Sheila “Spiral Sister” Murrey Mind-Body, Spirit

Words are only as powerful as we allow

In many circles you will hear people say that “words are powerful,” but do you believe it?

If words are powerful, do you know why? Because words carry vibration. Vibrational TONE. The tone sets up something for people, and animals too, that carries your intention forward.

Think of a time when you called out to a loved one, or pet, by name. Maybe they came to you. Their choice. Their free will. But, maybe they didn’t come to you. Or maybe not immediately. Perhaps they chose to stop whatever it was they were doing that you didn’t like. Or, perhaps not!

You call out again. Still, they do not bend to YOUR will, wishes, or desire. You call AGAIN. This time your tone of voice changes, getting more irritated, annoyed, angry, and LOUD. You can’t understand why, with all of the energy your vocally transmitting to this person (or pet), that they aren’t listening. And hear me now (believe me later), you’re not commanding their attention.

You are attempting to control that person or animal with words.

Yet, the only difference in the words is the tone.

I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to drop whatever I am doing and go near a person who’s yelling at me, especially when I hear them using an angry tone. If however, I sense they are calling for me from a caring heart-centered place, I will go. Especially, since I am an empath.

If, however, I sense the yelling has a concern behind it, such as: “Get out of the way,” “Fire,” or “Help,” then yes, I will likely respond by moving quickly, calling out to others, getting help, or offering assistance.

You can tell someone’s intention by their tone of voice.

We almost instinctively perceive tone!

The first thing the person who yells a lot must get (understand) is that they do not control anyone.

The authoritative shouter may make someone uncomfortable enough that they choose to do something for them / bend to their will (think of a soldier going through boot camp) but, 100% of the time, all day, every day, the person on the receiving end of the shouting / yelling has a choice.

If you are yelling at me, I can choose to do as you desire, or NOT! The world does not revolve around you!

So, why do people feel the need to control others with their words? What is all the damned yelling and shouting about anyway?

Over time, yelling at me just desensitizes me to the shouting. Or, my body becomes so stressed that I leave, and get away from that person – even if it means quitting a job! Loud vocals stress my body, if I choose to internalize those commanding words.

I would simply say, loud vocals stress my body, but that is only true if I’m accepting of them.

For example, if I love a particular rock band, I can go to the concert and love the loud singer! So, again, it’s all in our interpretation or how we perceive the tones, or words.

Children hear, “sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me”. Is this true?

Studies show people who are constantly yelled at become negatively conditioned. (The particular study I linked to here says it also depends upon how much credit we give to the person yelling at us, someone in authority, or parent, etc. their words carry more weight!)

Words roared at us, even more so by those we love, either set us up to become aggressive (anger directed outward) or go into our shell, turning anger inward which, turns into depression or resentment. They may get to a point where they no longer pay attention to anyone who yells at them or they cry, become nervous, etc.

Yes, some words hurt, but maybe not for all the reasons we think.

The intention of the person using the word sets the tone. It’s not just the word that hurts.

Words after all, are just words. They are not REAL. They may represent something, but they are abstract and we can choose to define them any which way we want!

Words need to have a shared definition before they really count for anything anyway. Shared definition is very important – for example, you may define the word “fun” very different than I define the word “fun”. Interestingly we may define the words: “hurt,” “fear,” “pain,” etc. very differently based upon our understanding and experience.

When someone speaks light, fun, happy, or encouraging words to us the tone is typically lighter too! We feel it. Think of how your lover speaks to you. Think of how your best friend speaks to you when you’re engaging in fun, giggly, or perhaps deep insightful conversation. Think of how your grandparent or other close relative speaks to you WHEN they are flowing pure love (energy) to you. You feel loved, warm, and cared for as they speak! You know that they love you, their words are soothing and envelope you in love. Ah!

So let’s try a little experiment. As you sit there and read my words, be sure there is nothing else going to make you excited, no drama – ok? Make sure you’re not distracted and that you are relatively calm and peaceful.

