ferns, moss, and faerie-like homes, which amuse me.

Faerie homes? Old Florida

I’ll share some of my top reasons next, for moving here. Though, since relocating, I’ve discovered several more reasons. And these are not in any particular order:

  • Never lived in north Florida
  • Yearned to be with family
  • Desired to commune with nature
  • Wanted more room to walk
  • Ached for peace, quiet, and serenity
  • Longed to plant a garden (again)
  • Wanted to learn how to manage my own Energy
  • Do more with less
  • Read more
  • Play more music
  • Discover new places
  • Be closer to the Florida line for ease of travel
  • To fulfill my dad’s dream
  • But didn’t want to own property again
  • And didn’t want to pay lot rent

Easing into it

Learning how to managing one’s own Energy can be challenging, especially for us older folks. So, my son decided to show us how to live off grid, by having us plug into and run a generator for power during the first two weeks. We had some cold nights, and tripped a breaker when we turned on our electric fireplace.

We ran several checks to determine what we could run efficiently. And we made the necessary changes.

I chose not to run the hot water heater, because I had adjusted to lukewarm and cold showers (Thanks to Wim Hof’s teachings), and my son provided hot showers on property in a nice standalone bath house. Plus, I could warm a bit of water on the stove for washing dishes once a day, as needed. No need to keep multiple gallons of water hot all day and night long.

We chose not to use our big refrigerator (that had came standard in our 5th wheel). We borrowed an apartment sized fridge from my son and it suited our needs—especially after our food stock changed.

A few weeks after we moved, we began hearing of the Wuhan China (later termed, COVID-19), virus, so we had additional restrictions placed upon how much we could explore. For instance, we had discovered a few good restaurants, but they closed down, or only served take out orders. And our idea of checking out the parks and springs had to be put on hold too. We have been able to walk the property and adjust to our new daily routine, albeit not as easily as we might have hoped.

Some of what I love the most about living at our new spot, is being able to hang out with my son, cook, and enjoy the evening fires. Oh, and the stargazing!

Fire

We’ve gotten a little too much nature at times, such as being bitten by various bugs. And we’ve experienced strained muscles from lifting jugs of gas, plus a good deal of sweating during mid-afternoon heat (though we’re parked in the shade).

Note: we’ve not been running our air conditioner, though we could for awhile if it is the only thing plugged into the generator. And I have actually been feeling BETTER! I attribute it to less stress, less noise, and breathing natural air!

Learn how to live simply

My son runs the Dude Off Grid Facebook group, where you can see videos and more, and learn how you can live off grid too.

Cut costs, get out of debt, and help the planet! Sure seems like a win-win situation to me!

Want to learn more? 

Join us here:

Dude Off Grid

I don’t think there’s anything more fulfilling than learning how to Take It Upon Yourself to learn and do things for yourself. So much self worth and self esteem comes from that. Bravo son! And thank YOU for reading.

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A bit about us:

My husband is an award-winning illustrator, plus he is a seasoned guitarist, bass player, and songwriter (of over 400 original songs). You can view some of his artwork and listen to all of his songs on http://RichardMurrey.com or check out his latest 24 songs here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC53E21F-JlTW2iQmPcEIWkQ

I’m an Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon. Plus, I’ve written a new book (in the making for 13 years), Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, that’s now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format). Buy it here.

As well, you can hire us to promote your book, band, business, or services here: https://www.facebook.com/MurreyMakers-103294764612382/

Be the best version of who you want to be and let us promote you!

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

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About the Winter Solstice

Until recently, I didn’t know a whole lot about the Solstices.

Previously published on The Wellness Universe, December 20, 2019

Except that many years ago, I had been told by a particular religious group that the Christmas holiday was celebrated at about the same time that Pagans celebrated the Winter Solstice. I knew that astronomically-speaking, the Winter Solstice was the shortest day, (a day with the least daylight), that we experience during a year. So if this is your first dive into the topic, you’re not alone.

