A short title, but long article today because as I sat in meditation regarding the question of ‘loneliness’ a list began to come to me, and I wanted to get that down on virtual paper. As well, or maybe to begin with, I recalled a saying that a preacher of mine, back when I used to attend a interdenominational church, used to say, “Loneliness isn’t a lack of people, but a lack of purpose.” He may have been a fraud, but I’ve held onto that message as a truism for over thirty years.
I attended that interdenominational church for about two years in the early 1990s (during a time when I had questioned the religion I’d been raised in).
The man whom I had lived with for a year and left, came back to me saying he’d “found Jesus” and that there was a church close to his house where we could attend and take my two children. Though I wasn’t sure I could trust him, I played along and attended that new church, as well as attend and teach some classes at some folks’ home where we had little home church meetings of my original church. My second ex-husband and I had that interdenominational preacher baptize us in the ocean together. And we married in that church. I had even enrolled my two children in that church’s private Christian school for a few months, which turned out to be a disaster. The whole marriage turned out to be a disaster too, but no need to go into that.
Perhaps needless to say, I never officially left my original church and that interdenominational church preacher ended up absconding with church monies and left the area with the church secretary. I’ve always wondered what happened to his beautiful wife and their children. Sad. Also, I hate to say it, but I’ve seen that kind of thing happen in all kinds of churches over the course of my life. That just happened to be the only one I’d ever put my personal time and money into! Let alone, my second ex-husband had never truly been “saved” either.
But daresay, I still believe “Loneliness isn’t a lack of people, but a lack of purpose.” If that was the one lesson I brought with me out of that debacle, maybe it was worth it.
Cure to loneliness
The short list to cure loneliness that dropped into my mind goes something like this:
- Because even empty space is not actually empty, it is impossible for any of us to “be alone.”
- We are loved by the creator of the universe more than we could possibly fathom.
- While being in community feels good and each human has a drive to live and work in community, some of us can function well and enjoy a good life while living alone, as long as we have a strong sense of purpose.
- When someone feels lonely, it is because they are focusing on an unmet need; humans often feel they need emotional support or physical touch from others.
I wrote about this topic years ago as well; I’ll share the previous post with you again: https://sheilamurrey.net/2016/04/03/take-it-spiritually-upon-yourself/
Speaking of purpose, I never feel lonely not matter what is going on, because I have a laptop nearly full of writing topics that if I live another twenty years, I sincerely doubt I will get everything done I have on my list to do, much less books on the shelf to read, and an insatiable curiosity to learn more! Though yes, I know, the Bible says I don’t need to “lean on my own understanding.” But God gave me a brain too, so there’s that! Smiling.
Apologetics research
In addition, I wanted to introduce you to a term you may not have heard of before. That term is Apologetics. The definition I’ll go with comes from a teacher I have only recently begun to follow, and that is Bishop Josh Turner from The Remnant Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. The word may remind you quickly of the word, Apology, and there’s some truth to where we’re going with that. But per Wes Huff, who I credit in leading me back to Christ in 2025. And to clarify, I will say that while I lean not to dogma nor my conditioning (insofar that any of us can de-program ourselves of past conditioning, which is an ongoing process), I have used further study to bolster my faith in Christ Jesus. And this is what I refer to when I say Wes, “led me back” to Christ.
I’ll say that my Interfaith, New Thought, and Unity studies led me to people like Billy Carson and Russell Brand. There were others, many others, but for purposes of this article, I’ll name them simply because I would not have found Wes Huff had it not been for Billy Carson. And when Russell converted to Catholicism, I had to take a huge pause and sit with “What the heck is going on?” And I had to realize that perhaps I had been getting led astray, though my knowing that Omniscience God covers ALL wouldn’t let me go down a path, any path, that would cost me my soul. And beyond that, I knew from the metaphysical experiences I’d had that at any point, I could be rescued if rescuing was needed.