As you begin to read the following list of words –  note if any push your buttons. Specifically do they get  you riled up, mad, sad, or other negative emotion. You’re safe. No one is physically going to harm you and you know this. Only check as you read each word slowly if you feel any mental or physical response. Here goes:

  • Confrontation
  • You’re ugly
  • Scream
  • Attack
  • You’re stupid
  • Betrayal
  • Fight
  • You’re bad
  • Struggle
  • Aggravate
  • Shut up
  • Insult
  • Coward
  • Assault

Do you feel anything in your mind or body as you read the words? Can you agree that these are just words. Characters on the screen. If you felt anything in your mind or body do you see where that is because of the way you define the word or link it with a previous experience?

When someone relays a hurtful story do you, do you find yourself wincing or in some other way empathizing with their story? Again, you are not IN their story – no one is attacking you, but often I find that many of us (especially empathic people) in some small way can sense or feel the pain the person went through during their experience. It’s also the reason I won’t watch certain movies. If I don’t feel the pain in my body I may have bad dreams because the movie assaulted my mind.

To take this topic, “Words are only as powerful as we allow” in another direction, what about doctors who tell their patients they only have 6 months to live? Those words hurt in another way.

In my opinion, doctors break the Hippocratic oath when they tell patients they only have x number of weeks or months to live or there’s nothing else they can do. The doctor may not shout at you, so it’s not the volume of the voice (such as yelling) but those words are very heavy to receive. In fact, it has been theorized that a doctor’s end of life time frame prediction could induce an auto-suggestion manifesting as self fulfilling prophecy.

What’s wrong in this scenario is that people ascribe so much weight to the doctor’s words because of the physician’s credentials and so-called authority. The finality of the meaning we ascribe to the time limit of this death sentence (no pun intended) really packs a punch! In fact, I recall several people telling me that when their doctor told them they only had x weeks or months to live they literally felt a “punch in the gut” of their body!

So, do you stop to question if the doctor’s statement is really true before reacting? Do you take a few minutes to engage your cognitive mind, stay calm, and let the doctor know you want a second, or third opinion? Do you seek out many other experts? Or do you take this one doctor’s word for when you will die? I invite you to think about that because the nocebo effect (read Bruce Lipton’s book “Biology of Belief”) is being proven every day. Of course if you challenge those negative words (and some do – thankfully) they prove the opposite and outlive the prescribed time frame and experience spontaneous healing!

I have been studying the placebo (and nocebo effect) that Bruce Lipton, Phd. speaks of for several years. When we got into the “raw and living foods” philosophy of eating back in 2008 we shared meals with many people who rejected their allopathic physician’s “limit on their life span” and took it upon themselves to gain knowledge and allow their bodies to heal naturally. Dr. Lipton still interviews about the placebo effect and how traditional western doctors only get about 15 minutes of education on it in medical school. In my opinion, even if doctors got a whole course on the placebo effect (and nocebo effect) it wouldn’t be enough.

Dr. Alison J. Kay talks about the placebo effect as well. She has studied in the east, Asia and India and thoroughly knows and understands the basis of the placebo effect (using several modalities, including meditation) and it’s relationship basis of subtle energy. (Reference my full article about Dr. Kay’s work here.)

Recently I’ve come upon an interview by Dr. Paul Drouin of http://iquim.org/ along with Dr. Joe Dispenza where they discuss the placebo effect –>> Click here. This also may explain by how so called “false hope” may indeed be helpful to someone. When you look at the science (which is just measured observation) it begins to make sense.

Let me give you some happy and light words and see if now, they change your mood, or if you feel these in your mind or body:

  • Safe
  • Hug
  • Silly
  • Joke
  • Fun
  • Tickle
  • Whisper
  • Smile
  • Love
  • Laugh
  • Winning
  • Cuddle
  • Soft

How do you feel now? Again, just words. Again, just what meaning you attach to these. Did you think of your pets, loved ones, children, etc.?

One of the Pixar short video’s we love is called, “Dug’s Special Mission” from the movie “Up”. In it there’s a line that my husband and I say to each other often when we’re seeking to be understood. It’s always said in fun, and with a light heart. The line is: “Do you understand the words that I am speaking to you now”? It is our belief that the intention and tone used when words are spoken, often say much more than the word chosen implies.