When is the Winter Solstice?

In the northern hemisphere, the Winter Solstice occurs from about December 18th to the 25th; depending upon the year. Most people acknowledge the Winter Solstice only on December 21st or December 22nd. At the prehistoric sacred site of Newgrange in Ireland, the sunrise Winter Solstice will be observed and celebrated between the dates of December 18th to the 23rd, 2019.

Since many people from around the world revere the Winter Solstice as a deeply spiritual time, that reason alone makes it an interesting topic to understand. We all know how fractional religious matters can be. Yet, Spirit seeks to unify the fragmented parts of the whole.

Different Views

Some think the Winter Solstice is a time of connection, quiet reflection, and profound joy. Others experience this time as busy, complicated, or even chaotic; and not just around planning celebrations or such. Sensitive or intuitive persons actually dream a lot or experience spiritual downloads of information!

Naturally, the hustle and bustle of the holiday season may make it difficult to find time for ourselves, but we can use the Winter Solstice as a way to excuse ourselves from some of the drama and overwhelm and take a pause. Yes, take some time and sit for awhile to reflect on your hopes, wishes and desires for the future.

It might also be a good time to contemplate about how your year went, and maybe set new intentions and realign your priorities.

Eastern beliefs offer an explanation of how the Solstices affect us. Not only symbolically, but in a very real sense; yin energy is the darkness before the Winter Solstice and then at sunrise, the dark opens to the lightness of the yang energy.

By seeking to first understand, we may actually give ourselves more space to live and let live, let go of the past and give ourselves a break from feeling the need to control.

Curiosity, Like Love, is Eternal

Like the spirals engraved on the neolithic and monolithic rocks at sites like, Knowth and Newgrange in Ireland and Stonehenge in England, humans have sought to leave their mark on the planet.

I listed Knowth first because some believe it to be the oldest of the astronomically-oriented structures built. Unfortunately, the caretakers of the Knowth site do not allow entrance into its chamber.

Exterior of the large mound at Knowth

Thankfully, near Knowth you can visit the larger site of Newgrange and go inside its tomb. However, to enter the burial chamber during the Winter Solstice sunrise, you must fill out a lottery application and be chosen to gain entry. The lucky few who win the opportunity to go inside the tomb at sunrise, get to see the rays of sunlight fill the chamber via a lightbox cut-out of the stones above the passageway entry. Those inside the chamber during sunrise will watch as sunlight fills the entire chamber, (weather permitting), for 17 precious minutes. Yes, it’s a very big deal and a once-in-a-lifetime experience!

Entrance to the Newgrange neolithic chamber

Interestingly, Stonehenge may be the world’s most famous prehistoric monument and sacred site to host the Summer and Winter Solstices that is aligned to the Winter Solstice sunset; while Newgrange only aligns to the Winter Solstice sunrise. I find this dichotomy intriguing.

The opportunity exists for all of us to visit these sacred sites and stir our inner curiosity about who and why all of the etchings were made on these gigantic stones. And we can be grateful that we are alive during this time in history when it is possible to visit these sacred sites.

I have been forever changed by visiting the West Kennet Long Barrow, (an Avebury site), Knowth, Newgrange and Stonehenge. Where allowed, I stood, walked, sat near and touched, many of these incredible stones; marveling their presence.

Last July, while meditating at Stonehenge inside the stone circle, I came to know of our “rightness to BE,” in the world. The experience quickly put me into a meditative state; when I am home, it takes me many minutes to reach that state of meditation. At Stonehenge, I became aware of why certain sites are sacred, and why, if we have the opportunity, we should protect them.

As I take the next long and luscious deep breath, I reach for the grace to continue to live and travel to these highly energetic places for many years to come. I want to take my granddaughters to these sites when they are of age.

Marking the Time

Nature shows us the effects of time. The inner rings on the trees mark the passing of years. Very few things last forever and no one agrees on the age of the neolithic structures that still stand on the earth.

