It’s February 13th, 2024; This mid-tempo country rock asks why she can’t put him out of her mind because he’s the cheatin’ kind. This original song offers steel guitar and melodious guitar riffs. It’s a heartbreak song sung by a female. She says he chases after flames that burn him down. Why does he look to always be rejected?

Country song about cheating

Here’s the forty-fourth new music post for 2024, as I continually share a song a day to entertain and be consistent. This song has our female exploring the cheatin’ kind. It’s a story I know too well.

Why do people cheat?

Sadly, I grew up with a daddy who cheated on my mama. My Mom and Dad loved each other passionately and stayed married for 60 years! But my Dad was a “lady’s man” and my mama was my best friend, even as a child, I was her Personal Confidante (whether that was a good thing or not–many therapists have said that was not a good thing). I think I grew up fast because of Mom always confided in me. I was never raised on a schedule (like my cousins) because Mom would take me out late at night (from the time I can remember) to try to “find dad” or “catch him with another woman.” UGH Mom even sued Dad for divorce and left him once, but she called it off when he begged her to come back. To say I had a chaotic childhood would be putting it mildly.

The ripple effects of my parent’s dysfunctional relationship created upset within our little family, as well as established patterns with me. It took me years to unravel and do my best to understand why I later married the cheatin’ kind–twice! Now, people can cheat in lots of ways, not simply cheating in a sexual way with another person, but also with booze and drugs. Any kind of cheating is not good. It’s betrayal. If you love someone you do not cheat. To me, it’s that simple. If you do not love someone, you’re in lust, not love. Or you want to control another or not want to be alone. Whatever your reasons are, you are not in love if you lie and cheat.

So, why do people cheat? I think there are many reasons. But one of the biggest reasons I feel is because they aren’t happy and fulfilled within themselves. They have a hole inside that they feel only another can fill. They find someone who they think loves them, but then they hold that person up to an impossible standard. They often try to fix that other person and try to control them. That is not love. That is manipulation.

Me (at about five or six years of age) on a rare vacation with my beautiful mom and handsome dad

How love found me again

By the time I had been divorced twice and went through a LOT of individual and group therapy, I developed such a sense of self that I was determined to break this cycle. I would date someone and at the first hint of dishonesty, I would break it off–or they would dump me. I had no qualms. Ending a relationship (or getting dumped), even if I cared for the other person, got easier and easier. And I learned to live quite happily, alone. I found so much joy in traveling (for my work) and my two doggies, that I didn’t want a relationship again.

Me (several years after my second divorce and before I met Richard) at a family reunion with Dad and Mom (2001)

That’s when Richard came into my life. Two friends of mine wouldn’t take no for an answer and had me draft up an online bio and put it out there, but I was really not looking. I made up such a list of requirements for the next man, he almost had to ‘walk on water’ to be a fit for me! Haha! Looking back, it’s no wonder I only had three potential suitors–and that did NOT hurt my feelings! I was going to be super picky and NOT needy! Because I truly didn’t need anyone in my life! My life was full! I was happy and doing well on my own. I only joined the online dating app because those two other gals coerced me and had found love again on that site and I wanted to shut them up.

Thus, Richard was such a surprise. He was definitely a breath of fresh air. But he’s always known if he was ever in the slightest way tempted to be with anyone else, I would tell him, “Don’t let the door hit you in the ass on your way out”! And he has always known, I meant it.

Richard and me (about a year after we met)

It’s not that I am bitter. It’s because I am strong. I can live just as happily alone as with him–though I have loved him for more than twenty years. I would grieve if we ever parted, yes. But I would always want the best for us both. And I’m thankful to say, we’ve always been ‘in love’ all these years. We are yin and yang. We understand each other as much, I think, as any two people ever can. We complete each other’s sentences, and he often says out loud whatever I am thinking just seconds before I am going to speak. Before we fall asleep each night we thank God for the day and feel blessed to have each other. We know our relationship is rare. But it is a choice to ‘be in love’ and one each of us makes every day.

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7 thoughts on “February 13th – He left me where I stood

  1. Sheila, I think you are onto something when you said, “But one of the biggest reasons I feel is because they aren’t happy and fulfilled within themselves.” I believe the same. I think a person needs to find a real purpose in his or her life and focus on commitment. Yesterday, in response to another post, I mentioned that love needs to move from the infatuation phase to real love – the kind that commits a person to focus on taking care of the other person, being there in good times and bad until the end. Men (and women) need to really focus on what is important. So many men have fallen into that trap, such as General Petraeus and John Edwards. Their reputations are tarnished for the rest of their lives, not to mention the tremendous pain that they caused to their spouses and families.

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    1. Ah, yes, Edward, there are sooo many celebrity examples of cheating! I might write about that the next time (as I am sure Richard has more songs on this subject). I had forgotten about General Petraeus and John Edwards. Bill Clinton comes to mind now too. Ugh
      Thank you so much for your comment and observations!

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