I am a tonal. I read between the lines – a LOT! Sometimes I get it wrong, or maybe not. Maybe people just catch themselves and then clarify what they mean when I question their words, but I am always seeking to understand. Sometimes when I perceive someone speaking in a harsh or brisk tone it takes me awhile to figure out if they intend to be forceful, irritating, or hurtful. Their tone has probably caused me some undue fatigue. I have even been irritated by the tone of someone’s laughter! Has that ever happened to you?

If you are in any kind of pain or dis-ease, let’s try that same word power game. Focus on the pain in your body. Assign the pain a number 1-10 with 10 being the most intense. Now read the following words:

  • Trust myself
  • Kind
  • Hug myself
  • It’s OK
  • Allow
  • Comfort
  • Getting better
  • Peace
  • I’m alive
  • Knowing
  • Healing
  • Power
  • I’m still breathing
  • Pure Joy
  • Blessed
  • Pure Love
  • Light
  • Flow
  • Bliss

Check in with your pain again. Has your number 1-10 come down?

Even if your number only came down one number say, from a 9 to an 8, that’s improvement! If so, this validates and proves to you the power of words. Read them again but this time in the voice of one person (who either now or from your past) who has a voice you love and who always spoke in a nice, sweet, caring tone. Do it now.

Recheck your pain level.

Bottom line: Words only carry the power (vibration and energy) as we allow. The tone in which the words are spoken (either out loud or in our heads), or the authority of those who speak the words – attempts to make the words carry more meaning / power, however we still have a choice whether to buy in to that or not. If we do not buy into people’s authority, the power of their words mean less to us. If we can decipher someone’s intention based upon the tone we can also better choose whether to accept or reject their words.

Peace and love to all.

A bit about me:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice,” “Energy of Receiving”, plus author of “Blue Eyes: Ethereal Messages of Connection,” and holistic health book that details how I naturally reversed asthma, “Have Yourself a Wholly Vibrant Life: Reversing Asthma and Other Chronic Illness Naturally” all available on Amazon.

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

For more about me, this blog, how I create websites, why I wrote a holistic health book, and more, find me on Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn.

Sheila “Spiral Sister” Murrey Mind-Body, Spirit

Reality is ONLY what we perceive

This is a comparison of two thoughts –

Crazy people don’t know they’re crazy.

AND

What IS a lie?

I’m an analyst by nature. But I am also creative! I taught myself how to draw anime and paint. I like to make sense of things. I am a seeker. Always attempting to understand.

Because I’m an analyst, I keep my eyes and ears open when others (though I was trained at an early age to “tune people out”) are spewing crap and I try to figure out what prompts them to do so. What are the intentions behind their actions? Do they INTEND to hurt people?

Why?

Let’s look at the LARGER expanded context. The way I perceive a statement (which might be true for you) may not ring true for me?

The Merriam-Webster definition of a lie is: “To make an untrue statement with intent to deceive” and “to create a false or misleading impression”.

Ah, then a lie really is your perception of reality that differs from my perception of reality. Agreement is never found within a lie. A lie separates people.

It’s the reason I always say there are multiple sides to every story. But wait! Do not use my words against me. You can’t purposely hurt someone, lie about it, and then say I am the one who’s not hearing YOUR side. You can’t do that. It doesn’t work that way. Because? Crazy people don’t know they’re crazy.

Just because we know there are multiple facets to each person, each event, each statement in life, does not give you license to hurt people.

Jesus Christ was quoted as saying, “you shall know a tree by its fruit”. To determine if you are on your right path, look at the fruits of your current activities. (References: Matthew 7:16, Matthew 7:17, Matthew 7:20, Matthew 12:33, Luke 6:43, Luke 6:44, and John 15:4)

I am sure if you take a good long look at yourself in a mirror, looking deeply into your OWN eyes – then sitting quietly in prayer and meditation seeking to know if you have hurt anyone, then you may glimpse if you are the healer, OR if you are the PROBLEM.