Astronomically-speaking, the Winter Solstice marks the beginning of longer days and shorter nights. This is why it makes sense that as we head into the dark time of year, with shorter days, we allow ourselves the luxury of some time to journey within.

The Winter Solstice is observed by various cultures; not only Pagans and Druids. Eastern and Western cultures give meaning to the Solstice, because it marks the transition from darkness to light, or cold to warm.

In Japan, the Winter Solstice is a celebration of all things pertaining to the fruit Yuzu; that typically includes taking hot bath soaks filled with different tart citrus fruits. This event ushers in an important change in season. Cleansing rituals like celebrating the Solstice are honoring, both to us and our ancestors, before the earth makes another journey around our golden and life-giving sun.

Balance and Synchronicity

For me, this will be the first holiday I’ve experienced without my dad and third without my mom; at least in the physical sense, and I am an only child. Perhaps that is why the Universe has gifted me with so much recently; I’m thrilled, no matter the why or how!

I am simply grateful that through the use of all the holistic tools I have put into my proverbial “wellness toolbox,” I finally feel centered and balanced; even when emotionally triggered. Yay!

As an aside, one of my blog articles, “Why Am I So Emotional-Tips for Grief” was scheduled to be published on January 6th, 2020; that is my parent’s wedding anniversary! When I read the email from the Wellness Universe with that publishing date, I immediately sensed it was because my mom and dad are still with me in spirit. Truly, you can’t make this stuff up!

Yes, I see the synchronicity more clearly and feel this statement that was given to me spiritually or psychically years ago, even stronger now; “We Are ALL Connected.”

I write this as an aside, and that it’s a big reason why I am personally going to spend dedicated and focused time before and during the Winter Solstice to unpack my thoughts and set a new course for adventure!

I hope this article has been interesting and informative and that sometime soon you can experience the joy that awaits for you on the Winter Solstice in whatever way you observe this time marker.

I won a place for myself and a guest, (out of 30,861 lottery applications drawn by children from three different schools), to go inside the Newgrange burial chamber for the Winter Solstice sunrise on Dec. 18th, 2019 in Ireland and we are going! Stay tuned for the next post to read all about what mysteries it unlocks for me.

Thank you. Amen. Awomen. Namaste. OM

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Careful — Your tone is showing

Your tone is showing

Every sound you utter is a certain tone. Yes, even when you grunt, groan, or hum—the sound you emit comes out as a specific tone. And tones transmit our intention. So, be careful dear ones, your tone of voice is showing what’s in your heart.

Tone of voice

For years I’ve been curious about the “tone of someone’s voice” because I grew up in a house where arguing and yelling was the norm, and I hated it.

There’s no blame here, as it wasn’t only my parents arguing. When I would retort in defense of a scolding, mom would say, “don’t speak to me with that tone!”

It became commonplace for me to cover my ears whenever anyone would raise their voice. And I always wondered, “why”?

I have come to know that I’m upset by harsh tones of voice because I am a sensitive, or empath.

Maintain low tones
Maintain low tones

What your ears are tuned to

Understand that my physical ears could take it, but the experience of someone yelling or screaming in anger near me would shake my emotional world.

Moreover, I knew my ears weren’t the problem because I’d attended many rock concerts over the years, and hung out with family and friends at many “Bike Week” events (motorcycle engines roaring) and that didn’t bother me. At least it didn’t bother me for many years. But something about a person yelling near me, with their intention of anger would totally upset my apple cart.

I knew there was a difference between someone screaming for help and someone yelling out of anger. I could hear it in the tone of voice. So, for the sake of this post, I’m probing the intention of anger / hostility.

