May 13th – Dysfunctional magnet (relationship woes and lessons learned)

It’s May 13th, 2024; Here’s an original uptempo rock country fusion song about dysfunctional relationships so many of us have experienced. This is one of my favorite songs of ours as Richard and I used to sing/perform it (with a gender change and without the spoken part at the end). I sing it with a twang if you can imagine. Perhaps I’ll get the opportunity to sing it again out somewhere. Open mic or such. I thoroughly feel the female version rocks ’cause I’ve “been there, done that”! Ha! For me, this is such a healing song! If you’ve experienced relationship woes, give it a listen. This version of the song offers the funky swagger from Bubba Hudson on vocals, as well as a rockin’ production mix thanks to Steven Cooper, Nashville, TN. 

Hope your Mother’s Day was good!

Here’s the one-hundred-thirty-fourth new music post for 2024, as I continue to walk my consistent path and highlight one of our unique original songs each day this year. This song digs into the difficulties one can experience in relationships, where dysfunction is involved. I’ve “been there, done that,” and it’s not pretty. Either an empath is attracted to a narcissist, or there are addiction/co-dependent issues or such. 

Mother’s Day is such a mixed bag of emotions for me.

Mixed bag

I read a book years ago after my first divorce called Givers and Takers. I found a lot of truth in the pages of that book. That and many other self-help, transformational books, prayer, group counseling, one-on-one counseling, 12-step programs for families et cetera, helped me pull myself up and out of the mindset, which led me to experience ‘bad’ relationships. Sometimes, as was the case with the second husband, I did tell my friend “No” many times the day she’d invited me to go boating with her (the day I met him). She was trying to set me up with her ex! I didn’t want any part of that. I’d only been divorced less than a year and knew with every fiber of my being that I wasn’t ready for another relationship. I had a solid job, a beautiful 3-bedroom duplex unit with a garage near my children’s school, and my children were doing great in school. I stood up for myself, but I wasn’t strong enough. I still let others overpower my will. My ‘friend’ (she’s passed on now, but even before she died, we’d severed our friendship) wouldn’t take my multiple “No” answers–she had to have things her way. And the rest became an ugly chapter in the life of my children and myself. My children and I learned a lot the hard way from that ill-fated relationship–but each Mother’s Day, I re-live a bit of that in my mind to clear and release the guilt I carry.

If you’re going through hell

There’s a quote I saw on a billboard once (while traveling for work from Missouri to Florida), and it said, “If you’re going through hell, keep on going.” Later I found it attributed to Winston Churchill. And I’ve also heard it in a song. I love that quote because that’s exactly what I did, though it was painful. I kept on going with that ugly second marriage, even trying one more time after we divorced–I moved to another state and even gave up a good job to ‘try again’ with him. I’d thought since he’d moved from his home state of Florida to Texas, changed friends, been sober for a few years (supposedly), and we’d been divorced and apart for 4 years, that it might work again. I was sure WRONG!

I saw some warning signs (that I probably shouldn’t be back with him) as soon as he’d arrived to move my son and me. My daughter would have no part of him (she’s so strong!) and moved herself back to Florida, which broke my heart. I was proud of her but couldn’t see things through her eyes at the time. I knew I was a big softy (soft-hearted) and I know hormones, patterns, and such sway us (to try and ‘work things out’), but I felt something was ‘off’ as soon as we arrived in Texas. Eventually, after that guy hurt my son and physically abused me (whether it was intentional or not), my son (who was 17 years old at the time) and I left. Neither of us never looked back (and my daughter, who had worried about us from a distance was sooo relieved)! The ex called and called. He called me at work. I would listen for a few minutes and then hang up. He cried, bullied, and threatened me. My boss at the time had met him and took his side. That shattered me. I couldn’t believe she’d take his side over mind since she’d worked with me everyday for nearly a year! Gasp! That just added to my already mentally excruciating experience! Thankfully, her boss and my coworkers believed me. At that time, I needed support.

I left that job and went back to Florida. I threw my hands in the air and said a big, WHATEVER! I didn’t care if I lived or died but was getting the hell out. Perhaps for some of us, that’s our rock bottom. We have to get to the precipice of dying before we make the biggest leap of our lives, alone, and into the unknown. Nothing (or nearly nothing) familiar. Relationship woes SUCK! I realized all I could do was start anew. Like ripping a plant up by its roots. Ah! I did it! I was FREE! Sweet release!

Yes, Everything Happens for a Reason and Everything Resolves to Gratitude. But damn, the process can be f’n painful.

Enjoy (IN Joy) everything and love! Be Everything All the Time.

May we all soar in ’24! Everything happens for a reason AND Everything Resolves to Gratitude, so we can live FREE!

Yours in expanding, freeing, spiraling consciousness,

Sheila “Spiral Sister” Murrey

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