No one is perfect, and that is a healing statement. Forgiveness is HUGE, and I do forgive those who have purposely hurt me (or my family or friends) because I know we’re all spirit experiencing being human.

There are troublemakers and there are peacemakers. If you look at the fruit of your life, you’ll know which you are.

I am a peacemaker. You know this by looking at the fruits of my life.

When others use us, lie, cause trouble for us – the peacemakers all to often carry that crap around, thinking we caused it somehow. But, I am finding that peacemakers did not cause it – those problems are not ours. It’s negative energy and unhealthy. Don’t carry around any problem that is not yours.

I’ve been living by, and thinking in agreement with these two mantras for many years:

“Everything happens for a reason.”

and

“I wouldn’t be the person I am today, without all of the experiences I’ve had (thus far) in my life”.

However, this is a PROCESS, there is NO COMPLETION or finish line.

So, because this is a process, I am always seeking ways to “let go” of the past, even if the past was yesterday, because my perception of reality is that people can be hurtful. People lie, gossip, cut me off in traffic, etc. which is why I love energy medicine!

Energy medicine is so helpful, on many levels. It allows the cells of our body to let go of negative experiences, so they do not get STUCK in the body and manifest into dis-ease.

That said, recently I experienced an aMaZiNg healing energy medicine session with Dr. Alison J Kay!! We really broke through some very old sh*t (past trauma / guilt of a negative situation) and I was empowered to let go of some very deep emotions that consciously I had thought I had done all my forgiveness work on (years ago) but apparently the cells of my body (scientist Candace Pert proved cells hold memories) had NOT! Dr. Kay cleared my heart chakra in this session and WOW! Haha! Healing is such a PROCESS!

It FELT sooo good to get that heaviness out of my heart! It was really like we did a heart chakra colonic! Why did I ever think that hurtful person’s actions were mine?

I accept FULL responsibility for what I allow to happen in my life. I know there’s VALUE in everything, though some experiences FEEL better than others. And sometimes, it takes years to be able to find the value of certain people or experiences we’ve known.

Since we cannot control everything in our lives, it’s good to realize and focus on this: What I give out, returns to me – like the ripples from a pebble thrown into a pond. That is why it is so much better to focus on what feels good (pointed in LOVE) than what feels bad (pointed in FEAR).

  • Do not make trouble for people.
  • Mind your own business
  • Do not gossip.
  • Go back and read the Ten Commandments (those weren’t just “suggestions”). If you’re not into the Bible, look at the results of your actions.

When you throw a pebble in the water, the ripples extend and touch much more than you know. But know this, the ripples return to their source. What you dish out, will return to you – it is a universal LAW. So, “send them love”. In any situation or circumstance – just send them LOVE.

If your heart is pointed in the direction of LOVE, you will be a blessing to others, not a curse. Watch the movie Maleficent– it’s something to think about.

If you’ve read this far, perhaps you’re a healer and peacemaker also. Thank you.

If you want one more way to know whether you’re motivated by love or fear – ask yourself the following questions on any particular issue you’re facing:

  • Is there any value in my association with this (person, place, or thing)?
  • Is this (person, place, or thing) really necessary in my life?
  • How does it feel to me when I think of this (person, place, or thing)?

Once you’ve answered these questions for yourself, you’ll know what to do. Follow what feels lighter (vs. heavier). Always, in all ways, go forward, move ahead – doing what FEELS GOOD!

You can suffer if you want to. But, if you want to experience greater health, go in the direction that FEELS good to YOU.

In the name of our Limitless, Ever-Living, Omniscient, Omnipresent, Omnipotent, Pulsating, Be-ing, Creator Source God who IS the Energy that holds the Universe together. Beyond what we can see. Beyond what we now know. Faith IS the substance of things not yet seen.

In ALL ways, BE a blessing.

Namaste.

A bit about me:

An Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice,” “Energy of Receiving”, plus author of “Blue Eyes: Ethereal Messages of Connection,” and holistic health book that details how I naturally reversed asthma, “Have Yourself a Wholly Vibrant Life: Reversing Asthma and Other Chronic Illness Naturally” all available on Amazon.

