Is it possible to have REAL friends whom you can say, NO to (as in attending various events) and not have them read sh*t into it or have suspicions about my motives? Jesus!

No wonder so many of us prefer to work from home, blog, and have virtual relationships. I’m about over this deal to have in-person friendships. Truly!

I have a LOT going on! And I don’t need this drama. The person I am writing this about is NOT on Facebook either, so I suppose this is my rant. Take it (or not) for what it’s worth.

As my sister-in-law says, “Don’t let them steal your joy” and I won’t. They have shown their true colors and I’m done. Though, I am done after they tell me they are done. Whatever. I’m not selfish. And I do care about people but for the love of God, I don’t know why.

As a reminder, I work full-time M-F from 8 am to 5 pm. I jump on here (Facebook or other social media) only moments at a time a couple of times a day because I am good at juggling my tasks. This in no way means I have time for calls or texts throughout the day, but because I value my friends I take them sometimes when I’m not busy with work.

On top of that, I am new to caregiving for my husband (after his stroke last October). I cook way more than I used to and wash the dishes, etc. I blog and am working on getting a second edition out of my book, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life. I’m still marketing our original songs and my other book, Blue Eyes: Ethereal Messages of Connection (and STILL people who I gave the book to – I’ve been following up with for their help sharing about it or writing reviews, etc. and I am not complaining about that). I have children and grandchildren whom I talk/video/text with whenever they have time for me as I LOVE THEM. I continue my Reiki studies as that is important to my mental well-being, self-care, soul growth, etc., and meet with our group every Tuesday evening. I offer distance Reiki as a public service when someone has a need and asks for directed healing–as of yet, I have not charged a fee for that. I have a volunteer job that I love also which takes a few hours a week (writing email correspondence for Dr. Raymond Moody). I participate in a monthly call for two hours with Dr. Bruce Lipton. I do our taxes online and have that upon me to do now. I still have another property in WV to sell that a realtor I found a year ago still has not had time to take care of so now, I have to find another one. I have plants to care for that I love as they help me ground. Somehow I still carve out time to do my Asian squats, Yoga/Qigong Integrating the Spirals F-L-O-W daily, and brush my teeth. I still don’t shower daily or comb my hair, which is why I put it up on the top of my head with a butterfly clip. Just being honest.

If all of this doesn’t give you a sense of my time commitments then I have nothing else to say except–Peace. Blessings.

Be open to receiving many blessings and always is my prayer for you every moment. Spirit sees ALL timelines, interactions, and interweaving lines. We will know too when we are on the Other Side.

Omniscience knows ALL. Omniscience is always with you. You are never alone.

Be the best version of who you want to be–because if you’re reading my words your soul is probably beckoning you to align with it and live up to your highest ideals. Not perfect because who is perfect? Most stagnate or ‘get stuck’ while on their way to being whatever they think perfection is. Making progress is enough. Carrying your Karma lightly is enough. Be kind to yourself while living responsibly. Who you ARE affects us ALL. We Are All Connected.

The information provided is for educational purposes only and is not intended to treat, diagnose or prescribe.

About us

My husband is an award-winning illustrator, plus he’s a seasoned guitarist, bass player, and songwriter (with over 400 original songs). You can view some of his artwork and listen to all of his songs at:

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About me, your Spiral Sister

I would love to speak at your bookstore, crystal shop, acupuncture/chiropractor office, natural health foods store, art fair, music, or yoga festival. I support healthy lifestyle businesses. 

I invite you to check out my new metaphysical book–Blue Eyes: Ethereal Messages of Connection. There are two versions (Kindle and paperback) on Amazon:

I’m an Amazon bestselling author of two co-authored books: “Transform Your Life Book 2 Inspirational Stories and Expert Advice” and “Energy of Receiving” available on Amazon. Plus, I documented how I naturally reversed 30+ years of chronic asthma in my holistic health book, Take It Upon Yourself to Live a Wholly Vibrant Life, that’s available on Barnes and Noble with the second edition coming out soon on Amazon.


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9 thoughts on “Observations: Virtual versus Real Life Friends

  1. All the opportunities and being interested in everything can take its toll, I’ve been there. Being overly busy forces one to set priorities, and I didn’t want to – I wanted to do it all! So, until I learned, I would run myself ragged until I was sick and no good to anyone. Finally learning to say “no” was so hard for me, but true friends understand. (Mine were just as busy as I was.) We had to deliberately plan, even just to meet for coffee, and even then things came up. The best friends I have are the ones I can get together with, and even if we haven’t seen each other in a year, we just pick up where we left off. ❤

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    1. Exactly, same here. Today’s experience with this one definitely made me more grateful for the friends I have who honor my priorities and time commitments. I think I was triggered by this friend today because my dad had always told me I was “busy, busy, busy”! But I don’t blame this friend because she doesn’t know my triggers and that’s not her responsibility. I should never have texted her back during my busy work day. She doesn’t work and isn’t in a relationship and thus can’t relate. I learned a valuable lesson today.


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