Words hurt

Books have been written about how hurtful words disrupts the body and spirit. I believe that’s got a lot more to do with the tone of the voice delivering those hurtful words, than the actual words themselves. Especially since we’re all empowered and have the ability not to accept into us, the meaning of any word. (See my previous article, “Words are only as powerful as we allow.“)

Healing tones

Conversely, tonal frequencies can be healing to the body as I explored in my Tibetan bowl article:

“…specific tones (or frequencies) that resonate deep into your body. The harmonics of the tones can help you experience a connection throughout your entire body. And when we feel “connected”, a sense of calm and relaxation can be achieved.”
I now have a conscious choice when anyone is angry within my vicinity–I can leave. I do not have to subject myself to ill intent. I am sure over the years I have left too, in particular I can cite a couple of marriages ending (not solely due to the arguing, but I wouldn’t tolerate in any longer).
I believe this tonal thing is also why I resonate so much with peaceful music, and calm public speakers. I will not attend any lecture or other type of event where an angry tone of voice is being projected at people. I FEEL it. And I love the cells of my body too much than to subject any of the 70 trillion of them to that kind of abuse.
I know that loving intention produces a calming and gentle power within one’s body, mind, and spirit and that’s where I choose to reside.
For those who say fighting, arguing, and so on is a normal part of marriage–I beg to differ. My third husband and I have never raised our voices in disagreement in over 14 years together. There is a way to communicate, even debate, without spuing painful words at oneself or another.

Backed by hard science?

To a degree. Brain waves have been measured by scientists for many years. And scientists say that while we’re awake our normal brain frequency is in something called, Beta. Certain sound tools, or modalities can train the brain to shift into deeper Alpha and Theta brain wave frequencies. These are the frequencies one experiences after deep contemplative, mindful, or other types of meditative practices. Science can measure brain waves and make a correlation between sound therapy and the body’s healing response. Thus, sound is a type of energy medicine and can help the body heal from pain, stress, and more.

The bones and organs in the body all possess a different resonant frequency that can be scientifically measured.

It’s not possible for you to desire something that would be detrimental to anyone, and feel good at the same time, because if you set forth an intention like that, you would deviate from the vibration of Source–the spirit of God within you–and you would feel the emptiness of it.
Ah, at its essence sound is only vibration. Sound is only interpreted vibration by the hearer…
In the womb I was made from everything my mom breathed, ate, drank, thought, and felt. I had no say about those things. I felt the resonance of the vibrations of her intentions and emotion. What were the intentions of my mother? Was she worried? Thankful? Apprehensive? Eagerly anticipating? Joyful?
Intention can set the stage for what’s going to be most predominant in a child’s life!
May the tone of your voice always convey the intent of your heart.
Be the person your Soul knows you are!
Thank you. Namaste. OM

A bit about me:

Check out this original song, Sierra Wind. My husband wrote this song and it was performed and recorded in a Nashville, TN studio. You can download it (it’s Track 1) from this link: https://store.cdbaby.com/cd/chevyfordb15

 

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon.

Plus, the brand new book that’s been in the making for 13 years, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format).

Buy it here.

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

 

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Limiting Beliefs

What are your “limiting beliefs”?

Limiting beliefs are thoughts you keep thinking, that probably sneak out in your speaking, that are your perceived limitations, and they limit you from moving forward in at least one area of life.

Limited perspective

After a year of working on my limiting beliefs – the ones I had already admitted to myself – I happened to hear myself say, “Nobody listens to me” while discussing something with a coworker. Aha! I’d just caught a limiting belief!

Nobody listens to me
Nobody listens to me

It’s something I say over and over again, and think even more! It IS a limiting belief and it’s not true! People do listen to me, even if they don’t – in the moment – express the hearing of my message, or acknowledge that what I’m saying may prompt them to action, or change.

I stopped right in the middle of the conversation and explained to my coworker that I had to jot down my “aha moment.”

BEing still

Meditation has helped me become aware of my thoughts. Listening to myself, I can barely have a conversation anymore without really hearing what I say! Am I communicating my highest intention?

Aha moments are vitally important. I am always learning (from my own words) and love these type of profound teachable moments, which add serenity to my life!

I am an empath, so I must always be observant of my thoughts to know whether I’m taking on someone else’s stuff, or whether indeed, my thoughts and feelings are my own.