Be the best version of who you want to be.

Information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

For more about me, this blog, how I create websites, why I wrote a holistic health book, and more, find me on Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn.

Sheila “Spiral Sister” Murrey Spirit

Radio Frequency Analogy to Getting What We Want

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Do you have what you want?

Do you know what you want?

I’ve heard it said that most people really do not know what they want. Sure you may want to buy a new pair of shoes, or a piece of furniture, a car, a house, but what about after you have all of those “things”?

Write down 3 things you want. These can be small or large – I’ll encourage you by sharing 3 things I want:

  1. Peace on earth
  2. More time with loved ones
  3. A reason to wake up and be excited to go to “work” everyday = career passion

Now for the analogy. Let’s keep it simple – if you’re an electronics engineer feel free to email me and correct me but I’m trying to keep this elementary simplistic.

In order for you to turn your radio dial (for those old enough to think of a radio dial that way), or punch in the number to hear a favorite radio station, you really only need to know what frequency your station is transmitting on. In order for my radio to play the music I like I punch in the numbers 105.9 – inputting those numbers aligns the frequency (energy) to the radio station. I can move the numbers up or down just a tiny bit and all that does is make the station sound fuzzy – not so clear. To get the clearest sound I must be right on the numbers.

If I turn my radio on and don’t punch in any numbers all I hear is STATIC. And for me, that’s not a pleasant sound. So the radio frequency analogy to getting what I want out of life is this: Static is like living without intention or focus – sort of just hanging out in neutral without any direction.

There’s a tower somewhere broadcasting the signal on that frequency – and your radio station must be tuned EXACTLY to that frequency or it will not clearly RECEIVE the signal. The closer you are to the tower – the better reception. For example, if you’re in the country you won’t hear your radio station clearly, if at all. If you’re in the city, you will pick up a lot more clear radio stations along the dial – so you’ll even have more choices!

Perhaps it’s self evident that some amount of focus, of attention is needed to attain any desire. Whether you call it positive thinking or not – it does seem logical – the more you think about what you desire the closer you will be to achieving it. The more you surround yourself with those who are transmitting the “vibes” that put you into your good feeling place, the more likely you are to feel good. Think of the song, “Good Vibrations”. They were really tuned into this mindset when they wrote that song. Conversely, if you’re around people transmitting harsh or rude words, even if it’s just the tones of their voice, it won’t feel good to you. Remember that song, “Don’t bring me down”?

So here’s the deal. If talking to others about everything that’s going on in their lives energizes you, that’s the frequency you’ve tuned in to. And if that’s what you want – that’s good. If you want more drama in your life, complain about EVERYTHING. That’s a frequency also. The fun part to this is we all want different things and life means different things to each of us. Just ask yourself, “How is that working for you?” Do you have what you want, or not? Consider whether you need to adjust your frequency dial. Do things you want come easily into your experience or do they always feel they are somehow at arms length?

I have heard it said and seen many a bumper sticker: BE THE CHANGE YOU WISH TO SEE IN THE WORLD. To me, the radio frequency analogy illustrates this very well. Keep tuning into the frequency of what you want. Since I want peace on earth, I want to hang out with people who make me feel peaceful. I want to spend some time alone each day in thought, prayer, meditation – and walk my dogs. (smile) I believe that once my third desire manifests it will automatically fulfill the second one.

When I talk or write about deep things like, spirituality and living a naturally healthy life – I FEEL wonderful. I’ve never publicly talked about this before but when I’m having those conversations I actually feel a tingling vibration in my body (internal not on the skin) similar to goose bumps. It doesn’t last very long, perhaps less than a minute or two. I’ve asked several people what this means and have heard everything from, “it’s the angels communicating with you”, to “it’s the universe letting you know you’re on the right path”. I remain open to figuring it out and eager to understand it.

People always say when your work is something you love – it’s no longer “work”. People also say when you put passion and action together – the money will come.

What new frequency do you have to tune into to get what you want out of life?