Here’s the Wes Huff video that turned my spiritual life back around: https://youtu.be/F7ngjtT43-4?si=b0MAicbmvHmpBJZ3
I spent several months going back over previous Billy Carson videos I’d watched and then exploring Aaron Abke and Wes Huff videos, not just the ones where they hashed stuff out, but also, some of their individual videos. I also became a member of 4DU (the online university of Aaron Abke’s where he offers a community–and I made some friends there, as well as, I paid for a couple of his classes, one being the Ontology of Christ). When I tell you I did a deep dive on this topic, let me assure you, I did!
And here’s the first of six videos from Bishop Josh Turner that I’m currently watching on the subject: https://www.youtube.com/live/W87nNpAZV84?si=-HT6y2yDQHW25Oc1
My religious background
My religious history involves a kind of convoluted story. I’m technically still a member of the Reorganized Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (now known as the Community of Christ; I was baptized into it when I was 8 years of age), and my uncle is a pastor of the Remnant Church, which carries direct lineage from the original church that was organized by Joseph Smith Jr. in 1830. And the Remnant considers itself to be the “one true church” the same as the Reorganized church had. And the whole idea of any “one true church” is what caused me to leave and continue seeking, as in my heart and mind I feel anyone who truly follows Christ Jesus is a member of His church, and no human organization has the right to claim themselves as the “one true church.”
Additionally, I take issue with the fact that the Remnant church is headquartered near the Temple Lot in Independence, Missouri, which is directly across the street from the Independence Temple (that my mother, aunt, and grandmother all contributed money to during it’s building phase), that is now home of the Community of Christ (which, for whatever reason really annoys me). I know that’s TMI and confusing, but that’s what happens when someone, or a small faction within a church disagrees with some dogma and then splits off to form their own organization.
When I read that the Remnant Church maintains a belief in a geophysical Zion, I think that follows the original teaching from the time of Joseph Smith Jr., that Zion would be raised up on the earth in Independence, Missouri. For sure that empty Temple Lot was where it was prophesied would be the place where the final temple would be built. Thus, Zion would not be raised in any other country, especially NOT Israel. The Remnant church lists their foundational beliefs, as written by Joseph Smith Jr. on the Remnant Church’s website as “Our Epitome of Faith.”
About the church names, not that it may matter, but in the Reorganized Church of Latter Day Saints was, in the 1970s and 1980s was highly criticized by members within and is why the Remnant church split off from it. Some of the issues involved whether to allow women to hold priesthood status and to end the lineal succession doctrine concerning the prophet president, and when and where to build the Independence temple. My mom was okay with a few of the changes as presented, but when it came to women holding priesthood office, the lineal succession, and new name for the church–that’s where she drew the line. But we never got her church membership changed from the Community of Christ to the Remnant church, and that is something I would still like to do, especially when I get my membership changed.
A descendant of Joseph Smith, Jr. by April 2002, Frederick Niels Larsen was chosen as the President of the High Priesthood and prophet of the Remnant Church until his death on April 26, 2019. Following his death, Terry Wayne Patience became President of the High Priesthood/Prophet/President of the church on June 29, 2019 during a special conference of the church.
Here’s the link where you can grab a copy of, We Are All Connected: The How and The Why. An analytical mind searches for answers.
Integrating the Spirals – JIGGLE WIGGLE
I’m encouraging those “over 50” to open to lifelong learning (observe, gently question, and loosen up their pre-conceived beliefs, aka ‘Programming’), become more aware of their thoughts and emotions to encourage more ease, loosen up and move their bodies (too many are stuck in their heads and physically unhealthy), become strong, and resilient in spirit, soul, mind, body. And to question EVERYTHING!
Link to my YouTube channel where you can see the videos: https://youtube.com/@spiralsister
Yours in consciousness-expansion as we evolve and revolve during our mystical awakening. All while doing-my-egoless-best, to take you on a limitless, spiraling thought ride to better health, through doing more with ease, to help us sustain the JOY in our lives! (With lots of Gratitude throughout.)
Sheila “Spiral Sister” Murrey
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