Now I know that anytime I start to go down the thought path of “nobody listens to me”, I can change it to “everybody listens to me”, or “everybody hears me”.

I’ll try that and see how other things change in my life. Now that’s a limiting belief worth sharing.

A bit about me:

Check out this original song, Didn’t I Tell You. My husband wrote this song and it was performed and recorded in a Nashville, TN studio. You can download it (it’s Track 6) from this link: https://store.cdbaby.com/cd/chevyfordb2

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving”, available on Amazon.

Plus, the brand new book that’s been in the making for 13 years, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, is now available for online sale and distribution (PDF format).

Buy it here.

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

Follow me on Twitter at: TakeOnYourself

America the Beautiful in Lake County Florida

America the Beautiful in Lake County Florida

Yesterday, I wrote a little article for Examiner(dot)com. In the article, I talked about the beauty I am noticing all around me.

RV Living = Freedom

Living in an RV, it affords my husband and I to live anywhere, to pull up stakes (though we don’t use stakes at our camp spot actually, but I just like that turn of a phrase) and take off at a moments notice. That is of course, with the exception of moving too far from where I’m working. So living in Lake County, uh, well, camping that is to say, puts us very close to a lot of things to do. I thought I’d just expand on that here.

Hill Country article

Okay. So, when Examiner(dot)com sold to AXS, I lost many of my articles. Sad, I know. But my article told of many virtues and natural points of beauty you could find in the Hill Country f Florida–Clermont, Florida. See link here:

https://www.clermontfl.gov/visitors/about-us.stml

This site will tell you a lot about Clermont in Lake County Florida. What I’d like to expand on is why it is that NOW, I’m really appreciating the beauty of this area.

https://images.app.goo.gl/sQHVPgAYTrG1ynsp8

Positive aspects

This year I’ve been keeping what is termed a “book of positive aspects.” In it, I take something – yes even something negative that’s occurring in my life – and muse on it until I can either generalize or ponder the subject so deeply, that I can turn it around and find the positive aspects of or within it.

You hear people do this all the time when they say, “there’s a silver lining in every dark cloud”, or “look for the good”, which upon hearing that one I usually think to myself, “look for God”. The other morning before beginning the workday a coworker said to me it would be good if I’d “expect God’s favor”. It was a polite, profound, and professional way for him to tell me that I’ve had a negative attitude. And I have been.

I’ve been so stressed, so in the weeds and details of “stuff” that well, my normal usual smile, and optimism has waned.

So as I prepared to write my article I opened my Excel spreadsheet – which is how I record my list of positive aspects – and I read this one, “Within every place the possibility to feel good exists” and immediately therefore thought, “Within every place the possibility to feel God exists.”

Wow!

Beautiful!

Talk about a game changer.

Talk about a mind shift!

And it gets better.

Serenity

For a couple months now, another coworker (who works on a very complex project with me) has been telling me (during the moments when I think my brain is going to explode), “Serenity now.”

Now, I learned the serenity prayer many years ago, but never thought to apply it to a hectic work situation. I latched right on to that phrase. I say it often to myself during crisis moments. And guess what? On my list of positive aspects I find, “Serenity can be practiced any place.” Uh-huh! Yes and I agree it can… but man, during those “get me a brick, so I can beat my head against it” moments of extreme irritation (usually because I feel someone else didn’t accomplish something they were supposed to – and judging – maybe they’re incompetent), it isn’t easy to APPLY serenity inducing techniques.

Conclusion

Aha! That’s one of many reasons why I relate so much to the movie, Office Space. In the Information Technology (IT) world, Office Space is a cult classic. When Peter gets hypnotized he goes in to work the next day with an, “I don’t care anymore” attitude. I get that! To feel serenity – anywhere. Some places do seem to make it easier for us to feel serene, than others. The Hill Country of Florida sure provides a sense of calm and ease and I am glad we can enjoy it!